What nobody tells you about losing weight

I just cannot get over how fantastic I feel. It is hard to put into words, but not having to deal with this any more -- not think about it -- is a miracle. I just open a closet or drawer, pull out something, put it on and off I go. Freedom!

These have been handled before, but:

1. The cold: OMFG, the struggle is real!
2. Unwanted attention Recently a man was whistling at me like he was calling his dog from across the parking lot. I finally turned to see if I could help with the dog, and he raised his eyebrows at me from a few feet away. From the harmless check out to the creepy leering dudes...do not want.
3. Shapewear is actually helpful once you're well out of plus sizes. Before it just made me sausage like. Now that I'm in a M/L-8/10 (from 3X/22), I'm pretty jazzed. Look, there is loose skin and stuff going on, and I'm still losing and transitioning. Skinny jeans, supportive tights and the odd gem found in the shapewear section make it all better.

After losing significant amount of weight you might feel fatter than ever. I'm at lowest weight in my adult life, have last 10 lbs to lose and I feel huge. When I look in the mirror all I see is fat on my belly and tights.

dustedwithsugar wrote: »

After losing significant amount of weight you might feel fatter than ever. I'm at lowest weight in my adult life, have last 10 lbs to lose and I feel huge. When I look in the mirror all I see is fat on my belly and tights.

This my belly/ pooch area is where I have lost the least amount of weight, so I find it actually looks bigger now as I am still losing inches off everywhere else.

MsMaeFlowers wrote: »

dustedwithsugar wrote: »

After losing significant amount of weight you might feel fatter than ever. I'm at lowest weight in my adult life, have last 10 lbs to lose and I feel huge. When I look in the mirror all I see is fat on my belly and tights.

This my belly/ pooch area is where I have lost the least amount of weight, so I find it actually looks bigger now as I am still losing inches off everywhere else.

That's so true! I thought I was going crazy, but maybe it's true-fat spots is more noticeable because rest of the body is slim?

okay so I am back on board and am reading EACH posting! I'm only on page 15 right now which is great because I can keep coming back for great motivations and learning from others, so thank you all for your posts. Especially those that understand that the weight was not the reason for any underlying broad unhappiness. I click with that (as my 'picture' shows). I know that losing weight and getting smaller is not going to solve my life's problems. But being unhappy and smaller/healthier/stronger is better than being unhappy and fat! I'm looking forward to eventually catching up on the posting as I drop my own dress sizes.

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thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

Colt1835 wrote: »

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.

Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.

I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?

Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?

It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.

But thank you, again, for bringing that up.

I have a low opinion of obese people who act like they don't care about their weight when they clearly do, but I had a low opinion of myself when I was obese also. I don't go around telling them that I have a low opinion of them, but the feeling is there. I agree that it is probably a projection of obese me.

1) What of those people who are obese, grinding every day at the gym? Why should they have a low opinion of themselves?

2) What of those people who are obese, but are great moms and dads, kids, friends, neighbors, or help those who are less fortunate? Are they supposed to feel depressed because they failed at weight management?

3) What of those people who are obese who have significant other skills and talents? Are they supposed to feel less than you because they have an area of weakness?

I reject the notion that people who haven't figured it all out in life are less worthy of my respect.

I teach my children to work on their weaknesses - while reminding them that we are ALL working on something.

1. That's great that they are working hard and they should definitely not have a low opinion of themselves. It would be great if nobody had a low opinion of themselves, but I know that's not possible.

2. Of course not. I never said anyone should feel depressed. I don't have a low opinion of anyone who failed at weight management. I have a low opinion of people who fail at weight managment and resort to lying to their kids, friends, and neighbors. I especially have a low opinion of obese people who try to convince their children they're okay with being obese. That's one of the sickest lies you can tell children. That's probably part of why childhood obesity is on the rise.

3. No. If someone feels less than me, there's not much I can do to change that, sad but true. I certainly don't go around telling folks they should feel less than me.

You seem to think I have a low opinion of obese people in general. I can assure you I don't.

I reject the notion that anyone is worthy of my respect before they earn it and few people earn my respect.

I'm sorry but the only opinion you should have is one of yourself. Not everyone who's obese is lying to themselves. Who cares what a neighbor thinks? If you're that concerned what the world thinks of your weight, stay inside. For those of us who dont care, we don't need your approval.

I had a great life as an obese woman (still do). I'm sad that you feel the opinions of others matter so much, including yours. Fortunately here are some of us who couldn't care less.

Being obese never stopped me from being happy. I've lived a great life. I just wanted to challenge myself, and allow self-growth. I was living life so good I didn't notice that I was changing physically and though I had no health issues (even near 260bs) I knew that could change in my elder years. That isn't the same as hating my body and feeling disgusted in myself. I was never the type who dieted nor hated my body.

Not sure why you feel entitled to someone earning your respect just because they exist in a body you don't approve of. LOL. What? Get over yourself, hon. Trust me, no one wants to earn the respect of someone who thinks they're better than everyone else just because they got a new lease on llfe. Someone else's body is none of your concern. Not sure where this entitlement is coming from?

At 260lbs I never felt less than and I won't at 150, either. High self-esteem isn't just for physically in shape people. Fat people have it too. You've lost the weight, now please lose the chip on your shoulder, its heavier. Live and let live. You're not entitled to anyone's respect, even if they're the size of a whale....which is still none of your business. Sorry to burst your bubble but there are obese people who are in love with themselves. I'm sorry you weren't when you were.