The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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He has a staph infection covering about 50% of his body. It is blistering and painful. Heartbreaking really. He is only 10 months so he doesn't understand and just screams and screams when I have to clean him. It has been very emotionally taxing.
Dr. said yesterday in a week he will be mostly back to normal.11 -
He has a staph infection covering about 50% of his body. It is blistering and painful. Heartbreaking really. He is only 10 months so he doesn't understand and just screams and screams when I have to clean him. It has been very emotionally taxing.
Dr. said yesterday in a week he will be mostly back to normal.
Oh my ! That is heartbreaking for all of you. Very stressful, too.2 -
He has a staph infection covering about 50% of his body. It is blistering and painful. Heartbreaking really. He is only 10 months so he doesn't understand and just screams and screams when I have to clean him. It has been very emotionally taxing.
Dr. said yesterday in a week he will be mostly back to normal.
That's terrible! Poor little guy,worse cuz theyre so tiny and can't talk just cry out in pain,hope it clears up fast big ((hugs)) to you all3 -
He has a staph infection covering about 50% of his body. It is blistering and painful. Heartbreaking really. He is only 10 months so he doesn't understand and just screams and screams when I have to clean him. It has been very emotionally taxing.
Dr. said yesterday in a week he will be mostly back to normal.
Wow. Never heard of that happening. Terrible. Glad it is just one more week. Although a week is hard like that. Keep going; you are doing it booze free.
I am almost 9 months and have been following along even though my keyboard was broken. It just got fixed. IT IS WORTH IT WITHOUT alcohol. My mind is just getting sharper and clearer all the time. I can remember better and I just know I am getting fine tuned again. Not acting with APE mentality.....Life is hard, but booze was making it harder. It lied and said it would help me get through and relax. Yeah maybe for a few minutes each time, but I was drinking more and more like many of us to get that effect. I was using it for everything good and bad. Throwing up first thing a lot of days and hating myself as the wheels of my car seemed to auto pull into the liquor store. Forget it, it did WAY much more harm than good and the harm was increasing steadily. I wasn't losing weight, I was killing my liver by the tests, the anxiety, the depression, the not wanting to live anymore that came with it, the way I looked---it was awful--, the dehydration, the hiding of bottles and rooting for them....I started lying to people and I hate lying. The person at the store at 8 am said she hoped I wasn't going to drink that beer at 8 am and I said that I wasn't?????! The shakes when I tried to quit so many times.... WOW NO more!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I write this to make myself remember how it robbed me so much in so many ways and hopefully to help others remember, too.9 -
I just wanted to pop in and celebrate day 365 of living alcohol free!17
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crazykatlady820 wrote: »I just wanted to pop in and celebrate day 365 of living alcohol free!
You have made huge changes this past year!!! So inspiring and so noticeable!!! Keep us posted on your accomplishments!!! Truly it is breathtaking and remarkable!!!5 -
73CL350: My wife & I have your little guy in our thoughts and prayers. No matter how stressful it gets stay AF for him.
Wrapping up day 15 for me and hanging in there. Hard to be a Packers fan and not drink these days. And after checking the balance in my 401K this week, WOW - double whammy! But I'm sticking to my guns - no booze.5 -
@salleewins wow, that was totally inspirational. I can see myself in so much of what you said, especially the part about being on auto pilot as you drive into the liquor store parking lot after telling yourself all day you will not drink. I have learned so much from every one of the comments on these boards. It has truly changed my life for the better. Here it is, Friday night and I am home drinking my tea and getting ready to read a book. My mind is feeling sharper every day. I am feeling so much more peaceful than I have in a long time.7
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We all are making great strides and accomplishments here!!! It is quite amazing how much people want to do well and reach obtainable, but challenging at times AF/cut way down goals!!! I am happy to be around like-minded people!!! It is so inspiring!!!
Thank you @JenT304. You inspire me as well OF COURSE and thank you for starting this group!!! You are doing so incredibly well!!! Keep going!!! I enjoy looking forward to seeing your posts as others here. You are right I often said that I would not go to the liquor store (I swore off of it as I had been so sick) and then I would be pulling in. The best one was actually this last summer. I was going to an AA meeting in a different part of town and am not usually down that way much. At that point AF for about 6 mo. My car did that ALMOST pull-in to a small mall there. I have gone to a fashion store there before several times, but I know in my heart I was really going to auto pull in for yet another liquor store that I went to many times before....It scared me as to how ingrained it had become in my life. Me, too I am feeling peaceful as I feel I am doing more right things than wrong--AF being one big right.What book are you reading?? I just read "Craig and Fred" about a marine and a stray dog and how they rescued each other. I got to meet them at a book signing. Loved it. Now I am trying to read a book on Lincoln's Last trial before he became President. Hope I can read it as it is a murder trial. Not exactly bedtime reading, lol. I am still researching a knitting project. When I was drinking I used to think there was nothing to do so I resorted to drinking. Yeah well. We know that is not true..... lol........5 -
crazykatlady820 wrote: »I just wanted to pop in and celebrate day 365 of living alcohol free!
Congratulations on a year!!!
@salleewins that was a great post! Resonates a lot with me,sadly especially the clerk commenting on the time of the beer being bought,I'd always lie and say it's for my husband and he works graveyard and just got off he drinks a few to sleep,,such a huge lie my husband has NEVER worked a graveyard shift in his life 6 -
@73CL350 Poor wee man. Hoping your little guy mends quickly
@crazycatlady820 congrats on your first year. That's a milestone for sure!!
So many great posts that resonate with me. The wasted time drinking, the $$ saved or used for more productive purposes, the lack of hangovers, clear mind, clean conscience, driving sober!! etc etc. what seems to be a common benefit expressed here is the ability to COPE with whatever situation arises that at one time would have been temporarily escaped by pouring poison down our throat. We now know that is not coping; only delaying & adding more stress to an already stressful situation. The progress is obvious when drinking isn't the first thought when a stressor hits. Lots of progress on this thread.
I had the privilege of being the DD on a night out with a couple friends. We went to a quiet bar to see a band last eve...great night out and it wasn't weird ordering a Perrier with lime as my drink of choice. I can't remember the last time I was in a bar...at one time it was my 2nd home, but it's been at least a least a couple of decades now. This bar had quite a different clientele than the bars I used to frequent so it was a really relaxed atmosphere filled with people wanting to hear the band not drink their faces off, AND we left when the band was done just before 11 pm. The friends I was with aren't heavy drinkers, so I didn't have to tolerate any stupidity. In fact, I wouldn't have gone with heavy-drinking friends. I'm just not interested in being around that anymore.
Hope everyone enjoys their weekend relaxing or having some fun!! 7 -
Had a very boring but sober 47th birthday yesterday! My youngest was born on Thanksgiving '98, so I believe that was the last time I had a birthday without drinks. Oh, it wasn't boring because I didn't drink, it was just a dreary errand filled day. I ended it with a cup of kava tea and managed to stay up until 11pm
Hope everyone is doing well. 7 -
islandbeez wrote: »Had a very boring but sober 47th birthday yesterday! My youngest was born on Thanksgiving '98, so I believe that was the last time I had a birthday without drinks. Oh, it wasn't boring because I didn't drink, it was just a dreary errand filled day. I ended it with a cup of kava tea and managed to stay up until 11pm Hope everyone is doing well.
Happy 47th! You look young ! Some birthdays are boring or a let down but at least you don't have a hangover this morning 😊. Spend this weekend having fun- maybe get a pedicure and just relax.5 -
Happy Birthday @islandbeez wishing everyone a happy AF Saturday! 3
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Happy Birthday @islandbeez !!1
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So, today I was at a family birthday party. My brother in law said to me twice, can I pour you a Chardonnay? I said no thanks- it’s not part of my diet. I kind of froze. First, I realized my husband probably hasnt told his family that I quit which is no big deal either way. And second, I am not quite sure why I didn’t just say “I quit.”. Anyways, it was a good party. Everyone enjoyed their wine, and I enjoyed my sparkling water.9
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Good job on passing on the wine @RubyRed427 I think your excuse was fine for now,you can always tell everyone you quit for good down the road,@73CL350 how's the baby doing? Any better? I hope so,my daughter was pumping gas today and I seen a huge neon BEER sign thru the glass door of the station,one I've been to many,many times and I was just thinking about how some people can drink alcohol moderately and not go all crazy,just weird to me that I can't and go hog wild,not missing it just thinking about how different I am3
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We was happy and played for a few hours today which was a relief. Medicines are working just gotta be patient and let him heal.
Here is a pic of him from the day before he got sick ... until this, he's always been such a happy baby:
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@73CL350 What a sweet happy little guy! I hope he improves quickly, thanks for sharing his darling little face!
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Babies are a blessing. What a sweet face. I hope he is feeling so much better now. I ate WAY too much this weekend but I am still trying to get over my sugar addiction without the wine in the mix anymore. Yikes, it is hard. Anyway, tomorrow is a new day. I will do better.
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@73CL350 What a cutie pie!
@whitpauly I know what you mean. My brain is like yours. Cannot moderate to save itself. We are wired differently. I sometimes mourn that, but I also know that life will and is sweeter without any fog. I’m happy you’re at peace. Xo3 -
@salleewins wow, that was totally inspirational. I can see myself in so much of what you said, especially the part about being on auto pilot as you drive into the liquor store parking lot after telling yourself all day you will not drink. I have learned so much from every one of the comments on these boards. It has truly changed my life for the better. Here it is, Friday night and I am home drinking my tea and getting ready to read a book. My mind is feeling sharper every day. I am feeling so much more peaceful than I have in a long time.
Thanks again, Jen! This board is just what I needed these past 82 days AF. I don’t have any worries expressing my inner thoughts because I know that everyone on here is on the same journey and so incredibly supportive. Xo1 -
crazykatlady820 wrote: »I just wanted to pop in and celebrate day 365 of living alcohol free!
What a beautiful anniversary to celebrate! Congrats!1 -
73CL350: My wife & I have your little guy in our thoughts and prayers. No matter how stressful it gets stay AF for him.
Wrapping up day 15 for me and hanging in there. Hard to be a Packers fan and not drink these days. And after checking the balance in my 401K this week, WOW - double whammy! But I'm sticking to my guns - no booze.
Hope the Packers won. Congrats on 15 days!0 -
I was just thinking about how some people can drink alcohol moderately and not go all crazy,just weird to me that I can't and go hog wild,not missing it just thinking about how different I am
From what I've learned from Craig Beck & others, you're NOT that different!! Most people who drink an addictive substance become addicted & according to Craig Beck THAT is normal!! SO, just for the record YOU are normal!! I think that those who can truly moderate, which is one daily drink for women & two for men according to people who study the subject (actual moderation isn't what WE decide is ok for us. That is just a trick we play to keep doin' what we're doin' & deny the harm we're actually doin').
Addiction has different levels. The common idea for many people of someone who is a problem drinker/alcoholic is someone who has a lot of consequences from their drinking or the skid row bum. That may be the end result of a drinking career for some, but there are a lot of variations in between. From what I've learned, it is when a person attempts to stop drinking that will be the indicator of an actual drinking problem. If there is any level of difficulty stopping the behavior, guess what? There's likely a problem.
Those who can truly moderate are the exception and there are those who do not have an issue doing it. Then there are others who spend a lot of time planning, plotting, & strategizing to drink according to what they want moderation to be for them. For instance, one "strategy" is to drink a glass of water in between alcoholic drinks. WELL, if that is the plan & you are a woman who is "planning" to drink moderately you only get ONE standard glass of alcohol per day, so there should be no need to plan, plot or strategize....if you are drinking a glass of water in between drink(s), you have already gone past the point of moderation unless you plan on splitting your 5 oz glass of wine for eg into increments & have a glass of water in between those increments totalling a 5 oz glass & lots of water in between. Does anyone get my point here??
I think I am moving past the point of envying those who can drink moderately cause I have discovered it wasn't the taste of wine as much as the buzz of the wine that had me wanting it, SO what is there for me to envy when someone has a 5 oz glass of wine...if they are drinking it the way they "should" by savoring & really enjoying that one glass...s-l-o-w-l-y, there will be no buzz to follow!! LOL I am just so absolutely convinced that there is NO benefit to drinking alcohol that there really is nothing for me to envy!! THAT is a really good feeling!!!
Btw @RubyRed427 alcohol isn't part of your diet anymore so I think you spoke your truth. That may not be what motivated you but you can share that part later if anyone of your hubby's family broach the subject at some point. You GO girl!!!
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RubyRed427 wrote: »
... I live in an area where there is A LOT of weed and while I've abstained for many years (after many decades of use), I've considered dabbling again.... but then the thought occurred to me: WHY? It's obvious to me that I'm looking for a small chemical/head change to replace my beloved beer ... but WHY? So, I'm not going that route. I'm going to sit in this mildly uncomfortable (yet sober) space and still examining what it is I really need.lorrainequiche59 wrote: »One decision I made was not to smoke a joint. My friend actually brought it for me saying since I’m not drinking anymore, I could get high and have fun. I decided I didn’t want to trade one drug for another. I’m content with my decisions.2 -
We was happy and played for a few hours today which was a relief. Medicines are working just gotta be patient and let him heal.
Here is a pic of him from the day before he got sick ... until this, he's always been such a happy baby:
He is ADORABLE! It's so hard when our babies are sick. Hang in there, daddy! You are his rock. 5 -
Update: well, I drank at that concert. I won't go into details but let's just say that while it wasn't all bad, it wasn't all good either. I'm a great compartmentalizer, if that's even a word, and here is how I've handled my attempts at an AF life: I no longer drink daily. I feel like I've slayed that beast and I'm at peace now (somewhat). But I still want to drink at events (concerts, social gatherings, etc). Since I started exploring this AF idea in early June I've drank 3 times, all doozies, all pretty lame (by lame I mean that I was unable to stop, I had a ton of fun but I blacked out and was hungover the next day). I don't have any events on the horizon, and I'm totally okay with people drinking around me... but all in all, I still don't feel like I have a handle on it, or if I even WANT to. I WANT to go to the cute, small, brew pub by my house and a few craft beers. Dammit. I don't know if talking about it makes it better or worse.9
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Good Morning Hoping everyone is happy & healthy!!
@joha5603 I hear your struggle
Sounds like you don't want to drink daily, but don't want to go AF, yet are still concerned about your drinking. I can hear the confusion in your comment. Have you watched Craig Beck or others? I'm not sure if you're asking for feedback or just needing to vent, so that is my only suggestion. Knowledge is power. It isn't a magic bullet, but it can help us to at least make an informed decision & can also plant seeds that may sprout at some point in the future when we're ready to make the positive changes we don't feel ready to make presently.
My heart goes out to you & I really appreciate your honesty. You just laid it all out. I hope that someone who has decades or at least long-term experience, even a similar experience will reach out to you here. Hoping the best for you in the days ahead & please know I & others here care about what you're going through. 6
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