What nobody tells you about losing weight

people will ask for you advice and ask for you to help keep them motivated to make healthy choices.. then make you feel guilty when you do say something.

LynnBBQ72 wrote: »

Has anyone else found that the willpower you use to lose weight, carries over into the rest of your life? I'm dealing with a financial issue from an auto accident and the at-fault driver's company does not want to pay up. A year ago, I would have accepted their unbelievable low-ball offer just to get it over with. Not any longer! I have pushed and pushed (nicely) and finally got an offer waaaayyy higher than I expected to get. I reasoned to myself that if I had the sheer willpower and drive to force my own body to consume its own energy stores for ten full weeks, I could surely push these guys a little further. Losing just a few pounds, nowhere near my goal, has given me a lot more confidence in all parts of my life.

Yes definitely, I am able to say "no" more and I like the power

It wont make someone love you again.

LynnBBQ72 wrote: »

Has anyone else found that the willpower you use to lose weight, carries over into the rest of your life? I'm dealing with a financial issue from an auto accident and the at-fault driver's company does not want to pay up. A year ago, I would have accepted their unbelievable low-ball offer just to get it over with. Not any longer! I have pushed and pushed (nicely) and finally got an offer waaaayyy higher than I expected to get. I reasoned to myself that if I had the sheer willpower and drive to force my own body to consume its own energy stores for ten full weeks, I could surely push these guys a little further. Losing just a few pounds, nowhere near my goal, has given me a lot more confidence in all parts of my life.

Totally! Last year, I was totally demotivated at work and this year I managed to push through a new training for me. Usually I would have ended up not doing it or paying it myself etc. Now my employer is paying it, including travelcosts (time is for me). The best part is, it is a training for me only, not needed at all for my work (though in a weird way related). Managed to convince them that I needed it for personal development.
I am starting later this month and it is going to be a tough 6 months, but I am so happy that I am going to take myself through that challenge I am setting myself.

laylabaca wrote: »

oliverneedsyou wrote: »

That people in your life you'd expect to be supportive may only offer temporary support until they realize you're serious this time & making serious progress towards your goals or that they may not be supportive at all.

It surprised me how uncomfortable the 60 pounds I've lost so far has seemed to make overweight friends & family members in my life. It's like people use your fatness as a comfortable buffer zone for their own life/body. (And I'm still very overweight so I assume this experience may only get worse)

YES, I am struggling with this as well!! I can honestly say that I do not have much support from my family or friends and when I do get their "support" it always about them and their constant need to bash themselves. It really hurts to hear all of the time! If they bring up the topic, it's not to hear what you have to say about it, it's more about what they want to say about it or how they are just jealous of you. I eventually learned not to say anything at all. I tend to keep to myself and look to my MFP friends for support. It's quite the lonely road and honestly, something I never expected!

I have also been keeping it to myself. I'm fact I just told my husband a few weeks ago I was resolving to not speak to people about it anymore because the conversations aren't pleasant at all after you lose more than a good 30 pounds

mazarasltm wrote: »

1 Comic Answer One: I found if I rest my jaw muscles and use my thighs and calf muscle more, I lost weight. Who knew!

Absolutely love this one; am going to steal it for later use. People ask me and just aren't interested when I say I watch what I eat and exercise. I don't know why people ask, it's none of their darn business what I do and how I achieve my weight loss and they're not really interested. anyway. I've only found one person who showed a genuine interest (one of my consultants) and we had a really long conversation about it.

Madwife2009 wrote: »

mazarasltm wrote: »

1 Comic Answer One: I found if I rest my jaw muscles and use my thighs and calf muscle more, I lost weight. Who knew!

Absolutely love this one; am going to steal it for later use. People ask me and just aren't interested when I say I watch what I eat and exercise. I don't know why people ask, it's none of their darn business what I do and how I achieve my weight loss and they're not really interested. anyway. I've only found one person who showed a genuine interest (one of my consultants) and we had a really long conversation about it.

I've found that people are curious and ask how because deep down they're hoping you've discovered the magic pill that will take no work or sacrifice on their part and make you thin. I know, because I was one of those people. Be kind, we were all in their shoes at one time.

that you can go from rocking it one day everything in control to huge loss of motivation overnight (lost 55 and curently lost motivation) and that it is still a huge part metal game. I'm still plugging away but not feeling that awesome motivation at the moment....where does it go ??

the empowering feeling of losing weight spills to other parts of your life... quit bitting nails after 30 years of biting nails!!

I'm new to MFP forums, but lost 50 lbs toward my goal several years ago. ( then yo-yo plateaued and am here to finally get to the rest of it.) I am currently 40lbs away. I found it somewhat frustrating that all people could focus on was my weight/ body. It was the first and only thing they would talk about when they saw me and I feel like they only saw a body instead of a whole person. I have a pretty rich inner world, talents, interests, etc...so, weirdly enough, even though I was proud of my accomplishments, I also resented people's compliments because I felt objectified. Any one else know how I feel? Am I over thinking this?

To those who feel family didnt support them, YES!! So many people would ask how much I want to lose then discourage me from my goal because it's "too skinny" Ridiculous! Also never expected working out to be such a lonely journey/process. I've become a lot stronger and determined, though!

And on the positive side- getting used to taking up less space is wonderful. Three cheers to the middle seat on the subway! And being able to buy clothes much easier. Having hip bones, clavicles, and a tail bone is pretty nice, too

themindisitsownplace wrote: »

I'm new to MFP forums, but lost 50 lbs toward my goal several years ago. ( then yo-yo plateaued and am here to finally get to the rest of it.) I am currently 40lbs away. I found it somewhat frustrating that all people could focus on was my weight/ body. It was the first and only thing they would talk about when they saw me and I feel like they only saw a body instead of a whole person. I have a pretty rich inner world, talents, interests, etc...so, weirdly enough, even though I was proud of my accomplishments, I also resented people's compliments because I felt objectified. Any one else know how I feel? Am I over thinking this?

To those who feel family didnt support them, YES!! So many people would ask how much I want to lose then discourage me from my goal because it's "too skinny" Ridiculous! Also never expected working out to be such a lonely journey/process. I've become a lot stronger and determined, though!

And on the positive side- getting used to taking up less space is wonderful. Three cheers to the middle seat on the subway! And being able to buy clothes much easier. Having hip bones, clavicles, and a tail bone is pretty nice, too

I get this A LOT. Knowing that it will happen makes it somewhat easier to deflect when it does. Conversation will go something like this:
Them: Wow, you look great, you've lost so much weight!
Me: Yep, I have, thanks for noticing. You look fabulous as well.
Them: But nothing like you.
Me: Celebrate yourself girl! What else is going on in your world?

Give them a chance to discuss it and them simply move on. The convo will circle back to you, but just keep pushing it in a direction you are more comfortable with.

The ones I find funny are the ones whose eyes about pop out of their head when they see you but never mention it! It truly does get to be comical after awhile. Enjoy it, it won't last forever. And congrats on your loss, OMG, you look fantastic, how the heck did you do it, you must have lost a ton... lol!

For the guys: being able to actually see the low hanging dangling fruit again now when taking a shower...

I have so much energy now and my husband does not. Makes it kind of hard but he cant keep up with me. I am always running around and he is 7 years younger than me but more laid back. Oh well I just keep busy and he sleeps a lot.