That as you lose weight, people seem to notice you more.
This is a really odd one as when I was huge, I was apparently pretty well invisible. Ignored by all, which was fine by me.
Now I've lost weight, more people say "good morning " to me, or make random comments or will ask me for directions, even though there are other people around.
I actually don't like talking to random strangers and tend not to look at people when I'm out and about and I'm not particularly friendly to randoms. So I don't understand it.
I got this, too... It was like I hit some specific barrier right about 220 pounds.. Suddenly, men and women both, seemed to see me... holding doors, saying hello, the whole thing. It used to be if people noticed me at all they quickly looked away - but, once I hit the magic size 18-20, it was as if I had been dropped into another universe... where I wasn't invisible anymore. SO weird.
I figured it had to be because suddenly I was a "relatable" size... before I was so huge as to be foreign... but when I got to size 18-20, suddenly I was "the same size as Aunt Jean," or "smaller than my Sister"... or whatever. I hit a range where someone they knew existed, and I was no longer a foreign entity.
What I'd forgotten about was... tying my jacket around my hips. Not my waist because that was the smallest part that had hope of fitting, but my hips. Not only tying my jacket around them, but not having to pull the arms / stretch them so to tie them. I tied them and still had enough length to make little knot tails. It was strange to be comfortable with my jacket around my hips, too. Like it fit and it wasn't going to slip off or was too tight or anything.
Anyway, it was kind of an NSV moment and kind of a moment of "I'd forgotten what this feels like."
Some days I feel huge. Some days I feel normal. Small changes like this (maybe not so small) remind me that I am smaller than I feel I am.
That you will wait, with baited breath for spring and summer to come. When I was obese and even overweight...spring and summer were times of the year I not only dreaded, but was a source of sheer unadulterated UGH. Not only for the yuck of finding something to wear, but just not feeling good in my "skin" and how I look and felt about myself. Now, I'm thrilled for spring and summer, just like when I was young. Seriously, forever ridding oneself of the weight will help you change in so many other ways...so fabulous getting down to size is. It's worth ALL the time, and trouble to get it off and keep it off--FOR REAL!
After loosing 75 lbs in one year with 30 to go to hit my goal:
1) I can tie my shoes without having to sit down first.
2) I can walk up stairs without getting "winded"
3) I can mow my lawn and maintain the garden without taking breaks
4) I don't smell like bacon when I sweat
5) I am always cold...
6) I can see the blood vessels in my arms... turns out I have garden hoses for blood vessels.
7) I no longer have never ending hemorrhoids
These are all positive things about losing weight; with the exception of #5 but one thing NO ONE tells you (maybe because its too much information) is that:
8) your sex drive goes through the roof. As does your anxiety level because there is literally NOTHING you can do to calm things down. I have tried everything I can think of and none of it works.... it really is frustrating.
8) your sex drive goes through the roof. As does your anxiety level because there is literally NOTHING you can do to calm things down. I have tried everything I can think of and none of it works.... it really is frustrating.
Sure there is. Take a SSRI anxiolytic for that anxiety known to kill libido. Thousands (millions?) of people do every day...
Pretty sure that's all I can say without getting flagged off the boards for impropriety. First world problems being what they are and all, lol.
Sitting with your legs crossed is the most comfortable thing ever. For twenty years I was too fat to comfortably cross my legs, and I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I LIVED.
(I used to sit with my belly brushing the edge of my desk. Now I can cross my legs under it and still have space left over. That's weird.)
8) your sex drive goes through the roof. As does your anxiety level because there is literally NOTHING you can do to calm things down. I have tried everything I can think of and none of it works.... it really is frustrating.
Sure there is. Take a SSRI anxiolytic for that anxiety known to kill libido. Thousands (millions?) of people do every day...
Pretty sure that's all I can say without getting flagged off the boards for impropriety. First world problems being what they are and all, lol.
Hahaha yeah first world problems exactly.
I should be thrilled about reason 8 since before losing the weight I found more pleasure in a cheeseburger than sex and thats just simply not right. 😂
But I’d rather have the anxiety than start popping pills. 🤣
The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
I feel y our pain; my boobs are always the first to go! It's how I decided on my maintenance weight, in the end; I'm not entirely happy with the amount of fat around my belly/hips/thighs, but I absolutely know that if I try to dip any lower my body'll take it from my boobs first. And I don't have any boobs left to lose. I'm BMI 23 but you can see my ribs, for pity's sake...
Oh well, in the great scheme of things it's a minor annoyance. And the reason padded bras exist
The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
When I lost weight years ago I ended up buying silicone bra inserts to keep from being completely flat chested. They're annoying to wear but helped my clothes fit better.
Sitting with your legs crossed is the most comfortable thing ever. For twenty years I was too fat to comfortably cross my legs, and I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I LIVED.
(I used to sit with my belly brushing the edge of my desk. Now I can cross my legs under it and still have space left over. That's weird.)
The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
You feel me! I buy bras now by trying to get them fit my lats more that my actual breasts! :laugh:
Sitting with your legs crossed is the most comfortable thing ever. For twenty years I was too fat to comfortably cross my legs, and I HAVE NO IDEA HOW I LIVED.
(I used to sit with my belly brushing the edge of my desk. Now I can cross my legs under it and still have space left over. That's weird.)
This!
I'd like to add this with arm crossing too. I've never been able to cross my arms comfortably while at a higher weight, so now I want to do it all the time. My mother once asked me why I was crossing my arms (framing it in a "is something wrong?") sort of way, and I had to explain that I just like doing it, lol.
When I lost weight years ago I ended up buying silicone bra inserts to keep from being completely flat chested. They're annoying to wear but helped my clothes fit better.
I already have to wear one on the left side. Mine are significantly asymmetrical. They are surprisingly easy to wear though.
When I lost weight years ago I ended up buying silicone bra inserts to keep from being completely flat chested. They're annoying to wear but helped my clothes fit better.
I already have to wear one on the left side. Mine are significantly asymmetrical. They are surprisingly easy to wear though.
Except when it's really hot, which it is half the year here. Then they're wet and sweaty.
And, once when I had a very conservative friend over visiting, our labrador walked in with one of my inserts in her mouth. At first I thought it was a chicken breast and wondered how she'd gotten it. Once I realized what it was I was mortified and tried to pry it out of her teeth without damaging it because they're expensive! My friend looked on in horror while I wrestled a silicone object sporting a nipple away from the dog,and finally asked what on earth it was. I explained it, but I'm convinced she thought it was some kind of perverted sex toy.
The fat seems to re-distribute. At least it did for me. When I lost my 20lbs of weight, my butt was much smaller, stomach still poochy, and boobs totally deflated. Several months later of maintenance, my boobs have filled back in a bit, and my stomach seems less poochy. So there's hope that all the wierd places you're* losing will balance out.
*You as a general audience. Not any one person in particular.
Unfortunately, I've had the opposite reaction. I lost the first 35lbs (of 42lbs) rather quickly, over 6 months. I retained my boobs.
Lost 7lbs over the next 6 months, lost my boobs.
Of course, I'm also a lot closer to my ultimate goal. I'm down into the "normal" body fat range (by estimates, haven't had dexa or anything). It may just be that my body held on to my boobs as long as it had "extra" fat, but when I got down to less fat they had to go.
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
You feel me! I buy bras now by trying to get them fit my lats more that my actual breasts! :laugh:
I have been having a quiet giggle at this conversation as I identified with so much of it.
Then, all of a sudden a light bulb went off. @quiksylver296’s last comment explained why, for the past 3 years I have had a hard time finding bras that fit.
I thought I was a pretty conventional 32 B, C, depending on make, but the cups are always somewhere under my armpits, and I have no side boobs to tame.
What I realize now is that my frontage is a 30 B,C, but my back needs a 32.
Convoluted I know, and won’t help too much with bra buying, but at least now I know the why, and it isn’t getting old.
Happy that a small bralette is good enough for most days.
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I got this, too... It was like I hit some specific barrier right about 220 pounds.. Suddenly, men and women both, seemed to see me... holding doors, saying hello, the whole thing. It used to be if people noticed me at all they quickly looked away - but, once I hit the magic size 18-20, it was as if I had been dropped into another universe... where I wasn't invisible anymore. SO weird.
I figured it had to be because suddenly I was a "relatable" size... before I was so huge as to be foreign... but when I got to size 18-20, suddenly I was "the same size as Aunt Jean," or "smaller than my Sister"... or whatever. I hit a range where someone they knew existed, and I was no longer a foreign entity.
1. Certain things become so easy. Ex: painting your toes, tying your shoes, etc.
2. Now I get when people say it is cold. I used to be warm all the time...
3. You even lose weight in your feet. You will change size.
4. Sorry for this but... cleaning up after bathroom trips is different 🤭😜
5. You will wake up feeling really rested bc the quality of your sleep will be 10 x better.
6. It will help regulate your hormones...
I have so many, the list can go on and on... lol
I'm really hoping for this part. Mine were really off a few months ago according to bloodwork.
Anyway, it was kind of an NSV moment and kind of a moment of "I'd forgotten what this feels like."
Some days I feel huge. Some days I feel normal. Small changes like this (maybe not so small) remind me that I am smaller than I feel I am.
1) I can tie my shoes without having to sit down first.
2) I can walk up stairs without getting "winded"
3) I can mow my lawn and maintain the garden without taking breaks
4) I don't smell like bacon when I sweat
5) I am always cold...
6) I can see the blood vessels in my arms... turns out I have garden hoses for blood vessels.
7) I no longer have never ending hemorrhoids
These are all positive things about losing weight; with the exception of #5 but one thing NO ONE tells you (maybe because its too much information) is that:
8) your sex drive goes through the roof. As does your anxiety level because there is literally NOTHING you can do to calm things down. I have tried everything I can think of and none of it works.... it really is frustrating.
Sure there is. Take a SSRI anxiolytic for that anxiety known to kill libido. Thousands (millions?) of people do every day...
Pretty sure that's all I can say without getting flagged off the boards for impropriety. First world problems being what they are and all, lol.
(I used to sit with my belly brushing the edge of my desk. Now I can cross my legs under it and still have space left over. That's weird.)
Hahaha yeah first world problems exactly.
I should be thrilled about reason 8 since before losing the weight I found more pleasure in a cheeseburger than sex and thats just simply not right. 😂
But I’d rather have the anxiety than start popping pills. 🤣
It's kind of funny how fat loss seems to go. My boobs are always the first to go. My stomach being dead last. As a matter of fact, I'm going in for the last 10 (maybe 15) lbs by summer/fall right now. They're deflating again! Gah! But when I maintained my current weight for 6 months, they did seem to fill in a little. So maybe they'll come back again.. I hope.
I feel y our pain; my boobs are always the first to go! It's how I decided on my maintenance weight, in the end; I'm not entirely happy with the amount of fat around my belly/hips/thighs, but I absolutely know that if I try to dip any lower my body'll take it from my boobs first. And I don't have any boobs left to lose. I'm BMI 23 but you can see my ribs, for pity's sake...
Oh well, in the great scheme of things it's a minor annoyance. And the reason padded bras exist
Right there with ya! I was so excited to have a little fullness when I was bulking. Now that I'm cutting... :sad:
This!
I feel your pain. There’s the initial excitement of having boobs stick out farther than your stomach, then the boobs deflate. I’m hoping to keep belly in check enough to keep it even & keep building some chest muscle, since I have more muscle than boob and my stomach would have to be concave at this point to let them have any glory. And then there’s the issue of having too much back/shoulder muscle to let you comfortably fit in the training bra size that actually fits, cup wise 🙄
You feel me! I buy bras now by trying to get them fit my lats more that my actual breasts! :laugh:
I'd like to add this with arm crossing too. I've never been able to cross my arms comfortably while at a higher weight, so now I want to do it all the time. My mother once asked me why I was crossing my arms (framing it in a "is something wrong?") sort of way, and I had to explain that I just like doing it, lol.
I already have to wear one on the left side. Mine are significantly asymmetrical. They are surprisingly easy to wear though.
Except when it's really hot, which it is half the year here. Then they're wet and sweaty.
And, once when I had a very conservative friend over visiting, our labrador walked in with one of my inserts in her mouth. At first I thought it was a chicken breast and wondered how she'd gotten it. Once I realized what it was I was mortified and tried to pry it out of her teeth without damaging it because they're expensive! My friend looked on in horror while I wrestled a silicone object sporting a nipple away from the dog,and finally asked what on earth it was. I explained it, but I'm convinced she thought it was some kind of perverted sex toy.
I have been having a quiet giggle at this conversation as I identified with so much of it.
Then, all of a sudden a light bulb went off.
@quiksylver296’s last comment explained why, for the past 3 years I have had a hard time finding bras that fit.
I thought I was a pretty conventional 32 B, C, depending on make, but the cups are always somewhere under my armpits, and I have no side boobs to tame.
What I realize now is that my frontage is a 30 B,C, but my back needs a 32.
Convoluted I know, and won’t help too much with bra buying, but at least now I know the why, and it isn’t getting old.
Happy that a small bralette is good enough for most days.
Cheers, h.