Things people say when you lose weight

"you have no bum now" or "you look gaunt"...yeah but Im squatting like buggery and chasing abs dear.

PS I do Crossfit haha.

When I dropped from a size 18 to a size 2, I felt terribly uncomfortable and was told I looked sickly. I agreed though. I put on a bit too much. Now back on track I finally feel more comfortable in my skin and don't honestly hear the comments people make I just want to help others

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A very well meaning friend of 40 years asked me how I stayed so slender. It was a compliment and we were about to sit down to a delicious meal that she had cooked. So I just said "I don't eat very much" (I don't) and left it at that. I felt that it wasn't an appropriate moment to talk about MFP etc.

My husband told me he had trouble finding me in line at a store because he couldn’t recognize me from behind lol

I guess it sneaked up on him.

Don’t like when people ask how much weight I’ve lost. I know not to ask that...

"Well now I'm going to be the only fat person at work. Thanks."

"Your personality is different now." (Said with tone)

"What pills are you taking? No one loses that much weight without pills or surgery."

"You leave things on your plate because you want people to notice you're not eating."

"You look sick, now."

"Of course you won't eat that. There is no point me even asking."

Basically, if I wasn't so stubborn, I think the comments I got would have broken me. I did get positive comments from my family and close friends. But sadly the negative ones are the ones I remember.

Oh God. There’s something new every day.

My supervisor asking how I’m losing so much weight, after I’d explained CICO and counted her day’s calories for her/done the math on how many she would need a day to feesibly lose up to ten pounds in a month, digging into a bag of Doritos and cracking open a cherry Pepsi... then continuing to say “I just can’t lose weight no matter what I do.” Week after week after week since then.

There are good things too. Our boss seeing me after being on vacation for a week and going “Geez, you’re like half of the person I used to know!” With a huge smile.

Other coworkers asking how I do it and actually listening to the advice and managing to lose, then thanking me for the help.

Same supervisor as before, when someone else asked me what I’d lost (this was a few pounds ago, though, I’ve lost 66 now) and I’d said “58 pounds”, in a very snotty tone said “You have not.” Yes... because my scale, that always stays in the same place, and that I always measure on in the nude, is definitely lying and even though all of my clothes are several sizes too large on me I’m definitely wrong here.

One of my coworkers/friends has an eating disorder, and when another of our friends asked me about it that same supervisor butted in and said “How can she have an eating disorder, she’s not anorexic thin. I thought she was gaining weight.” Yes, because everyone knows when you develop an eating disorder in the 200’s that you most definitely turn instantly sickly thin. Not to mention how rude it is to hear two people talking in hushed tones as to not include you in a personal, concerned discussion, and walk over and insert yourself in it.

o0kody0o wrote: »

I’ve lost around 41 pounds since February with the help of MFP, calorie counting and some cardio now and again. My starting weight was 184lbs. In the beginning, family told me I was doing great but now I’m getting comments such as “You’ll need to watch what you’re doing, you’re losing a LOT of weight” and “You’re getting skinny, you need to stop now”

I’m far from skinny at 5”5 and 143lbs. Yes, I’ve lost a significant amount of weight and I do look slimmer but I’m definitely not skinny. I’m also in the healthy weight range of the BMI chart. If I’m seen eating a piece of chocolate or crisps, the same relatives will say Ohh, you shouldn’t be eating that, should you? 🙄

I feel like I can’t win. One minute they tell me I should stop losing weight and the next, they tell me I shouldn’t be eating certain things if I’m trying to lose weight 🤷‍♀️ Talk about a mindf*#ck!

I get the the "you need to stop now" sentiment all the time. I'm trying to slow down but I still have probably close to 10 pounds to go, but everyone has opinions.

I was at a planning meeting for a dive trip, and I ran into some folks I hadn't seen in a year. I got to the shop early to transact some business, and there was one fellow there that's been on the trip several times. I caught myself asking if he'd lost some weight because he looked better. I didn't "catch" myself until it was out of my mouth. He said yes, and I told him it showed, and he looked better. He smiled and said about 21 down and 50 to go. It was actually nice to make the connection.

The guy I drove down with also was there. He looked like he had lost some weight, but I didn't say anything. During the meeting, someone suggested that if some folks had lost a bit of weight, and especially if they are going to be diving with a drysuit, to make sure their neck seals are still the right size. This person raise his hand when the announcement was made, so I figured it would be ok to breach the topic at the end of the meeting. Again, it was a nice way to connect with someone I know but don't see often. He also had lost about 20. He's using another app that I won't mention because it's a violation of the terms of service to mention other weight loss apps here I told him I'm using MFP.

I had brought my drysuit in to get a new neck seal proactively. It probably would be good for another 25 dives or more (I don't plan to do more than 24 dives on this trip), but a blown seal on the boat is not a fun thing (reminds me of a joke; ask me on my profile). It can be repaired, but the glue takes a day to dry -- no diving without exposure protection! Anyway, the woman who had made the comment about neck seals for people who lost weight made a point to ask what size I was getting. I told her, and she was concerned, so I tried on the size I thought I needed. The guy who does work on drysuits said it was PLENTY tight, and even after stretching, might need some trimming. I hate trimming my neck seals, so I'll just leave it as-is. And it's the right size. But it was nice to hear from folks who noticed my change over the last couple years.

None of the comments -- mine or others -- were taken with any other context than they were offered. I think we're all happy for each other. Being a healthy weight supports so many other aspects of life. Diving is an activity where many of the participants are overweight or more. Some WAY more. Part of that, I think, is that once in the water, you are neutrally buoyant. I can only imagine how great that must feel if you are carrying 50 or 100 pounds more than your frame wants to support. Still -- the health implications of being overweight put divers at risk of medical issues at depth, and nobody wants that. It's actually good to see the dive industry taking notice and encouraging divers to get healthy and stay healthy. And I think everyone in the conversations at the meeting were glad to hear others noticed. Smiles all around!

I was having a medical procedure recently and the doc asked me of any eating/dietary or weight changes that i had noticed. I said "Yes, I've lost 34 lbs!" He said "Deliberately ? and why?". To which I replied, "Well I was too fat". Followed by "I talk a lot when I am nervous". The doc smiled, and said well done.....then carried out the procedure. I am also well aware of my resting HR due to fitbit - the monitor was showing a very elevated HR due to nerves - I told the doc that too. He must have thought I was mad :-)

Diatonic12 wrote: »

@Deanner03 Splurge or Cheat Meals all amount to the same thing in my estimation. Cheat Meals can lead to cheat weeks and cheat months. It can all come undone. People will say...you don't want to get too skinny now but that's mostly just blowback. Not everyone has our best interests at heart, I've learned that along the way. Some are even secretly saying it won't belong before she eats it all back. You know they've never been able to stick with anything for very long.

No one has to live in our body and I refuse to let them. Let all of it roll off like water off a duck's back and keep tooling along.

I agree with this wholeheartedly. I'm ALREADY hearing "you're going to be too skinny." Yeah...I have a good 30lbs to lose before I hit a "normal" BMI. Then I hear "but you have a large frame!" No, I don't. It's normal sized. I've seen it on x-ray. I just let it roll. I think MOST people actually mean well, but I know my own body.

I have lost about 16 pounds, not much but not a word from any one. I am happy with the loss.