Just for Today ..... Daily Commitment Thread- Start of a new year!

Thank you @slittlemeister , @cschmitz110515 and @HGSmith0920! I needed to take a mental break so logged in quick to post my goals. Kind of late, but better than nothing.

I came back to find out that 2 of the 3 people who help me with my job and were slated to help me with my projects and the go-live support of them found other jobs while I was off. I am overwhelmed beyond overwhelmed today.

@cschmitz110515 , I cannot tell you how many times I have told my husband I wish I could retire early with severance pay! But I've a few years left before I could even seriously hope for that. I'd have better luck winning the lottery. Haha! I am of the mind lately that the pay is not nearly worth the amount of stress anymore.

@slittlemeister I saw my director in the hall this morning and told her I was feeling a bit overwhelmed. She told me to not worry about it, that everything will be alright. I think I must've looked like a deer caught in headlights. I know she is working hard to get these positions posted and filled as quickly as possible, but it won't be in time for these go-lives. I am literally close to tears. I like your thoughts on how to approach it. I am down to 261 unread emails now, and when I started this morning I was at 364, so that's not too shabby. DELETE, DELETE, DELETE... Tomorrow in our meeting for the first go-live, I am going to find out more about the schedules and dates. then a few hours later, we have a meeting to discuss one of my other really big go-lives, so perhaps I can get things juggled a bit. I have never missed a deadline, and it is making me feel really anxious right now.

Thank you for the advice! I actually needed to hear those words right about now...

OConnell5483 wrote: »

MLHC1 wrote: »

MLHC1 wrote: »

7/3 Monday JFT:

Attend Class✔
Tutoring ✔
Physics HW and online HW (Ch.18)✔
Grocery List and shopping❌
Prep for July 4th Day-Trip❌
Check status on elliptical repair(not ready)✔
DVD workout instead of running (30 min.)❌
Dinner by 8pm✔
Bedtime by midnight ✔

Change of plans!!! My husband just sprung a whole new trip idea on me last minute. Instead of a simple day trip, now we're leaving tonight and coming back Wednesday morning!! I have class Wednesday morning and a final exam this Saturday. I have to review all the physics info from Ch. 1-14 plus teach myself Ch. 15-18 by 8 am Saturday morning I'm totally stressing out!!! I've already ate some cookies to "cope" and now stress is increasing!! I know family is important and I'll have a blast but at what cost will I endure on my Physics grade Sorry to rant on like this but being a full time student plus a wife and mother of three is overwhelming sometimes and I turn to carbs!! This is my struggle.

Feeling blue

How are you doing today? I think you are amazing that you do so much on top of being a mother of 3 and wife! If I were trying to do what you are, I'd be wearing a feedbag full of chocolate, failing all my classes, while curled in a fetal position rocking back and forth in a corner! Take a deep breath! Focus on one step at a time and you'll be fine!!

Awe, thank you for the support!! All day yesterday I did not have cell service bc where we camped. After discussing everything with my husband, we talked through all my stresses and we came to a healthy understanding. So the 4th of July was jam packed. We all enjoyed some family time, went trail riding on our bikes through the canyon trails, then enjoyed some hiking, BBQ and a theater show with fireworks. (I took out my stress on my bicycle while trail riding!!!!) It did turn out to be fun, but it's hard to switch gears so quickly!! Lol, sometimes I feel like "wearing a feedbag full of chocolate, failing all my classes, while curled in a fetal position rocking back and forth in a corner!"

7/5 Wednesday JFT:

Drove back to town✔
Attend classes ✔
Lunch with my husband✔
Cleaned out and organized RV
(Breathe)
Laundry
Dinner by 5pm
Tutoring 6-8pm
Physics Exam Prep (final exam on Saturday Saturday)
Bedtime by midnight


Thank you to everyone for understanding and being so supportive. It's very nice to have such a great support system here in the discussion and on MFP! I hope everyone had a wonderful 4th of July

Reasonable day today!

- Log everything I eat unless friend's dinner is too complex to figure out what to log Apart from the 'thwarted caramel attempts' which were basically solid sugar. Hadn't a clue what to log there....
- No snacks except ryvita, if hungry. NOTHING ELSE. One small biscuit.... at 5pm! It's always around then that I crack...
- Choose sensible portions for dinner
- One water for every alcoholic drink
- 30+ minute lunch break
- Meditate
- Check emails at intervals only
- Work through to-do list sequentially
- Stay calm and positive, it's just a job!
- Actually work on the train in a.m.
- Leave work by 7 ABSOLUTE LATEST 7.10

Last day in the office before op tomorrow! Commitments are:

- Log everything I eat
- No snacks except ryvita, if hungry. NOTHING ELSE.
- NO ALCOHOL
- Be in the green

- 30+ minute lunch break
- Meditate

- Actually work on the train in a.m.
- Check emails at intervals only
- Work through to-do list sequentially
- Stay calm and positive, it's just a job!
- Leave work by 6.30 latest

@OConnell5483 That is rubbish news to come back to, hope it gets sorted out soon. That sounds like a very good reason for having to re-negotiate deadlines to me I've never missed a deadline either but mainly because I tell people in advance that it HAS to move because I won't be able to make it.

Sometimes this leads to a bit of a stand-off - 'the deadline can't move'... 'well it can't be met so you might as well move it'... 'it can't move'.... 'well I'm telling you now it won't be met so you might as well manage people's expectations now rather than apologise later'... (slightly politer than this) I'm fairly stubborn so tend to get there in the end...

It does depend on the people you work with though, some are easier than others to negotiate with. Your director sounds nice... though if my director said 'it'll be all right' I'd probably ask (politely) if they'd be prepared to help out to actually make it happen? Or hire a contractor temporarily to make it happen?

(It really p$sses me off when people tell me things will be fine without contributing anything to make them fine. Or tell me 'don't stay too late' whilst heading home without volunteering to give me a hand).

Remember though, above all.... it's just a job! (Remembering that is one of my daily goals now). I'm pretty sure your family - and health - are more important to you. Try to focus on other aspects of your life if you can - that might help you get less bothered by work!

(I see you're meditating too. That's also good. I find that reduces the intensity of negative emotions a lot - I recommend!)

OConnell5483 wrote: »

Tomorrow in our meeting for the first go-live, I am going to find out more about the schedules and dates. then a few hours later, we have a meeting to discuss one of my other really big go-lives, so perhaps I can get things juggled a bit. I have never missed a deadline, and it is making me feel really anxious right now.

My suggestions, if I may.... with looming deadlines it's time for critical thinking and time to focus on the main objective: the must haves (i.e. not the nice-to-haves) to get the job done. There'll probably be a myriad of things (noise) that will try to take your attention but it's just that "noise". If you can visualize yourself rising above it as if you're on the mountain top looking straight ahead at the goal rather than down in the valley with all the details/noise, it may help you stay above it all and only do what's necessary (critical). Take care of the big stuff and don't forget to take deep breaths!

MLHC1 wrote: »

7/5 Wednesday JFT:

Drove back to town✔
Attend classes ✔
Lunch with my husband✔
Cleaned out and organized RV✔
(Breathe)✔✔
Laundry✔
Dinner by 5pm➡️8pm
Tutoring 6-8pm✔
Physics Exam Prep (final exam on Saturday )✔
Bedtime by midnight ✔

Lots of entries to catch up on this week; this site is such a blessing--feeling the support from everyone, and a commitment to keep logging in, updating,etc. Reading everyone's news is fun, too. Hoping everyone had a fabulous fourth. Our town had great fireworks on Tuesday night, complete with patriotic music---it seems the whole town turned out and it was a fun, orderly gathering-- .
Good news on the weight loss goal---lost four pounds--however, the method was less than pleasant. After a wonderful birding expedition to Colorado, I came home and promptly picked up a stomach virus that lasted for five days--ugh--no food would stay down, felt weak, achy, but I did lose four pounds, and have kept it off so far. Yahoo!
Just for today:
Log all food
Keep hydrated
Locate music for violin soloist
Get groceries
Straighten the house
Practice an hour or more
Walk--25 minutes
PS: Tried to include a picture of me, but it posted sideways--any ideas why?

Well, yesterday's damage wasn't too bad and am back on track today with a healthy balanced breaky.
So Just for today...

Log log log everything!
Do do do more steps!
Drink drink drink water!
Eat eat eat but only the good stuff!

Have fun in all that you do today, and remember "We were born to be real, not to be perfect"

Just for Wednesday, 7/5
1. Get up early and try to make it a habit to go into work earlier than I used to. Done. Now if I can make it a habit to leave earlier too!
2. Eat only what I packed and pre-logged. Was doing great until husband brought me a piece of apple pie after dinner.
3. Hydrate. At least 64 oz Very close
4. Take 15 minutes in morning to sip a cup of coffee and plan tasks for the day This was awesome. This needs to become a habit!
5. Get up and walk away from desk if feeling overwhelmed. Not only did I walk away from desk, I got in car and went for a quick ride.
6. Only work 8 hours. No working at home either. No more living to work. I work to live...not the other way around. Close...closer than I have in a long time anyway. Counting as a win because I didn't work at home!
7. Clean off paperwork all over desk at work. Clutter-free work zone. Started it. I have piles of it all over that people dropped on my desk while I was gone.
8. Relax and ice knee when I get home. Don't overdo it. Sore!
9. Unplug one hour before bed and try to be sleeping by 10:00 tonight. Counting as a win since I did unplug at 9:00 and read a book until my eyes shut.
10. Gratitude journal, listen to podcast or online meditation. Do PT exercises. (Mind, body and soul) Yup, Yup and yup!

Well, I got through day 1 yesterday. Glad it is a short week for me. I asked my boss how we were going to get through this (skeleton crew) for the two projects going live simultaneously in two separate states. I thought she had a plan since she told me not to worry. Well, her answer was that she doesn't know yet, but she is trying to remain calm so that I remain calm. If I don't hear anything by tomorrow, I will need to set up an appointment to meet 1:1 with her and discuss bringing in contracted help. No other choice. I cannot be in two states at once. It's impossible even if I wanted to.

I really need to learn not to take it out on my dog and husband when I get home feeling crabby and overwhelmed. Adding it to today's goals.

I did bring some of my personal items and papers home with me last night. I'm slowly going to start bringing home any personal items I would want to take with me if I left this job. Not saying I'm leaving. I've been here 24 years!
But I want to be prepared for anything. It has been decided not to push any of the projects back...instead we are extending them and making them larger. Adding more locations to the go-lives in our Western Division. I am speechless and cannot even talk about it without feeling like my eyes are going to tear up on me. So, I am going to follow the advice that you wonderful people have given and try to remember, it's just a job!

Just for Today, 7/6
1. Make healthy food choices
2. Log every bite
3. Hydrate 64 oz
4. Focus on one project at a time, one task at a time
5. Turn off email notifications and check them randomly between meetings/tasks
6. Take a walk when I feel anxious or stress creeping in. Only SCREAM in my head...no screaming out loud.
7. Get up early again and find "coffee me-time" before I come to work. Done. I love this.
8. Continue to declutter my desk at work and pack more personal items in my laptop bag to bring home. Leave laptop here. No working at home tonight.
9. Body, Mind & Soul: Find 3 separate moments to address each...read, gratitude journal, meditate, podcasts, bubble bath, gym....pick three!
10. Unplug one hour early and go to bed by 10:00 so I can get up early again tomorrow.
11. Oh yeah...almost forgot! I will not take it out on my husband or dog if I go home ready to kick someone in the shin.

asclepsia wrote: »

Lots of entries to catch up on this week; this site is such a blessing--feeling the support from everyone, and a commitment to keep logging in, updating,etc. Reading everyone's news is fun, too. Hoping everyone had a fabulous fourth. Our town had great fireworks on Tuesday night, complete with patriotic music---it seems the whole town turned out and it was a fun, orderly gathering-- .
Good news on the weight loss goal---lost four pounds--however, the method was less than pleasant. After a wonderful birding expedition to Colorado, I came home and promptly picked up a stomach virus that lasted for five days--ugh--no food would stay down, felt weak, achy, but I did lose four pounds, and have kept it off so far. Yahoo!
Just for today:
Log all food
Keep hydrated
Locate music for violin soloist
Get groceries
Straighten the house
Practice an hour or more
Walk--25 minutes
PS: Tried to include a picture of me, but it posted sideways--any ideas why?

HGSmith0920 wrote: »

So onto my goals for 6/6/17:

1. Log all that I eat
2. Stay in green
3. Keep till balanced
4. Ask for help if I need it
5. Don't eat until 12pm 11:55 am
6. Drink at least 64oz of water Closer to 124oz actually
7. Get to appointment on time
8. Make list if of questions for the doc Didnt need them anyway since I had all the questions answered that I needed. Lol
11. Yummy healthy dinner A custom salad from Wawa...very yummy but high in sodium
12. Wind down by 930pm
13. Lights out by 1030

Good morning all! What a wonderful day today is! Lol. I'm in a great mood this morning.

I currently have a cat in my lap as well as a laptop so he's making it very hard to type! Lol.

Yesterday was a great day! I started intermitting fasting yesterday which in layman's terms means that I only eat from 12 pm until 8pm. So pretty much I dont eat anything in the morning or in the middle of the night. I can drink no calorie things though. So I've switched out my morning coffee that's laden with milk and sugar for a cup of super tasty tea. It wasn't as hard as I thought it was going to be. so that was nice. I dont usually eat breakfast anyway so it wasn't much pf a change. Lol. But today is actually a Friday for me! I have the whole weekend off! That never happens! I've worked all but one Saturday since I started and that one I requested off! Lol! But anyway, on to my goals!

Just for Today, 7/7/17

1. Log all that I eat
2. Stay in green
3. Dont eat before 12 pm
4. Keep till balanced
5. Ask for help if I need it
6. Meal plan
7. Go shopping on my way home from work
8. Eat sensible dinner
9. Wind down by 10:30
10. Bed by 11:30

Have a great day everyone!

Recap 7/6 R
1) After 2 snooze alarms, got up & walked dog 3.02 miles before work; heat & humidity not horrible yet = happy dog
2) Keep net calories w/i 100 of green = Yay green!
3) Evening, make recipes with fresh strawberries & blueberries, find zucchini recipes = First had to stop at 2 stores after work to pick up several ingredients, then put gas in car so I didn't coast home on fumes. Made strawberry muffins and Red White & Blue Trifle. Sharing trifle at work today, and left a smaller bowlful at home for hubby. Found 3-4 of my favorite zucchini recipes to make later. Washed dishes as I went. Started recipes later than I wanted, done at last at 9:45.
4) Unwind 9:30 / bedtime 10:15 & TV off = Finally sat down to relax / eat strawberry muffin (see #3). In bed / TV off 10:30.

JFT 7/7 TGIF - Had a few frustrations at work this week, plus deal with LPGA tournament traffic to / from work and lunch. Glad it's almost the weekend!
1) Keep net calories w/i 100 of green
2) Have been slacking a little on water, so drink up!
3) Meditate in afternoon
4) Not too late to bed, want to be at farmers market by 7:30 a.m.