WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2017

Joyce: Although I don't know you, I have some advice. If your Vet does in fact declaw your cat, find a new Vet because any Vet that will do it now days should have his license revoked. It's not really a matter of removing the cat's "claw"s, they remove all the cat's finger's up to the first knuckle joint. How would you fair in life if someone removed the front thirds of your fingers? This is very painful and torturous. Why not just clip the cat's claws short and keep them that way. Training goes a long ways.

NYKaren: It sounds like glass half full, glass half empty. I think it is flattering. Obviously there are two excellent candidates and each of you is good enough that they could not bear to lose you. I think I would say yes, but be sure that the contract you sign gives you full control. It is a hard decision.

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klanders30 wrote: »

Morning, happy Friday.

Well the orchestra committee called me, but not with the result I expected. They didn't reject me and they didn't hire me out right for the conductin gig! They are on the fence and unable to choose between me and one other guy--right??!

That sounds really unprofessional yes??

so they've asked if I would be willing to conduct half the season and he would do the other half season. I was quite flustered on the phone call and mumbled a few questions, kinda sounded like I still wanted the job but they would have some details to work out! Couldn't sleep last night, DH and DD think it's not worth the trouble. I feel I have don't have the committee's full confidence and would be micromanaged/under a microscope for the whole time I worked there. Chime in please! I don't need the money, I wanted the experience as a potential side gig I could continue for many years to come in retirement. I feel like the runner up---second fiddle (pun intended) and am leaning on saying thanks but no thanks. I'm waiting for the weekend to stew on it and talk with another colleague. Also, who knows, the other candidate might say no and then it's all mine (but without their 100% backing). Yuck, not easy. So I'm hanging on Eleanor's words again "no one can Make you feel inferior without your consent"

I am going for a long hot walk to the gym this morning to push through the stress.

NYKAREN

NYKAREN
My take on this...If you couldn't sleep, I think this must be pretty important to you. You don't need the money, so that isn't an issue. You want the experience, which you can still get from a half-time gig...one question I would ask is: will you offer next year's contract to just one of us; in other words, are we both still proving ourselves with this half-and-half arrangement? That could be a lot of pressure, or could be construed as a challenge. I would think that both conductors would be under the microscope for the first season, anyway, with such an arrangement.

I do not think that your feelings of 'runner up' are founded. It's a tie for first place, or they would have offered it to the other guy. And I do not think that the committee's confidence is lacking, for the same reason.

If it were me, and I thought I could stand to be compared to the other conductor (and vice versa) for the first season, I might just take the challenge. I have come to realize through bits and pieces of gleaned information from various posts that you are quite talented, but not wholly confident, despite your amazing skill set. If you might relish the challenge, go for it. If it will just make you miserable, decline.

(((Hugs)))

Karen in Virginia

NY Karen, my take on this is to think about the kids. Will they do well with two different people trying to do the same job. Now if one is doing one part of the season and another do the rest of the season, that would be difficult for them.

Kelly, what do you think you think you will do with the two families of you don't get the payment?

It's on the previous page so I can't remember your name. But we did go ahead and declaw our kitten. We did our research and I was totally aware of what the procedure was. Our vets office has one vet who does all the declawing and is very efficient in it. She had an immediate connection with my kitten. He purred with this vet and he had never purred with our vet at all. She does very tiny incisions and then laser is used right after the procedure and the next morning. He was on pain medicine for 3 days and you can't tell he ever had any surgery at all now. He is his usual living, very playful, full of kitten antics that he was before. I thank you for th king of me though.

It is so hot out side. Heat index around 110.

Going to our women's conference with my sister and brothers wife tonight and tomorrow morning.

Joyce, indiana

Michele – I’ve heard a lot of people taking the flowers and sending them to nursing homes or hospice patients and that is a good idea. Since I love houseplants, I probably would not send them.

As a pre-teen and teenager, we’d have séances at spend the night parties; and, I was always the one ‘who called on the spirits’. We were sitting out on the front lawn of one of my friend’s (who was the birthday girl). I had invited a ‘new’ girl in school to the party, too (since she was already going to be spending the night with me. We decided we’ll call up JKF. Well, this girl started moaning and groaning and talking funny, so we kept on to see what she’d say. Then I ended it with the snap of my fingers. Everybody looked around the circle and she still had her eyes closed and got louder and louder. Faye rain into the house in ‘hysterics’ and her Daddy came out stripping his belt out of his pants and swinging it. We all scattered so we would not get hit with it. Kathy stayed seated on the ground. He went over and popped her on her cheek and she ‘woke’ up wondering what was going on.

About a year ago, we were laughing about some of our memories from school and she ‘admitted’ to ‘acting out, because she did not want to get spanked’. So what is worse? Getting slapped, or being chased?

Taylor was ‘upset’ when she had to make her own ‘appointment’ with a new MD up in Carrolton. She was so worried about what questions they’d ask. I told her that usually before the first visit they will send her paperwork to fill out and bring with her to the appointment. She needed to show up 15 – 20 minutes early so they could make sure they had no questions. I gave her as much ‘family medical history’ as I could; but, couldn’t go back past Louis’ Dad’s generation because Little Grannie met him after she had “Granddaddy”; but, gave her what I knew about what would have been ‘her’ history. Did the same for his mother as well as my parents and sisters.

She’s looked her symptoms up on Google and has decided that it is more than likely something to do with her ‘thyroid’ … that maybe she is ‘hypo-thyroid’ because of her symptoms. I told her that she needed to ‘stop’ trying to come up with a diagnosis and just be honest when they ask her questions; and, write down the questions she had for them. I know when I go to my GP with a list of questions, he answers all of them; but, only after he has read over them because I am all over the place when the thought hits my brain.
I agree with Joyce about ‘eloping’ on a trip. Whoops, was the wedding this weekend? We did not get a formal invitation from the ‘new’ mother of the bride (MnL), so we did not know if you had changed the date or not since you’ve changed everything else.

My DDnL#1 used to tell me ‘oh, I got that at Goodwill for XXX $$$’. Well, if it fits me and I like it great; but, if it doesn’t she’s wasted her money and all I can do with it is to donate it again. I’ve found a lot of things there with the original tickets on them. I also went to the 2nd-hand store and bought 3 pair of shorts. Only paid for 3 what I would have paid for 1 pair at Belk’s. I think the ‘gently used 2nd-hand stores have better things, might be a little more expensive than Goodwill; but, you rarely have to worry about stains and such.


Dana – I know this is ‘only’ a story; but, as the story goes, a family had taken their granny on vacation to the mountains and had a canoe on top of the car, as well. While on vacation, Granny dies, they have her embalmed and put her body inside the canoe and wrapped a tarp around it. They stopped for lunch and while there the car gets stolen. They call the police and give them a description of the car and tag number. When they asked if there was anything else that would narrow down the search, they added, ‘oh, yeah, we had a canoe strapped on the top’. Police told them, even ‘if’ they found the car, they’d probably never see the canoe again. The man said, ‘well, guess they will be surprised when they take it down to find our dearly departed Mother inside it. He was ‘too cheap’ to have her body sent home when she died.

The younger sister of a friend of mine who was married to a boy in our classs went on a family vacation and her husband died during that time. I don’t know what all she had to do to get his body back home. He had a ‘widow maker’ heart attack. He had 3 brothers and 1 sister and all of them have died from heart related issues.

I had to deal with mealy bugs on one of my plants a few weeks ago, yesterday, I had to repeat it. So far, none of the others have them. Thankfully; but, if I have not gotten rid of them, the next thing that will happen is that I will take it outside and turn it on its side and soak it good with a good soapy solution. I’ll need to wash the windows; but, since Windows World is coming out next Wednesday; I won’t do it until then.

Joyce – I had a church wedding, My 2 sisters were my attendant; Louis had his Dad as his Best Man, and 2 or 3 others as groomsmen (or ushers). The dress was actually my Senior prom dress and Mother made a lace and pearl over long vest (open in front) to go with it. Juliette cap to match and Chantilly Lace on the bottom of the veil.

Leigh – When our DYS got married, he and his brother and the other groom wore lien light tan pants with suspenders, and opened collars. Hot as all get out – little church not A/C’d; but had thick walls so it was still cooler than it was outside; it also had no bathroom.


NYKaren – Go with your gut … if you feel like 2nd fiddle – they are trying to figure out which one of you are more suitable for the job, and can’t make that decision. IF you don’t need the money, than maybe it is best to pull out. So, ‘if’ the other one pulls out, they will be ‘in a fix’; but, that is their issue and it might serve them right not to get either of you. Maybe something is out there that you will have more fun doing than working on Sundays (several hours, I assume) which will mess up every weekend).


Jenny – We have to keep “Cracker’s” left front paws on her foot clipped way back, as she has been involved with 4 different accidents that affected her left foot, so her nails grow funny, two sideways, one up and one down. Louis asked about removing them; but, he said ‘no, because they would create other problems. Explained that he would basically have to take them inner two nails and cut them back to first job, said it would be painful and since the 2 middle toes are what she puts her weight on for balance. We just have to clip then as short as we can. Thankfully, she has white nails and we know how far back we can cut them. I got upset with Louis because he cut one too far and it bled. Now all 4 feet need to be done. She gets so excited when he comes home and wants to play and she scratched him with her good foot.

Our ‘outside’ cat has all his claws; and, about the only time he scratches us if we are outside on the swing and his is laying down on the deck underfoot. He thinks it is a game; but, if we tell him ‘no’ or ‘stop’ he does. He loves being loved on and runs to the door every time we open it if he is not roaming around. I’d never declaw him because he needs the front one to protect himself, if it only to climb up a tree. He runs and jumps on a tree about 8’ off the ground and runs up as far as he can. Then he backs back down when he feels like it and then drops to the ground with a ‘thud’. As much as he wants he sharpens them on the telephone separating the yard from the asphalt driveway. But, he does use his claws when he is ‘kneading biscuits’ on us which he also enjoys. He and Cracker both ride in the car well, so going to the vet is no real problem. Tux use to walk all over the place and ‘yowl’; but, he has stopped that.

Heather – Is ‘throwing spanner in the works’ like ‘throwing a monkey wrench’ into your plans? Known as ‘trying to change things to suit their needs – quite often because plans don’t suit their schedule’? Is the ‘difficult’ friend married? Are husbands coming along on the trip?

Machka – Louis love elephant ears; because they remind him so much of Beignets (like in NOLA) at Café du Monde; but, doesn’t understand that they get tough if you try to bring them home and unlike donuts, trying to ‘microwave’ them to warm them up isn’t the same thing. We’ve even bought a box of their mixture; but, it just isn’t the same (or else I can’t cook).


Katla – If I haven’t told you, “Happy Birthday”; if I have, then “Happy Birthday” again.
Yeah, it is a sweet treat, fried donuts taking mixture pushed into a cake decorating bag into hot grease, drained, and covered with powdered sugar. Really good ‘hot’ and I know they ‘take ALL the calories out, too’.

My DOS and DDnL#1 have a “L” shaped sectional that includes 4 recliners. I was the one to let them in; and, it seemed really big; they have built-in bookshelves around the fireplace and all they can get in there is the table they have their TV. It’s a nice table (part of a dining room hutch). Jenn decided she wanted husband to paint the room and she’d pick out an accent wall. He painted it an light kaki beige; and, then she came back in and painted the long wall behind their TV the most gosh awful lime dayglow green. At the time, they could not afford to repaint it and I told her that I would help her when she did do it. Trey thinks a better color that would not be ‘so in your face’ would be a nice ‘hunting suit green’ … sort of an olive drab. He tried to get it mixed with a darker color; but, that did not make it any better. Trey told her NOT to buy any more paint for the house without running it past him (using a paint swatch book).

NYKaren – You said it meant Sunday practices and 3 recitals; so who gets the edge on the 2nd recital? Is it Sundays prior to the recital? Is it just during the school year?

Maybe get some CD’s of orchestra music and practice your conducting skills on a ‘make believe’ to you symphony. At what point, do you point to a certain section because they are being ‘highlights’? Or when the cymbals are clanged, or for a certain solo.


KJ – Do you ‘have’ to take children of parents that are dependent on the State to pay their child-care?


Welcome to all the ‘newbies’ … come often and jump right in when you feel like it.

Lenora