WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR JANUARY 2019
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We have so many interesting and wise women in this group!
Carol in GA2 -
Well still laying low.. fed Alfie and got him outside.. having some lavender chamomile tea ,in my nightgown and in bed...going to just chill for the night and hope it goes away...I'm real chilly so have the heated mattress pad on..3
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carol. I so agree with you-what a great bunch of minds and hearts in this group.
Having a quiet happy day with DH. We had a nap together and a nice long chat—my life is blessed
Got in a great workout this am as well so I fell I earned the nap
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Carol: Sorry about your thumb. Hope it heals quickly. Have you tried arnica gel for bruising?
Sharon in WA: Thank you for sharing your Allan story.
Sue in WA: ((hugs)) Think of you often and sending you and DH healing energy.
Bone broth cooking in IP, then will make the Creamy Zucchini soup from Skinnytaste. Easy and delish!
Take care and stay warm friends. We can do this.
Rori
SMILING in Colorado Foothills
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stat for the day:
bike ride, wk to hm- 1.04.57hrs, 12amph, 120aw, 130ahr, 154mhr, 12.9mi= 613c4 -
Sharon, in regards to getting another cat, we just don't want one right now. I'm so tired of the scooping and sweeping involved and yes, the upkeep of said kitties was up to me, for the most part. I scooped litter boxes for 20+ years, I have not missed that in the last almost 9 mos. We do miss the entertainment factor, they could certainly be entertaining! lol But, not the food and litter all over the floor and the hair, oh my! the hair!! lol And yes, I think our weather is very similar to the Seattle/Puget Sound area.
Tracey, fingers crossed for you for the scheduling job. Certainly sounds right up your alley! Is there any sort of gov't sponsored office that can help you jig your resume? Here in Victoria we have WorkLink, I believe it's throughout BC, but I could be wrong. Anyway, it's free and they can help with writing a resume that will really highlight your skills, the professional ones and the ones that can be translated into professional ones. After all, you don't need a degree to be able to budget funds or time, sometimes we don't see running a home as valid work experience.
Kim, sincerest wishes for you finding the perfect job(s) to fill those hours that have been lost!
Lisa, so happy that you are getting your surgery and on the correct knee also! It will go well and you will be up and dancing in no time! (I have faith!)
Heather, so glad your trip is still a go, sometimes we need time away with friends. I do hope you and hubby will feel better soon, glad to hear he's starting to feel a bit better tho.
Viv, so sorry that your mom is having such a tough time in regards to your dad. You've gotten really good advice from a number of people, I have nothing to add, just know that I'm thinking of you and your family.
I had a post half done, thought I minimized the screen but apparently I closed it, so of course, the post disappeared. I'm still reading, so many stories that are worthy of comments, I am just having a hard time getting and staying caught up! My eating has been out of control a bit the last few weeks, I haven't officially gained anything, but haven't lost any more either. I have also had a few salty meals lately (okay, a LOT of salty), so water retention has been a major issue (grrrr...). I keep getting interrupted (at work again), so I should just post this before I lose it again!
Hugs to those needing them, congrats to those celebrating and welcome to the newbies!
Evelyn, Vancouver Island
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grandmallie wrote: »Well still laying low.. fed Alfie and got him outside.. having some lavender chamomile tea ,in my nightgown and in bed...going to just chill for the night and hope it goes away...I'm real chilly so have the heated mattress pad on..
Might be related to your keto diet
This was one woman's response on a keto chat group
learned early on (hence this thread) that I just wasn’t eating enough. I was still trying to get my head around CICO and doing Keto at the same time. Not good. I upped my calories, while keeping carbs <20g total, and that fixed my being cold issues.
Hope that helps. Your body is going through a major adjustment switching to this diet. More water and rest would also help. Margaret 2 -
Watched Roma last night. I highly recommend it. Subtitles are well done. The acting, directing, and story telling is top notch. There is a scene with male frontal nudity, but it is non sexual/non erotic and not gratuitous, I guess that's why it still had an R.
A beautiful story, that I have been reflecting on all day. I will definitely watch it again.
Anyone else seen it?
Felicia
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Machka: Is there an alternative medical care option for your DH that would allow you to ditch the stupid woman you’ve been dealing with? Can you ask for him to be transferred to another person in the group? You need to be respected and treated appropriately. :grumble: Happy Australia Day! :bigsmile:Machka Aaaaugh. The back-to-work coordinator is just so premature. Surprised she's even involved with no back to work date yet set by your husband's MD. Can the MD tell her "don't call us, we'll call you!"?
My husband's doctor is still the neurological rehab specialist. And that was an issue for the back-to-work coordinator. "Why is he still seeing a specialist? Why isn't he going to his GP?"
Unfortunately, her organisation is employed by the insurance agency (Worker's Comp), so I don't have much say in it. When he came home in July, a person from her organisation was assigned to my husband, and he seemed good. He seemed to understand what was going on, and we heard from him about once a month to check in on how things were going. He organised my husband's carers etc. which was fine. Then this other girl took over in October and it hasn't gone well from the beginning. She has been pushing hard to get my husband back to work and doesn't seem to understand his injury at all. And of course it is in their best interest to get him back to work as soon as possible.
I'm trying to give her the information she needs and to work with her ... but every time we make a bit of progress, she seems to go back to "what I usually do is ... "
I'm even trying to look at it as a "working with people" learning experience!!
M in Oz
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PurpleSparkles85 wrote: »Viv: I think she is less in denial than beginning the grieving process. She is overwhelmed, tired, maybe even upset that she is giving over control to caregivers even though she knows she needs help. She is angry that he will leave her, doesn’t appreciate what she is doing and protecting herself from grief. Neither one can help what is happening and not really capable of supporting each other. It’s so difficult. Someone mentioned validation, and yes, she needs that too. I cannot tell you how many people that I have advocated for to meet death on their own terms, yet I was angry at my dad for years after his death when he did it his way. It was selfish, but I still needed someone to say that I could feel that way. Just being there, listening and loving, is an amazing help and gift 💜💜💜
That statement: "I still needed someone to say that I could feel that way" is very important.
When my husband had his accident, I had all sorts of different emotions about it and for a while I sensed that people close to me kind of wanted to downplay my emotional response. It wasn't until I went to my neuropsychologist and she told me very clearly that whatever emotions I was feeling were OK, that I began to be able to deal with it all emotionally. It was like I needed permission to feel angry, frightened, sad, overwhelmed, etc. etc. I needed to know that it wasn't wrong, and wasn't selfish, and was indeed all right to feel that way and to recognise my feelings.
M in Oz
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PurpleSparkles85 wrote: »Feeling a bit puny today: blood sugars a bit low, but worse is this vertigo. Almost fell in the shower bending over to rinse out my hair. It makes me tired to be so nauseous and dizzy.
Later, ladies,
Kathy in KY
Have you been to this website? And have you seen a physiotherapist who specialises in vestibular disorder?
https://vestibular.org/understanding-vestibular-disorder/symptoms
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I've been writing more of my husband's story in the evenings again. I'm about 9 days in. Fortunately, I emailed my parents a lot so that's what I'm using as the foundation of the story. Right now I'm just doing a lot of cutting and pasting of email conversations and detaching myself from the emotion. Once I've got that set up for the first 3.5 months -- to the point where he comes home -- I'll go over it again to flesh it out a bit.
When he comes home starts Part II of the story.
Machka in Oz5 -
A giant in the woods by Deception Pass.👍
💗Rebecca
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Got a lot of paperwork done today and it feels good to be caught up.
Lanette- as for my sugar limiting diet, I started the day my DD and family left on 1/4/19. I got rid of all the left over candy, cookies, cake and anything else that was a sweet treat. The first week I did slip a couple of times but so far I have been able to stay away from sweet things. I don’t add sugar to my coffee and now not to my tea. I watched both programs “The Skinny on Fat” and Live Longer and Feel Better”. There was so much information and I took lots of notes but I did learn sugar is very bad for your body. I was going to focus on carbs next month but decided to work n sleep instead.
Lisa- good luck with your surgery. I am so glad you don’t have to go to the VA.
Machka- if you can retrieve your posts you wrote on MFP, you would have some good details also.
SueBDew in TX
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Suki with leaf ears! This was during a trip they went on. I am not sure where this was taken. Germany?
💗Rebecca
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1948Peachy wrote: »We have so many interesting and wise women in this group!
Carol in GA
They truly are. And by the time I have read through all the posts, others have already said what was in my mind. Lol! Suffice it to say, you are all remarkable in you own unique way, and I love you for it.
☘️ Terri6 -
Yes,so many wise women on this forum. I’ve enjoyed the book suggestions and the thoughts and personal stories. Some hit close to home and helped my processing. Hardest thing I’ve ever done that I had control over, was being my Mom’s medical advocate. She had three cancers and wanted to die with dignity in her time. She told me her wishes and gave me power of attorney for medical issues. It was hard to honor but I did. She died in January 2012 and I miss her. I wanted to keep her alive but knew she wanted no more forced intervention.
My husband and I discussed end of life issues and he said he couldn’t support my wish for no prolonged medical intervention in certain circumstances. He said there has to be hope and thus would want all possible measures taken to prolong my life. I would honor that as his wish but for me I chose my sister to have power of attorney for medical decisions should I be unable to communicate. Such a hard conversation.
Betsy in NW Washington
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Did Amy Dixon’s Give me 10 DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do 10 Minute Solution Slim and Sculpt Pilates DVD.
Katla – I’m the emotional person, I’m the person who would respond “are you sure you even want me?” (Newcomers). Many times I just need someone to bring me back to earth and tell me that I’m being emotional. Plus…he’s worked his entire career in IT. So he kind-of knows what he’s talking about. I do care about the members. But I won’t continue to be treated the way I am, I get too hurt. I’ve spent too many nights being upset
Right now I have a ginger maple cake in the oven for the gal who works at the Y and lets me come in for free. Her birthday is while I’ll be in FL. I think I’ll need to make some icing to go on it. Oh…I should have thought to put these things around the cake pans so that the cake doesn’t rise a lot in the center. Well…too late now. I’ll just put extra frosting on it….lol
Sharon – Lisa couldn’t have said it better about Allen than I could. See, I’m not great with words. But I know that my heart is in the right place.
M – happy Australia Day! I didn’t know it was today! Actually, I didn’t even know that there WAS an Australia Day. Thanks for enlightening me.
Kelly – you never cease to amaze me with all the inventive things you do for the kids.
Iced the cake. I probably should have put more water in the icing when I made it. Oh well…. Still tastes good
Barbara – I don’t know how limeade will be in those pops. Like I said, I tried apple, grape, and you just don’t get much of an apple flavor. Let me know how they turn out. You might be able to add a little bit of the True Lime crystals to it to give it more of a lime flavor.
I have a question for you all: Denise just called and asked if I would make the shower favors. Of course I said I would. Now, she wants them to have a nautical theme. I looked online at the place where she’s having it and to me it looks more like a place where you would have a wedding reception. Then again, most places will put their best foot forward. Anyway, does anyone have any ideas (I’m looked at you Kelly!) for games or favors? I’m going to FL so I think I can get some shells and we can have a “guess how many shells are in the baby bottle” I wonder how long it would take for custom M&M’s to be sent here. I hate having a package just sitting out. Then again, maybe I can have it sent to a neighbor.
Kathy in KY – happy birthday to your son. I’m sorry you’re not feeling well. Hope the vertigo goes away real fast
Michele in NC
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M in Oz: I saw that website, thanks. This is not my first go-around with vertigo, and that time it lasted 5 months. A physical therapist friend was my best help, nothing else worked. I happen to be on one of the recommended medications because of my Mast Cell problem, it’s not working but it didn’t work the last time either!2
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KJ (Kelly), I hear that little voice in my head, and my heart just aches for him. My mom wasn’t much of a cook most nights. It was the mid-50s when I started getting an interest in baking. My mother had a Better Homes and Gardens cookbook that assumed you didn’t know how to boil water. I even went so far as cloverleaf rolls and angel food cake. My mom killed that by putting me in charge of dinner. The things she wanted made she wanted her way. Fried pork chops, which had to be well done, a lettuce wedge with mayo, catsup and relish. Canned green beans or corn. That was a typical dinner. I wonder if the mom would take to “Little (fill in blank) loved this today. Would you like my recipe? It’s easy and fast!” Probably not. I’d never be good at what you do. My kids brought home stray teenagers. My rule was “They can stay here if I can call their family and get it ok’d.” I had one girl for six years - from 14-20. No official foster or anything. I fed ‘em, made bed area for them, had fun with them, encouraged them to go back to school/stay in school/learn a trade. Most were there a week or less before they made peace. And my girls acted better when those kids were around. That part astonished me, because my older two were hell-bent on wrong paths at times. It all worked. I have one Zmasters in Nursing, one LPN, one BS in Evironmental Studies and Primate Begavior. That one is now working in the autism field. It’s amazing how helpful that stuff is w autistic kids. We’re very similar. Grandkids? One master baker, one journeymay Carpenter, one psychologist, one musician, one landscape contractor, one RN, one studying diesel mechanics, one supervisor of dairy at a commercial restaurant supply, one cute 14yo who thinks he wants to do game design and a terrific 13yo soccer player who thinks she wants to do that forever. And Nicolas, who is autistic, but seems to think anything involving reading, trains and fast cars would be great.
That’s why your kettle daycare boy Kelly, hurts me so. They’re each so precious, with their own light and gifts. We think we know what they’ll be, are devastated when they choose something else, and astonished when we see where it leads them. Kids need someone to be apprehensive and excited for them.
Solemn Sharon Near Seattle7 -
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Face ache.
DH tried the elliptical but coughed so much he had to stop after 100 calories and go and lie down.
I managed the machines, coughing and sneezing, and did some stretching, but wimped out on weights. Will take some pain killers in a minute. Glad I've done it now, because nothing seems to stop me eating. I'm within maintenance calories and haven't put any weight on, but only because I've dragged myself to the machines each morning. I know I would never get myself out to a gym in this condition, so I am very grateful for the exercise room next to our bedroom!
Perhaps we will stagger out to the sea front today.
Lots of love, Heather UK xxxxxxx5 -
Lanette "I much appreciate this group and you all sharing your insights in dealing with DH's or family members whose time on this earth might be limited. Sometimes I dip into gloom for a few minutes seeing my DH's health deteriorating over time, then snap out of it when I consider there are a lot of options. And it's all one day at a time." Ditto the appreciation. And thanks for the "it's all one day at a time" reminder, true for us all. "chomping at the bit to go work in the garden" same here. False Spring brought us 65 F temps at 06:00 Friday. Have to keep reminding myself it's still winter so I can weed but not plant...
Tracey rec center scheduling job with benefits and within walking distance sounds ideal. Tailoring your resume is just the ticket. Go for it! Yay YOU!
LIsa 11 days to a new knee? Now that's a good shock!
Heather hygienist is not covered by National Health but fillings are? Seems backwards to me...
Sharon Your Allan was a sweetheart indeed. Loved hearing about all your kids, grands and unofficial fosters.
Rita got rid of cholesterol meds while on keto? Wowser!
Machka Smiled REAL big when I read "My husband and I went for a nice 32 km bicycle ride today ... " Reframing your interaction with the back to work coordinator as a "working with people" learning experience-Brava! Was it you who posted this link? https://chopra.com/articles/7-steps-for-dealing-with-difficult-people
KJ Likewise smiled REAL big at the painting pics. You are a treasure! Oh how what Julian said pierces the heart. Our pastor tells the story of how a teacher noticed one of her students was "off" not responding appropriately, etc. When she asked him what he had for breakfast, he replied "it wasn't my turn to eat." That teacher started the snack pack program that sends packs of food home with kids for the weekend and during the summer.
Margaret hoping the shoes help the hip. Good shoes are the foundation.
Kathy in KY vertigo in the shower? Yikes! 5 months? Urg.
Carol Oww. ditto Rori's Arnica suggestion... also alternating heat and ice to flush out the bruising.
Betsy and others, any hints on how to approach Joe with those end of life conversations? So far he's been resistant and I've failed to press.
Michele great idea about adding True Lime to the pops, just happen to have a ton of it!
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD.
walk one more step 24/31, 60 g protein 23/31, rx/vits 22/31, meditate 24/31, knee exercises 24/31, SWSY UP 7/9, SWSY LOW 7/9, core 7/9, play with Tumble 8/31, hang up or purge art 0/4 AF 18/31.
Word for 2019: "GOOD" good attitude, good food, good times, good choices, good enough, feel good, GOOD!
01/26 LT: Dog group-Y MT: comb Scooter-Y ST: call Ray-Y
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I have a question for you all: Denise just called and asked if I would make the shower favors. Of course I said I would. Now, she wants them to have a nautical theme. I looked online at the place where she’s having it and to me it looks more like a place where you would have a wedding reception. Then again, most places will put their best foot forward. Anyway, does anyone have any ideas (I’m looked at you Kelly!) for games or favors? I’m going to FL so I think I can get some shells and we can have a “guess how many shells are in the baby bottle” I wonder how long it would take for custom M&M’s to be sent here. I hate having a package just sitting out. Then again, maybe I can have it sent to a neighbor.
https://www.google.com/search?q=baby+shower+favors+nautical+theme&tbm=isch&source=univ&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwj9i4OY9Y3gAhXBXSsKHa9LDxQQsAR6BAgAEAE&biw=1242&bih=569
https://www.kateaspen.com/nautical-baby-shower-favors.html
https://www.myweddingfavors.com/nautical-baby-shower-favors.html
There are actually a lot of ideas out there!!
Machka in Oz
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Good Morning Ladies~
feeling so much better today, got alot of sleep in, and the pain has subsided, the little fast i did yesterday brought me down another 1.4 lb so a total of 12 lbs down.. not bad for less than a month still going to take things slow eating as my tummy isn't 100% but will pick up some fiber and start taking that with my meal..i did buy some collagen protein powder and have put less than a scoop in my tea. going down to see DFIL and then will go pick up a few things at the store.. going to do some cleaning around here...2 of the people that live in my condo complex are also down where my DFIL is so will check in on them too..4
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