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Tired,foggy headed, anxious,kinda depressed,scatterbrained,etc and it's been over 2 months,just bugs me5 -
@whitpauly
@Beka3695 I COMPLETELY understand what you're feeling! I will be hitting 3 months AF in 4 days (April 16). I've written about the exact same things. I felt depressed, irritable, lazy and foggy. I had dishes stacking up and I had no motivation to do my regular day to day chores, let alone work. I don't think there's a magic number because it's going to be different for every individual. But I can tell you this week has been different for me. I'm sleeping better and I have motivation to get things done. I'm in a better frame of mind and even caught myself whistling in the shower. (It took me a second to realize that noise was me and not some crazy bird outside.) It's a process and I realize I may not feel like this tomorrow, so I'll take it and be grateful for today. I'm making it a point to celebrate the small victories. Everyone who fights this demon is AMAZING for the decisions you are making right now. Hang in there. This too shall pass.
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I guess when we're grilling this summer, he can keep drinking his beer and I'll have some iced tea.
@BuffMom84 - While I am a HUGE fan of iced tea, when summer rolls around - Arnold Palmer's are my AF drink of choice when golfing, BBQing, anything outdoors. Simply put they are 1/2 iced tea and 1/2 lemonade. Worth a try...
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Hi!! I am 29yo who used to drink a lot. I had a lot of fun in my days. Sober for 10 months and hardly even think about alcohol anymore! Super blessed. I am a mom of two kids. Work full time. Need to find some fun for myself to enjoy if I ever have moments of free time- my daughter recommended “exercise”.. she’s so smart 😊15
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Welcome everybody new! Day 29 today.. Just checking in. Hope everyone has a great AF weekend!9
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Hi Everyone: I'm exhausted & too pooped to comment but want to say HELLO...and happy sober weekend to all...the like, hug buttons etc are all messed up...I hit like & it gave 4 likes, hit hug and it gave 2 … oh well, at least they're registering!!7
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@Ed_Zilla, thanks for the encouragement but at 14 days I feel like one of those newborn colts on very wobbly legs. I hardly dare hope that the hardest part is behind me. Right now the memory of the sleepless night from hell followed by a long-distance drive (all thanks to alcohol) two weeks ago is keeping me motivated. I just have to remember that the “I’ve recalibrated now and can moderate now” fantasy that has derailed me too many times is a big fat lie. I believe that will be the hardest part because I’ve never faced that liar down before.
@whitpauly, I wouldn’t presume to offer you advice because I’ve never made it 2 months. However, I think if I did make it that long and felt as bad as you are feeling I’d ask my compassionate nurse practitioner or doctor what the hell was going on. Maybe there’s a small adjustment that would help you feel as good as you deserve to feel! You’re awesome for hanging in there but white-knuckling it has got to be exhausting. Sending positive vibes your way.
Have a great weekend everyone!!7 -
Tired,foggy headed, anxious,kinda depressed,scatterbrained,etc and it's been over 2 months,just bugs me
And that's how I feel the day AFTER I drink. The last bout of all those feelings really threw me for a loop. I had a long drive starting on a predawn Sunday morning to contemplate it all, which led to my own discovery that drinking, which I do to get rid of my anxiety, leads to more anxiety the next day.3 -
GOOD MORNING!! The morning seems to be off to a fine start weather-wise. There are no visible clouds in my field of vision & I'm hoping it will stay that way today even though I'll be inside working this aft, I can enjoy the a.m. cloud free hopefully!!
I'm now on the countdown to move day. I had a friend install my livingroom blinds yesterday. There is a piece missing that the wand attaches to so they can`t be opened & closed and the 2nd set for the bedroom was only shipped yesterday...same company, but one set was made in Texas and the other California...and now I'm attempting to contact the company to get the missing piece shipped...of course no one answers the phone so I have to leave a message with the promise of prompt attention in a day or two and the chat line is unsupported at the moment so I had to leave a message there also) SO annoying...I get annoyed easily sometimes. Cause in the grand scheme of things, "it doesn't make a hill-of-beans difference does it now Lorraine?" Oh, the life of a ~Drama Queen~
Sometimes I think the "victim mentality" in me rears it's ugly head when things don't go exactly as I'd like. My dialogue is, "Figures! I get the defective blinds and I order from the company that can't ship my order together
" Like there is some big fat universal conspiracy to TICK ME OFF!!
Last week I had to send back the microwave I ordered because they shipped me the wrong one, which I would have likely kept if the control panel on the front didn't fall off when I took it out of the damaged box and there weren't a few significant dents in it. When I called the company & said it's being returned, they told me they were out of that particular one so they are refunding me. But nothing is easy because there was no return label in the box (likely because it had already been returned once) so I had to get the company to email one to me and then get a friend to print it off because I gave my printer to my daughter awhile back when I moved into this super small space and when she printed it off, the upc code didn`t print...SO I sent it to a friend to print...
ON top of it all, I had to pay for the postage to send it back (they will refund that also, but that`s not the point, cause I am "the victim" lol) It's interesting how such an insignificant event can trigger some of my issues such as mistrust. I'm somewhat leery about ordering online anyway because of this exact scenario, but refuse to limit myself due to a couple of not so great experiences. I ended up going to a local store to get a microwave & thought I should have done that to begin with...What began with my online purchase of both the blinds & the microwave being a "time saver" has actually ended up being a time waster AND just general frustration....
Thanks for listening to my boring blurb....but I feel unloaded now LOL
Can anyone relate to this type of situation??
PS I am back in therapy so I'm certain all these "issues" will get sorted out in no time flat … hmmmm???? Here's hoping!!8 -
@lorrainequiche59 Definitely been there! It's a very relatable situation3
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@lorrainequiche59 I rarely buy anything online, for all of those reasons. Of course, I stopped buying online before the internet, when it was catalog/telephone/mail ordering. But everything you are saying now rings true for how it was then.
Well, wait, that's not true. I do order my Nespresso.
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I don't know how many days I've gone without for this last stretch. 10? 11? My longest stretch ever was over a year. In 2018, I went 100+ days.
Last Wed, I was out with work friends celebrating one's return to the office. I drank water. No eyebrows were raised and no one said a word, other than one just asking, "You're having water?" And that was it.
I'm visiting friends this weekend. I've been here since Friday. Both Fri and last night, the topic of wine came up, as in, "Should we open up some wine?" We even ended up at the store on Friday, browsing the aisles. After 10 minutes, looking at various bottles, discussing roses and sauvignon blancs and hearty reds, I just said, "I'm not really in the mood for it, so pick whatever you want." And that was it.
I'm sharing these stories for a few reasons. You're not going to be pressured to drink if you're around the right people. So to all those who are trying to forge their paths but feeling they need to hide that they are not drinking -- there is no explaining that needs to be done. You just don't feel like one tonight. End of story.
And for me, my head seems more clear lately. Not that I am not feeling some anxiety -- I am. Big time. Some days, and nights, much worse than others. But I feel a lot better in the morning. And I can name the anxiety when I'm sober, and quickly tell myself that what I am stressing about is not logical, is not a big deal, and probably will not happen anyway. I cannot do that when I'm drunk.
So that's where I am at today. Am I going to go without alcohol for the rest of my life? Probably not. Am I going to try to go without today? Yes. I am feeling pretty confident that I can handle today.11 -
There are other reasons people can be foggy brained etc. after quitting drinking. Stress etc. I have had the everlasting stress of grief over deaths and stress with my job since I quit drinking, ugh. The better I eat, the better I feel, however. Consider if dairy is a problem, gluten etc. Your body changes. What works now may not keep working. We have a lot of additives, pollution, things wrapped and stored in toxic plastic....... My system has been so messed up that I take fish oil daily, a probiotic--allergen free and now have purchased a multi that will go with my way of eating. These are 3 supplements that I am considering doing for life.If your sleep is messed up consider how to destress. I also take Sam-e and Lemon Balm to help. I take digestive enzymes, HCL for digestion and other STUFF, lol. I do not drink liquids after dinner so I don't get up at night.. Make sure you have adequate water and are not working against yourself with too much caffeine. A quart or two in the morning hours helps a lot. I know that when I heard that I said, "Say What????", but it works well. I have read a few books that are inspiring right now, "The Thyroid Connection" by Dr. Amy Meyers and "The Metabolism Plan" by Lyn-Genet Recitas. Sometimes the traditional, conventional medical Dr.'s do not have all the answers, but keep trying and find Dr.s etc. who will work with your goals. If you have PTSD or another medical condition, there will be precautions that you will need to consider. I still have the nightmares with PTSD, so maybe back to counseling....... Keep up the fight everyone. It is worth it.
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Today will be day 31. Yesterday I did a difficult 7 mile hike with 25 lbs of child on my back. Normally I would celebrate this with indulgent food and cocktails; however, I stuck with just the burger last night and water. Of course I had a paradoxical increase on the scale this morning, but it doesn't bother me the way it used to.. Chocked it up to retaining water for muscle repair.. And I can do another long walk today without a problem because I'm not nursing a mild hangover.. While I still think about not wanting to be done with it forever, I'm also able to focus on the positive changes that counteract those thoughts.. As I mentioned a while ago when I joined the thread, alcohol was my way of quelling anger that I couldn't address directly.. The kind of anger that's not worth asserting because it won't change anything and it's usually with people that don't matter and/or have no capacity for self refIection. I also deal with anger with intense exercise.. Like that wolf proverb- there are 2 fighting within you and the one that wins is the one you feed. So I'm trying to feed the exercise one.. There has been a myriad of events over the past 10 yrs of my life that really made me lose confidence in certain aspects of myself and somewhere along the way I lost the no nonsense person who plowed through any difficult goal like a boss.. So I'm trying to find that person again.. Considering some lofty fitness goals at the moment to prove to myself she's still alive and well.. I'll write an update on that if/when I make that commitment.. And just to support those who still struggle with anxiety/depression/ feeling like emotional crap.. I still have that too.. It's just getting lesser over time- especially as I accomplish goals.. Hope you all had a wonderful weekend!8
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Hello everyone. I've been lurking here for a while wondering if I'd fit in with the sober crowd. I've been AF for 25 days now, and I can't believe I've gone that long without a drink! Last time I went that long without drinking was when I had my daughter almost 6 years ago. I've been drinking almost half my life (that sounds weird to say). I drank pretty heavily for a few years up until a year and a half ago. Last year I still drank regularly, but only on the weekends. Nothing specific happened to me last month but I figured enough is enough and I decided to try 30 days without alcohol and I'm almost there already! Once the 30 days is up I'm going to keep going because I'm just tired of alcohol and all the problems it causes and I just don't want to drink at all anymore.
I'm going through a lot in my life now and I originally thought, "this is the worst time to stop drinking!" But really, it's been the best time to stop drinking. I have a husband who still drinks. He cut down some himself in the past year but he has no plans to stop drinking completely and is not supportive of me not drinking. People who don't drink are "squares" to him. So I'm alone in this but I don't really care. I'm doing it for myself!
I am so proud of you and the choices that you have made for yourself. I do understand as I use to drink more than I should with my hubby and I knew I had to make changes for myself. It was difficult as things were changing and I am sure he missed his drinking buddy and also made him think about his own drinking. It is a lot easier when we could enable each other.
I am thankful we have the support from everyone here! Great job!7 -
Over 5 months alcohol free!! Loving life, working out, meditating, writing poetry, working hard, no friends! Lol I’m a tad bit antisocial you could say, in that I am a natural loner. I just had to finally allow myself to be comfortable with it. Family is close and I am plenty personable to where I get my “social fill” with new people and friendly acquaintances. I’ve gotten back to my spirituality and allowed my magic to flow. Good to see you all here, fighting the good fight. How great to have support in doing what’s best!
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@VeggieGirlforLife thanks for the warm welcome. I also did the same thing during the holidays... went straight back to drinking.
I’ll be honest, I say my story isn’t interesting, but I feel like I’d want to write a novel.
What made me realize something had to change and wine wasn’t making things better (work stress, I have a high pressure sales job with many events that involve drinking) was this strange development of hypochondria.... I mean, I was having full blown panic attacks thinking I was going to die. Hope I’m explaining this well enough to understand but it was starting to get a bit debilitating at times. Has anyone else experienced this while readily drinking?
Like for example: my heart would flutter the next day, presumably from a rather heavier than normal episode of wine drinking and then I’d think I was having a heart ache... like really believe it and freak out more. It was the strangest thing. Its since subsided... I still have thoughts but they don’t take over like they did before. Anyone else?5 -
@Beka3695 Just pick right back up where you left off! Don't let a slip turn into a fall!7
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