Worst part of losing weight?
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Saggy boobs
I'm only 28 and they make me sad
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Losing disproportionately from my hips compared to waist so turning more boxy banana, less hourglass shaped. Also awkward socializing without drinks and clothes that don't really fit. My knees and back are thanking me so it's worth it though!3
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i look different than i thought i would at the weight i chose to stop, and now almost none of my old clothes fit right.so i have to buy new ones. and that costs money.even with the new clothes some still do not fit right. see my waist is tiny, and my thighs are normalish. so the pants fit in the legs and sag on the waist. I just have to learn to only wear leggings i guess.Or learn how to take in pants with my sewing machine. So far i have only attempted skirts.Pants seem more complicated and it scares me to try at the moment.3
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The patience that is needed - in my mind I'm so proud of staying on track (mostly) for 6 weeks and am feeling all enthusiastic, but of course I'll need months before the scales and the mirror will hopefully reflect the image I already have of myself in my head.0
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vespiquenn wrote: »kshama2001 wrote: »vespiquenn wrote: »HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.vespiquenn wrote: »This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.
Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...
Sorry, you lost me at "carrying yourself as a victim." But yes, I have taken self-defense classes. That has nothing to do with it. But I'm glad you haven't encountered this.
It wasn't specifically called "carrying yourself as a victim" but this was covered in my self defense class. And in the Girl Scouts.
I'm thinking back over my history with harassment and note it dropped precipitously while I was in the military so wonder if I developed some sort of "don't mess with me vibe" while I was in there. I was in a macho specialty and was the only female in my tech school class and duty station sections. I received a lot of attention, but no harassment, except from a supervisor who didn't think women should be in the military, so not the sort of harassment under discussion. I did observe this, though.
I also wonder how working with machine guns, shotguns, and WMDs changed me.
See it's funny, because this is my general attitude. I am feisty as hell, so if you rub me the wrong way, I will let you know. In the case of the physical assault, it was actually in front of my husband. So it obviously had nothing to do with being vulnerable as it did control. And we aren't talking a butt grab. Dude full on felt me up from top to bottom, and whispered in my ear that he would be finding me later. I was too busy trying to push my husband back from trying to deck this guy that I didn't get the chance to myself. I just didn't want to deal with police over some idiot. But earlier that night, I had told this guy to shut his mouth because he was bothering me, asking where my husband was (outside smoking), etc. I guess he took it as a challenge.
It just is an odd phenomenon. Maybe I should go back to being timid again. Then again, even when I was timid, I had a guy corner me at the bar, propositioning me for "favors" in the bathroom. Maybe I should just stop going to bars. Haha.
Yes, alcohol sure can aid in bringing out the worst in humanity.0 -
Before I finally said 'enough is enough' and decided to do something about my weight, I bought some new clothes. I have beautiful jeans now that can fall off my hips. It's great, but now I wish I hadn't bought those pants.0
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JaydedMiss wrote: »xchocolategirl wrote: »hah yeah im not worried my profile pic and that pic were same day xD Just an annoying thing to have happen, Which is the point of the thread. stupid gravity
@JaydedMiss - gravity does suck! Thx for explaining glad you aren't worried about it!
Congrats on your weight loss and progress! I've jealous of your food pics!
Hah. how bout my yyummy huge giant 750g container of fruit i have to eat daily at work to avoid eating all the italian food XD hahaha
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I truly wish that that looked yummy to me. I have never been much of a fruit person, sadly. Apples and bananas are about it for me. Oh, and dried cherries I dearly love. 0 -
kshama2001 wrote: »It wasn't specifically called "carrying yourself as a victim" but this was covered in my self defense class. And in the Girl Scouts.
I'm thinking back over my history with harassment and note it dropped precipitously while I was in the military so wonder if I developed some sort of "don't mess with me vibe" while I was in there. I was in a macho specialty and was the only female in my tech school class and duty station sections. I received a lot of attention, but no harassment, except from a supervisor who didn't think women should be in the military, so not the sort of harassment under discussion. I did observe this, though.
I also wonder how working with machine guns, shotguns, and WMDs changed me.
I tend to think that any gal that was frequently "hit on" when she was at that 18-25 age, developed that same vibe. I know I did; I slapped the *kitten* out of one guy in a bar that grabbed me where he should not have. Us gals were called "b!tches". Still are, I think.
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newheavensearth wrote: »@JaydedMiss my loose stomach skin looks like a set of curtains hanging to the floor when I do planks.
Mine, too. Surgery is simply not something I'm interested in. I know too many dead people who were alive before surgery.0 -
Suddendly almost all non padded seats are really uncomfortable
Most clothes look super baggy
Im cold a lot more
But the positives still outweigh that by at least 28kg
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PeachesNcreamgal wrote: »The worst part? I cant stop fantasising about food!! also cant stop checking out online food stores for desserts! this level of food porn is killing me
I bought some petites and also a couple of fruitcakes for Christmas. The petites weighed 30 grams and were 130 calories of all the worst and nastiest stuff you can tremble at. I had 30 grams of fruitcake every day for 3 months and lost weight doing it.
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JaydedMiss wrote: »
I've been buying some new clothes, but I'm thinking about not buying anymore until I lose these final 10 pounds I'm working on losing. My size is still changing and changing a lot. I have a lot of shorts for summer that are big, but still wearable.1 -
HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.vespiquenn wrote: »This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.
Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...
I've been thinking about taking Krava Maga. I know someone who got very fit taking those classes.0 -
I also hate being "rewarded for eating less" by being robbed of calories. Like, well done, you've worked hard, now work harder. Screw it. I was also irrationally angry when my Doctor told me to take fish oil, 5 capsules a day, and I realised that was 100 calories. When my allowance is 1450. I'd rather have bad joints.
And today I'm wearing my favourite dress, wrap around and pretty forgiving in the weight department, but now it's too big. I've spent the whole day adjusting the top so it doesn't gape. SMH.4 -
kshama2001 wrote: »vespiquenn wrote: »HeliumIsNoble wrote: »
Don't want to 'like' this, but I have noticed similar.vespiquenn wrote: »This might be an odd one, but I don't know if it's just that I'm more confident or it actually has to do with looks. But since I started my fitness journey, I have had to deal with many aggressive males. I've been sexually assaulted in a bar, followed in dark areas, etc. This never happened before, so I can't really figure out what to attribute it to. Either way, I really hate it because I don't like being fearful of places or people.
Neither of you should "have to" but have you ever thought about doing Krav Maga or a similar self defense oriented martial art? It really helps with the confidence, and also so that you don't carry yourself like a victim. I've never been followed or attacked in any way despite traveling and being out on my own a lot. I think that has a lot to do with how aware I am, the calm eye contact I make, etc...
Sorry, you lost me at "carrying yourself as a victim." But yes, I have taken self-defense classes. That has nothing to do with it. But I'm glad you haven't encountered this.
It wasn't specifically called "carrying yourself as a victim" but this was covered in my self defense class. And in the Girl Scouts.
I'm thinking back over my history with harassment and note it dropped precipitously while I was in the military so wonder if I developed some sort of "don't mess with me vibe" while I was in there. I was in a macho specialty and was the only female in my tech school class and duty station sections. I received a lot of attention, but no harassment, except from a supervisor who didn't think women should be in the military, so not the sort of harassment under discussion. I did observe this, though.
I also wonder how working with machine guns, shotguns, and WMDs changed me.
There's a lot about how people carry themselves, how they walk, how they stand, how they look at the world, that tells other people whether they would be a less risky or more risky target for attack. People who lack situational awareness, who are walking with shoulders hunched staring at the ground while moving very slowly give off more of a prey vibe than someone whose carriage is straight up, head forward, looking at their surroundings, and moving more purposefully, making eye contact with others.
Even facial expression is a signal to other people, and if you can master the facial expression that looks like you're capable of killing someone, you're less a target than a person whose face reads fear or an inability/unwillingness to fight back.
Opportunity criminals like muggers are predators and they're looking for easy prey. You've learned how to project that you are not prey, and it's one of the first things that gets taught in self defense classes.
That is not to say that self defense classes are magic and make one invincible to any foe, and should make a person take unnecessary risks, but it is good to have some tools at your disposal to make you a less desirable attack target to the muggers of the world.
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My dad telling me to stop using a scale because it will lead to an unhealthy obsession. I stop weighing for a few weeks and gain a little. He tells me that just means I'm doing it on purpose.
Him, he's the worst bit. And people who think wanting to change is somehow odd. Other people really2 -
heiliskrimsli wrote: »Even facial expression is a signal to other people, and if you can master the facial expression that looks like you're capable of killing someone, you're less a target than a person whose face reads fear or an inability/unwillingness to fight back.
Another bad bit is walking round town to find new clothes. I hate shopping and spending money but I do have 'resting b-face' so those overly enthusiastic street leaflet / salespeople leave me alone. It's a bad thing about losing weight but the air of Get. Out. Of. My. Way is a positive2 -
emmaling142 wrote: »My dad telling me to stop using a scale because it will lead to an unhealthy obsession. I stop weighing for a few weeks and gain a little. He tells me that just means I'm doing it on purpose.
Him, he's the worst bit. And people who think wanting to change is somehow odd. Other people really
Successful people take responsibility and take control. This is a threat to those mired in a victim mindset - if you can lose weight and eat "bad" foods, then this means that the problem isn't the food, but your behavior - many simply cannot accept that.
Counting calories is no different than balancing a checkbook, but while we would consider someone unaware of their finances foolish, the same doesn't carry over in weight management.2
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