The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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30 days AF today.11
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I don't really count days months or even years much anymore but it has just become the way I live and happily it isn't something I need to hang onto.
I'm not really counting day to day that much either, although it's so early it's hard not to be aware of the number of days that have passed (36, but who's counting?). But as I posted earlier, I think, I've written down the dates of what will be days 50, 100, 150, 200, 250, 300, 350, and 365. If I didn't make note of those days, I wouldn't get the awesome prezzies I've promised myself!
After that, I imagine I'll just let the numbers go, but who knows. I do like prezzies.
I like your idea. I may write it in my calendar too. I’m still counting days; the first 21 days took forever. Now, the days are adding up quicker. Can’t wait to hear about the prezzies.2 -
@JenT304 Thanks for sharing the video! I really liked her points. She also said “drinking IS the biggest time suck.” So, true. I have more time on my hands to do fun things or learn new crafts. I also remember back when I was pregnant twice; I didnt hesitate to quit drinking during pregnancy. It was non-negotionable.
In the video, she said what if someone paid you a million pounds to quit. Would you? Of course!
I think some of us are lucky and blessed; we quit before the stakes got toooo high - no DUIs, no major health ramifications from alcohol, etc.5 -
Good morning all
Has anybody read The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray? It's release date here in the US is sometime in November or December, (somehow I got it in May from Amazon) and it's a delightful read! I follow the author on IG and she just used a quote from me in an article she wrote for Grazia magazine (UK) and I am totally fan girling! LOL I'll try and post a link to the article, she mentions some of the stuff from her book and on IG she said she completely expected the mag to soften her tone, but they let it go just as she had written it. If I weren't already hyper aware and committed to getting alcohol out of my life, an article like this would definitely have me thinking. Hopefully, it helps lots of people.
Not sure if this link will work, I had to make an account to read it..... https://www.pressreader.com/uk/grazia-uk/20180904/283656825712266
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I don't really count days months or even years much anymore but it has just become the way I live and happily it isn't something I need to hang onto.
I only remember b/c that last one was a doozy (thanks, 25th HS reunion!). I started down this path earlier, but have since had 2 "breaks". I was telling a friend I'd like to be able to say "80ish days minus 2" but I guess it doesn't work that way.
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@joha5603 its perfectly fine and true to say, "out of 82 days, I've been sober for 80." Good for you!!5
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I don't really count days months or even years much anymore but it has just become the way I live and happily it isn't something I need to hang onto.
I only remember b/c that last one was a doozy (thanks, 25th HS reunion!). I started down this path earlier, but have since had 2 "breaks". I was telling a friend I'd like to be able to say "80ish days minus 2" but I guess it doesn't work that way.
if you aren't in an abstinence only program, it can work that way. if you are, you have been sober since your last drink1 -
@joha5603 This group is an informal no accounting but encouragement for your betterment. If 82 days was primarily AF and you are trending AF and not fooling yourself then I will hope you can consider it 82 days ish
I stopped drinking May 22 2008 and I say I have been AF for over 10 years even though there was 2 flutes of champagne over 2 New Years Eves, that was one each year 3 years apart one glass of wine on vacation in Aruba in 2012 and wine at my daughters wedding toasts and celebration maybe 3 or 4 glasses that I paid for on my run the next morning in 2014. So technically I wasn't AF for over 10 years except in spirit and not completely in deed.7 -
I think ANY sober days are a success,on the forum I am a member of I really hate to see someone with a good amount of non drinking days get beat up over a few glasses of wine at a wedding,it makes no sense to beat someone up while they're feeling bad enough for "relapsing" I call it a slip and move on,,last few days I've been thinking of al a lot,,not wanting to drink just thinking about not drinking,its weird! I also wonder why the first 30 days fly by for me then after that it seems to drrraaaaggg! I know I just need to get my focus on other things been hard lately cuz I'm feeling sad summer went so fast,I've been feeling sickish,sleep has been weird,meh,driving to California tomorrow just to sit on the beach,hope it adjusts my attitude a bit7
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We shouldn't be beating any one who slips you come in here voluntarily to get help and be supported. The "sober squad" if you have a glass of wine aren't you still sober if you don't do it again the next day aren't you still AF living. I know with my past drinking for 40 years I am in no position to judge. My only thing is to extend a helping hand and applaud your successes9
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Just checking in to say Hi!! Sounds like everyone is doing well
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The "sober squad" if you have a glass of wine aren't you still sober if you don't do it again the next day aren't you still AF living.
NO! I agree about being supportive & not beating anyone up, But sober is as sober does! Alcohol free living is just that: alcohol FREE. If a person lapses in their goal to be sober that may be part of their journey, but the end goal is to not drink alcohol. This isn't a judgement. If a person chooses to drink now & again that is not sobriety. That would be moderation if it isn't in excess.
Perhaps I have misunderstood your comment.6 -
@lorrainequiche59 I guess semantics we were talking about "counting" the days sober I commented that I stopped drinking May 22 2008 and over the next 10 years over four occasions I had "consumed" alcohol. Less alcohol on the 4 times over 10 years than I used to drink daily and I consider I was sober. That is my personal feeling and I said after drinking for 40 years I don't judge how people want to count their AF days months years. I know people after 20 years wont use vanilla in the cookies because of the alcohol content and that works for them I fully support it. Its just not me. I will support how people choose to count their days as its just that their days.5
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@whitpauly I understand, being in the northeast summer is winding down and I was looking at the shed and my snow blower and it can be depressing. I hope you enjoy the weekend at the beach and it helps raise your spirits. I am leaving for Cape May and will be on the beach over the weekend as well3
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »The "sober squad" if you have a glass of wine aren't you still sober if you don't do it again the next day aren't you still AF living.
NO! I agree about being supportive & not beating anyone up, But sober is as sober does! Alcohol free living is just that: alcohol FREE. If a person lapses in their goal to be sober that may be part of their journey, but the end goal is to not drink alcohol. This isn't a judgement. If a person chooses to drink now & again that is not sobriety. That would be moderation if it isn't in excess.
Perhaps I have misunderstood your comment.
sober
ADJECTIVE
1) Not affected by alcohol; not drunk
al·co·hol-free
adjective
1)
where, or during which, alcoholic drinks are not consumed.
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I'm only a week sober, but that's something to start with! Staying strong this time, as I've tried many times in the past to quit. And, once I have ONE, it snowballs from there. With winter coming up and the colder nights approaching, it makes me think of wanting a hot toddy, and I really don't want to go there. I'll be checking in here for sure to see all you guys holding strong and hopefully it can help me too!9
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@Sippin_on_gym_n_juice, I am a fellow “tried many times” traveler. Today is Day 38 for me which is huge. I know we’re all different but for me the difference this time was reading books by Annie Grace, Jason Vale, and Allen Carr. They helped my whole mindset change from longing for that hot toddy to genuine gratefulness I don’t have to go there anymore. Best wishes for you!6
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@Sippin_on_gym_n_juice, I am a fellow “tried many times” traveler. Today is Day 38 for me which is huge. I know we’re all different but for me the difference this time was reading books by Annie Grace, Jason Vale, and Allen Carr. They helped my whole mindset change from longing for that hot toddy to genuine gratefulness I don’t have to go there anymore. Best wishes for you!
I've never been much of a reader, but perhaps I should pick up a book or two, thanks, and great job on 38!!!3 -
@Sippin_on_gym_n_juice There are so many good books. I really liked, "Drinking; A love Story" by Caroline Knapp.
Wishing you all a continued Sober September!
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I like the "out of 82 days, I have not had alcohol for 80 of them" ....
I wish all of you the best in your journeys, and I hope you wish me well on mine regardless of any program I may or may not be a part of or how I count my days. Happy AF weekend to you all!9 -
I like the "out of 82 days, I have not had alcohol for 80 of them" ....
I wish all of you the best in your journeys, and I hope you wish me well on mine regardless of any program I may or may not be a part of or how I count my days. Happy AF weekend to you all!
My sister told me once that as long as your sober 99 percent of the time- you’re doing just fine. She says once a year she has a glass of wine but she is a non-drinker in her eyes and mine. It’s all relative.
I dont think I will have that once glass of wine a year becuase I will have to start over and make my way up the sober mountain. It’s too much work and I’m done starting over. But to each his own. It took me many times being at “Day 1” but I remember saying I will never give up trying.
By the way, day 50 is nearly here and today I was in the anger stage of new sobriety thinking “Why can they drink normally , but I can’t stop once I start?” OR I saw my party neighbor get in her friend’s car all dolled up; I know thery’re going out for a few vodka martinis. I just yelled “have fun!” *For a second I was jealous. . However, I sure don’t want to go out with her like I used to and then have a serious hangover. Instead tomorrow, I am going to a craft fair and just wander and look slowly and without a hangover. Plus I’ll buy myself a day 50 present!
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@RubyRed427 50 days sober! I am so proud of you! That is great. Of course you must buy yourself a memento! Have a wonderful time.4
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It is all about the prezzies! Get a good one, @RubyRed427!!3
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@Orphia Hoping you're ok....haven't heard from you in a bit. YAY @RubyRed427 Happy 50!!2
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Hi friends ! I got a book I ordered from Amazon. But it comes from
goodwill in Florida ; it was so reasonable and looks like new. Anyway , I look forward to reading it. Here's a review of it. https://www.publishersweekly.com/978-1-59285-720-3
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I read 30 pages in this book. What a great read ! He’ a humorous writer; I nodded and chuckled as I read. He is a believer in AA and it works for him. I recommend the book, especially if you’ve been to A.A. You will be able to relate. Even if you’ve never been to A.A. But are curious what it’s about, he explains it through his narrative quite vividly. Good night friends!
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lorrainequiche59 wrote: »@Orphia Hoping you're ok....haven't heard from you in a bit. YAY @RubyRed427 Happy 50!!
Thanks so much for thinking of me!
I've been enjoying my burst of creativity which emerged after becoming AF.
I joined a challenge for September and my goal is to draw every day, which I thought would give structure to my "burst" and be achievable.
This does leave me less time to post in here, but I haven't forgotten you guys!6 -
@RubyRed427, thanks for the book recommendation. It sounds like it presents a needed perspective re: AA.
I realized another benefit of sobriety today (Day 40 tomorrow!). I am eating copious amounts of fruits and veggies, without even consciously intending to. Not coincidentally, my weight has really started coming off more quickly than it ever has. When I was drinking nightly, I couldn't face anything but a Diet Coke in the morning and usually ate some version of a bread/cracker and cheese type thing for lunch. Then often for dinner I'd have only popcorn or else just pasta or something. I could literally go a couple of days without one fruit or vegetable, which is terrible! Now that I have a normal appetite because I'm AF, I have a smoothie every morning with fruits and kale, at least 2 servings of fruit and/or vegetable at lunch, a small snack of fruit and plain yogurt in the afternoon, and at least 2 veggies with dinner. Like I said, I didn't consciously decide to do this; my body just started listening to itself I guess. I feel so much better, and our Saturday trip to our small farmers market is a highlight of my week.6
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