Pregnancy- July 2011

Okay, so I had a conversation with my husband about his dirty mouth last night. I'm not going to lie -- I swear like a sailor and it's something I'm working on now in preparation for baby. But he's absolutely ridiculous. He's in the kitchen simply making peanut butter toast right now and I've heard GD-it twice and the eff bomb at least 3-4 times. Seriously?! How could it possibly be so frustrating to toast bread in the toaster & then put peanut butter on it to warrant that much swearing? :laugh:

HAHA... making your own toast CAN be pretty stressful for some men :laugh:
My husband and I both have HORRIBLE dirty mouths! I'm pretty sure neither one of us could go a day without swearing even if someone paid us too!!!. I have a 7 and 5 year old and have tried to watch my mouth so many times, but when I get upset or am having conversations with certain people, it just comes out. So now, instead of trying to change my language, I just decided to teach my kids that they are children and not aloud to use that language out of respect in our home and respect for others. But when they are adults, then it is their choice and they will know when it is ok to talk like that :laugh: I found that it was much easier to just teach them that then it was for us to quit swearing.... hypocritical of us???? maybe..... but I figured at this point in our lives... it's working :happy:

Mel & MamaRandall -- I definitely agree with you guys that the swearing is going to happen at least occasionally pretty much regardless of how much we try not to. Also, it's everywhere else. I'd just prefer my baby's first word not be "mothereffer" or "GD-it" both of which hubby says ridiculously frequently. Especially lately for some reason. I guess my swear words of choice are s*** and f*** which to me are somehow less crass. I fully expect her to end up testing out saying those words eventually when she's 3 or so.
Tonight when I heard "mothereffer" being used for essentially no reason I asked hubby what fun words he was going to use to replace that one and he said "bad fellow." I really hope he starts saying that since it has great potential to be incredibly hilarious.

Maisie's being super hard on my cervix tonight. She's made me squeal (small & short squeaks, but totally uncontrollable) a couple of times and grab hold of a pillow & bite my lip several other times. Hubby is FREAKING OUT. :laugh: He said the next time I squeal he's calling the doctor. :laugh: So now of course I'm trying super hard not to make a peep. I've tried explaining it's just her moving and pressing against my cervix which causes sharp stabby pains that catch me by surprise but he's still in near panic mode about it. Poor guy.

Rachel- Did you get to discuss your birth plan with your dr? Glad your doula meeting went well!

Unfortunately there was no chance today! Bummer! But we booked extra time next week (Monday) so we can discuss it,

Ok, so I had my appointment today. I am at least a 2 cm, not much but definitely progress from the 1 last time. She is still posterior. She is also weighing 8 lb. 5 oz. My mw doesn't want her to be too big to deliver, so if she doesn't come by her due date I will be induced on Monday or Tuesday. They will call me tomorrow with the scheduled date and time. She gave me the choice to or to wait it out. But I couldn't resist. 1- I am sooo tired of being pregnant. 2- My mw will be out of town the rest of next week 3- my dad will be out of town next week and he doesn't want to miss the baby 4- My hubby's b-day is next week and 5- I really don't want to push out a huge baby.

I know ultrasounds can be off. But a co-worker said that with her first they made her wait, she went a week over her due date, her baby was 10 lbs and she had to have a c-section because he was too big. I know a lot of you are against inductions, so I hope you won't judge me. :blushing: :flowerforyou: It just really is nice to have a definite day in mind. I know at least I will not be pregnant past next Tuesday. But I am still hoping and praying she comes on her own this weekend.

All - I've read everything but am not really in a place to respond individually. Couple of notes though:

Julie - I hope those squeals means the baby is close. I'll be praying for you.

Anne Elise and Rachael - you make the best decisions you can with the information you have at the time for you and for your family. If induction is waht you are being led to by your circumstances then no one else has any valuable input into the decision.

FIL in the delivery room: With my 1st birth my ILs were in the waiting room but FIL was in the delivery room after the birth when the rather pushy nurse was trying to help me figure out getting my dd latched on. After that, I could nurse in front of anyone, anywhere! For my last birth, he, my MIL and my GMIL were standing in the doorway of the bedroom I was delivering in to be support personnel for my three other children. I had one knee and both hands on the bed, the other foot on the floor and they had a lovely view of my posterior because after I was pulled off the toilet by the midwife, I made it that far and then couldn't move. NOT the most ideal of circumstances but my younger son asked him to be there so he could watch. And at the time, I could have cared less if the Pope was watching because all I wanted was to deliver that baby!

My UTI test came back normal so I am on easy rest. They opened on a day they usually don't see patients to schedule me to come in and be checked. I go tomorrow to find out if there is any effect to the contractions and get a judgement call on whether or not I have to remain on easy rest. This is highly frustrating because even going to and from swim class seems to wipe me out so I want to retreat to my bed. The children are not being bad, but they're kids and are making messes that drives my dh crazy. He threw a fit about it tonight so I asked him to please leave it alone since I spent most of the afternoon getting the big kids packed for Scout Camp next week and I was too tired to deal with it tonight. The kids told me as they came to bed that they had cleaned up but dh didn't seem happy about the state of affairs when he came to bed so we'll see in the morning.

Welcome to all the newbies.

We generally don't swear in our house (and my IL's would be shocked if they ever heard when we did! - not that it ever gets beyond mild and the occasional eskatorial reference) So it was quite the surprise when my youngest (right about 7) came home using the F word everywhere. Yikes! :noway: Apparently, his "friend" uses the word and that family thinks nothing of it. :noway: Some people do have the attitude that "it's just another word." Anyway, we had to talk about how in our family, those words are not okay - not in our house, and not in our mouths - and I have even threatened to wash his mouth with soap because those words make it dirty (I don't think I ever would, but it get's my point across). Yeah, the kids are going to be exposed to it somewhere, eventually. But parents can set clear standards of what is okay in their house and for their family.

Rachael and Anne (and Julie and Maureen) - You know what is going on with your body more than anyone else, especially those of us who only chat with you online. It would be inappropriate and rude for us to tell you what you "should" be doing as far as induction/labor/birth plan etc. We all have our own personal preferences, but I am glad to be a part of a group where we can state what we think is best without getting all sorts of upset when someone else disagrees. The end goal is to have a healthy LO in your arms and have you well enough to enjoy it. Sometimes that means going a different route than what anyone around you might suggest.


Took the kids to the pool today. I am such a ninny about getting in the water (it's cold right at first, even though it feels good after the initial shock!). I mostly just floated around half underwater on a floaty, but still feel exhausted. I keep thinking I should be swimming laps, but I feel like I have no energy for it! Oh well, the buoyancy taking some of the weight off my hips for a while is good anyway.

Hkystar-

Hope that lil one decides to make an appearance soon! I went bowling on a saturday I believe and went into labor sunday. Who knows if that is what got the ball rolling no pun intended hahaha I am funny today. Wow bad humor at 6:30am time to go back to bed. Anyways, I really hope you can have a quick, fast painless labor. No matter what happens as far as meds as long as like other ladies said you have that beautiful baby in your arms it doesn't matter. Good luck!

Rachael- Like everyone else has said. You know your body and your baby and what you need to do to get her here healthy and safe. Any mother or expecting one should support that 100%. I hope things work out how you want them to

Elizabeth- Congrats on the upcoming big day! Weddings are so nerve wracking but once you are walking down that aisle, all that matters is you and your groom to be :flowerforyou:

Julie- You are so calm, I would have been in panic mode just let your DH!

Rachel- Glad you will have a time next week to discuss it, I know you were wanting to get that done!

Jen- People are stupid, I am sure that you are doing great. I think I may punch the next person who says I am small haha (I usually say, yes I puke 7 times a day…) they shut up quickly. I remembering feeling huge around 6 months too and didn’t gain tons in the 3rd so maybe you won’t either!

Rachael- You know my struggle with this decision, obviously I decided to induce as well so no judgment here! You have made it till a healthy time for your baby, the induction decision is really only changing labors. Honestly, I know it can go poorly but for a lot of people it goes just fine. We support you! You are doing great (you probably didn’t cry at your apt. haha).

Katrina- I totally know what you mean that you just wanted the baby out but I think later I would be horrified, no way! I am sorry you are feeling so tired and worn down, that has to be very hard with your other children. I hope it improves soon!

Julie- let us know how your dr. apt. goes today!! Big day maybe!

Julz- being in the pool is great for you either way! Glad you got to enjoy it!

Maureen- I think it is great you are getting prepared because anything can happen. I am trying to do that for myself as well. You are going to do great!

Elizabeth- ENJOY the wedding, so exciting! People can be so dumb around weddings haha. It is going to be wonderful.

Maria- I HOPE YOU ARE HAVING YOUR LO! If not you sure are torturing us after that last post

AFM: This is off topic but my little brother is a professional poker player (seriously) and he is playing in the world series of poker in Vegas right now… he has made it to day 3 in the main event and the guy who got 3rd overall last year has been at his table. I am proud of him and hoping he keeps doing well.

Thanks Anne! I needed to hear that today! I just got into it with this lady in my building because she told me I'm "to sensitive to comments about my pregnancy." WTF?! Really? I said "We'll I can honestly say that I don't know ONE women that is expecting that is ok when someone points out that she is "huge" or "small" or says "Holy cow, you're ready to pop". All those comments piss all of us off that are expecting." She just kept saying "We'll you just take it took much to heart." UGH! It really pissed me off and now I'm back in my office super pissed. :mad: People are so stupid! Ok vent over. Thanks!