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What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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quiksylver296 wrote: »
Yeah. I know. My freezer's full of them. They still aren't B&J's The Tonight Dough.
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Things are not going that great at work right now and it always makes me feel like I have to derail my life. I hate that I feel like I shouldn't be happy with my weight loss progress because our team is struggling at work and it's not in our control. It's like, "things are going well so might as well make other things not go well too!" I don't get why I think this way.13
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I'm going to put this here today. Sorry about the shouting.
Oh my God. I'm about to take on this old dude at the gym. I'm just trying to dig deep today. I'm trying to find the will to exercise today. Baby steps day. I make into the gym. I'm just *kitten* walking towards the locker room and he tells me to smile. No dude. No. *kitten* you. I don't have to smile. Smile doesn't equal happy, it doesn't equal pretty, and I don't have to smile to be either of those things and I sure as hell am not going to smile for you.
I hate that some days I struggle just to make it into the gym. I hate that some days, dudes think they have a say over what I do with my body. Nope. I know I'm an intense person. I know I have at resting *kitten* face. That doesn't change the fact that I LOVE MYSELF AND I WILL SMILE WHEN THE *kitten* I WANT.42 -
I'm going to put this here today. Sorry about the shouting.
Oh my God. I'm about to take on this old dude at the gym. I'm just trying to dig deep today. I'm trying to find the will to exercise today. Baby steps day. I make into the gym. I'm just *kitten* walking towards the locker room and he tells me to smile. No dude. No. *kitten* you. I don't have to smile. Smile doesn't equal happy, it doesn't equal pretty, and I don't have to smile to be either of those things and I sure as hell am not going to smile for you.
I hate that some days I struggle just to make it into the gym. I hate that some days, dudes think they have a say over what I do with my body. Nope. I know I'm an intense person. I know I have at resting *kitten* face. That doesn't change the fact that I LOVE MYSELF AND I WILL SMILE WHEN THE *kitten* I WANT.
You need this!
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I'm going to put this here today. Sorry about the shouting.
Oh my God. I'm about to take on this old dude at the gym. I'm just trying to dig deep today. I'm trying to find the will to exercise today. Baby steps day. I make into the gym. I'm just *kitten* walking towards the locker room and he tells me to smile. No dude. No. *kitten* you. I don't have to smile. Smile doesn't equal happy, it doesn't equal pretty, and I don't have to smile to be either of those things and I sure as hell am not going to smile for you.
I hate that some days I struggle just to make it into the gym. I hate that some days, dudes think they have a say over what I do with my body. Nope. I know I'm an intense person. I know I have at resting *kitten* face. That doesn't change the fact that I LOVE MYSELF AND I WILL SMILE WHEN THE *kitten* I WANT.
Say "mind your own business" in the coldest tone you can muster.6 -
I am so tired of trying to fight back against my habits! My brain has been conditioned to think that a week of “being good” earns me a weekend of “being bad.”
My brain interprets moderation as some type of punishment, even when I know logically that it is much better for me! I am trying to rewire my thinking to where there are other pleasures and rewards aside from carbs and beer! Lol.
I also miss my free time in the evenings. For those of you with kids, you’ll probably roll your eyes! But when I wasn’t working out/cooking meals/walking the dogs often, I’d be off work and chilling on the couch by 4 or 5 in the afternoon! Now, I’m lucky if I have time for a quick episode on Netflix before my head hits the pillow. The fact that I’m working on a never-ending list of house projects doesn’t help!19 -
mountainmare wrote: »I also hate that I looked up the calorie count for Thrashers Fries (a boardwalk tradition since 1939) and Grottos pizza (the legendary taste of the Delaware shore). Why can't I just enjoy the last beach trip!!!
Don't forget an orange vanilla swirl cone at Kohr Bros. It's right by Thrashers, and part of the experience.4 -
People...they can be so bothersome!! I don’t tell too many ppl when I start ‘dieting’ because I can’t stand that look...are you sure you can eat that? That’s allowed on your diet? Good grief ppl!! Mind your own business! I know how many calories I can afford to eat still and if I want to waste 300 on a bite of this or that I will!
Or like when you go somewhere and (you know how ppl assume fat ppl eat SO much) but you pass on everything but they keep offering delicious morsels of food and you’re like pass the platter one more time...I dare you! Hahaha
Or like you have so much to lose that after losing 10 lbs there’s really no difference but you’re so desperate to see something that you swear everything is just a ‘tad’ loose but when you mention it ppl (ie hubby) looks at you with a blank stare and says ‘I don’t see it’.
Hahahaha (I laugh so I don’t cry lol)16 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »
I do need this. That's making it to the shopping list.MelanieCN77 wrote: »
Say "mind your own business" in the coldest tone you can muster.
If I weren't running late. Next time!1 -
Bananas Foster is my FAV!!!!
My favorite is Chocolate Peanut Butter!0 -
If it should ever happen that I savagely beat someone into a frothy pulp, it will be because that person picked The Wrong *Kitten*ing Day to tell me to "Smile!"I'm going to put this here today. Sorry about the shouting.
Oh my God. I'm about to take on this old dude at the gym. I'm just trying to dig deep today. I'm trying to find the will to exercise today. Baby steps day. I make into the gym. I'm just *kitten* walking towards the locker room and he tells me to smile. No dude. No. *kitten* you. I don't have to smile. Smile doesn't equal happy, it doesn't equal pretty, and I don't have to smile to be either of those things and I sure as hell am not going to smile for you.
I hate that some days I struggle just to make it into the gym. I hate that some days, dudes think they have a say over what I do with my body. Nope. I know I'm an intense person. I know I have at resting *kitten* face. That doesn't change the fact that I LOVE MYSELF AND I WILL SMILE WHEN THE *kitten* I WANT.
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I'm going to put this here today. Sorry about the shouting.
Oh my God. I'm about to take on this old dude at the gym. I'm just trying to dig deep today. I'm trying to find the will to exercise today. Baby steps day. I make into the gym. I'm just *kitten* walking towards the locker room and he tells me to smile. No dude. No. *kitten* you. I don't have to smile. Smile doesn't equal happy, it doesn't equal pretty, and I don't have to smile to be either of those things and I sure as hell am not going to smile for you.
I hate that some days I struggle just to make it into the gym. I hate that some days, dudes think they have a say over what I do with my body. Nope. I know I'm an intense person. I know I have at resting *kitten* face. That doesn't change the fact that I LOVE MYSELF AND I WILL SMILE WHEN THE *kitten* I WANT.
That sounds deeply annoying and super cringy. Talk about stepping over boundaries! It’s annoying enough when people make unwanted conversation at the gym, let alone try to regulate your emotions?! Oh *kitten* no! I’d be given him the side eye Lol. I had one of the gym employees trying to “pump me up” one day and it was literally all I could do to keep from walking back out. I’m like “I’m here. That’s good enough.... goodbye”11 -
That sounds deeply annoying and super cringy. Talk about stepping over boundaries! It’s annoying enough when people make unwanted conversation at the gym, let alone try to regulate your emotions?! Oh *kitten* no! I’d be given him the side eye Lol. I had one of the gym employees trying to “pump me up” one day and it was literally all I could do to keep from walking back out. I’m like “I’m here. That’s good enough.... goodbye”
Is it deeply annoying and cringy when a cashier or waiter says have a great day or someone says good morning? Same thing.
The person wasn't talking to her in the middle of a set, she was walking in the place.24 -
No, it isn't. Let's assume for the sake of argument that you are a heterosexual man:Packerjohn wrote: »
Is it deeply annoying and cringy when a cashier or waiter says have a great day or someone says good morning? Same thing.
The person wasn't talking to her in the middle of a set, she was walking in the place.
One morning, you wake up feeling hellish. On the way to the bathroom, you discover, with your bare foot, that the cat has thrown up on the carpet again. You clean that up and head into to the kitchen, where you discover that you're out of coffee. You re-use yesterday's grounds, get something together for breakfast, and head out the door with your gym bag - come what may, you are going to get to the gym this morning, *kitten* *kitten* it!
The "what may" that "comes" is the first blustery rainstorm of fall. Leaves are blowing off the trees and into the gutters, where they clog drains and flood the streets. You battle the storm and traffic to the gym, find a parking space on the far side of the lot, and finally make your way into the building. You're wiping your feet and shaking the water out of your eyes when some guy in the lobby half-grins, half-leers at you and says: "Hey, c'mon - give us a smile! A nice guy like you shouldn't be going around with a smile!"
1) It's not the same as a cashier wishing you a good morning.
b) Rule of thumb: if a man saying something to a heterosexual man would come across as a homosexually inappropriate remark, then a man saying that same thing to a woman constitutes a sexually inappropriate remark.
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Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »No, it isn't. Let's assume for the sake of argument that you are a heterosexual man:
One morning, you wake up feeling hellish. On the way to the bathroom, you discover, with your bare foot, that the cat has thrown up on the carpet again. You clean that up and head into to the kitchen, where you discover that you're out of coffee. You re-use yesterday's grounds, get something together for breakfast, and head out the door with your gym bag - come what may, you are going to get to the gym this morning, *kitten* *kitten* it!
The "what may" that "comes" is the first blustery rainstorm of fall. Leaves are blowing off the trees and into the gutters, where they clog drains and flood the streets. You battle the storm and traffic to the gym, find a parking space on the far side of the lot, and finally make your way into the building. You're wiping your feet and shaking the water out of your eyes when some guy in the lobby half-grins, half-leers at you and says: "Hey, c'mon - give us a smile! A nice guy like you shouldn't be going around with a smile!"
1) It's not the same as a cashier wishing you a good morning.
b) Rule of thumb: if a man saying something to a heterosexual man would come across as a homosexually inappropriate remark, then a man saying that same thing to a woman constitutes a sexually inappropriate remark.
The poster that brought up.the smile thing didn't mention anything about the guy leering at her, mentioning anything about her appearance.
I would not get all hot and bothered if someone regardless of sexual orientation greeted me with a come on smile comment in passing at the gym.
Might find it hard to smile if just lost a loved one, but most likely not at the gym either.
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Packerjohn wrote: »
The poster that brought up.the smile thing didn't mention anything about the guy leering at her, mentioning anything about her appearance.
I would not get all hot and bothered if someone regardless of sexual orientation greeted me with a come on smile comment in passing at the gym.
Might find it hard to smile if just lost a loved one, but most likely not at the gym either.
I get the smile comment a lot because I have had Resting Mean Face since childhood, and I usually wound up from the immense amount of stress I'm under daily. So I might be managing my best smile or smiling on the inside. On the other hand, I was walking down the street in a tough neighborhood with a little smile, obviously happy about something in my musings. Then this woman yells at me "what the *kitten* are you smiling for". RMF can definitely be a protection. Too many crazies in my vicinity.4 -
Packerjohn wrote: »I would not get all hot and bothered if someone regardless of sexual orientation greeted me with a come on smile comment in passing at the gym.
How you would feel about it is irrelevant.
I would not say that to someone at the gym unless I knew them real well. It's inappropriate, it should not happen and whoever made the comment should be told to *puppy* off.
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Packerjohn wrote: »
Is it deeply annoying and cringy when a cashier or waiter says have a great day or someone says good morning? Same thing.
The person wasn't talking to her in the middle of a set, she was walking in the place.
I'm going to go with not the same. Cashier's and waiters are 1. working in the 2. service industry/retail. When you go to a store or a restaurant, as part of the unspoken social contract, you expect to be greeted. 100% of people expect this, at least in my culture they do. And frequently it is part of their job. They are also wishing you positive things, not implying that you should be happy or that the current state of your face is displeasing.
If you walked into a hospital, would you expect other patients to tell you to smile? No. If you walked into a store or restaurant, would you expect other customers to tell you to smile? If you walked into a laundromat, would you expect other people doing their laundry to tell you to smile?
Telling someone to smile, while you may think it's helpful, it's really not. It either highlights the fact that I have *kitten* going on in my world but I have to set that aside and worry about the fact that you don't like the current arrangement of my face, or it assumes that you have such sway in my life that merely telling me to smile put a smile on my face. I can garauntee that the second is not the case. It's implying that the only emotions I'm allowed to have are happy or setting aside my own emotions to tend to others insecurities and inability to let others have genuine emotions and bodily autonomy.
After decades of being told some variation of "smile" or "you're so pretty when you smile" it becomes difficult to call it anything besides lecherous and patronizing. This is the same as when women get genuinely mad over something, for a valid reason, and are told to calm down.
ETA: just because you don't experience it doesn't mean it doesn't happen. If this is the way someone feels, maybe trying to understand why they feel it is the better course of action than saying that they shouldn't feel that way. If you understand where they are coming from, you are better able to dismantle that emotion.42 -
Packerjohn wrote: »
I would not get all hot and bothered if someone regardless of sexual orientation greeted me with a come on smile comment in passing at the gym.
This isn't a case where you can make it gender neutral and put the issue aside. It's not ok for the specific fact that it inherently reinforces a power imbalance between men and women. It implies that if we're not happy and approachable and amenable and making the asker feel good then we need to adjust our behaviour, which is selfish and carries with it a presumption of entitlement to our output. Wrong. Women don't go around telling men they don't know to smile. That's how you know it is a gendered issue.46 -
Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?18
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In which case, feel free to frame it without the language that demands something. Nothing wrong with “good morning.”18
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On the smile thing, it’s hard to say not being there but I’m sure the person didn’t intend to offend you in any way. If they had intended to offend you, they probably would have chose alternative words. Just a thought.....15
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I don't like that the only thing or person I have to blame when I'm not making progress is myself. Also, that the only thing that can change that is...me. Just gotta keep on the grind.6
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MonkeyMel21 wrote: »
THIS!
I hit goal 7 years ago... and thought 'woohoo! no more tracking!'
I was so wrong
Choosing to not bother track anymore is why I had to re- lose the same weight again this year... (60lbs down, 12 more to go).
But THIS time I am pretty sure I can handle maintenance much more effectively by continuing to track.
But... in relation to topic of this thread?
LOOSE SKIN!!! The only thing I am hating about it.12 -
I'm usually okay with the whole new lifestyle because I feel so much better than I used to. That said, sometimes I just want to eat a candy bar without having to cut something else out in order to keep the balance in check.12
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psychod787 wrote: »Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?
I think the poster before you got it right - how many men get told by women ' Come on love give us a smile'? I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...34 -
VanVanDiane wrote: »I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
The opposite happens with me because I smile a lot. I get comments like: "what's so funny?"; "why are you smiling?"; "Mr. Smiley"; etc.
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Rerouting.
I dislike having to be vigilant about deliberately over-exercising in order to bank the calories to eat. There's no need to always feel like I'm recovering from a run or other session because I pushed it too far for the sake of a bagel or something inconsequential.12 -
VanVanDiane wrote: »
I think the poster before you got it right - how many men get told by women ' Come on love give us a smile'? I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
Uhhh... well.... just got told today by a lady to, "smile sunshine!" I do not feel anything was meant by it. I gave a grin and then moved on. I believe she was just being nice. While I am not really a "nice" kinda guy. Kinda Grumpy Cat really, I take no offense to people trying to be nice. Only people trying to be kitten holes. Then people.... I will open the flood gates. Lol13
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