Less Alcohol- June 2018- One Day at a Time
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I thought this was a good list; many of us have spoke about these before. I've been seeing more about essential oils curbing cravings. Good night, friends! Xo Love you all!7 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
erikNJ.....I'm hoping you reported the guy!!!
For one it really just happened suddenly. I was watching him like what the *kitten* is that guy doing, and when it hit me he was gone.
Also, in my industry, if I had to report everything I see like that and take responsibility for every idiots actions - I might as well just quit and become a cop.2 -
Thanks all, I've come to the same conclusion...not to tell him yet. I told my hubby and daughter. They agree with you. I'm actually doing ok, not as freaked as I'd expect. I'm sticking to my goal, or under, not eating any stupider than usual lol, pretty good mind set. Thanks for the support! I'll keep you updated, but won't go on about it, promise.6
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Just reading over all of the sad alcohol/drinking + driving stories. My Grandma is a recovering alcoholic who has drank off and on (mostly on) for years and years. Two years ago she drank a 12 pack (and she takes some heavy duty meds as well), ended up falling and breaking her femur, which was protruding from her leg. She drug herself from her kitchen to her bedroom and fell asleep with the bone exposed for hours before being able to call anyone. When my Aunt arrived, it was a horrific site, and something that has scarred her for life. She spent some time in the hospital and her leg healed surprisingly well, but she can't move like she used to. I remember visiting her in her hospital bed and she had to drink two beers a day so she wouldn't have extreme withdrawal symptoms. My Aunt moved in with her after that. It's been a constant struggle.
That was not the first accident she has had over the years - she's broken her hip, wrist, and had various other accidents while drunk. She used to drive drunk all the time - showing up to Sunday dinners wasted and barely able to take off her shoes.
My Dad has also had periods of struggle with alcohol. He lost his job, and frequently ended up in the ER due to falls, etc. We had some rough times a few years ago as well.
These experiences have certainly led to me more closely examining my own relationship with alcohol!9 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
erikNJ.....I'm hoping you reported the guy!!!
For one it really just happened suddenly. I was watching him like what the *kitten* is that guy doing, and when it hit me he was gone.
Also, in my industry, if I had to report everything I see like that and take responsibility for every idiots actions - I might as well just quit and become a cop.
Hey, I wasn't trying to ride you. I realize the "shock" of seeing something stupid takes time to process & then by the time our brains kick in, it's too late to act the way we'd like. I also realize that we can't "police" everyone or we'd have no time to live our own lives. I just wondered if you were able to call it in. Take care.2 -
Thanks all, I've come to the same conclusion...not to tell him yet. I told my hubby and daughter. They agree with you. I'm actually doing ok, not as freaked as I'd expect. I'm sticking to my goal, or under, not eating any stupider than usual lol, pretty good mind set. Thanks for the support! I'll keep you updated, but won't go on about it, promise.
It's ok to "go on about it" Venting is healthy & this should be the forum to do that. This is a stressor for you & I hope that you keep us all updated. Wishing you peace.5 -
This drinking and driving discussion - so, so scary. I got in a minor fender bender Saturday and I admit that one of the first things I thought was thank freaking god I had no alcohol in my system just in case they wanted to test it. They didn't, but still.5
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
erikNJ.....I'm hoping you reported the guy!!!
For one it really just happened suddenly. I was watching him like what the *kitten* is that guy doing, and when it hit me he was gone.
Also, in my industry, if I had to report everything I see like that and take responsibility for every idiots actions - I might as well just quit and become a cop.
Hey, I wasn't trying to ride you. I realize the "shock" of seeing something stupid takes time to process & then by the time our brains kick in, it's too late to act the way we'd like. I also realize that we can't "police" everyone or we'd have no time to live our own lives. I just wondered if you were able to call it in. Take care.
I didn’t take any offense to your comment, just explaining my side. It is a sad part of my job. And I wish I was able to do more. Believe me, I had a moment after it happened where I wished I had been able to do something4 -
So I was thinking about my buddy and I was thinking about the lies of drinking. I guess if you spend a lot more time under the influence the lies can get bigger and easier to believe.
When I was drinking mostly daily I always knew it was a problem. That was never my lie. My biggest lie was that one more day wouldn't really matter. It wasn't an insignificant lie though. That lie was perpetual until I finally forced a break and a set of moderation rules. It makes sense as this lie correlates to the delays starting my weight loss efforts too.
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@JulieAL1969 - awesome list and thanks for sharing. I especially liked the part where she said to eat sugar, LOL!3
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Yes, the whole drinking/driving stupidity. I will admit I have been that stupid in the past.
Boy, me too. Really resonated with me. We have had friends who've been put through the DUI ringer and it is horrendous. Mandatory AA, huge fines, losing license and sometimes jobs. You do NOT want to go there.
Also many congrats on your 12-day streak!
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Just reading over all of the sad alcohol/drinking + driving stories. My Grandma is a recovering alcoholic who has drank off and on (mostly on) for years and years. Two years ago she drank a 12 pack (and she takes some heavy duty meds as well), ended up falling and breaking her femur, which was protruding from her leg. She drug herself from her kitchen to her bedroom and fell asleep with the bone exposed for hours before being able to call anyone. When my Aunt arrived, it was a horrific site, and something that has scarred her for life. She spent some time in the hospital and her leg healed surprisingly well, but she can't move like she used to. I remember visiting her in her hospital bed and she had to drink two beers a day so she wouldn't have extreme withdrawal symptoms. My Aunt moved in with her after that. It's been a constant struggle.
That was not the first accident she has had over the years - she's broken her hip, wrist, and had various other accidents while drunk. She used to drive drunk all the time - showing up to Sunday dinners wasted and barely able to take off her shoes.
My Dad has also had periods of struggle with alcohol. He lost his job, and frequently ended up in the ER due to falls, etc. We had some rough times a few years ago as well.
These experiences have certainly led to me more closely examining my own relationship with alcohol!
oh Eryn - the familial things we go through! how sad your Aunt had to see your Grandma in such a state.
my Dad was a walking catastrophe drunk. i remember as a 9 year old he got so loaded on the plane that my Mom and i had to help him walk off the airplane ramp as we disembarked. it was so embarassing. he often made a fool of himself at get togethers, groping family friends inappropriately (mortifying my Mom to the nth degree). the kicker was when i was 17 and he was 9 sheets to the wind. while they were yelling at each other *pretty much the norm* my Mom started pouring liquor bottles down the sink and he was so enraged he started to strangle her. i heard her screaming,got him off her and called the police. they took him away and obviously got divorced it marked me for life.
i've embarassed myself plenty over the years but never quite to that degree. still - the shame i still hold with my own antics comes to haunt me from time to time.
over the past two weeks i've done pretty well, and this past weekend i only had one drink when we celebrated my husband's birthday. i have not drank since. i'm still making tea and chilling it. and i admit to eating a few more inappropriate things like icecream to not drink. but i have no alcohol in the house and won't be buying it anytime too soon. we have friends coming in from Italy in a few weeks, and we'll have them over for dinner - but i plan on maintaining moderation.
we're all in this together. this is such a motivational thread - thank you Julie for everything!11 -
Although I don't drink a lot quantity-wise, I do have a drink daily and am convinced that is what is putting weight back on. So I'm going off except for special night on the weekend. Hopefully posting this will help my determination. Thanks in advance!7
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@JulieAL1969 - awesome list and thanks for sharing. I especially liked the part where she said to eat sugar, LOL!
You know it! Remember we were talking a bout having a sugar cravings when we quit, because alcohol is sugar.1 -
@como_agua What a journey you have been on. I dont know why bad things happen to good people, but I do know you are strong, positive and kindhearted which much be the result of that horrific time in your life.
I listen to Tony Robbins once in awhile, and he had a very abusive mother but he said he is who he is today because of that childhood. I know Tony's not perfect but he did rise above, as you have as well. You've been doing very well moderating - bravo!2 -
Although I don't drink a lot quantity-wise, I do have a drink daily and am convinced that is what is putting weight back on. So I'm going off except for special night on the weekend. Hopefully posting this will help my determination. Thanks in advance!
Alcohol is sugar; the body goes first to digesting that sugar and then it works on the food you've eaten. Also, those hundreds of extra calories you drink doesn't help. Good for you for setting some firm goals. Xo1 -
So I was thinking about my buddy and I was thinking about the lies of drinking. I guess if you spend a lot more time under the influence the lies can get bigger and easier to believe.
When I was drinking mostly daily I always knew it was a problem. That was never my lie. My biggest lie was that one more day wouldn't really matter. It wasn't an insignificant lie though. That lie was perpetual until I finally forced a break and a set of moderation rules. It makes sense as this lie correlates to the delays starting my weight loss efforts too.
Remember that book title several have mentioned is "Alcohol Lied to Me."
Now that you're moderating, do you feel calmer and more patient. I've noticed that result of abstaining for many days in a row makes me deal with problems a little bit better.
What is hard for you is you care for this person and it's really up to him to decide his path in life. I once listened to a sermon on youtube. The pastor said no matter what though you never give up on someone else. I can see that you won't.1 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »lorrainequiche59 wrote: »
erikNJ.....I'm hoping you reported the guy!!!
For one it really just happened suddenly. I was watching him like what the *kitten* is that guy doing, and when it hit me he was gone.
Also, in my industry, if I had to report everything I see like that and take responsibility for every idiots actions - I might as well just quit and become a cop.
Hey, I wasn't trying to ride you. I realize the "shock" of seeing something stupid takes time to process & then by the time our brains kick in, it's too late to act the way we'd like. I also realize that we can't "police" everyone or we'd have no time to live our own lives. I just wondered if you were able to call it in. Take care.
I didn’t take any offense to your comment, just explaining my side. It is a sad part of my job. And I wish I was able to do more. Believe me, I had a moment after it happened where I wished I had been able to do something
I'm similar. I see something; I freeze and then I realize how I should have responded. Erik- I'm sure you do the best you can in your field. It's an added burden for you. Xo1 -
@lorrainequiche59 Please feel free to share. What you are going through is incredibly stressful. We are here to listen. Xo2
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These experiences have certainly led to me more closely examining my own relationship with alcohol!
@ErynVee Yes, that probably rings true for many of us. We've seen a lot of alcohol abuse around us , and the results of it which are tragic and ruin a life that should have been well lived. I think that's why we have each other to discuss our thoughts. I've had two family members and two acquaintances die as a result of alcohol addiction. I am trying to stop that cycle within my own family the best I can.5
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