What nobody tells you about losing weight
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mommarnurse wrote: »
1. That's great that they are working hard and they should definitely not have a low opinion of themselves. It would be great if nobody had a low opinion of themselves, but I know that's not possible.thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
I have a low opinion of obese people who act like they don't care about their weight when they clearly do, but I had a low opinion of myself when I was obese also. I don't go around telling them that I have a low opinion of them, but the feeling is there. I agree that it is probably a projection of obese me.thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »rachellosesitall85 wrote: »That envious relatives who are well past their youth will ask you not to lose any more weight, as if their opinion of your body mattered. I'll stop when I feel like it. End of. The faux concern is cute, though.
Also, that it's okay to allow people to live their happy or unhappy lives without interference. That an overweight or obese person has the right to be unhealthy, the same as we have the right to be healthy and that perhaps maybe they don't want our unsolicited thoughts, opinions, and advice.
I appreciate that. My eyebrows raised when I hear formerly obese people admit to judging fat people. Did they forget they had to be "ready," before they made changes?
Would they have appreciated others making the comments they now say they think towards others?
It might be more of a projection of their feelings toward their former selves.
But thank you, again, for bringing that up.
1) What of those people who are obese, grinding every day at the gym? Why should they have a low opinion of themselves?
2) What of those people who are obese, but are great moms and dads, kids, friends, neighbors, or help those who are less fortunate? Are they supposed to feel depressed because they failed at weight management?
3) What of those people who are obese who have significant other skills and talents? Are they supposed to feel less than you because they have an area of weakness?
I reject the notion that people who haven't figured it all out in life are less worthy of my respect.
I teach my children to work on their weaknesses - while reminding them that we are ALL working on something.
2. Of course not. I never said anyone should feel depressed. I don't have a low opinion of anyone who failed at weight management. I have a low opinion of people who fail at weight managment and resort to lying to their kids, friends, and neighbors. I especially have a low opinion of obese people who try to convince their children they're okay with being obese. That's one of the sickest lies you can tell children. That's probably part of why childhood obesity is on the rise.
3. No. If someone feels less than me, there's not much I can do to change that, sad but true. I certainly don't go around telling folks they should feel less than me.
You seem to think I have a low opinion of obese people in general. I can assure you I don't.
I reject the notion that anyone is worthy of my respect before they earn it and few people earn my respect.
The part in bold...I'm interested in hearing opinions on that. It used to be (literally, when I was a kid, and I'm only 28) that the heavy kid was made fun of, shunned, etc. Now, in my children's generation, there's a significant percentage that are overweight or obese, and I guess because of the common occurrence of it, it's now much more accepted and these children are more normalized in a sense of socialization in school, etc. I presume this is the reason and not because we have been positively teaching their generation to not make judge/ridicule/bully others for their differences. Childhood obesity just isn't that much different anymore. Is the increasing acceptance of childhood obesity an overall positive or negative thing?
The ADA projects a 49% increase in childhood Type 2 diabetes over 40 years at the current rate. The same article states 25% of the Medicare budget is spent on managing the disease.
http://www.diabetes.org/newsroom/press-releases/2012/number-of-youth-with-diabetes-projected-to-rise-by-2050.html?referrer=https://www.google.com/
I don't think there is an easy answer here.
On one hand, this is obviously a major health concern but it needs to start with the parents. Before MFP I was pretty ignorant about how to actually meet all of my nutritional needs. There is so much misinformation out there that it's confusing and overwhelming to many people. Something else to consider is access to transportation, finances, etc. Though portion sizes would help with he obesity part. I am nearly positive my 3 yo son has a milk protein allergy and had I discovered this Pre MFP I don't think I would have had any clue how to meet his new dietary & nutrition needs
On the other hand, body positivity is a good thing and the opposite can create disordered eating habits.
My plan is to do what I can in my own home and teach my children about fueling their bodies and moderation with treats. I will be honest about my weight struggles and my journey12 -
I know several people have mentioned that you might look worse before you look better, as the fat starts to slowly melt away. I'm totally there right now. My tummy used to be a bit firmer to the touch because the fat had the skin stretched out. Now my tummy definitely has started to deflate and looks pretty gross. Onward to looking better!! ;-)16
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rchlthompson wrote: »That you may be harder on your thinner self than you were on your overweight self. I'm down about 55 pounds and now I really notice things I don't like; as in jiggly thighs, a not flat enough belly, saggy arms... When I was overweight, it's not like I didn't notice it, I guess I just didn't either a). care enough or b). just ignored it. I seem to pick myself apart now.
This!! Definitely!
The more I lose the fatter I feel and it is so frustrating!9 -
Chicken Legs! and polistic arms & wrists. I wasnt shocked with the arms, but the legs!?!? I dont recognize them. They are unrecognizable. Indont think they were this thin even in high school8
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Madwife2009 wrote: »girl_inflames wrote: »when I lay on my side and my knees touch --so uncomfortable
I hate this as well - I couldn't work out how on earth I was bruising the INSIDES of my knees, until I twigged that it was the result of my knees clanking together. Sleeping is dreadfully uncomfortable now
I know this is from some time ago but try placing a pillow between your knees at night! MUCH more comfortable!
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Double post... MFP lying to me and telling me that it lost my post... =/-1
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well my stomach feels a lot smaller and i can from not eating sweets for so long my stomach can,t handle it .my clothes are getting looser .plus i can wear large shirts now .still have a ways to go to what i want to look like thou6
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IILikeToMoveItMoveIt wrote: »That there is a reason why not too many overweight people do yoga... I had a hard time with fat stomach and arms keeping me from certain poses... Whatever though, I'm going to keep doing it.
ETA- I was THE ONLY overweight person in a full class...
Good for you to not let being overweight get in the way of fitness!7 -
No1 told me that the machines at the gym would hurt my tailbone so bad!!6
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That a meal for one really is a meal for one!24
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That I would get such joy out of switching over from the plus size side of the store. I was truly thrilled.24
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Yes! All. The. Time.-along the same vein, my seatbelt sometimes hurts on my collarbone
I feel like I'm going to cave and buy one of those padded covers for the shoulder strap eventually lol I've only ever seen them used by legitimate old ladies though so it makes me feel like I should just suck it up >.<
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That I would be THIS cold. All. The. Time. I have 20 pounds (ish) to go...not sure when I'll be warm again.
Fleece is my new best friend.14 -
That I would be THIS cold. All. The. Time. I have 20 pounds (ish) to go...not sure when I'll be warm again.
Fleece is my new best friend.
Despite reading about this a lot in this thread, I have been going around thinking that it's actually cold. I just realized today that *it* isn't cold, but, rather *I* am cold. I'm FREEZING, actually. Who knew?!
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That when you reach your goal you might not feel physically any better. In my case, slightly worse (physically speaking) as the exercise makes your joints hurt. Something that didn't occur when I was just heavy. In all fairness I had no other problems just too heavy. No high BP, No joint paint, No diabetes, no high cholesterol. Psychologically you feel better and the ladies like you more but physically not so much.
That seems to disappoint a lot of people but I really feel that was 100% accurate.20 -
dawnmcneil10 wrote: »One of my biggest things was learning how to nest my knees for sleeping at night.
Something else that I struggle with is using up the excess energy without irritating others.
Bonus to my friends, since I'm a lightweight I offer to be DD.
Nest?0 -
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- Getting checked out way more, the confidence is beginning to shine through![/quote]
Ppl at church or work doing a double take & smiling.
Younger men chatting with you.8 -
I used to be a chronic stress eater (binge even) & now I find I'm the exact opposite.
I think it's because I can't be bothered to weigh food out and log it when I'm upset so I just put off eating and don't even feel hungry. It is so weird. (It's rare that I'm stressed to the point of not eating enough but it happened tonight and I will just bank those for Thanksgiving so no worries I'll be eating them!)12 -
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