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    • Posts: 7,724 Member
      jbirdgreen wrote: »
      I think it's a cultural thing too. I'm from the southern U.S., so you would at least smile and nod...or make general conversational noises while you tune the other person out.

      Noises like:
      Unh-huh
      Oh really?
      That's crazy
      Wow
      I see
      You did!
      Bless your heart
      Well I declare (Not really, but my grandma used that as conversational filler all the time :))

      Dammit!! I thought they were paying attention!! :'(
    • Posts: 20,506 Member
      jbirdgreen wrote: »
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      Don't make me punch out your liver. That's condescension around these parts.

      I would be honored to have you punch out my liver.

      Kidneys too!

      Although,

      Let's save my pancreas for the prom.
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      @Motorsheen I like you. Come squat next to me. *pats rack*
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      @JaneiR36 Are they making eye contact? If not, I'm so sorry. :(.
    • Posts: 20,506 Member
      jbirdgreen wrote: »
      @Motorsheen I like you. Come squat next to me. *pats rack*

      A girl patting her rack is my siren song, it damn sure is.

      I'ma on my way!
    • Posts: 569 Member
      I set myself up for that one @Motorsheen. Touche, but not my rack. :p
    • Posts: 363 Member
      edited February 2017
      I think because it is that people (so women and men) don't know how to communicate anymore they are living in there own bubble with facebook and twitter and instagram and a lot of other social media crap.They are scared if you just say "hi" than you get a look of you are a terrorist or a word I can't mention here. People have such weird ideas these days ofcourse there happen very bad things in the world but you can't live everyday with that there are also normal fun people only if you don't let them in your live you can't meet them! Excuse for my school english because my native language is dutch.So keep doing what you do (as long it isnt insistent) and let that women (or men) go they are not worth your attention.
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      jbirdgreen wrote: »
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      Don't make me punch out your liver. That's condescension around these parts.

      Ha! Where I live 'Bless Your Heart' means "I can't stand you and want to punch out your liver".
      Took me years to figure it out. Southern people are weird.
    • Posts: 569 Member
      @Heartisalonelyhunter We are nice nasty. This term is mostly used for people who won't/can't eat at a potluck because they don't know kitchen situation of all the cooks. It generally means that you smile at other people while being inwardly disgusted at their filth.

    • Posts: 569 Member
      So the OP can have that if he prefers. People who make polite conversation, while wishing he would STFU and let them be.

    • Posts: 20,506 Member
      wolvinnetje wrote: »
      I think because it is that people (so women and men) don't know how to communicate anymore they are living in there own bubble with facebook and twitter and instagram and a lot of other social media crap.They are scared if you just say "hi" than you get a look of you are a terrorist or a word I can't mention here. People have such weird ideas these days ofcourse there happen very bad things in the world but you can't live everyday with that there are also normal fun people only if you don't let them in your live you can't meet them! Excuse for my school english because my native language is dutch.So keep doing what you do (as long it isnt insistent) and let that women (or men) go they are not worth your attention.

      Your English is very good!

      .... 1000 times better than my Dutch, that's for sure.

    • Posts: 7,375 Member
      Someone proposed that "people" who don't want 2 be bothered wear a sign or a shirt that says something like "Shhhhhhh ..Not right now" or u go alittle rougher with the wording if ya want & if ur Ok with people approaching u & starting random conversations,then ya don't ....
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      jbirdgreen wrote: »
      @Heartisalonelyhunter We are nice nasty. This term is mostly used for people who won't/can't eat at a potluck because they don't know kitchen situation of all the cooks. It generally means that you smile at other people while being inwardly disgusted at their filth.

      I don't see it like that. I see it as weird bs to be honest. I live in the South but I'm a Brit and British people are pretty upfront. If we don't like something or agree with an opinion we will just say that. I just find that bizarre saccharin smile and 'bless you're heart' stuff that a lot of Southern women do utterly sickening. It's such an act.
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      Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »
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      I don't see it like that. I see it as weird bs to be honest. I live in the South but I'm a Brit and British people are pretty upfront. If we don't like something or agree with an opinion we will just say that. I just find that bizarre saccharin smile and 'bless you're heart' stuff that a lot of Southern women do utterly sickening. It's such an act.

      I'd say it's the alternative to feeling like you're expressing disagreement or dislike ALL DAMN DAY
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      edited February 2017
      JaneiR36 wrote: »
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      I'd say it's the alternative to feeling like you're expressing disagreement or dislike ALL DAMN DAY

      Well it's not. Because the person they're doing it to knows it's an act and they're effectively telling them to gtfo. The alternative would be to say nothing at all.

      ETA I have northern neighbors who say the same thing. It's the strangest behavior and would get you kicked out of most civilized peoples' houses throughout the world. It's fake and rude and like living in a village of Kellyanne Conway clones
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      edited February 2017
      Heartisalonelyhunter wrote: »
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      Well it's not. Because the person they're doing it to knows it's an act and they're effectively telling them to gtfo. The alternative would be to say nothing at all.

      Usually using much fewer words, too!
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      Motorsheen wrote: »
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      Your English is very good!

      .... 1000 times better than my Dutch, that's for sure.

      Thank you/Dank u :)
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      Kerriecandothis wrote: »
      At my gym I have become friends with several people, others I just say good morning or hi or whatever. The old guys like to chat a while and the women sometimes as for advice or offer it. Some just smile in recognition. Very few people don't talk at all. But then I live in arguably the friendliest place in the UK lol.

      Where's that then?

      I have made pals at my gym, over the years. Mostly through being in CLASSES though, or even in the changing rooms - finding common ground with other ppl, mainly women. At first no-one made any eye-contact or said hello - that lasted for maybe a year! I think it is about familiarity, too many ppl pass through for a few weeks then change their schedule or do something different and you never see them again so ppl don't even notice you. Literally do not see you.

      When you keep seeing the same ppl doing the same patterns at the same time in the week as you it is time to start smiling and sayin hi. Now I see the gym as a vital part of my social life, even though lots of the exchanges with other regulars is pretty superficial it is friendly and I enjoy that part of it. I am also pretty good mates with a few I met there, but that takes a long time.

      If I was younger / more interested in men I think there would be a different "charge" about engaging with men. I hate the idea that women have to be "friendly" to anyone, but men in particular.
    • Posts: 7,375 Member
      Guarantee its an attraction thing 2 ...Alot of people are saying they don't wanna be bothered,they are there 2 work out (True) But if some cute guy or some hot female came over & said something u would find time in ur schedule 4 them ...Lmao ...Don't Lie!!!!
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      kwph wrote: »
      Guarantee its an attraction thing 2 ...Alot of people are saying they don't wanna be bothered,they are there 2 work out (True) But if some cute guy or some hot female came over & said something u would find time in ur schedule 4 them ...Lmao ...Don't Lie!!!!

      Still no.
    • Posts: 7,375 Member
      Thank U!!!!Finally someone admitted it ... (Btw ...Where do u work? Cuz I'm gonna come flirt ...Ooops...I mean workout with ya)
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      (Workout)
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      I'm just going up 2 every unfriendly women at the gym & give them a big,juicy hug & then sayi "Now that wasn't so bad was it." .....(Then I'm gonna whisper in their ear "Just give me a head start before u call security please " .....)
    • Posts: 1 Member
      At the end of the day gym is a place to workout, if a female or male chats that's cool. But people (unlike myself) can be focussed hard on their routine so someone looking unfriendly to you might just be there for their workout and in the zone as such. At the same time I think seeing new folk at the gym being shown how to use equipment by fellow gym folk is a great thing to see, we are all there to better ourselves in different ways but some folk smile and nod, some put the blinkers on. Personal choice is all.
    • Posts: 6,946 Member
      kwph wrote: »
      Guarantee its an attraction thing 2 ...Alot of people are saying they don't wanna be bothered,they are there 2 work out (True) But if some cute guy or some hot female came over & said something u would find time in ur schedule 4 them ...Lmao ...Don't Lie!!!!

      Maybe only slightly more accommodating but I would get annoyed and I think there attractiveness would be diminished because they are interrupting my work out. Im still there for one thing only, to work out. Maybe if you catch me on the way out when my workout is done. Trying before my workout even would annoy me because my pre-workout would be kicking in.
    • Posts: 361 Member
      PersianKitty94 wrote: »
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      RBF doesn't always work. I have it and guys always come up and ask " why aren't you smiling? Smile a bit". annoying af.

      Haha yeah I've also got 'old' and 'not cute' on my side. I've never been spoken to at the gym unless someone wanted to work in. People there are pretty good about not bothering anyone wearing headphones though
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