Do you really only have one "soulmate"?

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  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    edited August 2016
    GypsyFire65 wrote: »
    Villae81 wrote: »
    BinaryPulsar wrote: »
    Villae81 wrote: »
    Out of topic but where do people get the idea of aliens? Where did the idea of them having a big round head with bulbous eyes and where did we get the idea/imagination of God, people with wings, spaceship etc it has to stem up from somewhere past lives maybe or maybe from the annunakis?

    The idea for God makes sense that people attributed things they didn't understand to something magical and powerful that was both destructive and protective. Clouds, rain, lightening, etc. Bad things seen as punishment. Good as being saved. It's normal for children to think that way about parents. God is like an imaginary parent to punish bad things and provide comfort when a person is afraid and suffering. People can hallucinate when they are under extreme distress (like war or torture). Parents tell stories to encourage children to behave. It's comfort for dealing with the fear of death and punishment to try and control behavior or even to label something as bad when it isn't actually bad (like sex).

    My point of it was maybe we all have a soulmate maybe we were made in pairs when we die our souls/subconscious gets reincarnated/recycled to a different body with no recollection of the past maybe that's where all these ideas comes from and every now and then we get to cross paths with our other half idk it's just a thought I know it's sounds like a fairytale or silly figured I'll throw it out there

    I don't think its silly. Thats why I put the link to this movie "Cloud Atlas" in my earlier post. And quite a few people believe this to be true.

    So the part you were asking about aliens.... Don't laugh but. When I was a really little kid about 5 years old. I had a dream one night. It wasn't a scarey dream.
    The dream was.... the light bulb people (heads that looked like big light bulbs with funny looking eyes)
    They took my brother and I to the beach. Then into the ocean. Then into a underwater cave. Even though we were under water, we had no problem with breathing. We were just fine without air to breathe. Laying on a table under the water in the cave. We weren't really in any fear either. I can't remember the rest. Thats all I can remember of the dream. Why did I have this dream? Why do I still remember it 45 years later? I never heard of aliens at that age. But when I hear of some peoples alien encounters I kinda laugh. And then I see their pictures of what their alien looked like. Then I think, that looks alot like the lightbulb people from my dream when I was a kid.

    Some people mistake near death experiences, as being dreams; which is why you might be able to still remember it. People of all ages, do die; in their sleep. I believe that you were able, to breathe underwater because you ceased breathing, while sleeping & thus that would've caused your death, if you didn't exit; the dream.

    My Mother has a dream frequently, in which she's climbing the stairs; to heaven but turns around & begins walking down them, then awakens.

    I've had dreams, in which I am falling but then awaken before, I crash land.
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  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    I don't believe in "soulmates", in fact I despise that term. I also hate the "you complete me" phrase. UGH...so corny.
  • synchkat
    synchkat Posts: 37,368 Member
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    I don't believe in "soulmates", in fact I despise that term. I also hate the "you complete me" phrase. UGH...so corny.

    but @J_Surita3 I think we are wine soulmates and could compete each others' sentences when we've had a few...bottles
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    synchkat wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    I don't believe in "soulmates", in fact I despise that term. I also hate the "you complete me" phrase. UGH...so corny.

    but @J_Surita3 I think we are wine soulmates and could compete each others' sentences when we've had a few...bottles

    Well there is that. Good point chica. ;)
  • Hunter_Killer
    Hunter_Killer Posts: 177 Member
    I believe so. I have thought i have found mine a few times but it just wasn't to be though. Still searching...
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    I think soul mates are a real thing, and don't have to be your husband or wife. I've had a few in my life. My first was my best friend...we knew within moments that our friendship would last forever, and it did, until she died two years ago, and took a huge piece of me with her. I've never met another friend like her in my 47 years on this planet. <3

    My second one is my honey. We never got married, but we have been living in sin for 23 crazy years. We feel each other's feelings, read each others minds, without even realizing we're doing it. He's got my back, and I've got his, always. In 23 years, it hasn't always been perfect, there have been a few rough patches. But I wouldn't change a thing, and wouldn't have ever wished it to have been with anyone else. <3

    The last one is my 7 year old granddaughter. Without knowing it was going to happen, her heart and mine bonded in such a way that will stay with us forever. I wake up thinking about her, and go to sleep thinking about her. She's my "little love". <3

    Maybe I'll meet another person who becomes another soul mate, but if I don't, these three people are in my head and heart forever, their souls melded to my soul.
  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    GypsyFire65 wrote: »
    Woah. Thats interesting. Thank you @DeficitDuchess.

    Your welcome!
  • synchkat
    synchkat Posts: 37,368 Member
    edited August 2016
    Awww @JustMissTracy that's sweet

    I think we often confuse romantic love with this sort of thing. I suppose my brother is my soulmate since we've always been really close.

    I've had two husbands and I'd never describe either as a soulmate.
  • Heartisalonelyhunter
    Heartisalonelyhunter Posts: 786 Member
    edited August 2016
    DeficitDuchess wrote: »
    GypsyFire65 wrote: »
    Villae81 wrote: »
    BinaryPulsar wrote: »
    Villae81 wrote: »
    Out of topic but where do people get the idea of aliens? Where did the idea of them having a big round head with bulbous eyes and where did we get the idea/imagination of God, people with wings, spaceship etc it has to stem up from somewhere past lives maybe or maybe from the annunakis?

    The idea for God makes sense that people attributed things they didn't understand to something magical and powerful that was both destructive and protective. Clouds, rain, lightening, etc. Bad things seen as punishment. Good as being saved. It's normal for children to think that way about parents. God is like an imaginary parent to punish bad things and provide comfort when a person is afraid and suffering. People can hallucinate when they are under extreme distress (like war or torture). Parents tell stories to encourage children to behave. It's comfort for dealing with the fear of death and punishment to try and control behavior or even to label something as bad when it isn't actually bad (like sex).

    My point of it was maybe we all have a soulmate maybe we were made in pairs when we die our souls/subconscious gets reincarnated/recycled to a different body with no recollection of the past maybe that's where all these ideas comes from and every now and then we get to cross paths with our other half idk it's just a thought I know it's sounds like a fairytale or silly figured I'll throw it out there

    I don't think its silly. Thats why I put the link to this movie "Cloud Atlas" in my earlier post. And quite a few people believe this to be true.

    So the part you were asking about aliens.... Don't laugh but. When I was a really little kid about 5 years old. I had a dream one night. It wasn't a scarey dream.
    The dream was.... the light bulb people (heads that looked like big light bulbs with funny looking eyes)
    They took my brother and I to the beach. Then into the ocean. Then into a underwater cave. Even though we were under water, we had no problem with breathing. We were just fine without air to breathe. Laying on a table under the water in the cave. We weren't really in any fear either. I can't remember the rest. Thats all I can remember of the dream. Why did I have this dream? Why do I still remember it 45 years later? I never heard of aliens at that age. But when I hear of some peoples alien encounters I kinda laugh. And then I see their pictures of what their alien looked like. Then I think, that looks alot like the lightbulb people from my dream when I was a kid.

    Some people mistake near death experiences, as being dreams; which is why you might be able to still remember it. People of all ages, do die; in their sleep. I believe that you were able, to breathe underwater because you ceased breathing, while sleeping & thus that would've caused your death, if you didn't exit; the dream.

    My Mother has a dream frequently, in which she's climbing the stairs; to heaven but turns around & begins walking down them, then awakens.

    I've had dreams, in which I am falling but then awaken before, I crash land.

    There is a term for this. Pressure on certain parts of the brain results in the same dream for everyone and I think it's linked to disturbed REM? . There is a very vivid dream where you are paralysed and assaulted by a demon/alien and scientists have replicated it in sleep subjects by stimulating certain areas of the brain.
    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sleep_paralysis
  • StayNParis
    StayNParis Posts: 42 Member
    Soulmate? nah. However I have found a certain someone 'perfect for me'. With the exception of location, that is an issue. grumble
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,984 Member
    Two friends of mine, together since high school ('90) 3 kids later and now getting divorced. Many times on FB, they've claimed to be soulmates.

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  • Deadlifting_Away_Doritos
    Deadlifting_Away_Doritos Posts: 93 Member
    Anyone have divorce rate statistics for soulmates?
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    WickedPineapple wrote: »
    I don't believe in soulmates. The older I get, the more I find the idea manipulative. One person trying to get the other not to leave them because "we belong together" rather than "we can work through this". I think it also gives people who believe it unrealistic expectations of how much work they may have to put into their relationship (i.e., soulmates = easy). Personally, I'd rather be chosen than fated.

    BTW I'm also happily married. :)

    Same with me, there's no such thing as ''The One''. If it were true then marriage rates around the world would have been 1% and there wouldn't be such a thing as moving on from a failed relationship & meeting someone new. I had few relationships & loved all my exes & my current guy equally.
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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Really not a fan of the term: soulmate

    There's only been two people in my life where I thought: I could spend the rest of my life with this person.

    I'm married to one of them.

    The other one... it was just a matter of poor timing.
  • sw33tp3a1
    sw33tp3a1 Posts: 5,065 Member
    My outlook on love has changed. I used to believe in soulmates... not anymore.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    Well I have only have one 'whateva' you want to call it. This soulmate wording thang is just a label to use.
  • DeficitDuchess
    DeficitDuchess Posts: 3,099 Member
    I believe that people've unrealistic assertions concerning, the context of; what a soulmate's & thus, either don't find; them and/or don't realize that, they've! For many the word's just a fanciful description of, a compatible relationship that; just blossomed via convenience/happenstance!

    For instance when I was attempting to find someone I, began within a radius of; a maximum of 10 miles because that's what was convenient for me, never did I expect to find my soulmate within; 10 miles & thus I wasn't seeking my soulmate, the hottest guy in the world etc. but instead just a nice guy that finishes last!
  • LittleHearseDriver
    LittleHearseDriver Posts: 2,677 Member
    I believe we become our own soulmates when we learn to love and accept ourselves for who we are. No one can make you feel whole, only you can do that.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,984 Member
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    I don't believe in "soulmates", in fact I despise that term. I also hate the "you complete me" phrase. UGH...so corny.
    I've used it only once............when I got my Integra GSR back in the '96.

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  • flrancho
    flrancho Posts: 271 Member
    I believe that everyone only has one soulmate but can have several life partners.

    I believe a soulmate is the person that you are perfect for and they are perfect for you. However, I don't believe soulmates always find each other or even always like / are interested in each other. I believe soulmate relationships can end up star-crossed or even unrequited (you love the soulmate, but they don't feel the same way about you). They can also end up being perfect love story type relationships. If they actually do get together, I believe real soulmate relationships rarely, if ever, result in divorce.

    I believe a life partner is someone that you are very compatible with and love, though they may not be your perfect/ideal soulmate. Life partner relationships can often be very successful and even end up in a lifelong marriage, but are subject to the possibilities of divorce, etc that any relationship can encounter.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,984 Member
    flrancho wrote: »
    I believe that everyone only has one soulmate but can have several life partners.

    I believe a soulmate is the person that you are perfect for and they are perfect for you. However, I don't believe soulmates always find each other or even always like / are interested in each other. I believe soulmate relationships can end up star-crossed or even unrequited (you love the soulmate, but they don't feel the same way about you). They can also end up being perfect love story type relationships. If they actually do get together, I believe real soulmate relationships rarely, if ever, result in divorce.

    I believe a life partner is someone that you are very compatible with and love, though they may not be your perfect/ideal soulmate. Life partner relationships can often be very successful and even end up in a lifelong marriage, but are subject to the possibilities of divorce, etc that any relationship can encounter.
    This I can possibly go with. With over 7 billion people in the world and the average person only having about 5-8 serious relationships in their lives, one isn't even seeing a fraction of a possible "soulmate".


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  • perkymommy
    perkymommy Posts: 1,642 Member
    edited March 2017
    I don't believe that each person we marry is considered a soul mate that's the reason for the divorce. I never considered my ex-husband a soulmate to me. We never really clicked in the way that you do with a soulmate. I do believe, however, we can have soulmates all over the world and not just in one place and never know them - if that makes sense. It has always seemed odd to me that my only soulmate would just happen to live in the same town or close by to me.
  • Brandicaloriecountess
    Brandicaloriecountess Posts: 2,126 Member
    Nah I don't really believe in soulmates. I have had two very deeps loves in my life and they were SO different. I think people come into your life to teach you and help you grow. Some are romantic some are not.

    Having said that... one of the two loves, if I could go back in time I would have walked away the day I met him. It was a lesson I didn't need to know.
  • Whit_88
    Whit_88 Posts: 36 Member
    WickedPineapple wrote: »
    I don't believe in soulmates. The older I get, the more I find the idea manipulative. One person trying to get the other not to leave them because "we belong together" rather than "we can work through this". I think it also gives people who believe it unrealistic expectations of how much work they may have to put into their relationship (i.e., soulmates = easy). Personally, I'd rather be chosen than fated.

    BTW I'm also happily married. :)

    This. I'm also married, going on 9 years in October.
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