Yup. Hit Scream Weight.
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My stats are similar. At 5’5’’ I always maintained in the low 120s. After some physical ailments caused reduced activity, the scale kept creeping up. And I kept mostly ignoring it. When I finally got on the scale and it said 145, my heart stopped. That’s only a few pounds shy of overweight, and only 1 pound below my highest pregnancy weight! It spurred me into action. I’m now 137 and counting down.
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Thanks for the mention of the book, "Refuse to Regain". I've been in maintenance for about a year but it seems like it's a daily challenge for me mentally. I'm on chapter 1 of the ebook, can't wait to read the rest. Knowledge is power!2
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pierinifitness wrote: »I recently reflected on my past of falling off my lean and mean pony (am now back on it) and wrote this:
“But, along the way, those who are part of my life must have seen a change taking place as my previous chisel was evaporating in thin air right before their eyes. Why didn’t they say anything? Were they in denial too? Or, were they trying to be my “friend” and not want to hurt my feelings? Talk about the weather or engage in small talk like, “How about them Raiders!”
I’m not sure but do know this, none of my “friends” or “acquaintances” said one word, their silence was deafening, to which I say, “thanks but please, no thanks the next time.”
Next time, please, tell me when my hair is on fire.”
Ah.... but would you have listened or perhaps been hurt by their comments? I see folks around me who have fallen off the wagon at work (esp after lap band surgery or other types of very noticeable weight loss) and really think that it would be inappropriate to comment to them. Surely they already know. What would be the best way to help them?8 -
SummerSkier wrote: »pierinifitness wrote: »I recently reflected on my past of falling off my lean and mean pony (am now back on it) and wrote this:
“But, along the way, those who are part of my life must have seen a change taking place as my previous chisel was evaporating in thin air right before their eyes. Why didn’t they say anything? Were they in denial too? Or, were they trying to be my “friend” and not want to hurt my feelings? Talk about the weather or engage in small talk like, “How about them Raiders!”
I’m not sure but do know this, none of my “friends” or “acquaintances” said one word, their silence was deafening, to which I say, “thanks but please, no thanks the next time.”
Next time, please, tell me when my hair is on fire.”
Ah.... but would you have listened or perhaps been hurt by their comments? I see folks around me who have fallen off the wagon at work (esp after lap band surgery or other types of very noticeable weight loss) and really think that it would be inappropriate to comment to them. Surely they already know. What would be the best way to help them?
This. I wouldn't dream of saying anything to someone to I know who has gained back noticeable weight. I've always figured that they already know, and that I'm just rubbing salt in the wound if I say "Hey, you gained the weight back."7 -
darn it, I feel for ya! it happens all too easily but you know what to do...mind you sometimes its easier said than done.
All the best for getting back to your happy weight range.
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One more thing that is helpful to me when in this same situation: although I do eat at a deficit, I find it easier to look at/change behaviors more than calories, i.e., I stop eating any carbs with breakfast, and stop snacking, healthy or not, after dinner, until I can get back to my weight range. As long as I am on track with the right calories, I find that just changing a few behaviors is more easily accomplished with less frustration than calorie counting.10
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purplefizzy wrote: »@nowine4me
I appreciate your vulnerability and level headed positivity. It may be a ‘scream’ weight but scream doesn’t have to mean panic. Scream can mean harnessing the frustration, and making the next right nutrition move.
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You will handle this! You have done so well and this is a temporary setback. You have motivated me many times by just reading about your journey and efforts. Hang in there! We all go through this.3
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If you would appreciate daily accountability, I really like the Just Give Me 10 Days forum in the challenges category of MFP.1
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OMG, I love this post. I hit 145 last week, and have been flirting with it for a while... after YEARS of maintenance, I hit my scream weight as well. @nowine4me - I'm right there with you (and half hte other members of this thread). We've seen the problem, we're taking steps to tackle it, we've totally got this. I think I've decided to drop more weight this time than I did last time and see how it goes. I've been injured, so exercise has been an issue, but I recently restarted lifting, and am planning to do lots of biking and maybe kayaking shortly.
I found that I'm not able to use the same method I did last time. This time I'm using TDEE instead of letting MFP adjust things for me when I exercise. So far, I've found the change helpful.10 -
I knew it was coming, but today was the day. My goal weight is 125 (5-7”f) which I hit last Feb. Late summer creeped up to 135, over winter hit 145. Today, BAM! 150, the weight I said I would never see again. Technically, this doesn’t even belong in this thread, but you are my people. Yes, I know what needs to happen, but implementation is yet be seen. I do have incentive with a vacation in 45 days and no summer clothes that fit.
Hell yes it does. It's a part of maintenance. Most don't ever stay on the nose at goal weight 100%. It's a see-saw. We lose balance. Then when we notice, we have to correct. Large length between the waves maybe, but it's still quite normal.
I'm busy re-balancing my see-saw right now, too. Ultra-pissy about it but it's not the first time and won't be the last.19 -
I’m pretty sure this forum has the best people in the world. I wish I could come hug every last one of you. Thanks for talking me off the ledge.31
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SummerSkier wrote: »pierinifitness wrote: »I recently reflected on my past of falling off my lean and mean pony (am now back on it) and wrote this:
“But, along the way, those who are part of my life must have seen a change taking place as my previous chisel was evaporating in thin air right before their eyes. Why didn’t they say anything? Were they in denial too? Or, were they trying to be my “friend” and not want to hurt my feelings? Talk about the weather or engage in small talk like, “How about them Raiders!”
I’m not sure but do know this, none of my “friends” or “acquaintances” said one word, their silence was deafening, to which I say, “thanks but please, no thanks the next time.”
Next time, please, tell me when my hair is on fire.”
Ah.... but would you have listened or perhaps been hurt by their comments? I see folks around me who have fallen off the wagon at work (esp after lap band surgery or other types of very noticeable weight loss) and really think that it would be inappropriate to comment to them. Surely they already know. What would be the best way to help them?
Good question, thanks for asking. I'm sure I might have initial "hurt" of some type but if I really thought it through, I'd be grateful. Of course, delivery is important. I remember watching a YouTube video, one of those amazing transformation ones, where this guy, now chiseled but fat as can be before, shared how his lady significant other, one morning told him that she was really concerned about his wellness. I'm sure she said it in a kind and loving way. Regardless, it was a defining moment for him.
But, with regard to me and my hurt, knowing my personality, that hurt would be mad and mad would be a call to action. Now maybe that call to action was right around the corner anyway, I'll never know. But, I would certainly appreciate a dear friend or acquaintance that would have the braveness to step outside their comfort zone and say the obvious. My two cents but I'm a dude, an older one, with thick skin. I know I definitely would not have cried. Dudes don't do that, they just get pissed and want to fix the situation.
Thanks for your good question.
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Totally get it. In maintenance for 5+ years. Hit my scream weight, which to me means that I have to get right back to my range. But I bypassed it. Now it's only a bypass by two pounds, but I know that slippery slope all too well. And it's really 5 lbs. in you look at the bottom of my range. AND it's been on for 4 months, so I know it's not going to be easy to lose. 5 lbs. over a range on a 5'0" lady is a lot. Been kidding myself for too long, so got started again a few weeks ago. You know what to do, as do I. I'm back to my weight loss calories, and it's coming off slowly. Refuse to Regain, as the book says. (Good book if you haven't read it.) Good news is that we all have been there and we all know that we need to be alert. Bad news is that I hope you don't beat yourself up. Get back on the horse ... it's lifelong journey for us!
@jrwms714 I also want to thank you for mentioning Refuse to Regain.
I’m either at GW or close, mostly maintaining the past few months. And this book has some really great insights.
My current manta is “Be on Offense, not Defense.” I used to call this, “Insure Your Success” but I like the concept of actively being on the offense to retain our new, great health! Worth fighting for. Thank you!3 -
pierinifitness wrote: »SummerSkier wrote: »pierinifitness wrote: »I recently reflected on my past of falling off my lean and mean pony (am now back on it) and wrote this:
“But, along the way, those who are part of my life must have seen a change taking place as my previous chisel was evaporating in thin air right before their eyes. Why didn’t they say anything? Were they in denial too? Or, were they trying to be my “friend” and not want to hurt my feelings? Talk about the weather or engage in small talk like, “How about them Raiders!”
I’m not sure but do know this, none of my “friends” or “acquaintances” said one word, their silence was deafening, to which I say, “thanks but please, no thanks the next time.”
Next time, please, tell me when my hair is on fire.”
Ah.... but would you have listened or perhaps been hurt by their comments? I see folks around me who have fallen off the wagon at work (esp after lap band surgery or other types of very noticeable weight loss) and really think that it would be inappropriate to comment to them. Surely they already know. What would be the best way to help them?
Good question, thanks for asking. I'm sure I might have initial "hurt" of some type but if I really thought it through, I'd be grateful. Of course, delivery is important. I remember watching a YouTube video, one of those amazing transformation ones, where this guy, now chiseled but fat as can be before, shared how his lady significant other, one morning told him that she was really concerned about his wellness. I'm sure she said it in a kind and loving way. Regardless, it was a defining moment for him.
But, with regard to me and my hurt, knowing my personality, that hurt would be mad and mad would be a call to action. Now maybe that call to action was right around the corner anyway, I'll never know. But, I would certainly appreciate a dear friend or acquaintance that would have the braveness to step outside their comfort zone and say the obvious. My two cents but I'm a dude, an older one, with thick skin. I know I definitely would not have cried. Dudes don't do that, they just get pissed and want to fix the situation.
Thanks for your good question.
I did point out to my husband when I noticed him gaining a lot (for him, he's always been slender), just because it seemed unlike him. Basically he'd started a new desk job and took the bus, so not his usual walking. As soon as he started walking again, slightly looked after his nutrition, and did some occasional fitness videos at home, he lost it and then a little more. He was a little offended at first but I think he was grateful I said something.
I wouldn't point it out to anyone else though if I noticed them gaining, I don't think. It's different when it's the dude you've been with half your life.5 -
Good lesson for me.
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@MadisonMolly2017 : You're welcome for the book. There are a few things that I don't agree with, but overall, it really speaks to me. I reread it when I am battling my range. She also has a blog that you can subscribe to, but it comes very rarely, which may even be a good thing. She is one of the few people who speaks to how I am choosing to do my maintenance over the past 5+ years. Enjoy!0
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I’m pretty sure this forum has the best people in the world. I wish I could come hug every last one of you. Thanks for talking me off the ledge.
Hugs!MadisonMolly2017 wrote: »Totally get it. In maintenance for 5+ years. Hit my scream weight, which to me means that I have to get right back to my range. But I bypassed it. Now it's only a bypass by two pounds, but I know that slippery slope all too well. And it's really 5 lbs. in you look at the bottom of my range. AND it's been on for 4 months, so I know it's not going to be easy to lose. 5 lbs. over a range on a 5'0" lady is a lot. Been kidding myself for too long, so got started again a few weeks ago. You know what to do, as do I. I'm back to my weight loss calories, and it's coming off slowly. Refuse to Regain, as the book says. (Good book if you haven't read it.) Good news is that we all have been there and we all know that we need to be alert. Bad news is that I hope you don't beat yourself up. Get back on the horse ... it's lifelong journey for us!
@jrwms714 I also want to thank you for mentioning Refuse to Regain.
I’m either at GW or close, mostly maintaining the past few months. And this book has some really great insights.
My current manta is “Be on Offense, not Defense.” I used to call this, “Insure Your Success” but I like the concept of actively being on the offense to retain our new, great health! Worth fighting for. Thank you!
Read the book. Good advice about being vigilant, but the "primatarian" diet might just be too restrictive in the real world.
**edit** dr. Berkeley still insist that the insulin hypothesis to weight gain is correct.0 -
Been there! Getting back on the wagon and losing the weight is always hard but after a few days it will feel normal again. The good thing is, you already know what to do.3
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collectingblues wrote: »SummerSkier wrote: »pierinifitness wrote: »I recently reflected on my past of falling off my lean and mean pony (am now back on it) and wrote this:
“But, along the way, those who are part of my life must have seen a change taking place as my previous chisel was evaporating in thin air right before their eyes. Why didn’t they say anything? Were they in denial too? Or, were they trying to be my “friend” and not want to hurt my feelings? Talk about the weather or engage in small talk like, “How about them Raiders!”
I’m not sure but do know this, none of my “friends” or “acquaintances” said one word, their silence was deafening, to which I say, “thanks but please, no thanks the next time.”
Next time, please, tell me when my hair is on fire.”
Ah.... but would you have listened or perhaps been hurt by their comments? I see folks around me who have fallen off the wagon at work (esp after lap band surgery or other types of very noticeable weight loss) and really think that it would be inappropriate to comment to them. Surely they already know. What would be the best way to help them?
This. I wouldn't dream of saying anything to someone to I know who has gained back noticeable weight. I've always figured that they already know, and that I'm just rubbing salt in the wound if I say "Hey, you gained the weight back."
I agree, I would never say anything either. We are all in different places in life. If someone who was previously chiseled and had the body of a greek god was starting to gain weight, I would never think to say something about it. For all I know, they just don't care anymore. There is more to life after all. Or even if they did care, surely they have a mirror and me saying something doesn't do any good.4
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