The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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Yellowstone1983 wrote: »Hi everyone.. I ruined my 18 day streak.. I wasn't all that angry with myself at first, but it continues to grow as the day goes on. I don't want to feel this disappointment again.. It felt good to not have any guilt for the last 18 mornings.. I think the hardest thing for me right now is to not hang onto the bad feelings and just move on.. Hopefully when I wake up tomorrow, I'll be back to feeling ok about myself.. Congrats to everyone who continues to remain AF.. And to those who put themselves out there today after having alcohol, thanks for doing it. It made me feel more open to sharing.
been there done that many times.....i think what worked for me was the next morning feeling of utter dejection....then i read on here that you will make the change when the pain of drinking far exceeds the pain of abstinence...that pain of drinking when you dont want to is excruciating8 -
@Norminv that is said well.5
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Im off to Austin with 2 girlfriends for a couple of days. I'll ttys. One of the girls is AF all the time. One is not. So I feel like I will have a great chance at remaining sober. The month is almost over! I would hate to lose sight of my goal now. Sending hugs to all
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Good Morn to ALL
The sunglasses are wishful thinking...although the sun did peak out for a few mins this morn, 'tis now dull and grey AGAIN! My therapy light is my sun for today
I wanted to share another blurb from my Letting Go book from a few days ago...it keeps nagging at me to share it so here goes: "We admitted we were powerless over alcohol~~that our lives had become unmanageable. ~ Step One of Al-Anon
"...One of the most significant words in the First Step is the word we. WE come together because of a common problem and, in the coming together, we find a common solution....many of us discover that although we may have felt alone in our pain, others have experienced a similar suffering. And now many are joining hands in a similar recovery. We. A significant part of recovery. A shared experience. A shared strength, stronger for the sharing. A shared hope ~ for better lives and relationships." Melodie Beattie.
THIS is US right here!
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P.S. KEEP sharing...no matter how difficult or shame-based our behaviour is, we have a safe spot right here to spill it ALL! That is courage...doing what need to do to care for ourselves in spite of our fears. Spill away......
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You will do it Jen!
Thank you @lorrainequiche59 !
Remember that if we have a problem with alcohol, one time of drinking is not real fun. It is a false fun for a brief time.4 -
Im off to Austin with 2 girlfriends for a couple of days. I'll ttys. One of the girls is AF all the time. One is not. So I feel like I will have a great chance at remaining sober. The month is almost over! I would hate to lose sight of my goal now. Sending hugs to all
Have fun and I am happy you have the support from your other girlfriend who doesn’t drink. DAY 28, baby!
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Wishing everyone a wonderful week! Happy Monday! Last night we had sauce/pasta and always open up a few bottles of wine. I thought about initially and started getting aggravated AND then the light 💡 came on and I thought to myself how great I have been feeling. Deciding not to drink and waiting for “cocktail hour” to have a drink feels great. My desire to have a glass of wine went away quickly and didn’t think about it the rest of dinner, BIG YEAH!
I am being mindful of not drinking and the positives OUTWEIGH the negatives SO much! I don’t stop at one glass of wine. I know I change my eating habits when I am drinking...or should say lack of eating. SO BAD FOR ME. I am taking care of myself, I LOVE HER, ACCEPT HER and will be HER BF. It is much easier, obviously, to have positive talk to myself when I am making the right decisions and not apologizing to myself what I did the night prior.
“Your own thoughts are able to make you down quicker than any enemy. Mindfulness can put a kind of spam filter on your mind.” - Ilene Gregorian8 -
salleewins wrote: »Remember that if we have a problem with alcohol, one time of drinking is not real fun. It is a false fun for a brief time.
"False fun for a brief time". That's exactly right! A good way to think of it.
I've been trying to convince myself that i'm just as fun without alcohol as I was when I use to drink. I'm usually the life of the party, but, a lot of that was alcohol induced 😆 Now I need to find a way to break out of my shell and still bring that energy and fun, while sober.7 -
Hey Dry Januariers!!! We are almost there....me and my imaginary friends are gonna celebrate with chicken bone broth8
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Good morning all. Wishing you all a strong finish!@NormInv You’re so funny! 6
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Hi all. I’ve been away for months. Just checking in. I had a 50-day AF streak going and then had “one” drink on September 25. It took till MLK day to get to another Day 1. Hard lesson. So today’s day 7. Teaching in juvie detention has been wonderful and terrible and eye-opening. Tons of joy and tons of sadness. I won’t return next year. The job consumes my life. But I’m hoping the next 16 weeks will be an opportunity to be AF and healthy. Great to see y’all. No phones allowed at work so I can’t be a regular but will dip in for inspiration when I can. I really appreciate this thread.
We have missed you. Thanks for the update about your job. That must be so difficult and rewarding and exhausting....
Ahh the one drink... I remember that started on March 17 last year and didn’t get it in control until July 22. Must be typical human behavior when your brain is wired differently than a normal drinker. Sending you love and best wishes.5 -
Fitness327wk wrote: »Wishing everyone a wonderful week! Happy Monday! Last night we had sauce/pasta and always open up a few bottles of wine. I thought about initially and started getting aggravated AND then the light 💡 came on and I thought to myself how great I have been feeling. Deciding not to drink and waiting for “cocktail hour” to have a drink feels great. My desire to have a glass of wine went away quickly and didn’t think about it the rest of dinner, BIG YEAH!
I am being mindful of not drinking and the positives OUTWEIGH the negatives SO much! I don’t stop at one glass of wine. I know I change my eating habits when I am drinking...or should say lack of eating. SO BAD FOR ME. I am taking care of myself, I LOVE HER, ACCEPT HER and will be HER BF. It is much easier, obviously, to have positive talk to myself when I am making the right decisions and not apologizing to myself what I did the night prior.
“Your own thoughts are able to make you down quicker than any enemy. Mindfulness can put a kind of spam filter on your mind.” - Ilene Gregorian
Beautiful post. This inspires me. Self care: I love her, accept her and will be her BF. That is something i will remember. Xo4 -
I enjoy youtube videos about self helps. Stumbled upon The Untethered Soul author. What wonderful videos! Search for Oprahs Soul Sundays series. There are 5 min videos. One was about fear. And you need to watch fear pass you by instead of keeping pushing it away. Well, Michael Singer says it betters. This one is about change.... and why people resist it. I am going through a life change right now in my marriage. And I am staying sober despite it which amazes and delights me.
https://youtu.be/_slYICgPsQc 7 -
@JenT304 Wishing you a fun, carefree time in the sunshine!!!! xo1
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RubyRed427 wrote: »I enjoy youtube videos about self helps. Stumbled upon The Untethered Soul author. What wonderful videos! Search for Oprahs Soul Sundays series. There are 5 min videos. One was about fear. And you need to watch fear pass you by instead of keeping pushing it away. Well, Michael Singer says it betters. This one is about change.... and why people resist it. I am going through a life change right now in my marriage. And I am staying sober despite it which amazes and delights me.https://youtu.be/_slYICgPsQc
Thank you for this. I have some time to kill today and I was just looking for these type of videos to watch during that downtime. I'll check it out!
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, but something tells me you've got this! Stay strong, and we're all here for you if you ever feel like caving in.3 -
@RubyRed427 Thinking about you and sending you hugs. You won't regret facing this trial sober! 6
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@RubyRed427 thoughts and love to you... you are strong and important and worth EVERYTHING - sobriety included. We got you ❤️6
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@RubyRed427 keep going! You are doing so well. Very inspirational. Please keep posting!4
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RubyRed,I hope everything is OK,is this an ongoing thing or something that started when you went AF? Or is it unrelated? Sorry I'm not trying to be nosy,just want to offer support and wish I could give you a huge hug everyone sounds like they're doing great,I'm doing OK just get a little bored in the evening but that's my own fault cuz I just wanna watch TV,hopefully when the weather warms up I won't be such an evening couch potato
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RubyRed,I hope everything is OK,is this an ongoing thing or something that started when you went AF? Or is it unrelated? Sorry I'm not trying to be nosy,just want to offer support and wish I could give you a huge hug everyone sounds like they're doing great,I'm doing OK just get a little bored in the evening but that's my own fault cuz I just wanna watch TV,hopefully when the weather warms up I won't be such an evening couch potato
One of the reasons for getting sober last January and then again this past July was that I knew my marriage was going to end. It was my decision to end it. It was a long time coming. So, having a clear mind and strong sober spirit helped give me the courage i needed to make this life change. It is a roller coaster of emotions I am on. It’s heartbreaking when a relationship of over two decades is over. But being sober was a necessary stepping stone to gaining strength and courage.
I decided it was like training for a marathon. You have to make plans months in advance, fine tune your thinking, believe in yourself. ..... and then get unbelievable courage for five minutes to say what you’ve been wanting to say for awhile.
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@RubyRed427 You are inspiration with your honesty. My heart goes out to you as I know what an incredibly hard decision to make and understand when you know you need too! Prayers to you during this rollercoaster time. I think you are one VERY smart lady to be sober and reflect knowing what your future looks like.
Support to you!!! ♥️ 💜 🙏6 -
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Proud of everyone as we are closing up the month of Dry January!!! I will speak for myself that I feel like I am facing my issues with alcohol and rising above, by not drinking. I am facing the truth that I know I have an issue of not just enjoying one glass of wine, but rather have three, etc... I am not running anymore and accepting that type of behavior within myself!
All the best to everyone. 🤗 Hugs!!!10 -
Fitness327wk wrote: »Y
Proud of everyone as we are closing up the month of Dry January!!! I will speak for myself that I feel like I am facing my issues with alcohol and rising above, by not drinking. I am facing the truth that I know I have an issue of not just enjoying one glass of wine, but rather have three, etc... I am not running anymore and accepting that type of behavior within myself!
All the best to everyone. 🤗 Hugs!!!
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@Fitness327wk I’m really proud of you for identifying how your relationship with alcohol is more of a hinderance and you want to make a change. One drink leads to three.... sounds familiar
It sounds like once you have admitted that to yourself, it is an awakening. There’s almost less pressure. A relief.4 -
@whitpauly @bigmanatee @LC0924 @lorrainequiche59 @errydayimmusclin @JenT304 @Fitness327wk
Thank you for your hugs and caring comments. I’m doing quite well. The children took it much better than I dreamed they would. My parents and sister were amazing and supportive. And my husband is accepting and respectful. I know there will be more pain and hurdles in the future as the months pass, but for now, i am at peace. Love all the people on this thread. Such inspirations to me! 8 -
Yellowstone1983 wrote: »And FYI to anyone with Federal student loans, or family members with them- income based repayment is an evil trap, don't ever do it!
If you're comfortable, please explain? I am in an IBR repayment plan.
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