Ladies, would you let your boyfriend or husband go to the stripclub?

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  • Cat3141
    Cat3141 Posts: 162 Member
    I trust my husband. I know he is coming home to me. So I have no problem with him going to strip clubs.

    If your boyfriend lies to you about things then you have a trust issue. If you feel the need to do things like look through his GPS record, check what he's reviewed online, or interrogate him years later, then you really have a trust issue. This has nothing to do with strip clubs. I suggest seeing a relationship counselor.
  • T0M_K
    T0M_K Posts: 7,526 Member
    maybe you should get a job there...thats how you investigate this properly.
  • infinitynevermore
    infinitynevermore Posts: 98 Member
    Doesn't matter to me personally, as long as he hasn't had sex with any of them.
  • MichellePatte92
    MichellePatte92 Posts: 134 Member
    My boyfriend is a grown man, so he doesn't need my permission, but I do know he would consult me before doing it because he considers my feelings. I wouldn't be too terribly fond of him getting danced on by another woman, but as long as he doesn't touch and still comes home to me, we're good.
  • Cat3141
    Cat3141 Posts: 162 Member
    WorshipHK wrote: »
    Based on some of your comments though, I just wanna say that strippers are people too. Just because they're dancing for money doesn't make them gross or disgusting. There's a demand to be seen and they're just supplying it. So if you think strippers are gross, then you should apply that same logic to people that pay to see them.

    Well said! This times a thousand!

    Also, I love the hooded Hello Kitty whatever it is you're wearing.

  • kschwab0203
    kschwab0203 Posts: 610 Member
    Honestly, I've always been more annoyed at the amount of money it costs to hang out at a strip club than my SO actually viewing another naked person.
  • mspris2u
    mspris2u Posts: 161 Member
    I'd go with him if he was interested but he is WAY too cheap. AND it was 2 years ago.. time to let that s%^t go...
  • MonkeyMel21
    MonkeyMel21 Posts: 2,396 Member
    lol, I told my husband to go to the strip club a few weeks ago to unwind. I was home sleeping peacefully.
  • yelliezx
    yelliezx Posts: 633 Member
    Helllll no! I would not have some skank grinding up on my husband.
  • chaosbutterfly
    chaosbutterfly Posts: 71 Member
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    Two years ago? Let it go.

    Yeah I feel like I should, but the fact that right after he went there he went home to me and cuddled me after touching strippers. Gross

    Strippers are people like you are a person. They are not diseased or dirty, unless you count like...body glitter and maybe some scented lotion as being dirty.
    So he touched one (or several) and then touched you. Did you die?
    Two years later and you're still here to make this thread, so what is the problem.
  • PrincessMel72
    PrincessMel72 Posts: 1,094 Member
    denversillygoose wrote: »
    I think strip clubs may be the least of your problems.

    THIS!!!!
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    chaosbutterfly wrote: »
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    Two years ago? Let it go.

    Yeah I feel like I should, but the fact that right after he went there he went home to me and cuddled me after touching strippers. Gross

    Strippers are people like you are a person. They are not diseased or dirty, unless you count like...body glitter and maybe some scented lotion as being dirty.
    So he touched one (or several) and then touched you. Did you die?
    Two years later and you're still here to make this thread, so what is the problem.

    it's gross.
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    I understand your insecurities about it, but they are only there to watch. No different from them oggling over cheerleaders or scantily dressed women in the street. I would have issues if he went to a brothel, or picked up hookers. But I'm pretty sure there is a no touch policy. My SO has been to a strip-club, and before I met him I had been to a strip club. I think you need to go to one to understand that they aren't as seedy as you think they are.
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    I understand your insecurities about it, but they are only there to watch. No different from them oggling over cheerleaders or scantily dressed women in the street. I would have issues if he went to a brothel, or picked up hookers. But I'm pretty sure there is a no touch policy. My SO has been to a strip-club, and before I met him I had been to a strip club. I think you need to go to one to understand that they aren't as seedy as you think they are.

    and you think all joints comply?
  • RunHardBeStrong
    RunHardBeStrong Posts: 33,069 Member
    SpotLighttt wrote: »
    chaosbutterfly wrote: »
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    Two years ago? Let it go.

    Yeah I feel like I should, but the fact that right after he went there he went home to me and cuddled me after touching strippers. Gross

    Strippers are people like you are a person. They are not diseased or dirty, unless you count like...body glitter and maybe some scented lotion as being dirty.
    So he touched one (or several) and then touched you. Did you die?
    Two years later and you're still here to make this thread, so what is the problem.

    it's gross.

    How many strip clubs have you been to? Or how many "strippers" do you actually know? They are just people that aren't afraid of using their bodies to support themselves. Most make more money than you can even imagine, hell if I could get away with it, I would do it! And that would not make me any less of a caring, giving, clean, loving person than what I am now.
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  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    SpotLighttt wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    I understand your insecurities about it, but they are only there to watch. No different from them oggling over cheerleaders or scantily dressed women in the street. I would have issues if he went to a brothel, or picked up hookers. But I'm pretty sure there is a no touch policy. My SO has been to a strip-club, and before I met him I had been to a strip club. I think you need to go to one to understand that they aren't as seedy as you think they are.

    and you think all joints comply?

    All the decent ones do.
  • SpotLighttt
    SpotLighttt Posts: 174 Member
    RunHardBeStrong wrote: »
    SpotLighttt wrote: »
    chaosbutterfly wrote: »
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    MeeseeksAndDestroy wrote: »
    Two years ago? Let it go.

    Yeah I feel like I should, but the fact that right after he went there he went home to me and cuddled me after touching strippers. Gross

    Strippers are people like you are a person. They are not diseased or dirty, unless you count like...body glitter and maybe some scented lotion as being dirty.
    So he touched one (or several) and then touched you. Did you die?
    Two years later and you're still here to make this thread, so what is the problem.

    it's gross.

    How many strip clubs have you been to? Or how many "strippers" do you actually know? They are just people that aren't afraid of using their bodies to support themselves. Most make more money than you can even imagine, hell if I could get away with it, I would do it! And that would not make me any less of a caring, giving, clean, loving person than what I am now.

    I lived with one =))
    Not sure about caring, loving or any of those. You are making blanket assumptions.

    I would find it gross to cuddle up to my partner who's been grinding up against a stripper who has been sweating and grinding up against several men all night.

    You might be okay with it, which is why I am now dubious about your claim of being "clean" but I certainly would prefer he showered first before getting into bed. Of course it's a preference and I cant force anything on him.

    Agreed - some make lots of money but I am not jealous as it's not of my interest.
  • MiloBloom83
    MiloBloom83 Posts: 2,724 Member
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    LOL so y'all ladies would give ZERO care if your man went to the strip club, got some dances, strippers grinding on his lap all night and then comming home to you?????

    My GF gets jealous that she couldn't come with. They like her better than me anyway...
  • cassglass
    cassglass Posts: 85 Member
    You have a problem with your relationship if you are hanging onto this for two years and haven't discussed it with him. Your posts here indicate that it doesn't matter what anyone says, it bothers you. You're talking to the wrong people. As for me, I don't have a problem with strip clubs, I'd want to go along.
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    I took a flirty girl class believe me that is HARD WORK!! They earn every dollar and then some!!!!
  • laurenebargar
    laurenebargar Posts: 3,081 Member
    badgyaljilly wrote: »
    Girls, would you let your boyfriend or husband go to the strip club with his friends?

    I feel like my boyfriend went 2 years ago and lied to me about going and I don't know how to feel about this.

    Im gonna be honest, I didnt read this thread, however, If your not comfortable with this, the simplest answer is to talk to your boyfriend/husband about it. My husband and I got married two years ago and before the bachelor party all of his friends were joking about taking him to a stripclub, and Im just not comfortable with that. I get it, there are alot of mixed opinions on the subject, and most people will just tell you to suck it up. If your not comfortable with it, and its a deal breaker for you, you have to talk to him, I did and it worked out for me, my husband told his friends no strip clubs, because he respects my feelings, and they did not go to one. Now this is something I have mentioned in the past to him so I didnt just come up with it out of thin air, I just dont think its right, especially if your getting married within a few weeks, that you would feel the need to go look at other naked women. If everyone else is okay with it, im glad! This is just how I feel about it and my husband understands and respects this.
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