A text message I received...what do you think?

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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,506 Member
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    Reinvented46 wrote: »
    Well the most important thing is how she feels about herself that's really the bottom line isn't it?

    ... not to the boyfriend
  • Reinvented46
    Reinvented46 Posts: 301 Member
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    Apparently your right. I vote dump him
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,426 Member
    edited January 2017
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    If you are long distance, he has been not paying attention to you lately and he says this then I would assume he is looking to break up/is interested in someone else... that you no longer fit in his world.
    He is saying you are not good enough for him and he is not proud of you after 8 years together. Not a good sign for a continued relationship.
  • Thehardmakesitworthit
    Thehardmakesitworthit Posts: 838 Member
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    ewwwww......and i bet when he is 50 he will be sporting a gold chain, fake damn tan and pot belly. Screw that. Move on.
  • Reinvented46
    Reinvented46 Posts: 301 Member
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    Ok ok ok okayyyyy
  • JLAJ81
    JLAJ81 Posts: 2,477 Member
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    Send me his number I'll text him for you.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,031 Member
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    MeganAM89 wrote: »
    aoibhs22 wrote: »
    I would love to hear your opinions on the following message.... I received this last night and I still haven't replied, cried a little and cant stop thinking about it.....

    Of course you are important to me, how could you not be

    But I want you to start putting more effort into training and getting into shape, as I am surrounded by people who are in shape and training hard all the time, and all these people have full time jobs too, and get tired but still do their training

    so I'm used to seeing hard working, slim and toned girls all day, and want to be proud to show off my girlfriend as being just as hard working and in just as good of shape

    Chat tomorrow



    ...................

    I haven't read all of the responses, but has anyone asked for more context? I'd like to know what was said that prompted this.

    Because if this is all that I'm seeing, then it looks like he's being a bit of a dick but he's attempted to be "nice" about it. But if you were having a conversation about health, or about what you both feel you need in your relationship, then maybe I can give him a little bit of slack (although I'm not sure how much, because there's no way to take him basically saying "I see hot girls around me all the time, I'd like to see you be just as hot" very well).
    @MeganAM89
    pg 2? 3? yes, it's been asked and answered and flip through to read what was said so you get an idea where this threads already been and going... I don't mean that snarky in the slightest..just a suggestion so you get the gist of what's going on with what the OP's been dealing with. You can do a quick skim and you'll catch most of it.
  • ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken
    ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken Posts: 1,530 Member
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    Tell him you are used to people who are considerate and respectful of others and you would love for him to work on his attitude so that you won't be ashamed to have him around all of your friends. That is just about one of the rudest things he could say. I am sorry you have that kind of person in your life.
  • lessismoreohio
    lessismoreohio Posts: 910 Member
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    He's a control freak.........heading for trouble with this one.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,506 Member
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    jjewell1981 wrote: »
    Send me his number I'll text him for you.

    With an attachment?
  • ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken
    ThatUserNameIsAllReadyTaken Posts: 1,530 Member
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    kzooyogi wrote: »
    aoibhs22 wrote: »
    LiftingRiot wrote: »
    What the hell does this guy do where he is surrounded by fit people all day? How long have you been dating and what were the pre-cursors to this discussion. This doesn't seem appropriate.

    He has just qualified as a PT, works in the gym all day. We have been going out for over 8 years but we are currently doing long distance.

    So you've been in his life for 8 years, but now that he's suddenly a PT and he's surrounded by fit women, you're not good enough anymore? Peace out, bro. I wouldn't be able to walk away fast enough.

    Look at your profile picture. You are gorgeous. Big beautiful eyes, gorgeous hair, adorable smile. Girl. If he's not proud to show you off now, then you are spinning your wheels with him.

    If you choose to get in shape, do it for you, not him. Your body isn't for him to show off, it's for him to love every inch of, no matter how many inches there are. Find someone who will do that for you because you deserve to be ADORED.

    THIS. ALL. OF. THIS. I definitely second the motion.
  • AnAbsoluteDiva
    AnAbsoluteDiva Posts: 166 Member
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    It was fine until it got to the part of him showing off his girlfriend.... You've been promoted to Potential Trophy. Ditch him!

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