What I Hate About Watching My Weight/New Lifestyle/Dieting, etc. (A Place to Vent)
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In which case, feel free to frame it without the language that demands something. Nothing wrong with “good morning.”18
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On the smile thing, it’s hard to say not being there but I’m sure the person didn’t intend to offend you in any way. If they had intended to offend you, they probably would have chose alternative words. Just a thought.....15
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I don't like that the only thing or person I have to blame when I'm not making progress is myself. Also, that the only thing that can change that is...me. Just gotta keep on the grind.6
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MonkeyMel21 wrote: »
Pretty much!MonkeyMel21 wrote: »I just hate that it’s never ending. I really enjoy working out, I’ve got that part down. I do NOT enjoy paying constant attention to what I eat in order to maintain my weight. It’s like I can never truly relax, constant vigilance.
Sick of looking at numbers.
Can’t wait to hit maintenance so I won’t have to be so strict.
Spoiler alert, maintenance is almost just as hard, lol.
THIS!
I hit goal 7 years ago... and thought 'woohoo! no more tracking!'
I was so wrong
Choosing to not bother track anymore is why I had to re- lose the same weight again this year... (60lbs down, 12 more to go).
But THIS time I am pretty sure I can handle maintenance much more effectively by continuing to track.
But... in relation to topic of this thread?
LOOSE SKIN!!! The only thing I am hating about it.12 -
I'm usually okay with the whole new lifestyle because I feel so much better than I used to. That said, sometimes I just want to eat a candy bar without having to cut something else out in order to keep the balance in check.12
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psychod787 wrote: »Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?
I think the poster before you got it right - how many men get told by women ' Come on love give us a smile'? I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...34 -
VanVanDiane wrote: »I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
The opposite happens with me because I smile a lot. I get comments like: "what's so funny?"; "why are you smiling?"; "Mr. Smiley"; etc.
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Rerouting.
I dislike having to be vigilant about deliberately over-exercising in order to bank the calories to eat. There's no need to always feel like I'm recovering from a run or other session because I pushed it too far for the sake of a bagel or something inconsequential.12 -
VanVanDiane wrote: »psychod787 wrote: »Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?
I think the poster before you got it right - how many men get told by women ' Come on love give us a smile'? I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
Uhhh... well.... just got told today by a lady to, "smile sunshine!" I do not feel anything was meant by it. I gave a grin and then moved on. I believe she was just being nice. While I am not really a "nice" kinda guy. Kinda Grumpy Cat really, I take no offense to people trying to be nice. Only people trying to be kitten holes. Then people.... I will open the flood gates. Lol13 -
VanVanDiane wrote: »I'd be genuinely interested to know if that has happened to any of you guys. It's happened to me a lot - I'm not a doll to smile on command sweetheart...
The opposite happens with me because I smile a lot. I get comments like: "what's so funny?"; "why are you smiling?"; "Mr. Smiley"; etc.
Kalex, nothing wrong with a smile. It can be a good thing, I just believe people are becoming very, well distrustful of "nice". I have to fight myself from being guilty of that myself. I work in an environment where most people have an angle. I just have to keep reminding myself, there are good people in this world. Mel.. yes extra exercise for indulges sucks. And Van... i would never call a woman I don't know "doll". Maybe ma'am.6 -
Cooking. I hate cooking. I hate planning to cook, prepping to cook, cleaning up the cooking....it's the most miserable chore I do. I've cut down eating out to 3-5 times a week and gotten meal prep down to a couple of hours most weeks, but still dread kitchen time every Sunday. I just miss having food that I actually look forward to eating. But I'm much closer to looking how I'd like to look, so I guess I'll take it!
You are my soul sister. I hate cooking, and food rarely tastes awesome to me if I have prepared it myself. No matter how good it is--just not worth the effort. My health and mobility for the LONG term are on the line, however, so I do it.
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Additional Rule of Thumb:psychod787 wrote: »Call me a douche or just old fashioned. It does not sound sexual to me. Just someone being... gasp.... nice... maybe the wrong thing to say, but I believe that people are just so freaked out by strangers. Don't get me wrong, there are dangerous people out there, but not everyone is like that. I think people need to speak to each other more. A good day probably would have been better, but just maybe, just maybe, he was just being nice. Or maybe, a pervert. Who knows?
If I can't tell the difference between you being nice and you being a pervert; maybe, just maybe, you're not being as nice as you think you are.
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Packerjohn wrote: »The poster that brought up.the smile thing didn't mention anything about the guy leering at her, mentioning anything about her appearance.
I would not get all hot and bothered if someone regardless of sexual orientation greeted me with a come on smile comment in passing at the gym.
Might find it hard to smile if just lost a loved one, but most likely not at the gym either.
It wouldn't bother you b/c you haven't heard it every Effing day of your Effing life--having other people tell you how you "should" present yourself, etc.
And please don't try to defend yourself--there is no way you can make any argument we WOMEN haven't heard about this issue. And every single one of them is simply wrong.
FTR, I for one might well be at the gym (or rather, out for a run) after losing a loved one. It might be one of very few things I can do at that point. So perhaps you should not make assumptions about what type of day someone is having based on the fact that they are, in fact, not at the gym.
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All of the new, better than ever pizza creations they seem to come up with, of course when I am on a diet.13
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I'm a woman and wouldn't be offended if someone told me to smile. I don't think you can paint all women with the same brush, either.16
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Having been on Keto recently for about six months and now just counting calories, I have gone to the store recently and not bought anything. I told my wife that I feel like I am in diet limbo, not sure what to eat anymore.11
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See, that's the thing. It is a leer, albeit a small one, because it is invasive. When you tell me to smile, you're invading the connection between my mood and my facial expression. That connection is a thing internal to me. I never invited you in there, and yet you're trying to insert yourself and your demands into the internal space between my mood and my outward expression. That invasion, and your presumption of the right to do so, makes your half-grin a half-leer.Packerjohn wrote: »Evelyn_Gorfram wrote: »
No, it isn't. Let's assume for the sake of argument that you are a heterosexual man:Packerjohn wrote: »I'm going to put this here today. Sorry about the shouting.
Oh my God. I'm about to take on this old dude at the gym. I'm just trying to dig deep today. I'm trying to find the will to exercise today. Baby steps day. I make into the gym. I'm just *kitten* walking towards the locker room and he tells me to smile. No dude. No. *kitten* you. I don't have to smile. Smile doesn't equal happy, it doesn't equal pretty, and I don't have to smile to be either of those things and I sure as hell am not going to smile for you.
I hate that some days I struggle just to make it into the gym. I hate that some days, dudes think they have a say over what I do with my body. Nope. I know I'm an intense person. I know I have at resting *kitten* face. That doesn't change the fact that I LOVE MYSELF AND I WILL SMILE WHEN THE *kitten* I WANT.
That sounds deeply annoying and super cringy. Talk about stepping over boundaries! It’s annoying enough when people make unwanted conversation at the gym, let alone try to regulate your emotions?! Oh *kitten* no! I’d be given him the side eye Lol. I had one of the gym employees trying to “pump me up” one day and it was literally all I could do to keep from walking back out. I’m like “I’m here. That’s good enough.... goodbye”
Is it deeply annoying and cringy when a cashier or waiter says have a great day or someone says good morning? Same thing.
The person wasn't talking to her in the middle of a set, she was walking in the place.
One morning, you wake up feeling hellish. On the way to the bathroom, you discover, with your bare foot, that the cat has thrown up on the carpet again. You clean that up and head into to the kitchen, where you discover that you're out of coffee. You re-use yesterday's grounds, get something together for breakfast, and head out the door with your gym bag - come what may, you are going to get to the gym this morning, *kitten* *kitten* it!
The "what may" that "comes" is the first blustery rainstorm of fall. Leaves are blowing off the trees and into the gutters, where they clog drains and flood the streets. You battle the storm and traffic to the gym, find a parking space on the far side of the lot, and finally make your way into the building. You're wiping your feet and shaking the water out of your eyes when some guy in the lobby half-grins, half-leers at you and says: "Hey, c'mon - give us a smile! A nice guy like you shouldn't be going around with a smile!"
1) It's not the same as a cashier wishing you a good morning.
b) Rule of thumb: if a man saying something to a heterosexual man would come across as a homosexually inappropriate remark, then a man saying that same thing to a woman constitutes a sexually inappropriate remark.
The poster that brought up.the smile thing didn't mention anything about the guy leering at her, mentioning anything about her appearance.
I would not get all hot and bothered if someone regardless of sexual orientation greeted me with a come on smile comment in passing at the gym.
Might find it hard to smile if just lost a loved one, but most likely not at the gym either.
The wording in my hypothetical greeting very specifically did not mention appearance. But you still recognized that it is, indeed, a remark about the listener's appearance."Hey, c'mon - give us a smile! A nice guy like you shouldn't be going around with a smile!"
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I hate that I don't get to eat as much as I want. That really grinds my gears, but that's also how I got here in the first place.
I still eat all the things I love (and I'm losing) I just eat less of them9 -
I hate that I'm always hungry and cold. I've been at this since February losing about 0.5 lbs. a week (so not a crazy super-low-calorie plan). I feel like I'm doomed to be hungry and cold forever unless I gain the weight back.14
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