WOMEN ages 50+ FOR JULY 2016

Kim ~ I agree with Katla that your mom has a mean streak!

Cherie ~ Beautiful afghan!

Quiet Sunday here. DH has learned that you can buy a kit to repair a door jamb. Our renter evidently kicked in the steel door to the outside of the garage at one point. Ugh! We were told that it would cost $600 to repair it and a closet door. DH is hoping to do it himself.

Carol

Kim from N. California – My DH says that when we go anywhere, I pack like we are staying for a month … or forever! Especially, when we go to see DYS and family in Louisiana.

Why do family members think they can say anything, especially hurtful, to another family member and get a ‘pass’ on it? Take your ‘big girl panties’ off and strangle her with them. I have a friend whose sister has been estranged for 20 years; but, contacted her when she had a family crisis. She went to help; got blind-sighted, so the estrangement goes on. Then her sister wonders why nobody wants to have anything to do with her. It’s always ‘it always being about her’?

I don’t blame you for hanging up quickly … you were probably nicer longer than a lot of people would be.


Becca – I think our first purchase of the $9000 2-story house has made it so we have been able to step up; now live in a ‘down-sized’ home that is more like a hunting cabin on 90 acres of land. I LOVE it here.

Never thought I would like living out in the country. Sometimes wonder why DH did not push it more when we were younger. DOS and his family cut out their land out of one of the tracts of land (will eventually be his someday when we are both gone).

I know it is difficult to deal with a sister (or other family member) who thinks that ‘alcohol’ makes them invincible.


Michele in NC – I don’t know what type of grass you are trying to grow. We’ve always had Centipede (except in FL, when we had Bermuda – wide blade that will grow under shade trees); but, we have always bought pieces of sod; and, cut it into pieces and planted them about 6” apart; then, get some white sand and spread it all throughout it. Centipede puts out ‘runners’ and in a year or year-and-a-half of growing time, you have grass that looks like it’s been there for a long time.

I usually have a really hard time with buying shoes; have a very high instep and my heels are a lot narrower than the front of my foot. Up until recently, finding a pair of flats was impossible; but I got a pair of what they call ‘ballerina’ flats (elastic all around the top) and they are so comfortable, too! High enough to cover the high instep I have. If I get a solid toe shoe; usually I have to find a pair that has a strap across the top or a strap around my ankle to keep them on. I have one pair of heels that are ‘red’ that I wear with a black dress; then I have a couple of pair of wedges that have the ankle strap (they are far more comfortable than the ‘red’ shoes). I’ve tried everything to keep them from slipping. Those heel thingies don’t work; I have to actually glue them into the shoes, to keep them from sticking to my heels while the shoes slip off my heel.

Great NSV – I’d certainly wear it, especially if your mom ‘hates’ it. Remind her that ‘you can get back in it’. Oh, maybe not; she’s the 80-something woman who would ‘blow away in a strong wind’. Just wear it and have fun knowing that it is a great NSV!


Karen in Virginia and Miriam – I grew up in a small town; and having “The Help” was not the least bit uncommon for middle income professionals. I loved ours; but, I also saw some that were treated very badly. I know one friend’s mother would NOT allow us to call her “Miss Betty” because “Betty” was the name of their ‘Help’. If we called her DH “Mr. So-and-So” she’d quickly tell us … “NO, it’s ‘Dr’ So-and-So”. Behind her back we would refer to her as “Miss DR Betty”. When watching the movie “The Help” … it reminded me so much of some of the families and their ‘Help’, in so many ways. I once commented to a sister that it would be interesting to read a book or see a movie through the eyes of the children raised by ‘The Help’; and, she told me it had been - it was “Gone With the Wind”. Yeah, I guess she is right about that. Never thought of that in that way. I saw the movie as a young child; I’ve watched parts of the movie as an adult. It is a 2-day or 3-day long movie. I’d like to read the book because normally the movie from a book doesn’t have a lot that the book has in it. But, more than a 1000 pages? Probably NOT going to happen. Same here about more attention from “The Help” than Mother; but, she was also ‘hired’ for her abilities to do ‘childcare’. She had to have a ‘good command of proper English’ to be hired by my Mother. Her great-aunt worked for us before she ‘retired’ and then introduced her to my family. She raised 5 boys, her husband had been killed in a wreck, the year her youngest son was born. All 5 of them graduated from college.


Beth – LOL! Quite often when I have written a longer than usual post and it disappears; I figure that maybe there was something in it that I just should not have posted; so I put an ‘emoticon’ in its place. Lately that has been a lot of the time.


Re – Which is worse? Spinster or Old Maid? How about a ‘single’ woman – period the end. I don’t think there is a place on any forms that designate “Spinster” or “Old Maid” (unless you check ‘other’).


Joyce – Praying y’all don’t have to wait a long time in the ER. Now I know why my DH has to be ‘really, really’ hurting to agree to go to ER. We went the ‘other’ direction to get to ER; and, from here on out; we’ll go that way instead of ‘downtown’ to the ‘city hospital that is the “clinic” to the Hood’.


Rori – How do you take a ‘cat’ on a walk?


Barbie – The world is full of people that look at a glass and say whether it is ‘half-full’ or ‘half-empty’; some days it can be ‘either’ … all depending on whether the day is ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Most of the time, I’d rather be ‘half full’ than ‘half empty’ … but I think it is always better to be able to ‘fill my cup’ over [or better to have it filled to 'running over'… than to have it ‘drain out from under me’.


Lillian – I think most people, as they get older, say things because they have maybe ‘kept their thoughts’ in ‘check’ due to jobs or raising children and wanting to teach them how to live by “The Golden Rule”; then, they forget their own manners and think that because they no longer work or are raising children … all etiquette goes out the window. Not so; you and the way you treat others (strangers or friends and family) is ‘noticed’ and makes people think you were ‘basically’ raised in a barn when you treat others with disrespect. Maybe one doesn't deserve to be 'respected'; but, still they should be treated in a kind way. There are a lot of days that I ‘bite my tongue’. Some days it is like chewing up nails and spitting them out. Some days I am NOT aware that something I have said or done has offended someone. When that is the case; I’d rather them have ‘whatever it takes’ to tell me that what I had done or said has offended them and how. Then, I get the chance to apologize (or not). Much better to be ‘honest’ (and, yes, it can be done in a manner that it is not like trying to ‘pick a fight’); than to just allow a ‘great’ relationship die for lack of being able to voice your opinion. I know that you can’t please 100% of the people, 100% of the time. Think about how boring that would be. A good, polite banter with someone keeps a friendship, relationship, and more … on ‘its toes’.

Of course, I think most people would rather have a ‘dressing down’ done in private; and, have an ‘apology’ done in public.


Kim and Lillian – Count me in on the ‘burying or taking care of the body’. We can just take them up to Stone Mountain and have them look over the side; … “Whoops, she/he was standing here one minute; the next they weren’t!” We'd have to take them over the fence and to the back side, we could get them there by going to the right instead of the left by saying we want to climb the rest of it, in the shade. I don't think they have the fence up in that area. Or stay longer than the 'time to get off the mountain' and let them 'lose their footing'. I know, "I'm sooooooooooooooo bad!" But, I have had people that I have wanted "Karma" to come visit in my life. Thankfully, not too many. Then, usually, when Karma comes a 'calling ... I no longer care about it (or them).

Lenora

Aahhh...it's Sunday. Time to clean up and put things away now that the cook out/fest is over.

The Brats, Burgers & Beer fest is over and went very well. We ended up wih a total of 24 different beers in the cooler to taste. I did not taste more than half and only a sip of those sampled.

When I finally sat down to eat a burger I found I could not eat most of what I had put on my plate. I hit the full feeling quickly after eating half of the burger and some potato salad. I had put on my plate my 'usual' portions (pre-MFP) and discovered my stomach has shrunk from when I began minding my portion sizes. I did manage to stay close to my calorie goal so that was a win in my book.

Also one of my neighbors noted I seemed to have lost weight, she thought my face looked slimmer. I still wear my same baggy clothes so I was surprised it was noticeable in my face.

Charleen in Colorado (On to another great adventure!)

Hello all!
I'm back from the festivities for the 90th birthday.
Of course it went very well. :bigsmile: Even the journey was easy and uneventful and I managed to be firm and polite about making my own arrangements for the extra curricular activities. NSV for me!
I'm posting a photo of DH and his aunt in the garden when we got there. Despite her diminutive size she has every one of her marbles and is a pleasure to talk to.



I drank too much Prosecco, along with a few cups of tea, but I was doing OK on the food with mainly light salads and no cake or carbs until DSIL 's boyfriend produced trays full of vegeterian samosas with yogurt dips.at 8pm. Oh dear! They were gorgeous ones from a fantastic Indian bakery in London. We sat out until 10.30, getting a bit chilly, but it was all good.
Unfortunately, walking back to the hotel DH and DSIL got into a disagreement about the family troubles, which rather upset him. I hope I was able to reassure him that they could agree to differ. We all, 5 of us, including his niece went and had a last drink in the bar and all was resolved that way.
My DSIL was very preoccupied with that and her problems getting her acreditation for her counselling. She has already resubmitted, but didn't understand all the requirements so failed again. She is paying out £200 for an appeal on the grounds she was given bad advice. :ohwell: In my opinion, having listened to a radio programme about it, she has a syndrome called "dispraxia", which affects her ability to plan and marshall information.
We left early this morning after breakfast and we're home in good time for DH to get off to cricket.

Kim - I remember when you were calling yourself Momsamodel. This is a long standing thing and you are learning to deal with it with grace :flowerforyou:

Joyce - My thoughts are with you and Charlie.

I did 350 cals of exercise when I got in, but I was tooooooo tired to do any more. I slept for 2 hours. I've just made a huge pot of chilli to have with cauliflower rice. No alcohol tonight. My liver knows it needs a rest. :ohwell:

Love to all, Heather

gotta go to the gym and pass the 900 mi ... post later.

We spent about 7 hours in the ER. I had to search out an aide and she told me they were waiting on a bed. I diidn't even know they were admitting him until and aide told me. So we got him in a room and left at 5 AM. Talked to him this morning and the surgeon came in and told him that since the gall bladder is over in the area the recent ileostomy of 7 weeks is, he would rather keep him in the hospital for about 4 days with IVs and antibiotics. Of course this comes from a man who was drugged at the time and put the phone down and didn't hang it up. So we had a simple lunch of sloppy joes made with ground turkey, I only had half a bun I had fresh carrots and they had chips and dip. It is about time for my sis and Michelle to get here for some cake and ice cream and gifts for Trinity. Then we will go up to see him.

JOyce, Indiana

Joyce: Thinking of you right now and hoping Charlie gets the help he needs to deal with his problems while he's in the hospital.

Heather ~ Bea is wonderful. Love that head of hair and her smile.

So sorry for the continued killing of police officers in Baton Rouge, LA and other places. We need to keep the police officers who are out there to ''protect and serve" AND their families in our prayers; such a sad, sad situation that seems to be occurring too many times and places. Praying for all of them. In GA, a Valdosta policeman was sent to answer a 9-1-1 call and was shot. I haven't heard any more than that. It was a set-up; the man wanted to 'die by suicide by cop'. These senseless killings affect an entire city (small or large)

Heather thank you for the pick me up. Darling!!!!!!

Just love her huge smile

Rosie

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Just to cheer us all up. A happy Bea in her new home.



Love Heather

Heather- Thanks for sharing the beautiful picture of Bea! She certainly does make me smile!



Mary from Minnesota