WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2016

Allie - I hope you talk w/Tom will let you know where you stand in his 'mood'. We have a similar problem with DnL#1; neither of us have spoken to her in about 3 weeks. I'm tired of her comparing herself with DDnL#2. Notice I dropped the "D" (for dear). At this moment she is not my favorite person to be around. There is no reason for her to be 'jealous' of DDnL#2. First off, DDnL#2 has done nothing other than make DYS extremely happy and she is 'thin'. DnL#1 is easily 125lb overweight. She just doesn't seem to care to lose any, or much, weight. She thinks there has to be some magical pill she can take and wake up 'thin' within a week. She has put it one for 15 years and with discipline it will take her, easily 2 years, to take it off. She does not want to hear that

Becca - Good to see that you have, at least, checked in with us so that we can stop worrying about how you are doing. DH and I like taking our 'date nights'. Gives us a chance to talk about things that need attention. He could go until forever without being around DnL#1. IF our DYS and DDnL#2 cannot make it for Thanksgiving, for whatever reason; I might just 'cancel' this year. Or, at least, ask DOS what their plans are. For all I know they will go to her mother's to eat. I'll cook my ham the day before; and, if I don't have to cook a turkey, that'd be 'fine' with me. I just hate being left in limbo.

Mary from Minnesota - Have a great vacation. Good to know that DH's DD is finally able to make contact with him. It'd be a shame not to have a chance to visit with the twin granddaughters. We haven't seen DH's DGD since right after his Mom died; and, that has been 9 or 10 years ago. We just don't even discuss it at this point. But, the child is not getting to know her 'real' Papa, that is the same of it. He's not getting any younger. He'll be 75 in November.

Going out to finish repotting my horrible looking ferns. Not all of them; but, a few at a time. Got my asparagus fern repotted yesterday. I thought I had done all of them; then looked up and saw another really 'pitiful' one; it will go into a small pot. I'll have to get DH to get them down off the rack. Hoping that my two lipstick plants continue putting out new growth. The one that has the orange flowers is really pitiful looking; the one that has the 'lipstick' shaped flowers is, at least, putting out new growth. I'm not sure I want to try to repot it this year. Might totally die on me if I do. You'd think that it would put out root at each leaf; but, it apparently isn't going to do that. I tried rooting it and that just did not work for me. But, it might have been because I would forget about it. Maybe if I got some rooting powder, and stick it in a jar; it would do something that way. I love them; but, this one is my 3rd one. I have either put it 'in the sun' ... it doesn't tolerate the sun, ... at all; then put it in my porch and it got too hot; now it is out under our cedar tree and now it is putting out new growth. The place I bought it from said that would be what they would do to it to try to nurse it back to health. I've got a 'green thumb' when it comes to plants ... right now I have a burnt thumb because I grabbed the pan I'm cooking in with my left hand without having it on the pot holder. Even running cold water over it did not help with the stinging. I know not to put butter on it; but, I would like something to make it stop hurting.

Well, ladies ... now that "Matthew" is mostly 'out of the way'; I am hoping that you are able to get back into you homes and have no, or little, damage. The way it looked on TV we were surprised that we did not even get a sprinkle out of it. I have not heard from a friend of mine in a couple of weeks; not sure if they had to evacuate. I figure they probably only got some rain and wind; but, nothing serious.

Now to go check my food, this time without burning my fingers.

Welcome to all the 'newbies'.

Chow!
Lenora

Chris in MA: Congratulations on your loss! You are clearly doing something right.

Mary: Good luck on your trip. Enjoy the grand babies. :flowerforyou:

Becca: It is good to hear from you. I'm glad your elk are back so that you can enjoy seeing them. :flowerforyou:


We're having a rainy day outside and are spending a quiet day at home. DH is currently snoring in the living room while I check in with you. I hope our friends in N. Carolina and any area impacted by the storm are doing okay.

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

Becca ~ Thanks for checking in. I hate to admit it, but, last week I had exactly the same thoughts about "what does it matter if I'm thin if I'm happy." No matter how much I don't eat, my wine drinking interferes with losing weight and I love my wine. Hope none of you are too judgmental about this. I am a Christian and a true believer. This is something I have struggled with all my adult life. It runs on both sides of my family. I am by no way a falling down drunk but I do love my wine in the evening. I don't think I am morbidly obese but I sure am obese.

Carol

I think just like the rest of you about how hard it is to watch, limit the food we eat or what we drink. I love Mountain Dew. Then I look at the big picture of how being over weight affects health and longevity. I want to be here and in relatively good physical shape for as long as possible. That means for me mainly exercise and mostly healthy eating. I exercise so that I can eat. I love donuts and pizza. I eat them whenever I want but I know that I have to exercise in order to stay healthy for the future. It is very very hard work. I love my family and want to enjoy them for a very long time.

Find the balance that works for you. I have to work out to have the extra calories for the food I like to eat. I have found that weight lifting and kettle bell swing burns a lot of calories and takes very little time. Find some type of exercise that you can do that will allow you to live the life that you want.



Mary from Minnesota

Judgmental has no home here! Be gone....lol

Been thinking about the upcoming holidays. I am glad that our home will still house the small family that is here for Thanksgiving. The two real big families, because their sons can't stop having children, won't be here. I't just the Evansville family plus my daughter and family of 4. But it's Christmas that will be drastically changed. We have to many people to use my house for it anymore. Last year we had the meal at a place we rented and that was wonderful and then came back to our house to open gifts and then just hang out and be family. We watched the kids play, adults had lots of fun staying there for several hours, going over to the desert table frequently, laughing and enjoying each other's family. There are several of us that need good sturdy furniture that supports us and the recliners help a lot. 2 of the family fave a lot of trouble going up and down the stairs. We are downstairs in the family room. Well that will have to change this year. All the many kids these 2 men keep on having are a year older and there will be another one here this year. Michelle are thinking of putting scissors and thread in the stockings of these two guys for free vasectomy kits. Both of them have 4 kids now,never married. One of them will have baby momma and girl friend this year. So how do we decorate this fellowship hall we rent to make it look like Christmas. O know we could go get a cheap tree and ornaments but I hate putting up our own tree and more than likely won't this year. Michelle suggested a poster like thng to put on the wall. I think that looks tacky. Plus the chairs are regular folding chairs. I know my DSIL will have to be taken back to her hotel and then come back later. It's just not the Peterson family Christmas I have had for all my 66 years. I am heart broken just thinking about it.

We leave tomorrow morning to see our daughter and grand kids!!!!!! Then Tuesday we will go to a 'theme' park not far from there called Kentucky down under. It is a very Australian event, exotic birds from there also a lot of animals. They hand train these birds and animals from birth to be able to be handled under a very watchful eye of the handlers. Also a small but lovely cave that is on the grounds. They have golf carts for rent, also wheel chairs and mobility scooters. You can try to reserve a golf cart the day before. so tomorrow at 8 AM, park opens up 9 AM which is 8 our time and try to reserve one. It's a 6 person golf cart and should be fun. This will be our fall vacation we have had with our girls for several years. But in years past it has been a full destination vacation such as Myrtle Beach, Panama City with both girls. This year is a little over a day with just one daughter and her girls. Our DSIL will be in Nashville which is very important for him as he is self employed entrpenour and needs a lot of networking to buy into his books on the church and technology. Wish I felt tops for this but I will enjoy it. Also Christina will see in person how her Dad is really like, how his Parkinson's is affecting him,how slow and hunched he is.

Joyce, Indiana

Beth and Becca good to see you back!

DJ~ You know I love ya too, and I value your opinion and insight as well... Maybe I didn't put my thoughts down as well as I meant to. They weren't "reasons" persay, nor were they excuses. They were just insights into what makes me, me. True, maybe my desire to lose weight isn't as strong as it should be. Each of us look at their journey differently. For me, looking at my reflection and seeing my imperfect self, well I look at the parts of me that I appreciate. It's better then looking at my reflection and hating what I see. It's wasted time, the self hating. I know I have a different opinion than most on here. There are moments when I get serious, lose weight, feel proud. As well as days when I gain weight, notice I am down on myself, and during those days I have to remember. I am a perfect imperfect person. There is more to me than mere body mass. My "reasons" to you might be bunk, but to me they are validation that I am where I should be in my own head. ((((hugs friend)))

Becca
in rainy Oregon.....

Beth near Buffalo: Welcome back!

Dr. Katie: I'm happy that you were able to get back to the gym after surgery. WTG!

Linda in N Ireland: Welcome to a great group of supportive women! I've been here 1456 days, and others have been here longer. I got the weight off by counting calories with the support of MFP and this group was a big help. I intend to keep the weight off. Without the focus I get from logging, and the wonderful support from this group, I would have a very hard time maintaining my new healthier focus. Stick around for encouragement and support. :flowerforyou:

Barbie: Computer problems are not any fun. I hope a shut down and restart will clear up your computer problems. I've had this computer since 2009, and I'm still happy with it. I hope yours will be easy to get back into good order. :grumble:

Becca: You can make your own life choices and be respected. It is good to see you posting. I miss your humor and unique point of view when you are away.


I have been on MFP for quite a while now, & counting my calories every day. I appreciate the support here. I value this group and consider each of you a treasure. See you tomorrow.

Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” Thomas A. Edison

Becca it was so great talking with you - sorry for the rowdy boys interrupting our conversation. (BTW everyone Becca has the cutest voice nothing like I expected! She sounds like a teenager) I hope you don't ever feel that we are putting pressure on you. We love you no matter what your decisions are about your journey. Many of us have gone through the same ups and downs with our weight even with the support of all the women on here. For me I know that I'm in trouble when I stop logging and planning ahead. I also know the difficulty of choosing healthy foods when your income is limited. Anyway whatever your choice is it's OK with me. If you don't feel like spending much time on here with us right now that's OK too. Just touch base every so often so we know you and your family are OK.

Love you

Gloworm in WA

Elizabeth - I can only imagine how scary this is for you. I hope you have good support surrounding you with love. I have a friend who missed the clues too or actually just didn't know to look for them. It's been over 5 years since her diagnosis and surgery and she is doing well. I will pray the same for you.

Just about to set off to the airport for our flight home. Lots to say about the beauty of the Alhambra of course, but they do put you through hoops to get there. I prebooked the only time they had left, 8.30 am on Sunday. It's dark here till 8.00.! I went and got my actual tickets in the tourist office, then she told me that I have to get there half an hour before hand yo exchange them as they are Senior discounted tickets. :sad: So we were up really early, got a taxi up there, HUGE queues! I took control, as usual, and found a security guard lady who took me to another spot where I could do the exchange. Thank goodness! Then we had to queue a bit to get in, then walk fast for 25 minutes to get to the Nazarine Palace at our timed spot of 8.30. Phew! But it was most definitely worth it. Will post pics from home.

I flashed out on a VERY expensive taxi back to Malaga with money I had specially got out of my own account so DH couldn't complain. :laugh: Lovely taxi driver, so I practised my Spanish. All good. Went back to the same restaurant where waiters were tired after a loooonnnngg Sunday of family parties lunching out, but we had a good time and talked to an American couple.

Off now!

Heather going back to the UK