WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2017

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Early morning...actually middle of the night! One of my personal crazies is that I often have difficulty sleeping. I am often doing my exercises at 2:30 or 3:00 in the morning. Aaaaaaargh!

Anyway, I am a retired art teacher. I still paint but am enjoying writing and illustrating children's books. We live out in the country between Astoria and Seaside, Oregon. Currently my constant companions are my husband, John and our labradoodle, Katie. We have two grown children. We don't see them very often but we keep the phone busy on weekends. I am not sure if it is the fault of our wet cool winters but I am dealing with the dreaded arthritis. Exercise helps, whining does not help much, I know! I have tried it.

Forgive me, I prattle on about our sweet doggie and the simple pleasures of retirement.

Patsy, see me waving out my window?? Haha! I am just up the street from Fort Stevens. Our library has moved! Hasn't officially opened yet, but it located where the Serendipity restaurant on Main St is/was. This weather had been crazy indeed! My knees act up, and I am just turning 55! We are officially empty nesters as of this week when the son graduated from Warrenton hs. We are sending him to the Navy towards the end of July! Nice meeting you!
Becca
Coastal gal in
Oregon

Mary~I want out honestly I really do.. I am just waiting for you know what to hit the fan... because it will.. the reason I didn't mention it before is I didnt have concrete proof, but found credit card receipts, for flowers, concert tickets and a romantic inn for this summer and he told he that the weekend of the concert he will be going to the races at Watkins Glen n.y. so he is trying to play a game.. and one that in the end he wont win..

Ginger great article, thanks for sharing it. Think about when and what you are eating, try to eat meals spaced out that make you feel full longer, clean and close up the kitchen after you make yourself that wonderful cup of relaxing tea or a very light snack that will let you feel like you are full and don't need to eat mindlessly or eat your anxiety. I am no expert, just mentioning some things that have helped me. Thinking about you and sending
NYKAREN

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Karen in VA wrote "Janetr Mia's daddy's smile says it all. He obviously adores that little girl! Wonderful photo of the 3 of them."

Mia is Steve's granddaughter, His daughter is 24.

Janetr okc

Dana – We picked this stone because it went with the walls (“Pecky Cypress”) that Louis had put a orangeish-frown stain on it. Mainly, because it went with the furniture we have. I’ve seen homes where it has been allowed to either weather on its own or has been stained gray, which is really pretty. We went out to Cheddar’s with the kids this afternoon, and, I told Louis that I really wished we had used ‘stacked stone’ instead. But, what we were looking at way gray stone and would not go with anything in our house. I think they have some that would go with the walls. I laughed and told him that all we’d have to do is ‘sledge hammer’ it out and maybe have a slab to be the hearth. He looked at me and said, ‘we’ll see’ … which translates into ‘over my dead body’.

Janet – Our oldest granddaughter has 4 younger ½ sisters; 2 on her Dad’s side with whom she lives with; and, 2 of her Mama’s side by different Daddies. She lost them to DFACS after Taylor reported her to them. She’s not been with them in over 2 years and has done absolutely nothing that the Judge and DFACS ordered her to do to even be considered to have visitation rights. Jenn told us the other day that Taylor’s mama now lived only about 5 miles from us (as the crow flies). Taylor won’t have anything to do with her; but, she hasn’t closed that door; and, won't because she is her 'egg donor'/'incubator'. However, people do 'grow up and change' and maybe her mother will. But, her mama is a ‘trip to take home to Jesus, on a good day’. We are so glad that our son got custody of her when she was 14. No telling what her life would have been like with her mama; she is now 21-years-old and has been on the Dean's List and will graduate in December with Honors. The youngest child had been in 4 different schools in 2 counties before she was out of 1st grade. It’s pretty bad when she doesn’t even ‘ask’ about her mama.

My sweet Louis is always joking, especially with his customers; they tell me all the time how he makes them feel and that I must be the luckiest woman in the world. I laugh and tell them that ‘there is another side’ that I deal with, too; but, the 'good' certainly outweighs the 'bad'. There is a long story to how we met; but, I have told it before. It has to do with a ‘bet’.

Thanks to all of you for your compliments on my hair, me, and on my DDnL#2 and DOMGD#4; I thought I had posted other pictures of my other son and his family. Maybe I didn’t; but, I meant to.

Sarah - I have to do my outdoor work very early or very late, because of problems with heat stroke, too.

Some of the medication I have to take makes me ‘beet red’ after only a few minutes out in the middle of the day. But, I sure do miss have the pool to get in. I’m thinking that I will empty the hot tub and fill it and just not turn the heater on. I can always walk or march in place in it for exercise; but, I had a routine in the pool.

KJ – In Georgia, we have a lot more non-poisonous snakes than poisonous ones; and, I really try hard to NOT kill any of them; but, the still ‘freak’ me out; but, not nearly as bad as a spider does. Especially, the little brown jumpy ones with the two cream colored “=” marks on their backside.

Our neighbor (on the other side of our son's house) have just built a pond. They've been out every day since it was finished shooting everything that moves, whether it is a threat or not. All snakes, frogs, anything living around a pond. She was dipping out tadpoles and slipped and broke her ankle. Trey said it was because of 'dipping tadpoles' out and killing them. Gee, I can't think of a more peaceful sound that the night time sounds of the animals that live in a pond. They have a 'new' fur baby ... after they buried their last dog in a 'child's coffin (or a handmade coffin that would have suffice as one) and had their preacher come 'say a few words over her'. Well, they are spoiling this dog as much as they did the last one. I hope they don't ask me to paint a 'portrait' of Molly. So we're riding down the road and they are out riding around on their golf cart; when Molly sees us and starts running towards us; they must have 'zapped' her because she stopped mid-stride.

Bear Lady Weez – Come often, and tell us something about yourself like what name you ‘prefer’ to be called, a location (general or specific), children, grands, great grands, marriage, hobbies, goals, and, other things so we can get to know you. You need to make sure you ‘bookmark’ this site so you can find it easily. Barbiecat will post a link on the last day of the month to take you to the next month; then you will have to bookmark that page as well. Click on the outline of the star at the upper right-hand corner of the posting area; then all you’ll have to do is click on the ‘gray’ star between the bell and gear and it will drop down a list of sites you belong to. We are a crazy bunch of ladies, some not yet 50 and some well into the 70’s. I don’t know if we have any 80-something’s but we might. About the ‘only’ thing we try NOT to get into is ‘politics’ and ‘religion’ since we are ‘world-wide’ and so many different countries.

Did you see that picture of the black mama bear with 4 cubs trying to crawl over a fence? Louis says they normally don’t have more than 2 cubs at a time. Three made it over the fence; one found a gully or a hole in the fence; but, he had to follow the fence a bit to find it. Our youngest son is a Wildlife Biologist and manages a hunting preserve for 5 men (about 2000 acres + the 22 acres on the lake where they all have places. In Louisiana, they are protected; and, he was driving back from putting cameras out on the land and could not make out what was in the road; until he was right up on it. He said he threw it in reverse and stopped and waited until it moved. You had better hope that you have been ‘mauled’ before shooting one as it carries a ‘huge’ fine and some jail time, if you kill or mame one.

I can remember when I worked for the Federal Magistrate; part of his territory had geese on it; and, they are protected here (in Georgia) a fine for stealing the eggs and getting caught was about $1000 per egg (and that was 20 years ago). I’m sure that bears come out a lot in cities where their territory has been over-populated by the growth of people and new neighborhoods. This mama and her 4 cubs were obviously in a yard that backed up to woods.

Heather – I also love that ‘version of ourselves’ quote as well. Sometimes we don’t see it until we are ‘far down the road of recovery’; but, when we do … we are a lot happier.

Lanette – I have ‘just enough’ natural curl that with the right cut (and ‘this’ is it) I can do just about anything with it that I want, other than put it into a ponytail; but, I’ve never had ‘thick’ hair. But, our oldest son’s hair is so thick he almost has to have it cut so that it gets thinned out; our youngest son is the one who is going to ‘take after his Daddy’. Tami cut it a while before they married; and, it was good because the next week he broke out in the worst case of shingles. All up his neck and into his hair and even inside his mouth. Then he busted his head putting in a ‘pig trap’ and had to have stitches in the top of his head. He grew his hair out before the wedding. I’m not sure if he’ll let her buzz it again. But, I think he has that “Jason Statham” bad boy look when it is buzzed. LOL!!!!!

A HS friend of mine fell of the roof of their 2-story house and broke his back like your husband did; was in a rehab hospital for about 2 or 3 months. He could have broken his neck and died. The first time I tore up my right rotator cuff was because I had climbed up a ‘make-shift’ ladder; and failed to hit the step-stool on the way down, so I took a nose-dive off the top of my desk. The worker building the shed for Louis had just driven off. I could not push myself up, so I was finally able to crawl on my belly and pull the bedroom phone down off the side table and call 911. Then the 2nd time about a year later I had a bad seizure and hit the deck and rails and stiles and knocked myself out. Thankfully, husband, son, and daughter-in-law were standing in the driveway and she looked at me when I went to turn around and told them that ‘something was wrong with me’. They turned around about the time I hit the ground. She called the EMTs and since we live on a dirt road and they use GPS for the shortest route; two ambulances got stuck and they finally took me in the back of the car with my son looking up in the rearview mirror yelling at his Dad, ‘don’t let her close her eyes’. Then DnL called to cancel the EMTs and got settled in when the doorbell rang. There was the 3rd EMT group there, they told her that whenever they get a call, they have to get to the person, even if it means walking down the road in the rain. So next time if we need to call them and it has or is raining we’ll tell them the ‘best’ way to come; not the ‘supposedly’ shortest way.

Allie – Enjoy your time away from Tomcat, accept all the invites you get. It might get rough; but, at least Tomcat knows how you feel and that ‘he’ has also been unhappy and taking it out on you. Good for you for being honest about it with him. Because HE IS the reason you filed. You have so much more that will come to bring you joy. He just doesn’t “Spark Joy” in you anymore and that is HIS problem.

I’d have to agree with Barbie about not telling Tom that his infidelity is just ‘unforgiveable’. It is what it is; and, if he ‘knew’ that you ‘knew’; he’d be lying to try to get around it and have you stay and ‘wait on his every need’.

The less he knows that you know the easier it will be to blind sight him. And he certainly deserves every little kick in the "Johnston" he gets along the way down the courtroom hallways (if necessary).

Whether it is the first time and he ‘swears’ it is over; or the 15th time with 15 different women. A “Cheeter” [pun intended] never changes its spots, it is all the way down to the deepest layer of skin.

Hang on to those receipts if you found them … for evidence.

Pip – How did the ‘kids’ do in the 5K? WOW! Kirby has certainly lost a lot of weight. I hope he hasn’t been sick.

I love the T-shirt and the running shoes on the wrong feet. Just like a fur child.

Prayers for one of my friends who doesn’t live in the same town as I do; they keep doing tests, but so much ‘waffling’ on whether or not she has cancer. She isn’t going to stop smoking and now her attitude is ‘why should I go through chemo or radiation, I’m 71 … I don’t want to go through all that and die anyway in 6 months.

Her hubby is one of those ‘passive-aggressive’ types who does ‘just enough’ to get by. Doesn’t have any contact with oldest daughter, youngest daughter and 2 grandchildren live with them and she is nothing more than a ‘leech’, draining her for all she is worth. Acts ‘ok’ for a while; then, something doesn’t go as she thinks it should and *kitten* all the time. She has NO clue as to what all her mama does for her.

Lenora

Allie - Great answer! Now I won't worry about you anymore! You have it under control. (((Hugs)))



Mary from Minnesota