Ladies, would you let your boyfriend or husband go to the stripclub?

badgyaljilly
badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
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Girls, would you let your boyfriend or husband go to the strip club with his friends?

I feel like my boyfriend went 2 years ago and lied to me about going and I don't know how to feel about this.
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  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    Yeah, I would let him go. Hell, I have gone to male and female strip clubs without him. As long as he isn't touching or going home with them, then it's just like watching porn.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    RunHardBeStrong wrote: »
    Yeah, I would let him go. Hell, I have gone to male and female strip clubs without him. As long as he isn't touching or going home with them, then it's just like watching porn.

    What if he got a dance?
  • MrStabbems
    MrStabbems Posts: 3,110 Member
    Ooooh what if he develops a favourite? what about private no-touchy dances?
  • PrincessMel72
    PrincessMel72 Posts: 1,094 Member
    Yep - he's a grown man and I TRUST him 100%
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    My husband doesn't need permission to do anything. He's not a child.

    Lol so you don't care if he touches and oogles a stripper?
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    Two years ago? Let it go.

    Yeah I feel like I should, but the fact that right after he went there he went home to me and cuddled me after touching strippers. Gross
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    My husband doesn't need permission to do anything. He's not a child.

    this.... its not a case of 'letting' him do anything...

    you 'feel like' he went...? well either he did or didn't? do you actually know? and it was 2 years ago... that's a looooooooooooooong time to be holding a grudge!
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    RunHardBeStrong wrote: »
    Yeah, I would let him go. Hell, I have gone to male and female strip clubs without him. As long as he isn't touching or going home with them, then it's just like watching porn.

    What if he got a dance?

    That would still be ok with me. I myself have received dances from male and female that were bought for me so if I forbid him then I would be a huge hypocrite. But regardless, I don't have a problem with it.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    My husband doesn't need permission to do anything. He's not a child.

    this.... its not a case of 'letting' him do anything...

    you 'feel like' he went...? well either he did or didn't? do you actually know? and it was 2 years ago... that's a looooooooooooooong time to be holding a grudge!

    He for sure went, he GPS it in his car, googled reviews on it and then came home super late smelling like alcohol. And when I asked him about it he got defensive.
  • liftorgohome
    liftorgohome Posts: 25,455 Member
    All guys go to them. Sometimes girlfriends too. It may bring you guys closer together!
  • MrStabbems
    MrStabbems Posts: 3,110 Member
    The real question is, why would he want to go to a strip club? stag scenario etc excluded
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    The real question is, why would he want to go to a strip club? stag scenario etc excluded

    Idk why do guys go to strip clubs? lol
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  • PrincessMel72
    PrincessMel72 Posts: 1,094 Member
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    My husband doesn't need permission to do anything. He's not a child.

    this.... its not a case of 'letting' him do anything...

    you 'feel like' he went...? well either he did or didn't? do you actually know? and it was 2 years ago... that's a looooooooooooooong time to be holding a grudge!

    He for sure went, he GPS it in his car, googled reviews on it and then came home super late smelling like alcohol. And when I asked him about it he got defensive.

    And this was 2 years ago, right? Did you just now find out about it?
  • Muscle_for_Fitness
    Muscle_for_Fitness Posts: 2,198 Member
    I've gone but don't feel the need to lie to my wife about it if I do. I know all couples are different but it sounds like a trust thing that he didn't want to tell you about it. Like you were going to hold it against him for 2 years or something.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    indigoblue9572 wrote: »
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    My husband doesn't need permission to do anything. He's not a child.

    this.... its not a case of 'letting' him do anything...

    you 'feel like' he went...? well either he did or didn't? do you actually know? and it was 2 years ago... that's a looooooooooooooong time to be holding a grudge!

    He for sure went, he GPS it in his car, googled reviews on it and then came home super late smelling like alcohol. And when I asked him about it he got defensive.

    And this was 2 years ago, right? Did you just now find out about it?


    No I asked him 2 years ago when I found out. And till this day it still bothers me. Its obvious he went GPS, REVIEWS, SMELLING LIKE BEER.
  • midlomel1971
    midlomel1971 Posts: 1,283 Member
    edited April 2017
    Yes, he goes once a year during his annual golf trip with the guys. I think sometimes his buddy even pays for a lap dance. I couldn't care less about it. I trust him 100%. He ain't going anywhere...especially with a stripper.
  • briohne128
    briohne128 Posts: 176 Member
    I would let him of course! But if he went and hid it from me and then I found out, I would be VERY frustrated! I hate liars :s
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    Two years ago? Let it go.

    Yeah I feel like I should, but the fact that right after he went there he went home to me and cuddled me after touching strippers. Gross

    You don't even know if he went or not let alone if he touched them.

    Don't hang this over the poor guy's head. To be dwelling on something he may or may not have done two years ago is not fair.

    If it bothers you, talk now about what boundaries you expect regarding strip clubs so he can make his decision. Personally they don't bother me
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    Two years ago? Let it go.

    Yeah I feel like I should, but the fact that right after he went there he went home to me and cuddled me after touching strippers. Gross

    You don't even know if he went or not let alone if he touched them.

    Don't hang this over the poor guy's head. To be dwelling on something he may or may not have done two years ago is not fair.

    If it bothers you, talk now about what boundaries you expect regarding strip clubs so he can make his decision. Personally they don't bother me

    I know he did LOL. I was jokingly saying I would take him to the lie detector test to prove it, and he freaked out. (I would never do it btw, im not that crazy)
  • PrincessMel72
    PrincessMel72 Posts: 1,094 Member
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    indigoblue9572 wrote: »
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    abitoftrouble wrote: »
    My husband doesn't need permission to do anything. He's not a child.

    this.... its not a case of 'letting' him do anything...

    you 'feel like' he went...? well either he did or didn't? do you actually know? and it was 2 years ago... that's a looooooooooooooong time to be holding a grudge!

    He for sure went, he GPS it in his car, googled reviews on it and then came home super late smelling like alcohol. And when I asked him about it he got defensive.

    And this was 2 years ago, right? Did you just now find out about it?


    No I asked him 2 years ago when I found out. And till this day it still bothers me. Its obvious he went GPS, REVIEWS, SMELLING LIKE BEER.

    Then you have bigger issues with trust and not the fact that he went to a strip club. Sounds like you may need some couples counseling
  • alltimeburrit0
    alltimeburrit0 Posts: 41 Member
    Simply, 2 years ago - its in the past.
    Yes I'd 'let' mine go, no I wouldn't be the happiest about it but it's not as if I don't trust him not to cheat.
    However
    The lying is not okay with me. Do something I won't like, that's forgivable and 'okay', lie about it and that's not okay.
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    alltimeburrit0 wrote: »
    Simply, 2 years ago - its in the past.
    Yes I'd 'let' mine go, no I wouldn't be the happiest about it but it's not as if I don't trust him not to cheat.
    However
    The lying is not okay with me. Do something I won't like, that's forgivable and 'okay', lie about it and that's not okay.

    I know but I don't get why he can't just be honest with me that's what makes me pissed more than him actually going
  • alltimeburrit0
    alltimeburrit0 Posts: 41 Member
    If it still bothers you and are still effecting your life with him then I suggest explaining to him that the truth is very important and it's the lie that is really bothering you (which I think it is righg?) and tell him you know the truth you just want to hear the truth and that's what's important
  • badgyaljilly
    badgyaljilly Posts: 36 Member
    alltimeburrit0 wrote: »
    If it still bothers you and are still effecting your life with him then I suggest explaining to him that the truth is very important and it's the lie that is really bothering you (which I think it is righg?) and tell him you know the truth you just want to hear the truth and that's what's important

    I told him so many times to be honest with me and he just says "no i didn't go" and then gets defensive and tries to avoid the question.
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  • kschwab0203
    kschwab0203 Posts: 610 Member
    I wouldn't be that worried about it.

    It was 2 years ago....has he given you a reason not to trust him otherwise? Maybe he didn't want to upset you that's why he didn't tell you.

    If he had asked your permission to go would you have been ok with it?
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    perhaps I am lucky but my o/h has no interest in strip clubs.

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