WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2018

Sunday was a lesson is the exercise of patience in the face of frustration. We worked in the BB42 project and my poor husband. This project will benefit him only indirectly by helping me - but it is quite the chore working towards an uncertain goal, only the potential of a goal. CAN’T has been of the utmost importance. When I say I CAN’T we immediately stop. Then we try to talk out a different approach.

Although he understands and indeed we made more progress than if he had pushed the ‘sure you can, just concentrate and practice’ kitten crap - it is still very difficult for him. His head understands but when I say ‘nope, that is not going work for me’ or ‘I CANT do that’ or ‘no, I don’t understand and keep getting directionally lost in my head when we do it your way’ it gives him major frustration in the moment.

Maybe our biggest progress, though, was just allowing me to ‘NOT’ get it or understand. By the end of the day I was as directionally lost and challenged as I was when we started - BUT we had written out a list of directions and instructions I could follow, and hopefully will memorize to overcome THAT limitation.

The best example I can give is like tying your shoes. Embarrassing, but I will admit it: I can’t actually tie my shoes, at least not like everyone else and how children are taught. I get left and right, over and under, front and back, and side to side all confused in my head and I get lost. We tried the ‘just practice’ route last year When my appalled husband found out I did not know how to tie a bow or shoes. We practiced every day for about a month. Nine times out of 10 I would get lost and be unable to tie my shoe. Really the successes were flukes. So I wear slip ons and ‘fake’ tie my few laced shoes. (And y’all and my husband are the only ones to whom I’ve admitted I can’t tie a shoe knot and never ever could do so without help.)

So mixed weekend. Saturday was great, Sunday quite frustrating.

Hula Hoop is continuing - Not sure what to do after my Month challenge cause just standing in place and hooping isn’t even raising my heart rate anymore, it is just too easy. But we have a total of about 2 square feet in my home where it is safe to hoop, so I can’t learn walking or tricks with the hoop, our home is just too small.

Poor Kidd Kirby has a bad tooth on top of all his other health problems. I’m going to see if we can make arrangements to take care of that next week. I wish it could be sooner, but I have a very busy work week and need to see the ear Dr for an ear infection and don’t see how I could fit it in this week.

Thanks for the transportation suggestions last week, unfortunately Taxis in my town take an hour or two to come after you call (If they actually show), and don’t take appointments in advance. So I have to rely on DH, relatives and friends for the vet visits. I can walk to the ear Dr. it is about a 45 minute walk tho, so I need to block out 4 to 5 hours if I can’t arrange a ride but there is just no way to get to a vet without a car. Uber scares the living daylights out of me (never get into a car with a stranger) so I won’t be doing that.

Well, time to get a move on. Was lazy and making necessary calls this morning without leaving bed, lol.

Thinking about y’all - esp. Machka - and hoping everyone is happy and well.

Rye

Barbara good luck with the taxes!!!

I am starting a project in April called "one folder a week" in which I will pull a file folder out of my filing cabinet and shred any outdated materials and scan any really important ones. I will need a week because some of the folders are huge, though some are skinny, so I will have some difficult weeks and some easy weeks. By the of the year, I should have my filing cabinet in beautiful shape! Also, doing this at night, I won't be tempted to eat! So I will let you know how that works once I get started in April.

NYKAREN

Happy Monday ladies,

Allie, I’m right with you today. I hope all is finalized today and you can have closure. So sorry about the teapot. I’ve broken things that have been around for a while and is makes me sick to my stomach when it happens.

Wendy, I love the pictures from your hike. Your smile says it all. Glad you have found a friend.

Kyla, floor looks nice. Take care of those knees. Our plan is to replace our bathroom floor with tiles this summer. We will have someone do it for us. Not sure what the cost will be yet but it is a small bathroom.

Barbie, glad to hear every day for you is special. It should be that was for all of us.

Heather, you are an inspiration. You have worked hard to get your life to this point. Enjoy!

Okie, well done helping your DH. I hope the scales start going the right way for him.

Lisa, every time I fly I’m exhausted. Glad you were able to rest up. Take care of the knee.

Juliebethgom, welcome!

Kelly, hope the job and dog work out. How exciting.

Pat, glad DD’s husband is on the mend and received good care.

Grace, welcome back!

Lanette, your 83 YO neighbor is an inspiration. Love the taxes joke.

Rye, you do have patience. I could hear your frustration. Good for you hanging in there.

NYKaren, your April project sounds like good plan. Taking small bites add up to big successes.

Terry in VT where the weather is going to be nice this week.

Made it to pg 85 but need to take a break and get back to my list to be accomplished today. I was going to the gym today to work on my arms. I was supposed to go with Jheri but we got into a fight. Not something that happens often. I complained about something minor about Larry and about her husband bringing a cell phone to my table (He would freak if their son did that). I should have not said anything to her. Now I have been left with a very emotional morning. I am probably super sensitive since finding those texts. Trying my best not to say anything to her but extremely hard. That girl has been my heart and best friend for so long. I can't share this with her and I am hoping my fragile emotional state does not change our relationship.

Heather - You are a brave person to bring to light your story. I applaud you. I have a feeling that your sons do know something. You have made a good life and you show your love to them all the time.

Caroline - Thank you for sharing those painful stories. It can't be easy. I am an ocean of emotion today.

Barbara - Between A & B. My teeth went all crooked, my jaws did not match up. A teacher suggested that my parents put me in a "Special" school in Lethbridge. ( Thank goodness for Mom who stood up for me). Bullying at school because of how I looked then and living in a rural community where none of the docs or dentists had the experience to deal with my problem. Also I was sexually abused by a friend's uncle. Contributing factors. At home I was my Dad's "Sunshine" and Mom worked with me on how to speak properly, gave me reading materials, etc. and lots of love.

-Sharon in Lethbridge in an emotional storm

Kids are napping. Kitchen Beach Party was a big hit! Filled the "beach" with measuring cups and spoons, funnels, sifters, a few dump trucks, and dinosaurs. They played in it all morning and were extremely put out that they had to get out for craft and lunch (and nap). Most of the sand stayed IN the box (you don't want to know how often I swept my kitchen). Good thing I am type A by osmosis. The sand everywhere bothers the "clean freak" part of me, but the type B water-off-a-duck's-back part of me says "It's only one day of sand". Here are a couple of pics
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Now, to see if I can get a bit of lunch in me, without the grit KJ

KJLaMore wrote: »

Kids are napping. Kitchen Beach Party was a big hit! Filled the "beach" with measuring cups and spoons, funnels, sifters, a few dump trucks, and dinosaurs. They played in it all morning and were extremely put out that they had to get out for craft and lunch (and nap). Most of the sand stayed IN the box (you don't want to know how often I swept my kitchen). Good thing I am type A by osmosis. The sand everywhere bothers the "clean freak" part of me, but the type B water-off-a-duck's-back part of me says "It's only one day of sand". Here are a couple of pics


Now, to see if I can get a bit of lunch in me, without the grit KJ

KJ - I think you are simply inspired! What a great day you gave the children!

Hi Sisters,

Allie, I am praying for a good outcome and closure so you can forget the past and focus on the future.

Kelly, I hope your hubby get the job, so you can get the dog. A dog adds so much joy, and then it will also need lots of exercise and guess who benefits from that? And malamutes are so wolf-like, you can get some awesome photos! Thanks for sharing your beach party pictures. The kids look so absorbed in their sand play. It makes me think of the Google office photos I've seen online, where they transform their working spaces into creative daydream spaces. I think I need an indoor sandbox...I'd have to keep it covered or the cats would think it was their deluxe potty box. LOL

Kylia, great job on the rental renovations. I hope you can find some good, long term tenants who will take pride and care with your house.

Well, I am just heading out to feed the animals and then I have an autistic girl coming over for some riding instruction. She wants to learn how to trail ride with her horse but I don't know if she is really ready to go outside the safety of the arena yet. I want to teach her the emergency stop, because you never know what might happen to cause your horse to take fright. She is keen but not very confident or experienced and her brain doesn't work the same way as an ordinary person so she doesn't imagine the consequences of her actions ahead of time. She can't think "outside the box" and think of alternative solutions to her various problems. Her mother died of cancer a year ago and she lives alone, in her early twenties but more like a young teenager emotionally. I like her a lot though and want to help her as much as I can.

Wendy