Deleting friends

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  • 1nsands
    1nsands Posts: 27
    To me, it depends... are you actually "friends" with them... or did you just accept them as an MFP friend, just cuz? Have you actually interacted with them on purpose? Why did you become their friend? If you don't really know the person, they will probably not realize you deleted them, even if they log on every single day. I'm a big fan of delete!

    DO IT!
  • pumpkinmoccasin
    pumpkinmoccasin Posts: 316
    I don't think it's mean at all. You have to do what's going to motivate you. I delete friends here and facebook, because I don't had them for the purpose of numbers. If there is no interaction then I delete them. I do make exceptions if I know something is going on, or whatever, but if I know that then it means there has been communication.

    This is also my attitude towards MFP & Facebook. Quality over quantity. I don't think you need to justify to anyone why you decide not to be their friend and chances are they won't ask you or even notice that you removed them. If they do just tell it to them straight and it's their own business if they take it personally or not.
  • TK421NotAtPost
    TK421NotAtPost Posts: 512 Member
    Normally I never delete, but I HAD to delete one person because he was following my posts around and whenever I said anything about protein, he would respond by putting up videos on the evils of meat consumption or other anti-meat material. I gave him a lot of chances to give it a rest, but enough was enough.

    It wasn't a vegan issue because I love Vegans and appreciate the benefits of being vegan. It was more of a 'stop getting up in my face' issue.
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    I have. It's not my thing. People ask me questions and I feel bad but I just answer and then delete.
  • mandeiko
    mandeiko Posts: 1,657 Member
    I delete people after being friends with them for weeks and they don't communicate with me. I reach out to all my MFP friends, and I love my tight little family I got... But sometimes it's frustrating when I just have another name on my list and they don't try to support me and others.

    Edit: I also delete people on FB I haven't talked to in ages.
  • godblessourhome
    godblessourhome Posts: 3,892 Member
    Every couple of weeks I delete anybody that hasn't logged in 20+ days.

    same here. :) it clears up my friends list so i can find the people i want to find instead of it being cluttered with people that aren't even logging in. if they used to be active, i sometimes write a note letting them know they can friend me again when they come back.

    i will also delete people that i don't have much in common with when i start getting close to 250 friends. i can interact better when i have fewer people to interact with.

    by the way, if you decide against deleting them, you can 'hide' them from your newsfeed.
  • mommared53
    mommared53 Posts: 9,543 Member
    I just recently cleaned out my friends list a little bit. I deleted anyone who hasn't logged in for 24 months or more. I figure they won't notice anyway.
  • IDoIt73
    IDoIt73 Posts: 22 Member
    I really don't delete friends... i mostly keep the friends to a minimum.. who cares if u don't make comments on my posts or give me support because i'm the one making this happen!!!!!
  • bakebunny
    bakebunny Posts: 253
    On the other side of the coin, perhaps the 'friends' are busy having a life and dealing with their own issues and while they offer support when they can, they could also be the one that doesn't just want to type WTG on every positive post just so people know they are there.
    As it's been said, everyone is having their own journey towards their fitness goals and each one needs to do what they have to to manage that.
  • sharamia
    sharamia Posts: 34 Member
    I was one of those people once. Yeah my friends were gone when I came back. That made me feel like *kitten*. What's the harm in leaving them in your friends? Look how great it will be for both of you if they come back.
    One time I had a friend who didn't log in for a few weeks and it was bc she had a family emergency! And right as she's trying to get back on the wagon, she logs into MFP and all her friends have deleted her. I don't see the point of deleting. If they're not logging in, you don't have to comment on their stuff, there's nothing to comment on!
  • sunkisses
    sunkisses Posts: 2,365 Member
    If I were ever deleted, I would probably never notice. Let's hope your friends are equally oblivious.
  • BAMA66
    BAMA66 Posts: 240
    Every now and then, I'll delete someone who has been MIA for 2+ months. More often than not, I'm the one getting deleted. XD

    That's awesome :laugh:
  • BAMA66
    BAMA66 Posts: 240
    I have never deleted but I haven't been on that long yet. I wouldn't think it was rude and like I saw from a few others they probably wouldn't notice. I have probably been deleted and haven't noticed.
  • Ajontheguitar
    Ajontheguitar Posts: 695
    If I were ever deleted, I would probably never notice. Let's hope your friends are equally oblivious.

    Because like alcohol: if I didn't know about it or don't remember--it didn't happen
  • njean888
    njean888 Posts: 399 Member
    I do not delete people for not logging in, I delete them for being annoying.
  • chefchazz
    chefchazz Posts: 427 Member
    funny.....someone who replied to this post stating "being supportive", was deleted from my list for NEVER saying a word to me after friending me.
  • odie02
    odie02 Posts: 65 Member
    Interesting post, as I just discovered over night that I have lost some of my friends on here. At least one person is someone I actually know and was very surprised to find I was deleted. I was very sad and hurt. No reason given.

    Most people on here are not "friends" in real life, so I doubt it would be too big of a deal... it isn't really "personal".

    I haven't been on too long, and only had to delete 1 person because they were rude and annoying and talked about some things that made me very uncomfortable.
  • albinogorilla
    albinogorilla Posts: 1,056 Member
    I am on here all the time, with the app, and logging food. So to me, if somone is on this site, but not logging their food everyday, then they aren't really "ON" the site, and i remove them, i drop them if not on here for over a week i would say
  • JodieLBradbury
    JodieLBradbury Posts: 38 Member
    I wont delete people just because they haven't logged in or lost weight and I don't judge people on what food they eat so I wont delete someone just becasue of what they are eating either. I do delete people who fill up my timeline with stupid comments, it's not Facebook, quit posting jokes and ****!
  • Danahimself
    Danahimself Posts: 279 Member
    funny.....someone who replied to this post stating "being supportive", was deleted from my list for NEVER saying a word to me after friending me.

    Yeah and with that read I think its time for me to trim such people from the friends list as well! Maybe they aren't used to mixing with different folks I guess...
  • mamagooskie
    mamagooskie Posts: 2,964 Member
    I delete almost everyone that misses 10 days or more logging in.....unless I know they went on vacation or some other situation or they have been long time MFP friends.

    I try to be lenient but I really just want the people who are here seriously to be my friends.
  • anna_b1
    anna_b1 Posts: 588 Member
    If it's your friend's list or your journey, you have every right to surround yourself with people who you feel will support you best.

    I never deleted people until very recently. Now I delete those who go M.I.A without an explanation for over 3 weeks or those who don't support me back. I spend a lot of time on here and go to a lot of effort to comment on people's progress at least once a week. If someone can't be bothered to ever comment to me, then it's rather one-sided and doesn't really benefit me.

    (OK that may sound selfish, but it's what works for me. Having said that, my friends are awesome and I'd be nowhere on this journey without their support. oxox)
  • TS65
    TS65 Posts: 1,024 Member
    I think here, just like in life, you need to choose your friends wisely. Those that aren't around or who have different values than you can be weeded out. I've done it. Be choosey, there's nothing wrong with it.

    People don't have to say anything in my feeds. I'm fine with that (they may need my support). It's those that don't check in for a long time or aren't doing this in a healthy manner who end up getting deleted most often - I'm not o.k. with that!
  • boomboom011
    boomboom011 Posts: 1,459
    honestly delete who you want for whatever reason you want. its your profile. its not that big of a deal really. if they send you a message and ask just be honest.

    If someone gets their feelings hurt then thats their problem. you are not responsible for someone else's feelings unless you intentionally try to hurt someone. IMHO
  • bmmadden
    bmmadden Posts: 499 Member
    On my profile I have it saying that after about 30days of not logging in I will delete, However I have a few people on there I know personally that dont log on but I will not delete them, anyways if their having a hard time I dont fault them and if they dont necessarily comment me alot I dont fault them either because I know people can be busy and may not be able to compliment everyone, basically I only delete after a period of not logging in
  • LeanerBeef
    LeanerBeef Posts: 1,432 Member
    I don't think it's mean to delete someone for whatever reason it is that you decide to do so. I think we all really enjoy the social interaction and support - both giving and recieving, on the site but at the end of the day, each one us is on our own personal quest to fitness.

    I have a great network of friends on here that really help keep me motivated. I've deleted people for various reasons, some completely ridiculous reasons. I deleted one guy because he reminded of someone that I used to work with and I had utter dislike for the person - sorry man. I'm sure I've been deleted for some crazy reasons as well.

    If I delete you don't take it personal. :laugh:

    Anyone wanna be friends???? :happy:
  • Countrymade
    Countrymade Posts: 183 Member
    I have been logging every day since starting MFP and also losing weight pretty steady. The very first friend I had on here deleted me after one day. . I was kind of hurt because I didn't understand why. I guess that is why I have never deleted anyone yet but I have a few friends that haven't logged on it quite some time.
  • achampionsheart
    achampionsheart Posts: 1,020 Member
    I don't think it's mean to delete someone for whatever reason it is that you decide to do so. I think we all really enjoy the social interaction and support - both giving and recieving, on the site but at the end of the day, each one us is on our own personal quest to fitness.

    I have a great network of friends on here that really help keep me motivated. I've deleted people for various reasons, some completely ridiculous reasons. I deleted one guy because he reminded of someone that I used to work with and I had utter dislike for the person - sorry man. I'm sure I've been deleted for some crazy reasons as well.

    If I delete you don't take it personal. :laugh:

    Anyone wanna be friends???? :happy:

    IM YOUR FRIEND.....=).....
  • achampionsheart
    achampionsheart Posts: 1,020 Member
    i deleted about 20-30 friends the other day because i comment on their stuff and never get a response....if i take the time to comment or offer encouragement and support then i would like the same in return....this is a support system, and we are all adults but i want serious people that are goin to support me as well.....it's the first time in 105 days that ive ever thought of deleting anyone....
  • Athena413
    Athena413 Posts: 1,709 Member
    Do any of you ever delete friends on here? I'm considering deleting a few who hardly ever log in, aren't actively losing weight, and just generally are not supportive. What do you think? Is this mean?

    I periodically go through my friends and delete the ones that haven't logged on in a long time or that I never talk to/never talk to me. I don't see the point in having people on your friends' list if you don't interact with them.
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