What nobody tells you about losing weight
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People are nicer to me now that I've lost some weight and I'm not even to goal yet. I never felt like people were being mean necessarily but now I get doors held open for me more often, more smiles when I pass people in hallways, please, thank you, excuse me more just general niceties that I never realized I wasn't getting before.32
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Realizing that soon my belly won't be an arm rest anymore lol. I kept wondering why my arm was sliding down the other day....yayyyy!25
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finding clothes is not easy....3
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OneWayOnly1912 wrote: »Those rings that were always too tight are just right now!
Or too big. I need to size a few. A few years ago I inherited some of my aunt's jewelry. She had small hands and fingers. One of the rings I liked, a small emerald with diamond chips around it was too small to get even halfway down my ring finger. I recently tried it on, it's on my middle finger and could probably be sized down a little.
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OneWayOnly1912 wrote: »Those rings that were always too tight are just right now!
Or too big. I need to size a few. A few years ago I inherited some of my aunt's jewelry. She had small hands and fingers. One of the rings I liked, a small emerald with diamond chips around it was too small to get even halfway down my ring finger. I recently tried it on, it's on my middle finger and could probably be sized down a little.
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I've started bumping into people more. Not actually bumping into them physically, but causing them to change direction. For example, I'm walking in the mall and I see a group of three people walking towards me and I change direction slightly to avoid them, however they also changed direction at the same time, so I change back and they also change back, so I change again, dramatically, to avoid a collision.
The above happened multiple times during a particular week a month ago. I now believe that there exists a sub-concious rating system where people who are further away from the normal body type are expected to move more to avoid collisions. So when I was big, I learned to move and now that I'm smaller I need to move less cause others expect me to move less.
Has anyone else run into this phenomenon?
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People are nicer to me now that I've lost some weight....
These thoughts have come to my mind, too. For me, though, I've realized that it's the confidence and peacefulness I have within myself that impacts the positive reactions in others the most.
One of the reasons I was 320 pounds (there were certainly many reasons) was because I was so very, very unhappy with myself and how I'd managed my life. I would often say to myself, "How could I let myself be like this? Why wasn't I the professional, confident woman I thought I would be?"
And at 320 pounds I felt horrible and what I reflected to the world was negativity about myself. I remember getting treated so badly by all sorts of people. However, when I became more positive in myself by realizing and claiming that I was smart, talented and yes, worthy of love and respect by all I encountered (and the weight not really changing until the past 3-4 years), I noticed my happy and confident countenance is what impacted those around me. I definitely think losing weight can be a boost in confidence and provide a lot of positive feelings and people will react to that!! It's wonderful to turn that vicious cycle of self-loathing on its head, isn't it?27 -
No one told me I would have fat dreams!! I have had a dream more than once that I was suddenly back in my size 14 jeans and they were tight on me and everything! I know it comes from the general anxiety in the back of my head that I will gain the 55 pounds back, but it's kind of weird!19
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Sp8zmanSpiff wrote: »I've started bumping into people more. Not actually bumping into them physically, but causing them to change direction. For example, I'm walking in the mall and I see a group of three people walking towards me and I change direction slightly to avoid them, however they also changed direction at the same time, so I change back and they also change back, so I change again, dramatically, to avoid a collision.
The above happened multiple times during a particular week a month ago. I now believe that there exists a sub-concious rating system where people who are further away from the normal body type are expected to move more to avoid collisions. So when I was big, I learned to move and now that I'm smaller I need to move less cause others expect me to move less.
Has anyone else run into this phenomenon?
Good Luck!
Yes, and apparently being middle aged and overweight is a double whammy and makes a person completely invisible to teenagers.
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That you would start looking for health nuts to talk to, since no one is really into health nutrition and fitness as you are. Or talks the same language.
A nice 4000 step post meal brisk walk helps alot after a f' up meal. I would share it with the people around me who say they are struggling with weight, but they are kinda hostile.
Now I'm looking forward to buying new clothes and hidding the fat that I lost it to new people.
Alot of people look at me weird when I walk past them the 4 th time where they were sitting on the front step of the hospital 'resting & digesting'.
Nobody you know is willing to start MFP calorie counting and friend you. I guess they really dont want to know the down and dirty of how your doing it. It would seem natural that someone would say "I want to know what you eat everyday." They dont. Commitment to weightloss is all internal. You gotta want it bad enough and be willing to do what it takes. Its crossing a mental line/ barrier. Maybe they think they are imposing?34 -
mazarasltm wrote: »That you would start looking for health nuts to talk to, since no one is really into health nutrition and fitness as you are. Or talks the same language.
A nice 4000 step post meal brisk walk helps alot after a f' up meal. I would share it with the people around me who say they are struggling with weight, but they are kinda hostile.
Now I'm looking forward to buying new clothes and hidding the fat that I lost it to new people.
Alot of people look at me weird when I walk past them the 4 th time where they were sitting on the front step of the hospital 'resting & digesting'.
Nobody you know is willing to start MFP calorie counting and friend you. I guess they really dont want to know the down and dirty of how your doing it. It would seem natural that someone would say "I want to know what you eat everyday." They dont. Commitment to weightloss is all internal. You gotta want it bad enough and be willing to do what it takes. Its crossing a mental line/ barrier. Maybe they think they are imposing?
Yes!! If I bring up weight loss or fitness to my overweight friends just because I want to talk about my goal, where I'm at, what has changed about my mind set, etc it's usually kind of awkward. And they always want to lose weight but not the way I'm doing it.
I agree. It's a mental barrier. I've finally gotten past it but it seems as though the people around me haven't yet. It is hard to find the balance.14 -
mazarasltm wrote: »That you would start looking for health nuts to talk to, since no one is really into health nutrition and fitness as you are. Or talks the same language.
A nice 4000 step post meal brisk walk helps alot after a f' up meal. I would share it with the people around me who say they are struggling with weight, but they are kinda hostile.
Now I'm looking forward to buying new clothes and hidding the fat that I lost it to new people.
Alot of people look at me weird when I walk past them the 4 th time where they were sitting on the front step of the hospital 'resting & digesting'.
Nobody you know is willing to start MFP calorie counting and friend you. I guess they really dont want to know the down and dirty of how your doing it. It would seem natural that someone would say "I want to know what you eat everyday." They dont. Commitment to weightloss is all internal. You gotta want it bad enough and be willing to do what it takes. Its crossing a mental line/ barrier. Maybe they think they are imposing?
Yeah, I would LOVE to have a friend IRL that was as into nutrition and exercise as I am! I want a gym buddy or at the very least someone who doesn't stare at me blankly when I start talking about calorie counts and macros. Seriously... And then the people who know you've lost weight that ask the same ridiculous questions over and over. "How'd ya do it?" and "Where do you get the energy?" Count calories and just DO IT! They don't like that answer. They want a magic bullet for the fat like it's some undead entity when, barring any medical conditions, it's just a matter of hard work and dedication.18 -
I sleep better...a lot better. When I was heavier, I likely had sleep apnea. I snored loudly, woke up frequently and occasionally stopped breathing. Once I'd lost about 50 pounds, that all stopped. I sleep pretty soundly through the night. Now at 75 pounds down, my husband says I do not snore at all anymore and I don't stop breathing. He's a lot happier about it, too. Maybe even more so than me, I think I was pretty loud. LOL
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Yeah, I would LOVE to have a friend IRL that was as into nutrition and exercise as I am! I want a gym buddy or at the very least someone who doesn't stare at me blankly when I start talking about calorie counts and macros.
Your lips to Gods ears (pick god or non god of your choice)
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I can sometimes hear my bones creak as move now. I find it a relief to have a reason to say "no" to food pushers, particularly if they are having a birthday cake at the office for someone I don't like.18
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Realizing that soon my belly won't be an arm rest anymore lol. I kept wondering why my arm was sliding down the other day....yayyyy!
lol. Been there.
A week ago or so I'd finished my run on the treadmill and stood up to just start catching my breath and I placed my hands on where my love handles had been and they slipped off and I was like "Awww I don't have my hand rests on my side anymore..." A good problem to have for sure
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I can sometimes hear my bones creak as move now. I find it a relief to have a reason to say "no" to food pushers, particularly if they are having a birthday cake at the office for someone I don't like.
Having lost weight gives me the freedom to say yes to cakes. Then I realise cake is not as good as I imagined
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Sp8zmanSpiff wrote: »I've started bumping into people more. Not actually bumping into them physically, but causing them to change direction. For example, I'm walking in the mall and I see a group of three people walking towards me and I change direction slightly to avoid them, however they also changed direction at the same time, so I change back and they also change back, so I change again, dramatically, to avoid a collision.
The above happened multiple times during a particular week a month ago. I now believe that there exists a sub-concious rating system where people who are further away from the normal body type are expected to move more to avoid collisions. So when I was big, I learned to move and now that I'm smaller I need to move less cause others expect me to move less.
Has anyone else run into this phenomenon?
Good Luck!
Yes, and apparently being middle aged and overweight is a double whammy and makes a person completely invisible to teenagers.
Can I just say "amen" to this? I think I was in my late 30's before I started feeling myself becoming invisible - or irrelevent really.....so sad! But you best know, I make sure I acknowledge and see the human inside folks my age and older! This really is unfortunate! Boo.
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Sometimes sad to realize how some folks, who had never regarded me in the past, are now making an effort to get to know me or worse yet, I sit on a couple of Non Profit Boards and now, during meetings, suddenly a few in the room are wanting to hear what I have to say.....bothersome commentary about human nature and how we treat people that are different from ourselves. Boo to that!27
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thenananator wrote: »Sometimes sad to realize how some folks, who had never regarded me in the past, are now making an effort to get to know me or worse yet, I sit on a couple of Non Profit Boards and now, during meetings, suddenly a few in the room are wanting to hear what I have to say.....bothersome commentary about human nature and how we treat people that are different from ourselves. Boo to that!
Its depressing how shallow humanity is.
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