WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR JANUARY 2019

TerriRichardson112 wrote: »

Janet in SW MO - " One of the reasons I’m looking forward to retiring (even though I’m still about 8 years away), I’ll have more time to fit everything in.”
This made me laugh. Since I retired I’m busier than ever. 😂😂😂 The difference is, I choose everything I do. Life is too short to do anything else.

I've heard that from several people about being busier than before, but like you said, as long as 8 hours of that busy time is not going to work, I'll be happy .

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I have been trying to find the time to respond for a couple of days now and am finally taking it.

Kelly - my heart hurt about the little boy making the comment on your food. I was a Mom that fed my kids a lot of what I now consider junk. We didn’t have fast food places where we lived, McDonalds came to town the year we left. I “cooked” French fries and chicken nuggets,KD, Chef Boy R Dee, you get the drift. I made a proper meat, potato and veggie meal on the nights my husband was home, he drive long haul so it was only a couple nights every two weeks. I truly didn’t know how to cook much. I would try from time to time but then the girls wouldn’t eat and it would be a fight. I just didn’t have the energy for it. I started working for my cousin in her restaurant and my Aunt, her Mother, did all the baking. My Aunt was my hero and I so wanted to be here when I grew up. (I’ll never make it). I talked to her one day about my failures as a cook and she started showing me a little bit at a time. I learned how to cook restaurant style. The restaurant was a family style/truck stop so nothing fancy but I can now cook. This was in 1992.
In 2012 when my Dad was sick my Aunt was living with her daughter as she had developed Alzheimer’s. Her daughter had found a poem that was written by her to me. It had been ripped out of a scribbler that the eldest daughter believed was full of her recipes, the eldest daughter thinks one of the other daughters kept the recipes so I never got them, but I treasure the poem. I typed it out and hung it in my kitchen. I wanted to preserve her handwriting.

Just a Memory to Tracey Dawn

In these pages she may see, recipes that were dear to me.
So settle down and take a look, get out your bowl and begin to cook.
See it’s not so hard to do, once you’ve decided, dessert or stew.
I too had to learn
Although many things I did burn.
Takes time and patience I am sure
But makes you try that much more.
With best wishes in all you try
There will be dishes to wash and dry
With some goodies on a plate
Really take a little break
Watch a show on tv
But all the while think of me.
Just hope you’ll carry on.

Maybe that Mom just needs an Aunt in her life that has patience and can teach her without making her feel bad, she probably already does that to herself I know I did. You are a blessing in those kids lives.

My husband and I have not discussed plans on the event of a prolonged illness or death. I have thoughts and plans for myself but I’m not sure about him. I have tried to bring it up a few times but like Lisa, I get the dismissive sound. I can’t even get him to see a doctor so I just keep trudging along. I should do something up that my daughters have access to.

Heather - I hope you start feeling better soon, this is a bad flu season this year. A week or so ago I heard that there has been over 500 deaths in Canada related to the flu this year.

Lisa - So sorry to hear about your new coworker.

I’m curious, I wasn’t a part of the group when Gloria passed, how were you able to find out what happened? I’ve thought about that from time to time when someone doesn’t post for a while.

Well I’ve taken up way too much space. It is time for me to go clean.
Tracey in Edmonton

Tracey ~ What a wonderful poem your aunt left for you. I am sorry that you did not get the recipes that she had written down. Gloria was walking her dog after dark and was hit by a car. We found out about it from what her daughter had written on Gloria's Facebook page.

You all have made me think so much about what to do when one of us passes. I cannot get my DH to come up with any burial plans or how to proceed with the necessary after-death procedures. I am clueless about how to handle things like taxes and real estate. I have always paid all the utilities but he has handled all the other things. I finally got him to come up with the name of the lawyer that we have used for a long time when needed. At least, I have made a spreadsheet with all our passwords, bank information, etc. Is there such a thing as someone to guide you once your spouse has passed?

Carol in GA

1948Peachy wrote: »

Tracey ~ What a wonderful poem your aunt left for you. I am sorry that you did not get the recipes that she had written down. Gloria was walking her dog after dark and was hit by a car. We found out about it from what her daughter had written on Gloria's Facebook page.

You all have made me think so much about what to do when one of us passes. I cannot get my DH to come up with any burial plans or how to proceed with the necessary after-death procedures. I am clueless about how to handle things like taxes and real estate. I have always paid all the utilities but he has handled all the other things. I finally got him to come up with the name of the lawyer that we have used for a long time when needed. At least, I have made a spreadsheet with all our passwords, bank information, etc. Is there such a thing as someone to guide you once your spouse has passed?

Carol in GA

Thank you Carol, I hope one day one of her daughters can sit with me and share her recipes, she passed last March.

I am very thankful that I have not had to handle my husband’s death but I was quite involved with my Grandmother when my Grandfather did and then my Brother and I did my Dad’s as my Mom had no idea and couldn’t handle it. We found the funeral home director was a great source of information along with the bank manager. The funeral director walked is right through the whole process, he was a tremendous help even had the forms required for the Government. Then it was just a matter of contacting companies individually.

Llllll

Leftover roast w/ multigrain microwavable rice. 1 of 4 containers! I shall eat good this week! Tomorrow, making more broth, adding a wedge of cabbage, and omitting the rice.

💗Rebecca
Whidbey island
Washington

Lisa in AR Fragile and precious those poor kids! I remember needing my mom SO MUCH in my late teens and early 20s. I made many bad decisions, although it was being deeply depressed from her kids that brought many on. I'm sure given the nature of the work you share that there'll be more support than we had in the 50s. We were just expected to carry on.

Betsy in NW WA, I think many don't understand how these documents work. They're afraid someone will "sieze the moment to take control" or find it very hard to understand this could be useful to prolong their life and preserve their assets rather than the reverse.

Allie, Thats the perfect validation for what we've all been discussing, but what a shock for you, expecting to bring him home!

Heather in UK, Im so glad to hear you're taking a "duvet day"! That phrase endlessly satisfies. It brings visions to mind of pillow props and hot Scotch broth or gingery spice or chai tea and the books! The books or a great series on TV and little naps and treating oneself as one might a dear child who is feverish and out of sorts.

Winston Churchill was a man who holds great fascination for me, as do all the leaders of that era. I was born into it, but did not live it except for endless John Wayne movies and a recollection of mom having enough coupons to get me new shoes. My late husband lived the Fepression and the ear years, and served in the US Army enough to before the final peace to get the GI Bill. It made him the first male in his family to graduate from high school and the first to graduate from college. I totally support free Junior college St least, and 4-year school if at all workable. I'd willingly pay more taxes to be sure the next generation of medical, STEM And humanities (!) grsdustes are ensured.

Sometimes I read a post and I really wish I could physically hug the poster! KJ (Kelly), it was yours today. I'd have been out there with you, annoying the sleeping squadrons of workers with squeels and laughter. Sometime ya just need to recognize the unique thrill of a morning like that! Thanks!

Slightly Crazed Sharon Near Seattle - with NO SNOW!