WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2018

Felica - I am not sure that you probably took what I had to say in the manner that I meant it. I agree that no man should ever hold back a woman by using having 'sex' with him is right. What I don't understand is why wait 15 or 20 years to bring it up? I'm also sorry that you took what I said about 'short' skirts as well. When I am talking 'short skirts' I am talking about the ones that barely cover their @$$. I 'think' they are asking for comments or more by dressing that provocatively. Just as much as wearing sequins on a see-through dress that only cover their nipples. It is like 'let's see just how far I can go pushing the edge'. I guess that is why I seem to no longer wear dresses unless I have a slip that fits under it. I don't like my legs and crotch (albeit just an outline) to show through my dress/skirt. What I am tired of is the "Me, too!" movement. I think it has run its course and now the women coming up saying "Me, too!" seems to be just for 'attention'. But, it also works both ways. Women in position can make a man's life miserable by holding her power over him and not allowing him due credit for how he is doing his job. I've worked with both men and women; never had a 'female boss'; but, I really do not think I would have ever wanted one after having a senior partner's secretary crawl my @$$ in front of him. That backfired on her … he called me into his office and handed a one line letter that she had typed and sent out and it had 7 mistakes in it (including his name). But, after a really bad experience with a 'female' MD - I hope I never have to have another one. I was about 19 when I had my first adult seizure and the Greek older gentleman who was treating me - I loved him, then a female gynecologist came in - with the longest bright red nails and said she was going to examine me. "OH HELL-O KITTY, no you aren't!"

But, I am so comfortable with the 'male' MDs I go to and because of my 'bad experience' with a female MD, I can be very vocal. Last time I went to my gynecologist of 43 years; I was told to strip down from the waist. I got wrapped up in a sheet as always and told the nurse that I 'hoped' they never went to gowns or paper gowns. She said, 'oh no, Dr. G would never allow that to occur'. Then he came in and sat on the stool and was about to lift the sheet up and I yelled, 'WAIT, I did not take my panties off!" The nurse pulled the sheet off my right leg and held it up between me and the MD and I could hear him mumbling, 'Gee, Lenora, as long as you have been coming to me, do you really think when you are told to strip down it meant 'down to your panties'? I told him they were 'lace' and I could not even tell I had them on. They got a good laugh out of that one. Even when I go to my GP; after he has finished examining me, the nurse will leave the room so that I can talk to him - about anything. My GYN exams me and then I am taking into his office to talk to him. I've been to MDs that give you paper pants and gowns. I feel more exposed in that situation.

Michelle - Tell Denise to go to the liquor stores and get boxes from them. They cannot be overpacked and they are much stronger than other boxes because they usually have an extra piece of cardboard in the bottom of them. She might be told they get their deliveries on a certain day and that she would just need to come by a certain time on that day - they usually do not have any space to 'hold' boxes for anyone.

Rebecca - I would not expect for your son's sorry roommate to do anything to help him, if he would not even pay his part of the rent.

Lenora

OregonMother wrote: »

Just to clarify. No one is going to jail or losing his job and family for telling a woman she looks pretty. We are talking about people who are actively trying to look under a woman's skirt -- I don't care how short it is. Forcing women to perform oral sex. Raping women. Threatening to destroy careers if sex acts are not performed. People who *kitten* in front of others to show power and to intimidate. I don't feel sorry for any of them. Enough is never enough. Until all men decide to treat all people with respect and stop trying to retain power by threatening us with their penis, victims need to speak out. I am not going to get into the psychology of intimidation that happens against women who rebuff harassment and sexual advances. I am sure there are many of us here who have been called a b@tch more times then we can count. And how many of us have been told that "boys will be boys," or told that we are somehow asking for it because we are women. For no other reason than that. All of those accusations drive victims to silence and in turn create more victims. Where is the sympathy and compassion for us?

Felicia, a victim of workplace, school, construction, and truck driver harassment

I agree with you. As a mother of a daughter who has encountered harassment in the workplace, the damage it causes the victim effects all areas of their lives. It will never be enough until it stops.

Hi Gals,

Machka – One time you mentioned that DH didn’t seem like the same personality, with his physical and memory coming back is his personality too?

Allie – I’m with Barbie I don’t remember the photos of ZenDen Patio –

Katla – I would ask the price of running a trail ride for a couple of you, and then just pass that info on, and if the other gal is not comfortable with that cost she could negotiate for herself.

Felicia - well said.

Terry – what a great idea to see all 251 towns in VT… I wonder about doing something like that in CA I’ll have to see if there is something for the towns even in my county… CA has way more than 251 towns….
Smiles

Kim from N. California

Pppp

Lenora,
We are hoping today that the roommate realizes that he has an opportunity to get his stuff moved via my son's uhaul, but he has to work for it! Meaning he needs to help my son move the washer and dryer! My husband nor I are really physically up for it!

Sue ... glad to hear that your grandson's surgery went well. Continued prayers that he heals completely.

Karen VA ...your grandson's situation is so wrong on so many levels. Thankful that he has you as an advocate!

Sexual Harassment ... I have experience with and very strong feelings about this subject ... and that's about all I'm comfortable saying.

May has been a rollercoaster month for me ... down in weight .. then up. I had a chocolate binge of all things last night but decided to go for my scheduled blood work this morning nonetheless. Should be interesting to see what my labs look like after a chocolate binge! At the very least, they can only get better from there.

Beth near Buffalo

Morning everyone

It is a sunny but drizzly day here in Perth OZ. Hope to get out and pull some weeds. Need to do food shopping, ironing for work next week.

GD has auditioned for a part for shakespeare in a local reporitary - not sure if she will get it but said she would work as a backstage as well, so that might help in future productions

Trish

Did Extreme Makeover Workout DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do a Caribbean Workout Abs, Buns & Thighs

Went and picked up the cutting board, went to Aldi since I forgot that I needed a pork roast for this week, then picked up Loki’s med. Now home, made salmon for later in the week, rice krispie bars for Vince (because I had marshmallows that I needed to use up since I’d opened the bag), made shrimp for later in the week (wanted to get the shrimp out of the freezer – didn’t realize that I didn’t have that much), now have the pork in the oven.

Heather – I put notes on as many of the pictures that I could. Some of them I had absolutely no idea who the people were so I had to throw the pictures out. If I don’t know who they are, my children surely won’t. How sad. When my father died, I tried to send one of those remembrance cards to people in his address book. Don’t know if the name was in the book for one small reason, but I went on the assumption that they were all friends of his.

Allie – your patio look so nice

Put down weedkiller then paversand since there aren't very many weeds on the front walk. Started to put down more of the mulch only it started to rain.

Michele in NC

Feeling like I got a great deal. We got a huge Chuck roast for 21 dollars at Costco. We portioned it into quarters to freeze and I conservativly estimate 14 to 16 servings of pot roast will eventually come from it. I am loving having an extra freezer so that we can take advantage of these deals when we encounter them. And I do love pot roast.

We also got short ribs for peposo (like a pepper sauce stew) at Costco. John will make that for our anniversary dinner. He will have his with polenta, mine will go over steamed veggies. I’ll have a couple spoonfuls of that delicious polenta for a treat! We will have a glass or two of Chianti (which is prominent in the peposo recipe) to finish off so it will be quite the meal! I’ll make some fruit sorbet for desert if we want it because if we don’t, I can put it into the dehydrator to make some delicious fruit leathers for snacks.

We enjoy cooking together, but so rarely have time, especially since I now work from noon to 8pm. So this will be a fun event together.

Laters, best wishes for health and happiness to you and yours,

Rye

Will post today's stats tomorrow

Allie - Great pics of the Zen Den. I do love a big umbrella. Nice placemats as well. May you have many, many happy times there.

Thunderstorms over the UK. Some spectacular ones. DH was hoping to spend the day at cricket and I was looking forward to a day on my own, but I'm not sure it's going to happen. He'll probably go and see how it unfolds, but they may cancel. His friend has to come a long way, so it may not be worth his while. I may dye my hair roots.
I think it's fish soup for dinner. I did think of steak, but the soup is easier on the timings with the day so uncertain. Maybe steak tomorrow for the Bank Holiday.

Feeling unsettled. Slept horribly with nasty dreams. Had to get up and compose myself. Might start packing - that usually helps. Got to wrap DSIL's present. It's huge!

Love Heather UK xxxxxxx

Good morning!

Jenny from Northern Maine here. I have to admit I have not posted much but I do read everyone's post. It's cool to see what women at this stage of life are doing. I will be turning 60 in October. I can't say it does not bother me. (I don't know why, but it does.) I just ordered "Younger Next Year: Live Strong, Fit, and Sexy—Until You're 80 and Beyond" and "Younger Next Year: The Exercise Program: Use the Power of Exercise to Reverse Aging and Stay Strong, Fit, and Sexy". It might make me feel better about things.

I teach middle/high school students (Health and Business). The end of the year is always so busy. I have been stress eating and the scale has gone up a couple of pounds. So this morning I got up with the mind set that this is Memorial Day weekend and I need to set goals to reach for Labor Day weekend. So here they are (writing them down and sharing will make me more accountable):

• Minimum of 10,000 steps a day--interval workouts 4X a week
• Track on MFP daily--1,200 cals a day
• No eating after 6 p.m.
• Goal is to lose 5 lbs.
  
  Have a great Memorial Day Weekend!