What nobody tells you about losing weight
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NanCaudill wrote: »My spouse is no longer talking about a king size bed, the queen size fits much better
I can wear clothes again that I refused to throw out when I injured my knee, its like having a store to shop in!
I am no longer snoring!!
My back doesnt hurt as much anymore when I sit all day at work
just a few and with just 26lbs lost. I have a long way to go and I feel this is the best Ive ever done. At 54 I had given up, but now Im gaining a new way of thinking!
You sound like me! Same age, same outcomes and about the same weight loss!
We are just getting better all the time! 1 -
Nobody told me that my physical deformity from scoliosis would become much more visible and prominent when not hidden under 100 lbs of fat.
Oh well. I'll take the sloped shoulders and slightly weird ribcage over the weight.
I'm noticing that now... 7 inches off the chest showing all my twistedness I have 3 curves now very noticable, and rib cage is very prominent. But 7 inches gone, and my back feels better for it I wore a fitted shirt the other day showing off curves and all anyway. Stay strong 14 -
That when you don't have much left to lose, it can seem like there is a lot left to lose. The last several days, all I keep noticing is my belly. I look down and there it is. Hey, what?! Then I realize that's the last to go. With everything else nearly gone, I just have a belly left. But: a little pot belly! It just seems so noticeable to me now. What the heck, body?!10
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that the fat would be leaving my body in different sequence from how it arrived. it must have been quite a while ago that i passed 135 pounds on my way up, but i'm pretty darned sure i didn't have these strange little pockets and blobs of the stuff still hanging on in random places.
i remind myself of bare ground in spring, where there's still little mounds of snow lying around.34 -
That I can run up the steps at my job and not become tired like before. And for every pound of fat weight lost, my knees are spared 4 lbs of weight pressure when I walk or run. I'm so sorry knees for all the abuse I put you through because of my mouth!
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I realized i could actually see my abs today and it felt wonderful. It was a distant dream for me 10 months ago.15
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How many weeks after clean diet or weights? Im dying to get washboard abs. How much protein per day do i need-1
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A weird number of my friends now seem overly concerned that I don't eat enough. And are ALWAYS trying to feed me when we hang out. I eat plenty but I think because they see me getting smaller they're somehow convinced I'm starving myself.14
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Less or no headaches.
Borderline unhealthy obsession with weight loss, measurements, numbers.
Being cold. All. The. Time.
Finding muscle under fat. Who knew?!?!17 -
The cold hasn't hit me yet, but I'm with you on the rest. I've had noticably less headaches, I attribute that to less sugar. And I think the miscles are a combination of building them and uncovering them all at the same time. Love it.Less or no headaches.
Borderline unhealthy obsession with weight loss, measurements, numbers.
Being cold. All. The. Time.
Finding muscle under fat. Who knew?!?!
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That some people will just Not. Get. It. No matter how many times you say things like "i'm not drinking alcohol much anymore" or "i've been trying to eat healthier" or "i'm ok, thanks" when they offer you treats. I don't like to spell it out like I'M TRYING TO LOSE WEIGHT because that can be a little embarrassing, especially with men. My (male) boss is always treating us to wings, candy, snacks... which is great for morale but not great for my body
Another example: my husband and I have a small group of friends over every week or so to play board games. I was finishing up a batch of pumpkin granola when they showed up saturday night. I offered everyone some but they declined. Later in the night, my husband came home and ate his dinner. We joked that he didn't offer anyone any of it. One of our (male) friends said to me, "Yeah, Leah, all you offered us was healthy granola!" My first reaction was... that granola has maple syrup and brown sugar in it, it's not that healthy! And then I realized... wow he is really that daft and doesn't realize the work i have been putting in to lose 45 pounds so far. He thinks i'm just making healthy food to punish him somehow!
(oh and here's the recipe http://www.twopeasandtheirpod.com/pumpkin-granola/ it's soooo good)21 -
Losing weight was my original goal, but it's about much more than that.
It hasn't just changed me physically. It's going to take my mind longer to catch up to my body. I've reached a point where I'm comfortable with myself, but at the same time I know this is going to be a never ending journey, even after I meet my goal weight. I've recently started preparing myself to enjoy the journey more than the destination.
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Losing weight was my original goal, but it's about much more than that.
It hasn't just changed me physically. It's going to take my mind longer to catch up to my body. I've reached a point where I'm comfortable with myself, but at the same time I know this is going to be a never ending journey, even after I meet my goal weight. I've recently started preparing myself to enjoy the journey more than the destination.
Couldn't agree more! There is definitely a shift in mind once you reach a certain point. That has to be one of the best non scale victories ever!11 -
That you may be harder on your thinner self than you were on your overweight self. I'm down about 55 pounds and now I really notice things I don't like; as in jiggly thighs, a not flat enough belly, saggy arms... When I was overweight, it's not like I didn't notice it, I guess I just didn't either a). care enough or b). just ignored it. I seem to pick myself apart now.37
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I was trying to tell my mom how cold I've been since losing 30 pounds, but she had no clue. And all of my T shirts are nice and loose, nothing rides up over my belly any more, I love sleeping in them now. I love the new muscles popping out of my legs and the new bones in my hips. Still mentally adjusting to this ride, figuring out how to meal plan all the time, get enough protein, and get a run or workout in. Mentally, the feeling fat days are less than the feeling thin ones, so that's good.16
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That I can run up the steps at my job and not become tired like before. And for every pound of fat weight lost, my knees are spared 4 lbs of weight pressure when I walk or run. I'm so sorry knees for all the abuse I put you through because of my mouth!
Ha ha. This is me - love the last line!
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If someone had told me last year that I'd be able to read a thread where women are basically complaining that they can't find clothing small enough and I wouldn't feel some kind of irritation or sense of injustice, I'd have been amazed!
I'm still overweight and will likely never be that small even at goal, but I sympathise with them!
I feel now that everyone deserves to find clothes that fit well and make them look and feel good, no matter how large or small they are. I used to think that I needed to hide behind baggy, shapeless clothes, and I hate to admit it but I guess I felt that other fat women ought to do the same.
I have a much better appreciation now of other people's struggles and successes!
(I hope that doesn't come across the wrong way - I mean it to be a positive thing!)
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A weird number of my friends now seem overly concerned that I don't eat enough. And are ALWAYS trying to feed me when we hang out. I eat plenty but I think because they see me getting smaller they're somehow convinced I'm starving myself.
I can definitely relate, my friends do the same thing with me!
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That my socks will start falling off. I have had to buy a whole new everything but never thought I'd have to buy new socks15
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People now find it acceptable to tell you how "fat" and "massive" you used to be
You never called me those names to my face when I was fat so why do you think you can now? It was still the same person inside and that same person could also go back to how they were
Literally just happened to me. "This may sound blunt, but I'm sorry you were fat"..... uhhhhh, thanks I guess?
Lol what is wrong with people?!
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That I would have so many more physical fitness related goals, besides the loss of weight. All of a sudden I have a list of things I want to be able to do, these were things I used to never think or care about.25
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I realized that I mainly wore lose flowy shirts to hide my stomach fat. Now since the weight loss all those shirts are comically to big.19
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Even with more progress to go, I've stopped dreading seeing people at events. A friend just got engaged and another was back in town for a night and all I thought was "yay, can't wait to see them" and not "ugh I am so ashamed to be seen at this size"53
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fposte2016 wrote: »Even with more progress to go, I've stopped dreading seeing people at events. A friend just got engaged and another was back in town for a night and all I thought was "yay, can't wait to see them" and not "ugh I am so ashamed to be seen at this size"
SO looking forward to the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday and seeing family/friends!!
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1. That's great that they are working hard and they should definitely not have a low opinion of themselves. It would be great if nobody had a low opinion of themselves, but I know that's not possible.thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
I have a low opinion of obese people who act like they don't care about their weight when they clearly do, but I had a low opinion of myself when I was obese also. I don't go around telling them that I have a low opinion of them, but the feeling is there. I agree that it is probably a projection of obese me.thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »rachellosesitall85 wrote: »That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.
Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.
I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?
Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?
It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.
But thank you, again, for bringing that up.
1) What of those people who are obese, grinding every day at the gym? Why should they have a low opinion of themselves?
2) What of those people who are obese, but are great moms and dads, kids, friends, neighbors, or help those who are less fortunate? Are they supposed to feel depressed because they failed at weight management?
3) What of those people who are obese who have significant other skills and talents? Are they supposed to feel less than you because they have an area of weakness?
I reject the notion that people who haven't figured it all out in life are less worthy of my respect.
I teach my children to work on their weaknesses - while reminding them that we are ALL working on something.
2. Of course not. I never said anyone should feel depressed. I don't have a low opinion of anyone who failed at weight management. I have a low opinion of people who fail at weight managment and resort to lying to their kids, friends, and neighbors. I especially have a low opinion of obese people who try to convince their children they're okay with being obese. That's one of the sickest lies you can tell children. That's probably part of why childhood obesity is on the rise.
3. No. If someone feels less than me, there's not much I can do to change that, sad but true. I certainly don't go around telling folks they should feel less than me.
You seem to think I have a low opinion of obese people in general. I can assure you I don't.
I reject the notion that anyone is worthy of my respect before they earn it and few people earn my respect.
The part in bold...I'm interested in hearing opinions on that. It used to be (literally, when I was a kid, and I'm only 28) that the heavy kid was made fun of, shunned, etc. Now, in my children's generation, there's a significant percentage that are overweight or obese, and I guess because of the common occurrence of it, it's now much more accepted and these children are more normalized in a sense of socialization in school, etc. I presume this is the reason and not because we have been positively teaching their generation to not make judge/ridicule/bully others for their differences. Childhood obesity just isn't that much different anymore. Is the increasing acceptance of childhood obesity an overall positive or negative thing?
The ADA projects a 49% increase in childhood Type 2 diabetes over 40 years at the current rate. The same article states 25% of the Medicare budget is spent on managing the disease.
http://www.diabetes.org/newsroom/press-releases/2012/number-of-youth-with-diabetes-projected-to-rise-by-2050.html?referrer=https://www.google.com/3 -
mommarnurse wrote: »
1. That's great that they are working hard and they should definitely not have a low opinion of themselves. It would be great if nobody had a low opinion of themselves, but I know that's not possible.thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
I have a low opinion of obese people who act like they don't care about their weight when they clearly do, but I had a low opinion of myself when I was obese also. I don't go around telling them that I have a low opinion of them, but the feeling is there. I agree that it is probably a projection of obese me.thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »rachellosesitall85 wrote: »That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.
Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.
I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?
Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?
It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.
But thank you, again, for bringing that up.
1) What of those people who are obese, grinding every day at the gym? Why should they have a low opinion of themselves?
2) What of those people who are obese, but are great moms and dads, kids, friends, neighbors, or help those who are less fortunate? Are they supposed to feel depressed because they failed at weight management?
3) What of those people who are obese who have significant other skills and talents? Are they supposed to feel less than you because they have an area of weakness?
I reject the notion that people who haven't figured it all out in life are less worthy of my respect.
I teach my children to work on their weaknesses - while reminding them that we are ALL working on something.
2. Of course not. I never said anyone should feel depressed. I don't have a low opinion of anyone who failed at weight management. I have a low opinion of people who fail at weight managment and resort to lying to their kids, friends, and neighbors. I especially have a low opinion of obese people who try to convince their children they're okay with being obese. That's one of the sickest lies you can tell children. That's probably part of why childhood obesity is on the rise.
3. No. If someone feels less than me, there's not much I can do to change that, sad but true. I certainly don't go around telling folks they should feel less than me.
You seem to think I have a low opinion of obese people in general. I can assure you I don't.
I reject the notion that anyone is worthy of my respect before they earn it and few people earn my respect.
The part in bold...I'm interested in hearing opinions on that. It used to be (literally, when I was a kid, and I'm only 28) that the heavy kid was made fun of, shunned, etc. Now, in my children's generation, there's a significant percentage that are overweight or obese, and I guess because of the common occurrence of it, it's now much more accepted and these children are more normalized in a sense of socialization in school, etc. I presume this is the reason and not because we have been positively teaching their generation to not make judge/ridicule/bully others for their differences. Childhood obesity just isn't that much different anymore. Is the increasing acceptance of childhood obesity an overall positive or negative thing?
The ADA projects a 49% increase in childhood Type 2 diabetes over 40 years at the current rate. The same article states 25% of the Medicare budget is spent on managing the disease.
http://www.diabetes.org/newsroom/press-releases/2012/number-of-youth-with-diabetes-projected-to-rise-by-2050.html?referrer=https://www.google.com/
I don't think there is an easy answer here.
On one hand, this is obviously a major health concern but it needs to start with the parents. Before MFP I was pretty ignorant about how to actually meet all of my nutritional needs. There is so much misinformation out there that it's confusing and overwhelming to many people. Something else to consider is access to transportation, finances, etc. Though portion sizes would help with he obesity part. I am nearly positive my 3 yo son has a milk protein allergy and had I discovered this Pre MFP I don't think I would have had any clue how to meet his new dietary & nutrition needs
On the other hand, body positivity is a good thing and the opposite can create disordered eating habits.
My plan is to do what I can in my own home and teach my children about fueling their bodies and moderation with treats. I will be honest about my weight struggles and my journey12 -
I know several people have mentioned that you might look worse before you look better, as the fat starts to slowly melt away. I'm totally there right now. My tummy used to be a bit firmer to the touch because the fat had the skin stretched out. Now my tummy definitely has started to deflate and looks pretty gross. Onward to looking better!! ;-)16
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rchlthompson wrote: »That you may be harder on your thinner self than you were on your overweight self. I'm down about 55 pounds and now I really notice things I don't like; as in jiggly thighs, a not flat enough belly, saggy arms... When I was overweight, it's not like I didn't notice it, I guess I just didn't either a). care enough or b). just ignored it. I seem to pick myself apart now.
This!! Definitely!
The more I lose the fatter I feel and it is so frustrating!9 -
Chicken Legs! and polistic arms & wrists. I wasnt shocked with the arms, but the legs!?!? I dont recognize them. They are unrecognizable. Indont think they were this thin even in high school8
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Madwife2009 wrote: »girl_inflames wrote: »when I lay on my side and my knees touch --so uncomfortable
I hate this as well - I couldn't work out how on earth I was bruising the INSIDES of my knees, until I twigged that it was the result of my knees clanking together. Sleeping is dreadfully uncomfortable now
I know this is from some time ago but try placing a pillow between your knees at night! MUCH more comfortable!
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