WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2017

janetr7476 wrote: »

Michele fhe rhinestones on the upper left side along the red beads are not straight and the pearl tear drop bead on the right side is higher than the one on the left. I did fix it this morning. Lol

Thanks for your kind words.

Janetr okc

I wouldn't have known if you hadn't told me!

M

M in Oz: I hope you fix your sleep issue. I sometimes have sleep issues as the dark of winter shifts to longer days. Could that be a factor for you? :huh:

Terry in VT: Here is a link regarding DMSO that should help out. In the process of looking for this I discovered I can buy more from Amazon when/if needed, so thank you for asking about it.
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Joyce & Barbie: I agree that an attitude of happiness and grattitude is a choice. Everyone has challenges and bad things happen in all of our lives from time to time. I set a "have fun every day" goal to remind me to appreciate my life and look for the good things.


Yoga today!!! Yay!!! I am looking forward to it because this is my favotie teacher's day. It reminds me that I have an ethical dilemma. I mentioned that one of the yoga teachers invited the class to come to her home rather than the fitness club for Wednesday am classes. She said the cost out of pocket per class would be the same but the profit to her would be improved by teaching at home and daycare would be easier for her. Two of us in that session have gym memberships paid for through our health insurance and were not interested. One person seemed to plan to take her up on the offer. DH thinks I should tell the owner of the gym about this as it can impact his bottom line. What do you think?

Katla in beautiful NW Oregon


Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!" -Audrey Hepburn

Katla49 wrote: »

M in Oz: I hope you fix your sleep issue. I sometimes have sleep issues as the dark of winter shifts to longer days. Could that be a factor for you? :huh:

Not sure ...

I have been going to bed slightly earlier than usual, but after dark. Our bedroom is dark ... good solid curtains. It's still just as chilly as it is in winter (we're getting snow down to 200 metres tonight. ). I'm sleeping like a log ... right through my first alarm and everything. And I fall asleep immediately. My head hits the pillow, I think to myself, "What cardigan/boots/jewellery will I wear with the outfit I chose?" ... and that's it, I'm out. I wake up in the morning realising I never did make a wardrobe decision because I fell asleep the moment I thought about the question.

But somehow, I wake up feeling like I've had about 4 hours of sleep instead of 7.

So many interesting posts.
Mary- the addition of two new baby boys to your family is such a blessing. Glad Rowan is doing well and at home. I thnk Brady looks like his Dad.
Wendy - we were fortunate to visit New Zealand and loved it. Saw some of the most beautiful trees and flowers I have ever seen. Love your pictures and I think your horse is pretty dressed up also.
Pip- looks like your dog can talk. Lol
Got to get moving. Going to Gallery Night in our d elopement then out to dinner after. I think I will be the only Girl that isn't a widower or divorcee.
Hav a wonderful weekend.
SueBDew

Katla49 wrote: »

Yoga today!!! Yay!!! I am looking forward to it because this is my favotie teacher's day. It reminds me that I have an ethical dilemma. I mentioned that one of the yoga teachers invited the class to come to her home rather than the fitness club for Wednesday am classes. She said the cost out of pocket per class would be the same but the profit to her would be improved by teaching at home and daycare would be easier for her. Two of us in that session have gym memberships paid for through our health insurance and were not interested. One person seemed to plan to take her up on the offer. DH thinks I should tell the owner of the gym about this as it can impact his bottom line. What do you think?

Katla in beautiful NW Oregon

I'm sympathetic to her plight, but it doesn't seem completely ethical. That wouldn't work for me either because my gym membership includes the classes. I'm not sure many people pay per class, although I have seen a couple people in the past months who seemed to have punch cards.

I love yoga so much. I used my yoga breathing techniques during my shot yesterday. It really helped me work through the pain.

Felicia
Willamette Valley, Oregon

Mary – He’s so tiny. But, he’s so ‘cute’.

Wendy – Louis is a workaholic; but, very ‘tender’. To me, what’s fun, is watching the interaction between Will and Tami (and Mallory) … still like newlyweds; but, at the same time grieving the miscarriage of a baby they had tried so had to have. IF they decide to try this IVF again, back to square one. I’ve thought about writing my memoirs. Actually did it for a while; but, when I would take a notebook for the psychologist to read before my ‘next’ visit … when I stopped going, she tried to say they were her ‘work processes. She had already violated my patient rights by telling my Mother something I had specifically told her not to; but, she did. My boss got them back for me. I kept them at the office – then in a fit of ‘whatever’ … I shredded them. But, after being admitted into the hospital so my medications (all of them) to be ‘tweaked’ … I would not say anything in group; but, once I got home, wrote my grief counselor a 32-letter, singled spaced. He gave it to my PsycheMD … which is really what I wanted him to do. I think it has saved us a LOT of hours talking. My mantra is “God will not walk you to something that HE won’t walk you through it.” Of course, I have a ‘lot’ of mantras (and they are not always the same). Depending on my mood. They swing; but, only right before I got admitted that time was the ‘only’ time I had broken through what I call the glass pond into depression. I can’t deal with that again. I told him that being “textbook therapeutic” insofar as my numbers … would not work for me, I prefer to stay one step towards the ‘manic’ side of my manic-depression. I feel better and he agreed with it. I read a book about how life is full of climbing up hills and seeing a ‘higher one’; but you had to go down into the valley to get to the path to climb up it. I like to be where I can go to the sea or mountains and living where I do now (and especially where I grew up) I can/could do that. I’m learning to choose ME. That came about after I became Lithium Toxic and almost died. I find I’m best when I feel good and want to draw and paint. Right now, I ‘feel’ good; but, haven’t gotten into the mood to draw and paint. It’ll come; but, I can’t be pushed to do it. I try not to deal with the ‘drama’ that sometimes my son and his wife (next door) attempt to lay at my door step. I stopped paying for a portion of tuition (after they filed for bankruptcy) because I just was NOT going to end up with less ‘spendable income’ than they had after going through it. I even asked my youngest son to pay off the last $2500 of college loans that I had been paying on for nearly 15 years and that was not a problem. He paid it off before they gave due the next month. I love my 2 boys ‘equally; but, differently’ because they are ‘polar opposites.

When I read them … long after I stopped going to anyone … I learned just ‘how far I had come’. Talking about being bipolar (yes, having a mental illness) to me, is important, because without doing so … it stays ‘in the closet where people tend to be in the dark and alone’. I don’t understand why, on TV especially, if someone has done something wrong or killed someone ‘it is always because they are/were bipolar. I’m not a danger to myself or to others; but, I also won’t tolerate being ‘pushed to my breaking point’ either. Had one MD ‘assigned’ to me who discharged me from the hospital because he would only address me as my ‘first/legal’ name, yet I was expected to call him “Doctor”. I told him to 'get out of my room and 'if' he could not call me Mrs. André, then he was being disrespectful according to the "Patient's Rights". I deserved to be treated according to MY culture - not his. He always 'talked DOWN to me'; and, I hated it.

I wasn’t well enough to come home and ended back up there within 10 days and assigned to the most mean-spirited ‘female’ MD I've ever gone to. After what she did to me (thinking since I had a mental illness … I must also be ‘stupid’) she found out what it means when I say (sometimes) … “I don’t get mad; I get even.” Took her before the Composite State Boards of Medical Examiners and had her hospital privileges taken from her. She can’t see psyche patients in ‘any’ of the hospitals owned by the city hospital and they own most hospitals in SW GA (but, not the Thomasville City Hospital). They used to be the main “Trauma Unit” for this part of the State; but, not anymore – Thomasville is – but; I still drive 2 hours to Macon to see my PsycheMD up there. I know that he’d never send me to a State-run facility [most for indigents and the criminally insane] if I needed to be in ‘long-term care facility’. He was ‘floored’ when I took the 5” binder of my complaint against her and left it with him to read. I even told him that I would ‘understand’ if he decided he did not want to ‘treat me’ (after that). He copied the important parts of my medical records and I absolutely ‘love’ him … because he ‘listens to me’ and he ‘does not talk DOWN to me’. I even have his personal cellphone number in the event I need to talk to him about my symptoms and he can make the decision of ‘changing’ the dosage of my medication or if I need to come to Macon and let him do it under ‘controlled care’. I stay the HELL-O Kitty away from people with ‘negative’ personalities – when I can do so.

Pip – ONLY if I had written it in Russian. Maybe I am just ‘short’ 2 books and the Epilogue in 2 parts. But, I might start taken up Russian as a 2nd language. But, in the choice of “War and Peace” … I will ALWAYS take ‘peace’. Life’s too short to be involved in a ‘war’ with ‘anyone’.
Just for the length did I compare it to “Atlas Shrugged” and “Gone With the Wind” (which while long; is a lot of what I grew up with … then really knew what “The Help” was about. Down to being able to point to the black women playing the parts and who I could match them to, in families with maids growing up. I vaguely remember our first maid, she was ‘old’ and the aunt of the one I grew up with. Both of them, and “Neely” (and John) played an important part in my life. Parents taught us to ‘treat’ all others in a manner like “The Golden Rule”. For the most part, I think I do. Good manners and class were expected; and, the 3 of us knew that. Daddy was a ‘doting’ Daddy; and, Mother was the disciplinarian of the house. She NEVER told us, ‘just wait until your Daddy gets home’ … she handled the discipline and punishment (usually losing the use of our cars when we got older) … or as a young child, not being able to play with my friends. They were ‘consistent’ in everything they did and I think my childhood was very stable. I also think they were both a bit on the bipolar side. Daddy would drink pretty heavily AFTER Court weeks; and, Mother was a perfectionist. Both expected for all of us to ‘do our best’. We were not mediocre, and we had that instilled in us. We were ‘involved’ and our parents made sure that each one of us were exposed to things like ‘dancing’, ‘piano’, ‘band’, cheerleading’, ‘etiquette classes’, ‘drama club’, and (for me) ‘art lessons’. We were not ‘rich’ by any standard; but, we had what we needed … and we got to do things like this because it was ‘important’.

Michele – Trey was skinny as a ‘little boy’; then we had his tonsils taken out and he ‘chunked’ up; but the summer before his Senior year in HS; he lost a lot of weight … probably 35lbs easily and he hasn’t been that thin since. He is NOT overweight by much and both boys have lost weight since Will got married … although Will has put on some because he likes to cook and Tami cooks for him as well. Trey is the one who cooks at his house.

I hope that Maria did not rear her ‘ugly’ head. “Bridezilla” mode – OMG!!!!!!!

Janetr OKC – I guess you are a little like me – I won’t draw or paint the same picture twice. I’ve only done it once. One for my sister and another for my Mother; but, they looked entirely different. Scene of a place in downtown Atlanta at night; one actually ended up looking as if it was taken at night after a rain. I know my niece has one; but, the one I gave to my sister, she left in the house when she moved out and her husband moved back in. She doesn’t know what he did with it. I will, and do, draw and paint for family members – as gifts to them. I’ve painted or drawn 3 pictures of ‘turkeys’ for my oldest son; 2 specifically for youngest son; he also ‘took’ a few I had done to hang in his room at college and now in his place at the lake, one for my ‘soon-to-be’ DDnL#2 (she was surprised that I did it); but, I did it for Will to give to her as a gift. I’ve painted 3 of my 4 granddaughters, and painted some flowers for the 4th one. Over the years I have given far more than I have been ‘commissioned’ to do. That only took the pleasure out of it … and I don’t think I would put myself through that again. Dog of my neighbors; and, the portrait of a HS friend in his Army (dress) uniform. He told me he wanted it to be ‘spot on’ insofar as the ‘bars/ribbons’ he had … I think he had 6 or 7 rows with 4 or 5 on each. I looked up as many as I could on the Internet and then finally asked ‘if he would send them to me’. A camera can only pick up just so many colors; but, the human eye can pick up so many more. And he sent me a snippet of the fabric so I could match the olive drab color. I ended up ordering 3 tubes of different shade of it.

We LOVE pictures of your ornaments! I know how long it takes to do that type of work.

Marcelyn – Louis and I decide what something we both would like to have (together) and that is bought and no presents for any other holidays that you’d normally buy a present for. We make that decision between Christmas and New Years. We’ve done that for about 10 years now and it works well for us. Christmas for the kids are ‘gift certificates’ so they can ‘buy what they want and like’. The LAST Christmas present I bought for our 2nd granddaughter appeared on FB with her Daddy and at-the-time boyfriend and they were making fun of it. Not going to go shopping like that for her or any of them ever again. Not worth being ‘hurt’ (especially when I ‘never’ see them wear something that I had bought when her Mother was with me and thought it was cute and something she’d like. This Christmas the gift certificates will be for a figure less than last year.

We all send birthday cards to one another (with a little bit of money in them). If they ask for something specific we will get it. When Will ‘wants’ or ‘needs’ something he will just go out and buy it. When I asked what he wanted for his birthday this year – he hemmed and hawed, even when I asked what he needed. I finally called Tami and asked her. When we gave him a new computer bag … he was ‘so surprised’ and said that ‘it was exactly what he needed’. I got him a ‘big’ one because I was not sure what size his new laptop was. Mine is big enough to hold my laptop AND the lap fan (so it won’t burn up resting on my blanket in my lap).

Rye – Love you ‘ducks all in a row’. I collect ‘flamingos’ … have over 70 of them; and, no 2 are alike.

Joyce – When the 3 of us got together last weekend at the beach, my middle sister said something on the ‘political’ side and my oldest sister took issue with what she had said, she then denied saying it … oldest sister had repeated it verbatim. That had somewhat of a bit of an argument and then Tommy put his 2-cents in and tried to pull me in (he likes it when we argue); I told him that he was ‘assuming a lot and that I still had the choice of a write in vote and it was possible that is what I chose’. That threw him ‘off balance’ and kept me from getting involved. I just went back to reading. So they finally decided that ‘politics and religion’ would NOT be discussed from that point forward. Then oldest sister asked if I had brought my dominoes, which I had, so we played them and went to the beach the next day.

Gee – I always ‘thought’ church WAS for sinners. Maybe they don’t remember while they are sitting there in their ‘fine’ clothes that some of them were too drunk to get home, some were beating their spouses (yes, it works both ways), or sleeping with their lover or mistresses just a few night earlier – or an pocketing money (usually cash) for something they should have been reporting as income, and gossiping about their neighbors. Maybe this drug addict was coming to hear the message and not see who others thought they had no reason to be there. I’m glad your Dad was able to find a church to be able to put food on the table. Where I grew up, the PKs were some of the biggest hell-raisers.

Barbie – I tend to be ‘honest’ about my life – so much easier to remember the truth than a lie (which only snowballs from a ‘little white one’ … to something that can never be able to earn trust back for. Trust to me is a very important commodity and it is a shame that people think so little of it.

I sometimes can be 'brutally honest' and sometimes that just does 'fly' for a few people. I try to listen to the responses and 'if' I think I had overstepped my boundaries - I will apologize for the 'way' I have said something that has been misinterpreted. But, with 2 sister ... their is generally 2 against 1 and not always the same 2 against 1. We work it out. I think the only thing that has hurt is that my middle sister will go to my oldest sister's house and they go down to hers 2 - 4 times a year. I only get to see her once a year as it is. We've lived in this house about 17 year and she has NEVER seen it. Has never come to visit. But, I doubt that I will see the remodeling of her condo either. About the only way to do that is to make a trip down to visit. Louis would rather go to visit Will. And if the truth be known, so would I.

It’s taken me a while to overcome some ‘trust issues’ but – here (having all of you as my friends) have helped being more comfortable with myself … maybe because so many are also going through the same things.

Being ‘honest’ with my medical issues also will help ‘when and if’ I need some help. I’m pre-diabetic and after much thought, I am wondering if my episode last Saturday night might have been that my ‘sugar’ was changing somehow. Guess when they stick my finger next week, I will find out if I end up having to take another medication. Hope not.

Lenora