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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »melissafeagins wrote: »First thunderstorm of spring 2019 is in the books. The weather guys didn't predict it and my dog is a nervous wreck now. She hates thunder.
Eww! I bet you guys don't need much more rain. How much damage did all the flooding do by the previous rains?
Fortunately, not too much. There are some gnarly potholes that need fixing, and some water damage to the homes close to creeks, but by now, everyone who lives in them knows not to use the basement. Unfortunately, my neighbors had water in their basement because their foundation wasn't sealed properly. We are a mile from the river and up on the hill, they think they have their drainage issues fixed and the basement sealed. I think they have a tree they need removed or it will happen again, but it's not my house.
It's supposed to be sunny the rest of this week, so maybe we won't be in too much trouble.0 -
@kellyjellybellyjelly you made me curious so I checked our local almanac data. We ended 2018 with 12" more than our annual average rainfall and are 7.3 inches over our average so far for 2019. We definitely don't need more rain just yet.1
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Well, we had "The baby talk". I've got the poor guy pretty freaked out. But hopefully maybe in my favor. The idea of kids terrifies him. He said he doesn't want to say anything that would break my heart. ( His knee jerk response is HELL NO with a side of F THAT). I've left the conversation alone for a few days now, and he's the one who's bringing it up. Saying things like " If this is what you want then we need to...>insert preperation plan here<." and stuff like that. We were at walmart I told him I wanted to look at the ladies clothes, and he says " I don't wanna!" started heading the wrong direction. I say " Let's go this way". And he goes " Uh isn't the BABY department over here??" "No honey, I said LADIES department"
l Now granted, we have a friend and a cousin who's pregnant now, and baby showers are next month, but still. It was pretty funny to me. So maybe there's hope. 4 -
Babies are awesome, and hard, and a time-suck, and pure love in a tiny bundle.4
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quiksylver296 wrote: »Babies are awesome, and hard, and a time-suck, and pure love in a tiny bundle.
What Quik said. I'm glad he's coming around. When he gives you something to do as far as planning, make a start on that.
What about your job? = check into it with your HR department. Does short term disability pay out during maternity leave? If so, pick it up before you are pregnant.
What about daycare? = start checking with your friends with babies about what they like and do not like about their daycares.
What about paying for college? = Google 529 education plans. And start adding $ to a savings account that can be moved to one after baby is born. If you need the money to pay your deductible for delivery, that's fine too.
Can you tell I had four kids? LOL.
ETA: involve him in these planning questions too. He will feel better the more involved he is. Men like control.2 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »Babies are awesome, and hard, and a time-suck, and pure love in a tiny bundle.
Yup, this!0 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Well, we had "The baby talk". I've got the poor guy pretty freaked out. But hopefully maybe in my favor. The idea of kids terrifies him. He said he doesn't want to say anything that would break my heart. ( His knee jerk response is HELL NO with a side of F THAT). I've left the conversation alone for a few days now, and he's the one who's bringing it up. Saying things like " If this is what you want then we need to...>insert preperation plan here<." and stuff like that. We were at walmart I told him I wanted to look at the ladies clothes, and he says " I don't wanna!" started heading the wrong direction. I say " Let's go this way". And he goes " Uh isn't the BABY department over here??" "No honey, I said LADIES department" l Now granted, we have a friend and a cousin who's pregnant now, and baby showers are next month, but still. It was pretty funny to me. So maybe there's hope.
This is good! I would take that as acceptance and he is already planning! That or he is trying to freak you out into changing your mind. That’s if Mel’s comment hasn’t already done that.
Even I just read that and was a bit like WHOA!0 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Well, we had "The baby talk". I've got the poor guy pretty freaked out. But hopefully maybe in my favor. The idea of kids terrifies him. He said he doesn't want to say anything that would break my heart. ( His knee jerk response is HELL NO with a side of F THAT). I've left the conversation alone for a few days now, and he's the one who's bringing it up. Saying things like " If this is what you want then we need to...>insert preperation plan here<." and stuff like that. We were at walmart I told him I wanted to look at the ladies clothes, and he says " I don't wanna!" started heading the wrong direction. I say " Let's go this way". And he goes " Uh isn't the BABY department over here??" "No honey, I said LADIES department" l Now granted, we have a friend and a cousin who's pregnant now, and baby showers are next month, but still. It was pretty funny to me. So maybe there's hope.
This is good! I would take that as acceptance and he is already planning! That or he is trying to freak you out into changing your mind. That’s if Mel’s comment hasn’t already done that.
Even I just read that and was a bit like WHOA!
I didn't mean to freak either of you out, Lois. It was just stuff I know are the first parenting questions. And if you do your research before a positive pregnancy test, you will feel less overwhelmed by these things. (And the whole maternity leave thing is different in the UK anyway so my questions about that don't apply to you.)1 -
melissafeagins wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Well, we had "The baby talk". I've got the poor guy pretty freaked out. But hopefully maybe in my favor. The idea of kids terrifies him. He said he doesn't want to say anything that would break my heart. ( His knee jerk response is HELL NO with a side of F THAT). I've left the conversation alone for a few days now, and he's the one who's bringing it up. Saying things like " If this is what you want then we need to...>insert preperation plan here<." and stuff like that. We were at walmart I told him I wanted to look at the ladies clothes, and he says " I don't wanna!" started heading the wrong direction. I say " Let's go this way". And he goes " Uh isn't the BABY department over here??" "No honey, I said LADIES department" l Now granted, we have a friend and a cousin who's pregnant now, and baby showers are next month, but still. It was pretty funny to me. So maybe there's hope.
This is good! I would take that as acceptance and he is already planning! That or he is trying to freak you out into changing your mind. That’s if Mel’s comment hasn’t already done that.
Even I just read that and was a bit like WHOA!
I didn't mean to freak either of you out, Lois. It was just stuff I know are the first parenting questions. And if you do your research before a positive pregnancy test, you will feel less overwhelmed by these things. (And the whole maternity leave thing is different in the UK anyway so my questions about that don't apply to you.)
I am in full research mode already, lol! I'm taking his what if type planning questions as a sign of acceptance. Because of how he words it. Like telling me now I REALLY need to get in shape and stay in shape during pregnancy, because it makes pregnancy/ birthing easier. I need to find out about how maternity leave works here. Most women take the standard 6 weeks off, but I don't know what they offer in terms of payment. And the daycare? I'm quite worried about that. I really want to ask stay at home relatives if they are willing to watch future child for me and save the cost of daycare. But I also don't want to get thier hopes up, lol. And my friends have thier kids in these fancy pants day cares that cost way too much IMO. Or they stay home. So I'm going to have to do my own research and start calling people, lol.
And Mel? I'm the oldest of 4, so I get it, LOL. My youngest brothers (Twins) were born when I was 13. So I was key help during thier earlier years. On one hand it's because of them that babies and little kids don't intimidate me. It's also a big reason I've waited so long to decide, lol. At 13, I was old enough to see the financial & life impact that having two babies in the house does. Talk about effective birth control! But my expirience will help me out if and when this baby thing happens.5 -
melissafeagins wrote: »Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Well, we had "The baby talk". I've got the poor guy pretty freaked out. But hopefully maybe in my favor. The idea of kids terrifies him. He said he doesn't want to say anything that would break my heart. ( His knee jerk response is HELL NO with a side of F THAT). I've left the conversation alone for a few days now, and he's the one who's bringing it up. Saying things like " If this is what you want then we need to...>insert preperation plan here<." and stuff like that. We were at walmart I told him I wanted to look at the ladies clothes, and he says " I don't wanna!" started heading the wrong direction. I say " Let's go this way". And he goes " Uh isn't the BABY department over here??" "No honey, I said LADIES department" l Now granted, we have a friend and a cousin who's pregnant now, and baby showers are next month, but still. It was pretty funny to me. So maybe there's hope.
This is good! I would take that as acceptance and he is already planning! That or he is trying to freak you out into changing your mind. That’s if Mel’s comment hasn’t already done that.
Even I just read that and was a bit like WHOA!
I didn't mean to freak either of you out, Lois. It was just stuff I know are the first parenting questions. And if you do your research before a positive pregnancy test, you will feel less overwhelmed by these things. (And the whole maternity leave thing is different in the UK anyway so my questions about that don't apply to you.)
It didn’t freak me out, more ground me.
Uh, I don’t know, I would say they do all apply. Maybe swap the college one for saving for a first property. They announced the other day that the average person in England will spend 10 years saving enough money for a deposit to buy their first property. The only way we did is through inheritance.2 -
Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Well, we had "The baby talk". I've got the poor guy pretty freaked out. But hopefully maybe in my favor. The idea of kids terrifies him. He said he doesn't want to say anything that would break my heart. ( His knee jerk response is HELL NO with a side of F THAT). I've left the conversation alone for a few days now, and he's the one who's bringing it up. Saying things like " If this is what you want then we need to...>insert preperation plan here<." and stuff like that. We were at walmart I told him I wanted to look at the ladies clothes, and he says " I don't wanna!" started heading the wrong direction. I say " Let's go this way". And he goes " Uh isn't the BABY department over here??" "No honey, I said LADIES department" l Now granted, we have a friend and a cousin who's pregnant now, and baby showers are next month, but still. It was pretty funny to me. So maybe there's hope.
This is good! I would take that as acceptance and he is already planning! That or he is trying to freak you out into changing your mind. That’s if Mel’s comment hasn’t already done that.
Even I just read that and was a bit like WHOA!
Don't worry Lois, half of that doesn't apply to us Brits and the other half I am sticking my head in the sand and going lalalala!2 -
I would say, it's good to plan but don't get too bogged down in the details. I kept reminding myself, most people do this, and most people manage one way or another!3
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I burnt my forearm today. Got a big three inch long red blister. Well done me, winning at life.3
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Crafty_camper123 wrote: »Well, we had "The baby talk". I've got the poor guy pretty freaked out. But hopefully maybe in my favor. The idea of kids terrifies him. He said he doesn't want to say anything that would break my heart. ( His knee jerk response is HELL NO with a side of F THAT). I've left the conversation alone for a few days now, and he's the one who's bringing it up. Saying things like " If this is what you want then we need to...>insert preperation plan here<." and stuff like that. We were at walmart I told him I wanted to look at the ladies clothes, and he says " I don't wanna!" started heading the wrong direction. I say " Let's go this way". And he goes " Uh isn't the BABY department over here??" "No honey, I said LADIES department" l Now granted, we have a friend and a cousin who's pregnant now, and baby showers are next month, but still. It was pretty funny to me. So maybe there's hope.
This is good! I would take that as acceptance and he is already planning! That or he is trying to freak you out into changing your mind. That’s if Mel’s comment hasn’t already done that.
Even I just read that and was a bit like WHOA!
Don't worry Lois, half of that doesn't apply to us Brits and the other half I am sticking my head in the sand and going lalalala!
Don't leave your head in the sand too long. They are teenagers before you know it.2 -
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I would say, it's good to plan but don't get too bogged down in the details. I kept reminding myself, most people do this, and most people manage one way or another!
This is true. Most people do manage. The biggest Hong (and maybe the hardest) is not falling victim to keeping up with the Joneses. Your kid does not have to have everything/ play every sport/go to every camp. That's what makes a lot of people lose it.5 -
* thing bit Hong. Dr. Hong is a good cardiothoracic surgeon.. And I was answering emails about him. Sorry2
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Also, this could be a long week. Plate in the Bathroom Girl is on kitchen duty.4
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