What nobody tells you about losing weight
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That sometimes the journey is lonely and you feel like everyone is against your efforts. During those hard times though is when you bump into someone at the gym or you get a random compliment that reminds you about why you keep doing what we do.35
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I now realize how silly it was to think that the skinny person in the room can not possibly know how hard it is to lose weight and that they couldn't have anything to help me because they have never been there.
I have not changed the picture on my work badge on purpose and if administration tells me I have to i will keep my old one to wear under my new one. When people see my badge it seems to give them hope that there is a sane way to lose weight.39 -
This has probably already been said a hundred times, but...
Nobody told me I'd have weird hollow armpits that make it hard to shave now. Stupid, but true!9 -
PaulaS1220 wrote: »This has probably already been said a hundred times, but...
Nobody told me I'd have weird hollow armpits that make it hard to shave now. Stupid, but true!
It has been said multiple times, but...
Getting razor burn in your armpit because you're trying to get it completely shaved, and then putting deodorant on, hurts like a freaking kitten! Found this one out last week.10 -
PaulaS1220 wrote: »This has probably already been said a hundred times, but...
Nobody told me I'd have weird hollow armpits that make it hard to shave now. Stupid, but true!
happened to my knees and now its begining to happen there. My aunt taught me a trick lift your arm above head and then push your shoulder/elbow back. it fills in the gap and helps alot XD18 -
JaydedMiss wrote: »PaulaS1220 wrote: »This has probably already been said a hundred times, but...
Nobody told me I'd have weird hollow armpits that make it hard to shave now. Stupid, but true!
happened to my knees and now its begining to happen there. My aunt taught me a trick lift your arm above head and then push your shoulder/elbow back. it fills in the gap and helps alot XD
You shave behind your knees????
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I lost some weight 2 summers ago. I gained all of it back!! ARGHH... I experienced all of the previously mentioned good things and bad things.
But this time, I've lost 10 lbs so far, and I literally cannot tell! No one tells you that you're likely to lose your weight in the hands and feet and face and knees first.
It's a process. Gotta trust the process Love this thread, been reading it for several days.19 -
That when I look in the mirror I still perceive my flawed self with a belly and man boobs, but others and I visually see abs and chest and shoulder definition. I guess I'm still too used to my old self.
Weird.7 -
the mind is a funny thing. some days I catch my reflection and think wow my legs are getting so muscular other days I look in the mirror and see the old me. wonder who I will see when I'm t goal.13
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I know it's been mentioned here before and I might have even chimed in on the discussion but this week it really hit me again that losing weight can really change relationships with friends.
I've been using MFP since April of 2015 but I feel like my brain didn't click over to the "this is my new normal" until July of 2016. Since then I have been trying to be more active and really change how I think about food. I stopped going out drinking with my best friend and I no longer have whole weekends where I just sit at her house doing nothing. She says we never hang out anymore and she gets mad when I don't want to go to beer tastings with her (I know I can still fit beer into my calories but I also realized when I stopped drinking that I stopped getting migraines). I've tried inviting her to do the things that I'm already planning on doing (weekend bike rides, classes at the YMCA, all day shopping excursions at thrift stores) and most of the time she says she'll join me but then she never shows up and doesn't even bother to call or text to say she isn't coming. And then I feel bad when she invites me out for a drink and I decline, even though I've told her I'm not drinking because I'm pretty sure it's what caused my migraines to get worse. It almost makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because I've chosen to change25 -
rachelr1116 wrote: »I know it's been mentioned here before and I might have even chimed in on the discussion but this week it really hit me again that losing weight can really change relationships with friends.
I've been using MFP since April of 2015 but I feel like my brain didn't click over to the "this is my new normal" until July of 2016. Since then I have been trying to be more active and really change how I think about food. I stopped going out drinking with my best friend and I no longer have whole weekends where I just sit at her house doing nothing. She says we never hang out anymore and she gets mad when I don't want to go to beer tastings with her (I know I can still fit beer into my calories but I also realized when I stopped drinking that I stopped getting migraines). I've tried inviting her to do the things that I'm already planning on doing (weekend bike rides, classes at the YMCA, all day shopping excursions at thrift stores) and most of the time she says she'll join me but then she never shows up and doesn't even bother to call or text to say she isn't coming. And then I feel bad when she invites me out for a drink and I decline, even though I've told her I'm not drinking because I'm pretty sure it's what caused my migraines to get worse. It almost makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because I've chosen to change
I too had changes in my friendships...my friends complained that I never had time for them anymore .. I am a married, outside/inside of the home, working mom of four! My 'extra time' is generally working out when I am not running my kids around to their events...if you can't meet me at the gym or on my way to dance class then we won't see each other as much nowadays (the past 1.5 years lol). LOL They got on board though and started losing weight themselves!! I LITERALLY mean two of my friends joined the gym with me and that's how we had our social interaction while getting fit! I would say continue to invite her and try to go to Other events with her when you can ...sticking to your no beer rule...and she will eventually get used to it..and may start cutting back herself! All of this is a process for All us us including the folks around us. People don't like change, but oftentimes we adjust! lol15 -
rachelr1116 wrote: »I know it's been mentioned here before and I might have even chimed in on the discussion but this week it really hit me again that losing weight can really change relationships with friends.
I've been using MFP since April of 2015 but I feel like my brain didn't click over to the "this is my new normal" until July of 2016. Since then I have been trying to be more active and really change how I think about food. I stopped going out drinking with my best friend and I no longer have whole weekends where I just sit at her house doing nothing. She says we never hang out anymore and she gets mad when I don't want to go to beer tastings with her (I know I can still fit beer into my calories but I also realized when I stopped drinking that I stopped getting migraines). I've tried inviting her to do the things that I'm already planning on doing (weekend bike rides, classes at the YMCA, all day shopping excursions at thrift stores) and most of the time she says she'll join me but then she never shows up and doesn't even bother to call or text to say she isn't coming. And then I feel bad when she invites me out for a drink and I decline, even though I've told her I'm not drinking because I'm pretty sure it's what caused my migraines to get worse. It almost makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because I've chosen to change
I can relate so much to this. All my friends ever do is go out to eat or drink or both. I join them sometimes, but usually don't drink. Not because I can't fit the calories, but because just a few drinks or a few less hours of sleep will affect my workout the next day. Which is fine once or twice a month, but every weekend is just too much to give up something I love to do for something someone else wants to do. After working, commuting, taking care of my family, and making sure I get enough sleep to support it all I only have a few hours left to do the things I really want to do. This is leaving them with the impression that I don't want to be with them, when in reality I just want to do different things than they do.17 -
rachelr1116 wrote: »I know it's been mentioned here before and I might have even chimed in on the discussion but this week it really hit me again that losing weight can really change relationships with friends.
I've been using MFP since April of 2015 but I feel like my brain didn't click over to the "this is my new normal" until July of 2016. Since then I have been trying to be more active and really change how I think about food. I stopped going out drinking with my best friend and I no longer have whole weekends where I just sit at her house doing nothing. She says we never hang out anymore and she gets mad when I don't want to go to beer tastings with her (I know I can still fit beer into my calories but I also realized when I stopped drinking that I stopped getting migraines). I've tried inviting her to do the things that I'm already planning on doing (weekend bike rides, classes at the YMCA, all day shopping excursions at thrift stores) and most of the time she says she'll join me but then she never shows up and doesn't even bother to call or text to say she isn't coming. And then I feel bad when she invites me out for a drink and I decline, even though I've told her I'm not drinking because I'm pretty sure it's what caused my migraines to get worse. It almost makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because I've chosen to change
I too had changes in my friendships...my friends complained that I never had time for them anymore .. I am a married, outside/inside of the home, working mom of four! My 'extra time' is generally working out when I am not running my kids around to their events...if you can't meet me at the gym or on my way to dance class then we won't see each other as much nowadays (the past 1.5 years lol). LOL They got on board though and started losing weight themselves!! I LITERALLY mean two of my friends joined the gym with me and that's how we had our social interaction while getting fit! I would say continue to invite her and try to go to Other events with her when you can ...sticking to your no beer rule...and she will eventually get used to it..and may start cutting back herself! All of this is a process for All us us including the folks around us. People don't like change, but oftentimes we adjust! lol
Yeah, the thing that really frustrates me is that when we are together she will tell me how great I look and then complain about being fat (she isn't, she's 5'2" and maybe 125 lbs) and out of shape but she won't go with me to the gym. I'll keep trying to include her though and hope she gets on board!8 -
rachelr1116 wrote: »I know it's been mentioned here before and I might have even chimed in on the discussion but this week it really hit me again that losing weight can really change relationships with friends.
I've been using MFP since April of 2015 but I feel like my brain didn't click over to the "this is my new normal" until July of 2016. Since then I have been trying to be more active and really change how I think about food. I stopped going out drinking with my best friend and I no longer have whole weekends where I just sit at her house doing nothing. She says we never hang out anymore and she gets mad when I don't want to go to beer tastings with her (I know I can still fit beer into my calories but I also realized when I stopped drinking that I stopped getting migraines). I've tried inviting her to do the things that I'm already planning on doing (weekend bike rides, classes at the YMCA, all day shopping excursions at thrift stores) and most of the time she says she'll join me but then she never shows up and doesn't even bother to call or text to say she isn't coming. And then I feel bad when she invites me out for a drink and I decline, even though I've told her I'm not drinking because I'm pretty sure it's what caused my migraines to get worse. It almost makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because I've chosen to change
I'm lucky that the two people I consider my best friends are 100% on board and actually love the new me more than the old me (meaning, I'm damned lucky to have these two wonderful people who not only put up with me during my worst, but actively supported me no matter what).
They're always on board when I suggest hikes, walks or trying a class. They don't mind that I no longer drink alcohol and actually propose things that don't include drinks or, if they do, where I can get an alternative that fits my health requirements. Same with food. They know what I need to limit and make sure that when they cook or propose to eat out, that there's food I can eat without being in misery for a day afterwards.
That's not to say that I haven't lost friendships over the changes I had to make. My health depended on it, so I was damned well going to be egoistical about it. I am willing to compromise if I can, but my health might not always allow it.22 -
treehugnmama wrote: »the mind is a funny thing. some days I catch my reflection and think wow my legs are getting so muscular other days I look in the mirror and see the old me. wonder who I will see when I'm t goal.
This right here!!! I have lost over 40 pounds and am few pounds from goal weight, but I still see myself as overweight. When does the brain catch up?6 -
rachelr1116 wrote: »I know it's been mentioned here before and I might have even chimed in on the discussion but this week it really hit me again that losing weight can really change relationships with friends.
I've been using MFP since April of 2015 but I feel like my brain didn't click over to the "this is my new normal" until July of 2016. Since then I have been trying to be more active and really change how I think about food. I stopped going out drinking with my best friend and I no longer have whole weekends where I just sit at her house doing nothing. She says we never hang out anymore and she gets mad when I don't want to go to beer tastings with her (I know I can still fit beer into my calories but I also realized when I stopped drinking that I stopped getting migraines). I've tried inviting her to do the things that I'm already planning on doing (weekend bike rides, classes at the YMCA, all day shopping excursions at thrift stores) and most of the time she says she'll join me but then she never shows up and doesn't even bother to call or text to say she isn't coming. And then I feel bad when she invites me out for a drink and I decline, even though I've told her I'm not drinking because I'm pretty sure it's what caused my migraines to get worse. It almost makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because I've chosen to change
I too had changes in my friendships...my friends complained that I never had time for them anymore .. I am a married, outside/inside of the home, working mom of four! My 'extra time' is generally working out when I am not running my kids around to their events...if you can't meet me at the gym or on my way to dance class then we won't see each other as much nowadays (the past 1.5 years lol). LOL They got on board though and started losing weight themselves!! I LITERALLY mean two of my friends joined the gym with me and that's how we had our social interaction while getting fit! I would say continue to invite her and try to go to Other events with her when you can ...sticking to your no beer rule...and she will eventually get used to it..and may start cutting back herself! All of this is a process for All us us including the folks around us. People don't like change, but oftentimes we adjust! lol
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NicholeAckerman wrote: »treehugnmama wrote: »the mind is a funny thing. some days I catch my reflection and think wow my legs are getting so muscular other days I look in the mirror and see the old me. wonder who I will see when I'm t goal.
This right here!!! I have lost over 40 pounds and am few pounds from goal weight, but I still see myself as overweight. When does the brain catch up?
And that's just it. You and I don't look overweight, but we were overweight for so long that we still perceive ourselves that way. When I objectively look at myself in the mirror I see the slimmer me, but still don't really feel slim.
OTOH, I'm getting out more and interacting with more people since I started the weight loss, but that's because I'm more active and much less likely to just sit in front of my computer all weekend.9 -
It never gets easier. . . you have to continually go harder, faster, further.26
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47Jacqueline wrote: »- Having the saleswoman look at you and say, Ok, you wear a "small" right?
- Seeing your collarbone
- Being cold all the time
- Your bones hurt when trying to work out without a mat
- That eating healthy, veggies & low fat, lean meats) can mean eating a lot of food - some days I am just tired of eating, and still don't reach my calorie goal.
- Working out makes you smaller even when you're on maintenance.
I've always wondered why people need a mat to work out! Now I know...and I'll understand very soon!
-Viewing fruit as "dessert"
-1/2 a tsp of Truvia on Rice Chex is too sweet (and Rice Chex suddenly becomes a "treat" instead of part of breakfast!)
-Looking forward to working out
-Realizing that cutting refined carbs isn't really as hard as I thought
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