Less Alcohol- June 2018- One Day at a Time

snoo61....Hoping the best for you. I agree to let Dad know the results when you receive them. Hopefully, it will be good news for you both.

Yes, the whole drinking/driving stupidity. I will admit I have been that stupid in the past. A couple of times seriously impaired, most of the time "JUST" enough to get charged had I gotten pulled over. I never did thankfully. I know of a few people that have lived through that nightmare $20,000 later, got arrested, put in a jail cell etc., BUT, they didn't injure or kill anyone thankfully. To this day 2 of these people are still drinking, one still driving that way & working on DUI #3....Moral of the story for ME: It "could" have been me!! So I'm not on my high horse saying all this, I've been as stupid as the rest of them!! I just never got caught.

Long story short, alcohol MAKES people stupid because it messes with the reasoning part of our brain & allows us to make really stupid decisions like drinking & driving.

12 days in.....woohoo!!! Almost halfway mark to the end of June. We can do it!! YAY!

erikNJ.....I'm hoping you reported the guy!!!

Just reading over all of the sad alcohol/drinking + driving stories. My Grandma is a recovering alcoholic who has drank off and on (mostly on) for years and years. Two years ago she drank a 12 pack (and she takes some heavy duty meds as well), ended up falling and breaking her femur, which was protruding from her leg. She drug herself from her kitchen to her bedroom and fell asleep with the bone exposed for hours before being able to call anyone. When my Aunt arrived, it was a horrific site, and something that has scarred her for life. She spent some time in the hospital and her leg healed surprisingly well, but she can't move like she used to. I remember visiting her in her hospital bed and she had to drink two beers a day so she wouldn't have extreme withdrawal symptoms. My Aunt moved in with her after that. It's been a constant struggle.

That was not the first accident she has had over the years - she's broken her hip, wrist, and had various other accidents while drunk. She used to drive drunk all the time - showing up to Sunday dinners wasted and barely able to take off her shoes.

My Dad has also had periods of struggle with alcohol. He lost his job, and frequently ended up in the ER due to falls, etc. We had some rough times a few years ago as well.

These experiences have certainly led to me more closely examining my own relationship with alcohol!

snoo61 wrote: »

Thanks all, I've come to the same conclusion...not to tell him yet. I told my hubby and daughter. They agree with you. I'm actually doing ok, not as freaked as I'd expect. I'm sticking to my goal, or under, not eating any stupider than usual lol, pretty good mind set. Thanks for the support! I'll keep you updated, but won't go on about it, promise.

It's ok to "go on about it" Venting is healthy & this should be the forum to do that. This is a stressor for you & I hope that you keep us all updated. Wishing you peace.

ErynVee wrote: »

Just reading over all of the sad alcohol/drinking + driving stories. My Grandma is a recovering alcoholic who has drank off and on (mostly on) for years and years. Two years ago she drank a 12 pack (and she takes some heavy duty meds as well), ended up falling and breaking her femur, which was protruding from her leg. She drug herself from her kitchen to her bedroom and fell asleep with the bone exposed for hours before being able to call anyone. When my Aunt arrived, it was a horrific site, and something that has scarred her for life. She spent some time in the hospital and her leg healed surprisingly well, but she can't move like she used to. I remember visiting her in her hospital bed and she had to drink two beers a day so she wouldn't have extreme withdrawal symptoms. My Aunt moved in with her after that. It's been a constant struggle.

That was not the first accident she has had over the years - she's broken her hip, wrist, and had various other accidents while drunk. She used to drive drunk all the time - showing up to Sunday dinners wasted and barely able to take off her shoes.

My Dad has also had periods of struggle with alcohol. He lost his job, and frequently ended up in the ER due to falls, etc. We had some rough times a few years ago as well.

These experiences have certainly led to me more closely examining my own relationship with alcohol!

oh Eryn - the familial things we go through! how sad your Aunt had to see your Grandma in such a state.

my Dad was a walking catastrophe drunk. i remember as a 9 year old he got so loaded on the plane that my Mom and i had to help him walk off the airplane ramp as we disembarked. it was so embarassing. he often made a fool of himself at get togethers, groping family friends inappropriately (mortifying my Mom to the nth degree). the kicker was when i was 17 and he was 9 sheets to the wind. while they were yelling at each other *pretty much the norm* my Mom started pouring liquor bottles down the sink and he was so enraged he started to strangle her. i heard her screaming,got him off her and called the police. they took him away and obviously got divorced it marked me for life.

i've embarassed myself plenty over the years but never quite to that degree. still - the shame i still hold with my own antics comes to haunt me from time to time.

over the past two weeks i've done pretty well, and this past weekend i only had one drink when we celebrated my husband's birthday. i have not drank since. i'm still making tea and chilling it. and i admit to eating a few more inappropriate things like icecream to not drink. but i have no alcohol in the house and won't be buying it anytime too soon. we have friends coming in from Italy in a few weeks, and we'll have them over for dinner - but i plan on maintaining moderation.

we're all in this together. this is such a motivational thread - thank you Julie for everything!