What nobody tells you about losing weight

Syneea

Bentnotbroken130 wrote: »

pinkpsyche wrote: »

riffraff2112 wrote: »

Lots of good stuff here.
I remember finding a few new 'friends' who all of a sudden would talk to me, or notice me, or remember my name next time I visited their establishment when I had been going there for years or had mutual friends etc....

Some people obviously let vanity cloud their judgement.

Or maybe I just had a better attitude after and was more approachable?
Nah..I was always jolly

Yes! To be honest though, those that couldn't give me the time of day as a heavier person really are not worth my time. It shows to me their true character. Maybe that sounds mean and I should be more forgiving?

Curious what others thought are. What does one say to a friend that hits on you After losing the weight. Wasn't negative or mean or anything prior just wanted to wait...

Hmm a part of me would feel a certain type of way.. I understand folks are attracted to what they are attracted to, but Man, I'd find it a bit hard to get past them waiting to find me good enough to hit on. Like no, no....if you couldn't like me then, then you can't even dream of the goodies now. Lol I can see it from both sides...

Bentnotbroken130

louann_jude wrote: »

That people will try to get you to stop losing weight before your ready to. I have had two people tell me already I don't need to lose 'much more'. I have lost 95 pounds. Even with that weight loss I still need to lose 39 more pounds to get to where I am no longer over weight. That is at the high end of a normal weight bmi.

I started this journey to go the distance. Not give up when everyone else thinks I should. I am doing this for me not them.

I got that recently from a stranger. I just said thank you but my back says otherwise Some people, I doubt most say it to be mean in anyway but it's socially awkward and not appropriate to say to someone.

Julieagain

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

Baggy....shoes?!

Yep. Me too. Less weight bearing down on them I think. Frankly I'll take any excuse to buy new ones.

treehugnmama

yes my feet when down a size to a size and a half an's I still have 80 pounds to go!

Cave_Goose

My wife complains that my pelvic bone digs into her when we're...um...tickle fighting?

Fortunately, I can hold a plank for a long time now.

Sara1791

Cave_Goose wrote: »

My wife complains that my pelvic bone digs into her when we're...um...tickle fighting?

Fortunately, I can hold a plank for a long time now.

See? People who say planking for longer than 30 seconds is a waste don't know what they're talking about.

Colt1835

Cave_Goose wrote: »

My wife complains that my pelvic bone digs into her when we're...um...tickle fighting?

Fortunately, I can hold a plank for a long time now.

My wife was complaining about that last night. She wasn't complaining about all the new positions though.

thisonetimeatthegym

Cave_Goose wrote: »

My wife complains that my pelvic bone digs into her when we're...um...tickle fighting?

Fortunately, I can hold a plank for a long time now.

mazarasltm

columbus2015 wrote: »

- That you will always be cold
- That you will actually care what you wear and that it fits nicely
- That your butt gets sore from sitting
- That you start to judge people for not trying to lose weight
- That you get tired of telling people that you're not sice
- That you can feel ashamed of what you weighed before

All true. Sometimes I look at heavier people and want to scream "YOU CAN DO IT!" and put a big smile on my face. Im nothing special. Im no better than you. Its completely doable. I know what works! Let me help you. But I think people looking at me just get depressed. And think "I cant do that." There must be some secret.:; You bet your *kitten* you can.

ekim2016

that friends and colleagues keep offering me food and saying "oh one piece of candy or cake wont' hurt" incidentally, they should be all laying off it too.. catty remark I know.... meow.

rachellosesitall85

That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.

Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.

thisonetimeatthegym

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.

Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.

I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?

Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?

It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.

But thank you, again, for bringing that up.

Colt1835

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.

Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.

I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?

Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?

It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.

But thank you, again, for bringing that up.

I have a low opinion of obese people who act like they don't care about their weight when they clearly do, but I had a low opinion of myself when I was obese also. I don't go around telling them that I have a low opinion of them, but the feeling is there. I agree that it is probably a projection of obese me.

thisonetimeatthegym

Colt1835 wrote: »

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.

Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.

I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?

Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?

It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.

But thank you, again, for bringing that up.

I have a low opinion of obese people who act like they don't care about their weight when they clearly do, but I had a low opinion of myself when I was obese also. I don't go around telling them that I have a low opinion of them, but the feeling is there. I agree that it is probably a projection of obese me.

1) What of those people who are obese, grinding every day at the gym? Why should they have a low opinion of themselves?

2) What of those people who are obese, but are great moms and dads, kids, friends, neighbors, or help those who are less fortunate? Are they supposed to feel depressed because they failed at weight management?

3) What of those people who are obese who have significant other skills and talents? Are they supposed to feel less than you because they have an area of weakness?

I reject the notion that people who haven't figured it all out in life are less worthy of my respect.

I teach my children to work on their weaknesses - while reminding them that we are ALL working on something.

Intentional_Me

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.

Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.

I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?

Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?

It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.

But thank you, again, for bringing that up.

I feel the same about formally obese people judging currently obese people. Easy to judge when you've got a nice new tool belt

Nicole_kayy

gkvauthier32 wrote: »

- Being cold all the time....it hasn't gotten better with time for me. I lost the majority of my weigth 7 years ago AND I"M STILL COLD ALL THE TIME!
- The confidence to do and learn new things. I became a Zumba instructor a couple of years ago and recently got my personal training liscene after a Zumba ending injury.
- The amazing community of people you integrate into when you decide to make healthier food and exercise choices.

This makes me even more excited because I'm hot all the time now

soufauxgirl

that Cold situation is a pain in the rear....I had a puffer vest and heater on in my office and people were coming in going OMG why is your heater on?? They think im weird LOL. It's spring where I am but was a balmy 27 degrees C (80 degrees F) yesterday...Yep that does sound weird lol

Colt1835

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

Colt1835 wrote: »

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.

Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.

I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?

Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?

It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.

But thank you, again, for bringing that up.

I have a low opinion of obese people who act like they don't care about their weight when they clearly do, but I had a low opinion of myself when I was obese also. I don't go around telling them that I have a low opinion of them, but the feeling is there. I agree that it is probably a projection of obese me.

1) What of those people who are obese, grinding every day at the gym? Why should they have a low opinion of themselves?

2) What of those people who are obese, but are great moms and dads, kids, friends, neighbors, or help those who are less fortunate? Are they supposed to feel depressed because they failed at weight management?

3) What of those people who are obese who have significant other skills and talents? Are they supposed to feel less than you because they have an area of weakness?

I reject the notion that people who haven't figured it all out in life are less worthy of my respect.

I teach my children to work on their weaknesses - while reminding them that we are ALL working on something.

1. That's great that they are working hard and they should definitely not have a low opinion of themselves. It would be great if nobody had a low opinion of themselves, but I know that's not possible.

2. Of course not. I never said anyone should feel depressed. I don't have a low opinion of anyone who failed at weight management. I have a low opinion of people who fail at weight managment and resort to lying to their kids, friends, and neighbors. I especially have a low opinion of obese people who try to convince their children they're okay with being obese. That's one of the sickest lies you can tell children. That's probably part of why childhood obesity is on the rise.

3. No. If someone feels less than me, there's not much I can do to change that, sad but true. I certainly don't go around telling folks they should feel less than me.

You seem to think I have a low opinion of obese people in general. I can assure you I don't.

I reject the notion that anyone is worthy of my respect before they earn it and few people earn my respect.

thereshegoesagain

I reject the notion that anyone is NOT worthy of my respect until they show me otherwise.

Colt1835

thereshegoesagain wrote: »

I reject the notion that anyone is NOT worthy of my respect until they show me otherwise.

So, you respect people you've never met?

youdoyou2016

I just cannot get over how fantastic I feel. It is hard to put into words, but not having to deal with this any more -- not think about it -- is a miracle. I just open a closet or drawer, pull out something, put it on and off I go. Freedom!

Colt1835

youdoyou2016 wrote: »

Colt1835 wrote: »

thereshegoesagain wrote: »

I reject the notion that anyone is NOT worthy of my respect until they show me otherwise.

So, you respect people you've never met?

Uh, yeah ...

We clearly have different definitions of respect. I respect people who have qualities I find admirable. If I've never met someone, I couldn't possibly know whether they have any qualities at all, much less admirable ones. Do you think humans deserve respect just for being human? I hate to break it to you, but humans are crazy a-holes by nature.

thisonetimeatthegym

Colt1835 wrote: »

thereshegoesagain wrote: »

I reject the notion that anyone is NOT worthy of my respect until they show me otherwise.

So, you respect people you've never met?

As an extention if my own self-respect, I tend to show other people respect.

Colt1835

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

Colt1835 wrote: »

thereshegoesagain wrote: »

I reject the notion that anyone is NOT worthy of my respect until they show me otherwise.

So, you respect people you've never met?

As an extention if my own self-respect, I tend to show other people respect.

I'm kind to everyone until they give me a reason to not be kind, but I don't consider that respect. That's just not being a jerk.

thisonetimeatthegym

Colt1835 wrote: »

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

Colt1835 wrote: »

thereshegoesagain wrote: »

I reject the notion that anyone is NOT worthy of my respect until they show me otherwise.

So, you respect people you've never met?

As an extention if my own self-respect, I tend to show other people respect.

I'm kind to everyone until they give me a reason to not be kind, but I don't consider that respect. That's just not being a jerk.

I'm sure whatever mindset you have works for you.

meritage4

OK my stretch pants are now LONGER! Less me to stretch around!

MissusMoon

These have been handled before, but:

1. The cold: OMFG, the struggle is real!
2. Unwanted attention Recently a man was whistling at me like he was calling his dog from across the parking lot. I finally turned to see if I could help with the dog, and he raised his eyebrows at me from a few feet away. From the harmless check out to the creepy leering dudes...do not want.
3. Shapewear is actually helpful once you're well out of plus sizes. Before it just made me sausage like. Now that I'm in a M/L-8/10 (from 3X/22), I'm pretty jazzed. Look, there is loose skin and stuff going on, and I'm still losing and transitioning. Skinny jeans, supportive tights and the odd gem found in the shapewear section make it all better.

youdoyou2016

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dustedwithsugar

After losing significant amount of weight you might feel fatter than ever. I'm at lowest weight in my adult life, have last 10 lbs to lose and I feel huge. When I look in the mirror all I see is fat on my belly and tights.

SisterSueGetsFit

dustedwithsugar wrote: »

After losing significant amount of weight you might feel fatter than ever. I'm at lowest weight in my adult life, have last 10 lbs to lose and I feel huge. When I look in the mirror all I see is fat on my belly and tights.

I have to agree with this. Some days I feel great but other days I feel fatter than ever and only see fat, fat, fat. I guess our minds are yet to catch up.