For those who have lost and gained and are losing again (what I've learned)
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lapesadilla wrote: »I'm hoping I can break the cycle of doing really well for 3 or 4 months followed by complete abandonment of my diet and regaining everything I lost.
So, true. I am at the three or four month mark, and having fear the damn is about to burst. Forgiveness, is a thing I'm going to work on.14 -
lapesadilla wrote: »You are so right about eat-all-the things days - I struggle with binge eating too and for me those sooner or later turn into multiple-day frick-it binges that are hard to recover from. This time around I am trying to plan structured higher-calorie days and build indulgences into my weekly plans. I'm hoping I can break the cycle of doing really well for 3 or 4 months followed by complete abandonment of my diet and regaining everything I lost.
That is exactly what took me out the first time. I had an eat-all-the-things day and it turned into several days, and then I overcompensated and couldn't recover from the yo-yo'ing. It was insane just how out of control I felt about my eating during that time.14 -
Note to self: avoid 'eat all the things' days.
(add: I assume this is the 1200-1500 cal/day for 6 days a week and free food 1 day a week thing instead of 1700 cal 24/7/365?)
(add again: I'm 252 lbs right now which is why my daily calorie target is at 1750 instead of lower. I know from experience once I get around 230 MFP is gonna drop that...)2 -
I love this one:RelCanonical wrote: »2.5.5. It's the good habits that make me feel good, not the actual results (although the results help).8
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bobsburgersfan wrote: »I love this one:RelCanonical wrote: »2.5.5. It's the good habits that make me feel good, not the actual results (although the results help).
I know right? I'll get impatient and I constantly have to remind myself that overdoing it will have the opposite effect of improving my quality of life, even though my results will temporarily be better.5 -
chris_in_cal wrote: »lapesadilla wrote: »I'm hoping I can break the cycle of doing really well for 3 or 4 months followed by complete abandonment of my diet and regaining everything I lost.
So, true. I am at the three or four month mark, and having fear the damn is about to burst. Forgiveness, is a thing I'm going to work on.
Well *kittens* I meant the "Dam." How come MFP didn't censor me? Mysteries of this board.
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Thank you for sharing. Back at it again after gaining all the wait I lost 2 years ago.11
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Good for you for identifying things that sabotaged you the first time around and bringing awareness to them this time! I think patience and forgiveness are definitely keys for me to getting back into the groove of health/fitness. I lost 35 pounds a couple years ago. I did it slowly and methodically over the course of a year, and that year taught me to have faith in the process and not just to focus on the end result that I wanted. I knew that maintenance is a completely different animal than losing, so that's what I was most worried about when I started and why I wanted to take it slow. I rationalized that weight that comes off quickly comes back quickly. I've since learned that even weight that comes off slowly will still come back, though, if you let things slide -- surprise! ;-) I've only gained back about 8 pounds since the initial loss, but it's enough that I feel like I'm trending back up and need to right the ship, especially since those pounds have been just since February. Ack. So, I'm back to checking into MFP again and making an effort to exercise regularly, rather than sporadically. When I find myself engaging in negative self talk, I think of my kids. I wouldn't talk to them the way I talk to myself sometimes, so I remind myself to be kind to their mother. She deserves patience and kindness, too. Good luck to all of us!11
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Congratulations! It takes alot of courage to share this information and I know many others will be very grateful for the knowledge that regaining isn't the end of hope. You look amazing by the way. Great job.6
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I like the 2.5.5... "its the good habits ...not the actual results" that make me feel good. Keeps the focus on the process and the habits for the life-long journey! Thank you for sharing and stay strong.5
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@RelCanonical could you share some of your tips for dealing with your binge eating urges?6
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Love this post... thank~you for sharing!!3
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@RelCanonical could you share some of your tips for dealing with your binge eating urges?
@yayamom3 The biggest help for me has been reducing my stress level through therapy, which for me was cognitive behavioral therapy. In probably-too-simple terms, I attempt to look at my issues from a more objective standpoint, determine what's in my control and what's not, and then attempt to change the things in my control, and let the rest go. Easier said than done, of course, but I've practiced and talked it out for several years with my therapist, and it really has helped. In short, reducing stress significantly reduced my urge to binge.
Secondly, I work on staying busy. Before, I had so much anxiety about my job that I'd do nothing in the evening, just trying to "rest" and distract myself from the next day. Now, I try to treat my mornings and evenings more as if I don't have work the next morning. I do projects, and work on things that will take a long time to accomplish (before, my mindset was "what's the point of working on this, I don't think I'm going to be able to finish it because of [insert anxiety event here, generally losing my job]).
I also had to discard my fear of gaining weight, and reduce my emotional attachment to food. My life had been so focused on food and losing weight that when it didn't go well, I was a wreck, it was like my whole day was ruined. Now, I've refocused on practicing self-care in all aspects of my life rather than just weight loss. Now, if I struggle with eating one day, it's such a smaller part of my life that any disappointment is easily made up for with my other accomplishments (taking care of my hair, skin, clothing, nails, even my cat's fur, nails, etc. lol). I am a major self-sabotager if I feel like a major thing has gone wrong, so instead I've created lots of things to go right.
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Thank you for sharing- you have shared your truthful journey to success which makes me feel hopeful for my own goals as I strive to slowly ease off the roller coaster. Inspiring post!4
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What a great post! Thank you for sharing and you look amazing!4
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RelCanonical wrote: »
Thank you.3 -
I too have experienced loss (-84 lbs in 2014), then gain (+64 lbs over the next 3 years), then loss (-94 lbs over the past year). I've finally discovered what does not work and what does work for my body. A simple calorie-restrictive diet does not work: I never felt satiation and always relied on will power since cravings were constant. For me, will power is not a life-long way I can live. What works for me is a very low carb diet: my calories are about the same as the caloric-restrictive diet but now I feel satiated and don't have cravings or that crankiness that comes with feeling achingly hungry. For the first time I feel at peace...eating when I am hungry, but not feeling cranky, irritable or like I have to use will power to eat sensibly. I'm confident this is a lifelong way to eat...and my blood labs have significantly improved. I feel good.16
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So much wisdom here! Thank you for sharing— I needed this today. Wishing you continued good health in all ways.4
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Read and apply character affirmations... Never Binge Again! It has changed my life.
I came across this in an interview on Inspire Nation sometime in April of this year, and honestly the talk was life changing. Glenn’s knowledge and experience with the mind and how to understand it and deal with it, for the first time in my life gave me power over the addiction to food that I have been plagued with my entire life. Until that interview, I never realized the difference in my thoughts. I just knew my willpower could only do so much before I would become another diet victim, abandoning the current diet and gaining all the weight back and more. I started this journey at approximately 480lbs in November of 2018. I know it was approximately 480 lbs because my scale would only go to about 450lbs then error out. I would put my hand on the counter and push down until it registered under 450. I would then put the scale on the counter and approximate how much pressure I would apply to get a number to add to the previous number. Now I weigh 396lbs, and I plan to weigh 195lbs at some point in the future.
Anyway, after downloading and reading the free book in April, I developed a list of affirmations. I tried using the unrestricted and conditional affirmations in the book, but my primal brain seemed to keep thinking of a way around them, so I created similar never and always affirmations that seem to really control my thoughts. This “unfolding” in my latest journey, has and continues to make all the difference between now and my history with food.
The interview:
https://inspirenationshow.com/inspire-651-glenn-livingston-never-binge-again/
The free book:
www.neverbingeagain.com
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