The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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@lloydrt I appreciate the wisdom you bring!! Great job on staying sober!!5
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@salleewins I will hug my daughter a little harder tonight! I am glad you have found the strength to not crawl in the bottle. I cannot even imagine, and do not want to.
@RubyRed427 I love the Craig Ferguson video. That was hilariously accurate.
Saturday update. I have struggled a bit, but still dry!! I did have to leave my house to keep from drinking. Got a pedicure and stocked up on Sprite Zero. I feel much better now. I might be developing a Sprite Zero habit, but I will deal with that later 😂6 -
Good morning friends!
@Beka3695 Happy you worked through the struggle.
This morning, we had an unexpected snow storm. Several inches on the ground. I was thinking back to early fall, newly sober, I decided to start a Sunday morning ritual with my daughter. Taking her to Starbucks on Sunday mornings to do the puzzles in the newspaper. Now, she will be graduating high school. I’m so happy I did that during her senior year. But I would have never done that or thought of it, if I hadn’t become sober. I have never missed a Sunday morning with her all these months because I didn’t have a hangover or stay out too late on Saturday night drinking. Yet another blessing of sobriety.
I also met with my friend who is an addiction counselor. We talked about our struggles; he’s been sober 15 years but is addicted to sugar. I guess an addicted mind is susceptible to anything. I am going to go back to AA meetings once a week.
I broke sobriety last December after 4 months. And have been having a hard time getting it back. I just had a huge warning sign last week, I opened the fridge and saw an open bottle of wine... and took a swig!! Right then I knew I am another swig away from sliding.
Cheers to a peaceful Sunday! I’m off to Starbucks!
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@salleewins I have been thinking about you. I am wishing you a peaceful heart today. I can’t imagine your suffering.I can’t imagine your pain. But I am hoping “for those who struggle on this day, may it land gently.” Quoted from a local columnist.3
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@salleewins I cannot imagine your grief Yet the strength you show is inspiring. Thank you for sharing your raw emotions with us. It takes courage to bare your soul. I hope by sharing your story that you are able to heal a bit more and, please, never underestimate how your willingness to share your struggles may help someone else who is reading to progress in their healing journey. BIG hugs to you and may you find a measure of peace.
I too am a Bible reader and find comfort in knowing our Creator will undo all the evil in this world. In fact, it states, "in a little while..." no more pain, no more death!!!4 -
I've got my car loaded up first thing this morn to head over to my new digs. The custodian "cleaned" the place, but I need to go ~clean~ it LOL...the walls/ceilings are freshly painted and the floors are shining, but the cupboards need to be wiped down more thoroughly and the shelves etc. I'm very excited!!
I know this is going to sound pathetic, BUT I'm going to say it anyway, there isn`t a lot in my life that I`ve been terribly excited about unfortunately...mostly because I`ve been so involved in drama, either my own, or someone else`s and THEN to deal with all the drama I numbed myself out with alcohol to take "the edge" off.
Thankfully, I began to give up the drama before I stopped drinking & continued to fine-tune that part of my life after I stopped. SO now I can enjoy the excitement of something good that is happening in my life....YAY!!11 -
Hi, I’m Scott, an alcoholic and addict. I celebrated 25 years in the program just 3 weeks ago. I posted my 25 yr chip here on mfp, for all my Fitfriends to see and comment on. Little did I know, of my 46 friends, 2 were in recovery right along with me. 1 year of mfp logging was also celebrated this month.
I ran across this thread and thought I should comment.
I post my meals daily and post my dedicated, strong workouts 6-7 days a week in my quest for a fit body. I am supportive and would appreciate your support in return. If you have similar fitness goals to mine, and are living a life of sobriety, I’d love you to add me as a mfp friend.
One day at a time. 💪💪👊14 -
Hey all,@salleewins I agree with Lorraine that you're dealing with all of this really well,TBH I don't know how I'd handle something like that,I'm glad you have your faith to help you through I TRY to read the Bible but it's so confusing to me so I just pray in my own way,RubyRed,you'll have a streak going again that'll last for even longer than your 4 months,I've been plagued by allergies and it almost makes me feel drunk! So dizzy,stuffy,lights are on but no one's home feeling it sux! Wishing all a super,sober Sunday! 8
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ScottCruger wrote: »Hi, I’m Scott, an alcoholic and addict. I celebrated 25 years in the program just 3 weeks ago. I posted my 25 yr chip here on mfp, for all my Fitfriends to see and comment on. Little did I know, of my 46 friends, 2 were in recovery right along with me. 1 year of mfp logging was also celebrated this month.
I ran across this thread and thought I should comment.
I post my meals daily and post my dedicated, strong workouts 6-7 days a week in my quest for a fit body. I am supportive and would appreciate your support in return. If you have similar fitness goals to mine, and are living a life of sobriety, I’d love you to add me as a mfp friend.
One day at a time. 💪💪👊
That is impressive!! BIG CONGRATULATIONS!! I am glad you posted this. As an alcoholic with just over 14 months, I can't imagine 25 years. That was a lot of work!! I needed to see someone once again top the charts as I am sure we all did that is trying to make it one day at a time. Keep us posted. The journey and accomplishment is truly inspiring!!9 -
RubyRed427 wrote: »Good morning friends!
@Beka3695 Happy you worked through the struggle.
This morning, we had an unexpected snow storm. Several inches on the ground. I was thinking back to early fall, newly sober, I decided to start a Sunday morning ritual with my daughter. Taking her to Starbucks on Sunday mornings to do the puzzles in the newspaper. Now, she will be graduating high school. I’m so happy I did that during her senior year. But I would have never done that or thought of it, if I hadn’t become sober. I have never missed a Sunday morning with her all these months because I didn’t have a hangover or stay out too late on Saturday night drinking. Yet another blessing of sobriety.
I also met with my friend who is an addiction counselor. We talked about our struggles; he’s been sober 15 years but is addicted to sugar. I guess an addicted mind is susceptible to anything. I am going to go back to AA meetings once a week.
I broke sobriety last December after 4 months. And have been having a hard time getting it back. I just had a huge warning sign last week, I opened the fridge and saw an open bottle of wine... and took a swig!! Right then I knew I am another swig away from sliding.
Cheers to a peaceful Sunday! I’m off to Starbucks!
Ruby I heard that the disease is progressive and that it gets harder and harder if we go back. Either that or the stress we are under makes it harder and harder. You sure are giving it your best with those hard times you are going through!! Thank you for being honest. Also thank you for sharing about the time with your daughter. Those memories are way better than the drinking times. I am so glad you have been able to do that with her. I try and get together regularly with my girl, who will be 30 in May. Unbelievable how time does evaporate.6 -
Hey all,@salleewins I agree with Lorraine that you're dealing with all of this really well,TBH I don't know how I'd handle something like that,I'm glad you have your faith to help you through I TRY to read the Bible but it's so confusing to me so I just pray in my own way,RubyRed,you'll have a streak going again that'll last for even longer than your 4 months,I've been plagued by allergies and it almost makes me feel drunk! So dizzy,stuffy,lights are on but no one's home feeling it sux! Wishing all a super,sober Sunday!
Yikes on those rotten allergies.
Thank you to another Honey Love on here. You all are.
Dr. Charles Stanley's Life Principles Bible (ministry is at intouch.org out of Atlanta, Ga.) breaks down the New King James Version real well. He also sent me a devotional once the team there heard about my son's passing. I treasure that gift. So helpful and broken down into a quick daily reading of a year's worth of Bible sections. It is called, "Every Day in His Presence". It is really for everyone any day, not just someone who lost a child.
Have another Happy Sober Day! Yes I really wanted to drink today, but I hurried home after church. Talked on the phone to a few people. Yes I ate some sugar. I have to let the diet plan down a few days. It will be ok. Now to do some fun, relaxing things as well.5 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »I've got my car loaded up first thing this morn to head over to my new digs. The custodian "cleaned" the place, but I need to go ~clean~ it LOL...the walls/ceilings are freshly painted and the floors are shining, but the cupboards need to be wiped down more thoroughly and the shelves etc. I'm very excited!!
I know this is going to sound pathetic, BUT I'm going to say it anyway, there isn`t a lot in my life that I`ve been terribly excited about unfortunately...mostly because I`ve been so involved in drama, either my own, or someone else`s and THEN to deal with all the drama I numbed myself out with alcohol to take "the edge" off.
Thankfully, I began to give up the drama before I stopped drinking & continued to fine-tune that part of my life after I stopped. SO now I can enjoy the excitement of something good that is happening in my life....YAY!!
I don't think of it as pathetic. You are getting more and more successful. I have had a lot of drama, too. It really is refreshing to get rid of the toxicity. So what. Better late than never and we are learning to take care of ourselves instead of punishing ourselves with alcohol.
Today I brought the issue up with a relative again that really needs to apologize . Well I apologized for anything I could pull out to get the ball rolling. Not only did she refuse, but threw even more insults my way. Can you imagine a 34 year old telling someone old enough to be her mother to grow up, get over it etc.? She started more trouble then even that and I said we have to take a break until she apologizes for all of it and that I loved her and her family anyways. Well I tried my best and did my part. Then I blocked her completely on FB. AND I didn't drink. No more drama. I don't need it. I want a happier life, like many of us here do. So enjoy your new place and I hope it is a wonderful, nice and peaceful place for you. Congratulations!7 -
Hi, everyone. I'm back and checking in. I've missed this group. A lot has happened since I last checked in. RubyRed, what a huge change you are going through! It's an adventure that will definitely have its ups and downs.
I just have to make it until May 31 to finish my year of teaching incarcerated teens the glories of Shakespeare (more like writing coherent sentences). I love them. I LOVE my principal and colleagues. But the job is just too much. I have had no life at all. No weekends or evenings. No time with family. Constant stress.
Unfortunately, it was far too easy to turn back to alcohol, but that has only exacerbated the problems. For the last month, I've been waking up at 3 a.m. I used to do that in the "bad old days," too, but then I could finally get back to sleep and stay in bed until 10 if necessary. Now, my first class begins at 7 a.m., and so I go in sleep deprived and make it through another day. My feedback from administrators has been that I do a stellar job. And I do, drawing on my years of teaching experience from the past and my love for the kids. But I've been pretty good at hiding the real story of how totally I'm killing my body and soul.
Friday morning I woke at 3 and could not go back to sleep. I finally, for the first time all year, called in sick. Friday night was not much better, again waking at 3:30. And I had to drive 4 hours Sat. morning to see my granddaughter for a theater date. I prayed I wouldn't fall asleep on the road, miraculously made it through yesterday. On the long drive, I had a come-to-Jesus talk. I simply can't drink. I just can't. I stopped for 50 days last summer/fall, and I felt glorious. I stopped for 3 days in January but a minor crisis undid that.
Last night I went to sleep in my hotel room with nothing but San Pellegrino and a melatonin for sleep. I slept like a baby. I did wake up at 3, but after a brief bathroom trip I happily settled back into a peaceful snooze and woke up at 8. So, today is Day 2. I'm actually too scared to drink any more. I also looked at a selfie I took on day 49 of my last attempt, and I looked so pretty. Not bloated and yucky like I do now. Vanity is a motivator for me.
I hope that not drinking I can check in here more often before May 31. I've informed my principal I won't be returning next year. I'm looking forward to sobriety. I HATE drinking. But I drink. Mary Gautier (a recovered/recovering alcohol) has that haunting song with the lyrics "Fish swim/ birds fly/ lovers leave/ by and by. Old men/ sit and think . . . . I drink." I can so relate to that.
Thanks for listening all. Sorry for the long post. Back when I was a regular, someone started "woo-ing" me everytime I wrote ANYTHING. I think it was during the time when the "alcohol is poison" thing was going on, and I must have said something that rubbed someone the wrong way. But woo or not, I need this group. I need the support and hope I can return to offering support to others as I get stronger. Good night and good sleep!16 -
@donimfp Welcome back! You may have missed the discussion where many of us came to the conclusion that the 'woo' may just be a cheerful Woo who!! At least that was my interpretation of that emoji/rxn8
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@donimfp Such a powerful post. Welcome and best wishes for your amazing journey.5
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I've been sitting here tonight reading through everyone's weekend posts and I just want to send out lots of hugs to all of you going through struggles. There's a lot of pain on this board, but there is an overwhelming amount of hope, too. Your stories are so inspiring and it's truly heartwarming to see everyone offering each other words of comfort and understanding.
I came here this evening to post about my anxiety - how it hits me again every Sunday night knowing that the work week is starting and seems to be getting worse again. I used to think a couple of glasses of wine helped that, but it was only numbing the feelings and I know it's something I have to overcome on my own. And now this anxiety feels silly and small compared to what others are going through, so I'm doing some deep breathing and trying to gain better perspective.
Wishing you all peaceful, restorative sleep tonight and may we all wake up feeling wonderfully sober and free!13 -
@VeggieGirlforLife Don't be so hard on yourself.. You'll always find someone who has it worse off than you, but it doesn't make your struggles any less significant.7
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@donimfp and @VeggieGirlforLife Great posts from each of you. I'm in a similar boat. I drank a bottle of wine on Thursday, was hungover on Friday (and I swear into Saturday), ate poorly as I visited family for the weekend, and combined with restless sleep, felt an anxiety wave coursing through my body for 2 days.
As I was driving home yesterday, I just started putting the pieces together again. How the problems magnify with alcohol. How I feel physically lousy the next day. How much I prefer not to drink, even when the temptation is overwhelming. And then, also, how I do not feel that I look my best.
Thanks for being so open and honest.9 -
@salleewins Thank you for the reply. Congratulations on your 14 mos of sobriety. I promise it gets easier. Things change throughout our journey. Priorities shuffled around. Goals accomplished and some just reset. My goal since joining mfp has been to be sub 20 body fat percentage (down from 40+). I’m struggling, but determined at around 24 bfp today.
My priority has always been my sobriety, as without it, I would be dead. Sorry to be so dramatic, but I know it to be true. I would not survive a relapse. Like I said, and promised you, it does get easier.
I still do it exactly like you do. One day at a time.
A big “thank you” for those that have connected with me from this thread.
@RubyRed427 @LC0924 @Ed_Zilla
Congrats to all of you and your sobriety. Happy Monday !!!7 -
35 days sober. Here's to a sober April! Good luck everybody.14
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January-0 drinking days
February-2 drinking days
March-0 drinking days 12 -
Waves to all and welcome back @donimfp yep those 3 am wake ups are not worth it! I got so bad that in some if my really bad days I'd keep an open can of beer by my bed to sip to try to get back to sleep,how sick is that?!? Everyone sounds really good,let's kick April's butt!7
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Welcome back @donimfp! We've missed you! I wouldn't worry about the "woos" sometimes people mean them in a good way like, "woo great job!" We all 100% support each other here on this thread. Opinionated folks can go elsewhere. I read aloud to my husband some William Porter articles from welldoing.org., trying to help him to be mindful of the effects of alcohol on our bodies. He doesn't drink they way I do/did, but he CAN so he found it thought provoking. I absolutely love WP. His book, "Alcohol Explained" is the number one reason I quit/try to quit/am mindful of drinking. I HIGHLY recommend it.
I love everyone's recent comments here. Thank you for sharing your triumphs and struggles. We are all in this together! Happy April!! XXOO ~ Jen.10 -
I am so excited about this month. I stopped drinking the day before the solstice, not necessarily thinking it was "forever," but soon realizing what a profound change it had on my entire life. In March, I got overconfident and some part of me apparently thought, "Well! that challenge is over!" and I tumbled. Nothing terrible, just the usual -- and the usual is no longer any good. That was two weeks ago now and it is a new month, a new start, and I can already feel that I have regained the momentum I had at the end of February. The difference is that I have a new certainty. This is my new life and I am very happy with it. Here's to an amazing new month! Best wishes to you all.10
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Good Morning Crew!!!
I had a successful first weekend sober! Today is OFFICIALLY day 7!
Today, I am starting a new accountability challenge with another MFP friend:
1. Stay Sober
2. Stay within my 1500 daily calories
3. Log every bite that goes in my mouth
4. Minimum 30 minutes of cardio daily
I am hoping that being hyper focused on this will help me get back into a groove.
Lastly, this past weekend, hubs and I booked a 7 day All inclusive trip to the Dominican Republic in May. I am so excited bc it has been a while since we have had a nice vacay, but drinks flow freely at these places. It is an adult only resort - I did read on trip advisor that it is an older adult crowd. I think this will help. I have started mentally preparing myself.10 -
@Beka3695
I hear you. For the third year, we'll be coming back from Spain via boat -- it's so much fun because they have to reposition the cruise boats from the Med to the Caribean every year and we love sailing across the ocean. But it is all-you-can-drink and very drink-focused. Fortunately, that is several months away for me. I hope to be a lot more solid by then. Right now, it's about the only situation that is really hard to imagine AF.I have started mentally preparing myself.5 -
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Hey everyone ... joining the thread. I have been a steady MFP'r for years although I took a recent 2 month break. Fortunately I have never taken a break from deciding not to drink anymore since 7/30/94 - 24 years, grateful to all that have helped me on this journey15
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IWillTakeBackMyLife wrote: »35 days sober. Here's to a sober April! Good luck everybody.
NICE JOB!!4 -
ScottCruger wrote: »@salleewins Thank you for the reply. Congratulations on your 14 mos of sobriety. I promise it gets easier. Things change throughout our journey. Priorities shuffled around. Goals accomplished and some just reset. My goal since joining mfp has been to be sub 20 body fat percentage (down from 40+). I’m struggling, but determined at around 24 bfp today.
My priority has always been my sobriety, as without it, I would be dead. Sorry to be so dramatic, but I know it to be true. I would not survive a relapse. Like I said, and promised you, it does get easier.
I still do it exactly like you do. One day at a time.
A big “thank you” for those that have connected with me from this thread.
@RubyRed427 @LC0924 @Ed_Zilla
Congrats to all of you and your sobriety. Happy Monday !!!
Thank you so much for your response. That is not dramatic as I think the same for myself. I know how much I was putting away, just last year January--not that long ago-- and I had decided that I wanted to die. When I told an addiction counselor, by what he said, I know he was amazed that a woman could drink that much. From that alone, it is a miracle I am not dead. I can't promise anyone else here could make it, drinking the way I drank. I remember saying that I won't even drink water anymore. I made that decision as well. It is hard to believe that, had even happened. If I hadn't quit and lived at all it would be because God had saved me from myself. I am happy that I have been rescued. I can't afford another round, but it plagues me. Anyways your goals are impressive for the body fat percentage, too. You are very disciplined. That I want to make for my goal, as far as sticking to my diet plan better with more discipline. Yes, my priority is my sobriety as well. I often think of things that I want to do and if they will keep me from a drink or get me closer. I have logged daily 99.9% of the time for a long time now, so I am progressing with other goals. If you have achieved 25 years, I am certain that your other goals are achievable, too. Thank you for the promise that it will get easier. Keep us posted on your goals, progress/ups/downs. Again, it is ALL VERY inspiring!!5
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