Friends with benefits

Some people can do the FWB thing and some can't. Unfortunately, for some like me, you won't know until you try. It all sounds great in writing, but the reality unfortunately doesn't always match expectations. I am one who through experience, knows that it's just not for me. It either makes me feel like crap about myself and reminds of what I don't have, a relationship, or like with 1 in particular, I caught feelings and had to end it. He was truly a friend, that I had to walk away from. If you really like this guy as a friend, imagine having to walk away from the friendship if the FWB thing goes sour, and imagine how that would make you feel. Only you can make the decision to go through with it or not. It may work out great, it may break your heart. Is it worth it? You need to decide that.

so far the only benefit to being a friend with me is you have access to a perverted mind, a mind that can recall 80s lyrics, and pretty much most memories from K-12th grade with ease

oh and constant sarcasm

drbuzzard91 wrote: »

forgive my bluntness but just get dickked out lol go to friggin work on it girl! have amazing sex , mess with a few guys until you are ready to give it another go. No one should feel guilty about having great sex especially after a relatioship ended and you dont want one for a while. Girls especially shouldn't feel bad because of the whole double standards thing.

+1

If you really like this guy, dont do it. I have had some great FWB situations in my life, but only when it was someone that I knew I wouldnt be romantically compatible with long term. A couple of years ago I got out of a highly unsatisfying relationship and knew I wanted to take some time and have fun without commitments. I met two great people on the same night a few weeks later, one was someone who I connected with emotionally immediately (an exceptional human being, really) and the other was pure sex, like un-apologetically dtf. I became really close friends with the first, and spent two months "talking to" the latter. I knew I wasnt ready for what the first had to offer, and fortunately they were super understanding about that.

We've actually been together for 2 years now, I'm not even a little sorry I waited though. I needed that free time to be single and we were able to build our foundation on a completely non-sexual friendship, and complete honesty about where we've been and where we would like to be going. If we had jumped straight into hooking up I would have lost interest or become resentful a few months in, and it would have never worked.

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

I'm not putting you down, I apologize if it sounded like that. My reasoning at the time was that I had doubts about said person's fidelity when I am starting to invest time into a new relationship. FWB is not always monogamous or exclusive. It's sort of like an open relationship.

I personally would have loved to have an FWB but I was never in one. Besides... I would not have wanted to get involved with a woman who has that history. I guess I was hypocritical but then most men are....

I am married now and both my wife and I were historically strict monogamists and that is great to have.

Who's the idiot women who would tell you the truth about their past. I know I wouldn't because my past is mine and you shouldn't need to know.

i did have an open relationship, it worked out great for her until i found out

For MANY reasons....DONT do it

It won't work over the long term. One person always cares more than the other. For one person feelings develop; for one person convenience is the attraction.

Unless both people just don't care beyond the physical, someone is going to get hurt. User and used.

I'm going to vote for hot booty call if someone who is not ready for a relationship. Preferably with a dealbreaker characteristic that doesn't matter for the booty calls but prevents unwanted cases of the feels.