What nobody tells you about losing weight

jubyak wrote: »

The mental roller-coaster ride: How you can go from completely motivated and happy one second to feeling like the entire process is futile and you'll never be skinny enough the next second.

How frustrating it is when even your best friends and family try to sabotage your journey by convincing you that it doesn't matter or that you're not being healthy or that you need to eat a piece of cake...

My mother in law brought over a box of cupcakes because she "couldn't have them in her house" tonight. She told me she wasn't trying to be mean because she knows I'm calorie counting. But

I didn't expect that I'd become even more suspicious of men romantically. Is this real? Would he even have talked to me 100 lbs ago? If I get sick again and put on weight, would he dump me?

And I just used to analyze men for controlling behavior...

oliverneedsyou wrote: »

jubyak wrote: »

The mental roller-coaster ride: How you can go from completely motivated and happy one second to feeling like the entire process is futile and you'll never be skinny enough the next second.

How frustrating it is when even your best friends and family try to sabotage your journey by convincing you that it doesn't matter or that you're not being healthy or that you need to eat a piece of cake...

My mother in law brought over a box of cupcakes because she "couldn't have them in her house" tonight. She told me she wasn't trying to be mean because she knows I'm calorie counting. But

Some people do that...and that annoys me a lot.
I mean sometimes they do it to please but more to some people just don't realize that pleasing someone does mean that it can't be done against their will ! (I mean sometimes it looks like they'd like to force-feed you !)

joinn68 wrote: »

oliverneedsyou wrote: »

My mother in law brought over a box of cupcakes because she "couldn't have them in her house" tonight. She told me she wasn't trying to be mean because she knows I'm calorie counting. But

Be gracious. Say thank you. Dump the whole thing as soon as she turns her back. I don't like waste but we all need to learn how to throw away food instead of eating it just because it is there. I don't see "naturally" slim people eating stuff just because

My kids and husband ate a few last night and there are a few chocolate ones left which I don't like anyway. Win. Ha.

Well I'm back at it again after gaining back 15 lbs that I had lost earlier this year BUT while I was at a lower weight I felt a lot better overall health-wise and that's not something that people really exaggerate. Most will say they like how they look but don't really stress how good they feel inside their own body. I want that feeling back!

That I look so much like my brother! 50+ years and I never realized, until I'm the smaller one, how we actually DO look like siblings!

suzan159 wrote: »

How rejuvenating it can be, both literally and figuratively! Anyone feeling hesitant about even trying anymore to get fitter if they are in their 50s, 60s, etc might find this encouraging. I was experiencing nightly acid reflux, plantar fasciitis, and various other problems including just general fatigue and less flexibility. I attributed it to aging. But I have lost 37 pounds in 2016 and the acid reflux and plantar fasciitis seem to be pretty much gone. I have more energy and my body feels more limber. It actually makes me feel like my younger self and that is quite a gift to have given myself.

I second that! I am 56 and have lost a similar amount of weight with similar results.

That you end up with bags under your eyes - I'd always looked at my (thinner) siblings and thought that I'd got away with it. No. They were just padded out with fat.

"Do you ever sleep on your side, then feel between your ribs? That bone seems to tilt! So weird!! "

This just made me think about something: I am uncomfortable now a lot of the time: sitting on the train is torture, my mattress seems awful, etc.

I just realized: I am bony! WHAT?! Who knew this would be something to deal with regarding weight loss?!

OneWayOnly1912 wrote: »

Those rings that were always too tight are just right now!

Mine were enlarged for me by the jeweller when I put all this weight on a few years ago. Now they are too big and I'm afraid I'll lose them.

jubyak wrote: »

The mental roller-coaster ride: How you can go from completely motivated and happy one second to feeling like the entire process is futile and you'll never be skinny enough the next second.

How frustrating it is when even your best friends and family try to sabotage your journey by convincing you that it doesn't matter or that you're not being healthy or that you need to eat a piece of cake...

100% agree

Dont they realize that your on a Diet and they are not helping you!?!? Don't they realize how important it is to you??? A (insert your number) lbs loss was not a walk in park. Jeez

I finally had the will to say thank you to a left over 2/3 burger family didnt want and threw it in the garbage when they werent looking. Normally I wouldnt put that stuff in my system anyway. If Im going to spend my precious calories it better be for something I want not someone's left overs.
It was fun while it lasted, (having the super stomach and eating a mountain of food), but Im not a teenager anymore. Cant get away with it.

Eating crappy food doesnt make me happy.

As I lose weight my re-calculated BMR goes down and I have to be stricter with diet and exercise. My crappy small diet portions are getting smaller and I can only splurge on the high activity days. The littlest deviation on relatively sedentary days is sending the scale in wrong direction .

Smaller meals are making me sleepy and I'm not really hungry anymore, what gives.

I bought my first size 36 (from 42? or 48?) pants (i guessed right) and a large shirt (from 2x). (Wish it was under happier circumstances) Not one dress pants looked right. I now realize how much of a cancer patient I must have looked like. Now all my scrubs have got to go. They look horrible, now Im self concious about the baggy clothes. I guess It looked like I was advertising the weightloss rather than being oblivious.

IcanIwill1 wrote: »

That you will suddenly be seen as an authority on how to adopt a healthy lifestyle by friends and relatives...who saw you obese for years and know your struggle with weight is real.
That smaller sizes like British size 12 or lower (American size 8 and lower)has fewer takers, and are therefore in abundance at the clearance rails.
This has translated into the fact that being a smaller size actually cuts gazillions off the cost of dressing well.
I go into clothes stores and see racks and racks of clothes my size, marked down ridiculous amounts.
skirts from £49.99 to £2.50
dresses £79.99 to £6.99 sometimes even lower.
Everyday I am so grateful that I never gave up. So many times over the years I wanted to quit. I believed that there was something about me that made it impossible to stay a healthy weight.
Only to stumble upon the realisation that unless in very very moderate, amounts..any type of carbs unless from leafy greens and cruciferous veg make me insanely and uncontrollably hungry.

I second that clearance rack statement! I can't seem to get enough shopping but I'm spending less it seems.

12Sarah2015 wrote: »

People forget you were fat

Seriously?!! People are so shocked now when they see me, I can't imagine them ever forgetting the fat me! There IS hope!!!!

MimiOfTheLusciousLawn wrote: »

12Sarah2015 wrote: »

People forget you were fat

Seriously?!! People are so shocked now when they see me, I can't imagine them ever forgetting the fat me! There IS hope!!!!

Well, my elder brother (who is obese) was telling me about his recent trip to Vietnam and commented to me at some point "but you wouldn't have trouble since you're not fat"...it really sounded like I was never fat when 9 months ago I was morbidly obese...