Worst part of losing weight?
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vespiquenn wrote: »HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.vespiquenn wrote: »This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.
Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...
Sorry, you lost me at "carrying yourself as a victim." But yes, I have taken self-defense classes. That has nothing to do with it. But I'm glad you haven't encountered this.
It wasn't specifically called "carrying yourself as a victim" but this was covered in my self defense class. And in the Girl Scouts.
I'm thinking back over my history with harassment and note it dropped precipitously while I was in the military so wonder if I developed some sort of "don't mess with me vibe" while I was in there. I was in a macho specialty and was the only female in my tech school class and duty station sections. I received a lot of attention, but no harassment, except from a supervisor who didn't think women should be in the military, so not the sort of harassment under discussion. I did observe this, though.
I also wonder how working with machine guns, shotguns, and WMDs changed me.3 -
JaydedMiss wrote: »So much sadness ...worst part is my stomach now being an angry old man when i bend over LOL
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@JaydedMiss Hi, I know you're feeling sad about your stomach. But I want to let you know that the stomach doing that when one bends down or even sitting down is pretty normal. Not everyone will look the same keep that in mind. But Even for people that are in a healthy weight this occurs. The only people that don't face this is someone who has a very very low body fat.
Livestrong response:
When you're standing up, your stomach looks flat and toned, but when you sit down or bend over, the rolls of fat appear. This happens to almost everyone, and there's a very simple explanation.
When you're standing up, your body is stretched out and your abdominal fat is extended over a larger area. When you sit down, your abdominal area compresses, bringing all the abdominal fat together, making it seem copious. Only people with very low body fat don't experience this.
I once read an article on yahoo about an Australian fitness blogger who mentions she had the same thing happen to her: I can't find the article but see the image below of her. It's all about posture in your profile picture you have good posture and you don't see the belly roll or the old man that you mention.
Now to answer the Ops question it's not the worst but I've noticed I've lost volume in my breasts, so they've reduced down a bit. They're still pretty decent, but I've lost some of the "fullness" per se.3 -
xchocolategirl wrote: »JaydedMiss wrote: »So much sadness ...worst part is my stomach now being an angry old man when i bend over LOL
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Hi, I know you're feeling sad about your stomach. But I want to let you know that the stomach doing that when one bends down or even sitting down is pretty normal. Even for people that are in a healthy weight this occurs. The only people that don't face this is someone who has a very very low body fat.
Livestrong response:
When you're standing up, your stomach looks flat and toned, but when you sit down or bend over, the rolls of fat appear. This happens to almost everyone, and there's a very simple explanation.
When you're standing up, your body is stretched out and your abdominal fat is extended over a larger area. When you sit down, your abdominal area compresses, bringing all the abdominal fat together, making it seem copious. Only people with very low body fat don't experience this.
I once read an article on yahoo about an Australian fitness blogger who mentions she had the same thing happen to her: I can't find the article but see the image below of her. It's all about posture in your profile picture you have good posture and you don't see the belly roll or the old man that you mention.
Now to answer the Ops question it's not the worst but I've noticed I've lost volume in my breasts, so they've reduced down a bit. They're still pretty decent, but I've lost some of the "fullness" per se.
hah yeah im not worried my profile pic and that pic were same day xD Just an annoying thing to have happen, Which is the point of the thread. stupid gravity3 -
Like others have said, shrinking out of my clothes is both awesome and awful. I volunteer at a living history museum and make elaborate Victorian dresses to wear. Dresses that are made to fit a certain way and just don't look right if they don't fit your body. They aren't easy to alter and the fabric will only take so much ripping out seams and re-sewing anyway. And I have a skirt I loved wearing to work, the whole 2 months it fit properly. I can alter it but I don't want to go altering everything now and just have to do it again in a few months.4
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hah yeah im not worried my profile pic and that pic were same day xD Just an annoying thing to have happen, Which is the point of the thread. stupid gravity[/quote]
@JaydedMiss - gravity does suck! Thx for explaining glad you aren't worried about it!
Congrats on your weight loss and progress! I've jealous of your food pics!0 -
xchocolategirl wrote: »hah yeah im not worried my profile pic and that pic were same day xD Just an annoying thing to have happen, Which is the point of the thread. stupid gravity
@JaydedMiss - gravity does suck! Thx for explaining glad you aren't worried about it!
Congrats on your weight loss and progress! I've jealous of your food pics![/quote]
Hah. how bout my yyummy huge giant 750g container of fruit i have to eat daily at work to avoid eating all the italian food XD hahaha
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The gas. Somehow eating enough fiber and protein and vegetables is causing me to have toxic gas issues.0
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Um some loose skin on my arms
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For me the worst part has been having to buy all new clothes. It is expensive and I really hate to shop. I see people on here who like shopping now that they can find cute clothes that fit. But I still don't care for it. I do have some loose skin I wish would tighten up some, but I would rather be at a healthy weight than not have it.0
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CynthiasChoice wrote: »buffalogal42 wrote: »Being cold all the time!
I have never been so cold! It wakes me up in the middle of the night. It's April and I still have two blankets and a down comforter on my bed.
Without knowing your indoor and outdoor temps "April" is pretty meaningless. As is usual for Massachusetts, we've had radical changes in temperature and need the AC one day and the heat another.
If it's in the 80s in your room and you're cold, see a doctor.
If it's in the 60s in your room and you're cold, add layers, starting with wool socks.1 -
socializing makes me anxious and I would have a few drinks to ease that. Not being able to drink, although better off for my health in the long run, has been difficult. Also, some of my clothes that I actually loved before I lost weight are too big now lol.. go figure, I wish I could still wear them 1
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Thought of something that just started happening to me recently: Overweight people give you dirty looks.6
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Love to eat here too, so the calorie restricting. And it takes forever--down almost 18lbs, but still have about 13-14lbs to go. I cannot wait to get to maintenance!0
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chaosbutterfly wrote: »Replacing/altering your clothes.
I have some beautiful skirts and party dresses that are now way too big, but they're so cute and one of a kind. I don't want to throw them out or donate them especially because they'd now look even better on me then they did when I was bigger, so I'm staring down the long process of either learning to sew properly so I can fix them or paying a seamstress to take them all in.
It hurts me soul.
I had all of my favorites altered. It was well worth the money.0 -
"kitten" is how the app/website replaces words it considers offensive.Noreenmarie1234 wrote: »what is kitten??
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kshama2001 wrote: »vespiquenn wrote: »HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.vespiquenn wrote: »This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.
Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...
Sorry, you lost me at "carrying yourself as a victim." But yes, I have taken self-defense classes. That has nothing to do with it. But I'm glad you haven't encountered this.
It wasn't specifically called "carrying yourself as a victim" but this was covered in my self defense class. And in the Girl Scouts.
I'm thinking back over my history with harassment and note it dropped precipitously while I was in the military so wonder if I developed some sort of "don't mess with me vibe" while I was in there. I was in a macho specialty and was the only female in my tech school class and duty station sections. I received a lot of attention, but no harassment, except from a supervisor who didn't think women should be in the military, so not the sort of harassment under discussion. I did observe this, though.
I also wonder how working with machine guns, shotguns, and WMDs changed me.
See it's funny, because this is my general attitude. I am feisty as hell, so if you rub me the wrong way, I will let you know. In the case of the physical assault, it was actually in front of my husband. So it obviously had nothing to do with being vulnerable as it did control. And we aren't talking a butt grab. Dude full on felt me up from top to bottom, and whispered in my ear that he would be finding me later. I was too busy trying to push my husband back from trying to deck this guy that I didn't get the chance to myself. I just didn't want to deal with police over some idiot. But earlier that night, I had told this guy to shut his mouth because he was bothering me, asking where my husband was (outside smoking), etc. I guess he took it as a challenge.
It just is an odd phenomenon. Maybe I should go back to being timid again. Then again, even when I was timid, I had a guy corner me at the bar, propositioning me for "favors" in the bathroom. Maybe I should just stop going to bars. Haha.
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Er. Ironically, I've lost my weight so far through doing martial arts.HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.vespiquenn wrote: »This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.
Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...
I may or may not be lacking in confidence, but at this point, the only thing that's going to give me more confidence in the short-term is going to be pretty intensive therapy.
I'll grant you I don't look very intimidating, as a fully paid-up member of the titchy crew, but the only remedy for that is probably cosmetic surgery or taking up body-building. Well, I say 'bodybuilding'. I think I mean steroids. Lots of steroids.
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HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.vespiquenn wrote: »This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.
I was never sexual harassed until I lost weight. When I was big I could have just body slammed him. I'm scheduling a self defense course at the end of the summer for myself 2 -
DoneWorking wrote: »Maintenance
This, I didn't do so well in maintenance...I am now trying to lose again. It seemed easier the last time I lost these pouinds.
That's why I'm here again too. However, this time I know better than to leave.0 -
when at a social event/party with friends and I say no thanks to wine, chips or that extra you like to keep away from for a good while, and they point out to me that I should enjoy myself-just this one time- They have a hard time accepting the fact that I am actually really enjoying myself, both with their company and that I'm able to eat just enough of what is served to keep me in tune with my weightloss.
(What I did with this was to say to my friends; I am enjoing myself a lot,and if it's difficult for you that I am trying to loose weight I can not participate next time, so please don't worry about me not enjoying myself- because I really do )
I just smile and say "oh, gosh, I don't need a cupcake to have fun - I've got YOUR COMPANY!" ;p1 -
Saggy boobs
I'm only 28 and they make me sad
*edit because the second sentence kept disappearing...1 -
Losing disproportionately from my hips compared to waist so turning more boxy banana, less hourglass shaped. Also awkward socializing without drinks and clothes that don't really fit. My knees and back are thanking me so it's worth it though!3
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i look different than i thought i would at the weight i chose to stop, and now almost none of my old clothes fit right.so i have to buy new ones. and that costs money.even with the new clothes some still do not fit right. see my waist is tiny, and my thighs are normalish. so the pants fit in the legs and sag on the waist. I just have to learn to only wear leggings i guess.Or learn how to take in pants with my sewing machine. So far i have only attempted skirts.Pants seem more complicated and it scares me to try at the moment.3
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The patience that is needed - in my mind I'm so proud of staying on track (mostly) for 6 weeks and am feeling all enthusiastic, but of course I'll need months before the scales and the mirror will hopefully reflect the image I already have of myself in my head.0
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vespiquenn wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »vespiquenn wrote: »HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.vespiquenn wrote: »This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.
Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...
Sorry, you lost me at "carrying yourself as a victim." But yes, I have taken self-defense classes. That has nothing to do with it. But I'm glad you haven't encountered this.
It wasn't specifically called "carrying yourself as a victim" but this was covered in my self defense class. And in the Girl Scouts.
I'm thinking back over my history with harassment and note it dropped precipitously while I was in the military so wonder if I developed some sort of "don't mess with me vibe" while I was in there. I was in a macho specialty and was the only female in my tech school class and duty station sections. I received a lot of attention, but no harassment, except from a supervisor who didn't think women should be in the military, so not the sort of harassment under discussion. I did observe this, though.
I also wonder how working with machine guns, shotguns, and WMDs changed me.
See it's funny, because this is my general attitude. I am feisty as hell, so if you rub me the wrong way, I will let you know. In the case of the physical assault, it was actually in front of my husband. So it obviously had nothing to do with being vulnerable as it did control. And we aren't talking a butt grab. Dude full on felt me up from top to bottom, and whispered in my ear that he would be finding me later. I was too busy trying to push my husband back from trying to deck this guy that I didn't get the chance to myself. I just didn't want to deal with police over some idiot. But earlier that night, I had told this guy to shut his mouth because he was bothering me, asking where my husband was (outside smoking), etc. I guess he took it as a challenge.
It just is an odd phenomenon. Maybe I should go back to being timid again. Then again, even when I was timid, I had a guy corner me at the bar, propositioning me for "favors" in the bathroom. Maybe I should just stop going to bars. Haha.
Yes, alcohol sure can aid in bringing out the worst in humanity.0 -
Before I finally said 'enough is enough' and decided to do something about my weight, I bought some new clothes. I have beautiful jeans now that can fall off my hips. It's great, but now I wish I hadn't bought those pants.0
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JaydedMiss wrote: »xchocolategirl wrote: »hah yeah im not worried my profile pic and that pic were same day xD Just an annoying thing to have happen, Which is the point of the thread. stupid gravity
@JaydedMiss - gravity does suck! Thx for explaining glad you aren't worried about it!
Congrats on your weight loss and progress! I've jealous of your food pics!
Hah. how bout my yyummy huge giant 750g container of fruit i have to eat daily at work to avoid eating all the italian food XD hahaha
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I truly wish that that looked yummy to me. I have never been much of a fruit person, sadly. Apples and bananas are about it for me. Oh, and dried cherries I dearly love. 0 -
kshama2001 wrote: »It wasn't specifically called "carrying yourself as a victim" but this was covered in my self defense class. And in the Girl Scouts.
I'm thinking back over my history with harassment and note it dropped precipitously while I was in the military so wonder if I developed some sort of "don't mess with me vibe" while I was in there. I was in a macho specialty and was the only female in my tech school class and duty station sections. I received a lot of attention, but no harassment, except from a supervisor who didn't think women should be in the military, so not the sort of harassment under discussion. I did observe this, though.
I also wonder how working with machine guns, shotguns, and WMDs changed me.
I tend to think that any gal that was frequently "hit on" when she was at that 18-25 age, developed that same vibe. I know I did; I slapped the *kitten* out of one guy in a bar that grabbed me where he should not have. Us gals were called "b!tches". Still are, I think. 1 -
newheavensearth wrote: »@JaydedMiss my loose stomach skin looks like a set of curtains hanging to the floor when I do planks.
Mine, too. Surgery is simply not something I'm interested in. I know too many dead people who were alive before surgery.0 -
Suddendly almost all non padded seats are really uncomfortable
Most clothes look super baggy
Im cold a lot more
But the positives still outweigh that by at least 28kg
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