For those who have lost and gained and are losing again (what I've learned)
Replies
-
My character affirmations....
I am the kind of person that:
Never- Never harms myself with food.
- Never eats heavily processed foods, they prevent my body from absorbing vital nutrients, cause inflammation, and increase my risk for heart disease and diabetes.
- Never eats processed or refined sugars, they are nutrient deficient, cause inflammation, and increase my risk for heart disease and diabetes.
- Never eats “Pig Slop.” “Pig Slop” is defined as heavily processed, highly engineered, extremely addictive, “Franken (pseudo) foods,” full of sugar, unhealthy fat, and or salt.
- Never listens to “The Pig” in my brain. “The Pig” is the primal center of the brain commonly referred to as the amygdala. “The Pig” likes to eat pig slop, and pig slop goes in a pig trough, and I don’t eat “Pig Slop” or eat out of a pig trough or listen to “The Pig” because pigs are farm animals and have no idea what is good for me.
- Never listens to “Pig Squeal!” “Pig Squeal” is the negative counterproductive thoughts in my brain, coming from “The Pig.”
- Never buffers my feelings or emotions. Using alternative coping skills such as taking a walk, listening to a podcast, or creating a checklist are much healthier ways of dealing with feelings and emotions.
- Never needs to recover from eating a meal.
- Never eats more than two servings of fruit or nuts per day.
- Never eats more than one teaspoon of Stevia per day.
- Never eats beef more than 3 times in a week.
Always- Always uses the present moment to be healthy.
- Always treats myself with patience and love.
- Always fails forward by learning and growing from my experiences.
- Always loves my friends and family unconditionally.
- Always treats others as I would like them to treat me.
- Always allows people to judge me, have an opinion about me, and not like me.
- Always gives myself permission to be vulnerable and trust others.
- Always allows myself to experience my feelings and emotions without buffering. Buffering is the act of suppressing your feelings by eating or using some other activity to avoid the feelings or emotions.v
- Always gives myself permission to be hungry and use my excess fat as energy.
- Always gives myself permission to stop eating and listen for my fullness signal.
- Always gives myself permission to fast for at least 12 hours daily
- Always eats as many servings of raw Non-Starchy Vegetables as I desire.
- Always commits 100% to myself, to my goals, & to my dreams!
- Always drinks 16 ounces of water and waits 5 minutes before eating snacks or second helpings of food.
15 -
I needed to hear ALL of these things. Thanks for posting.4
-
Awesome post. Probably the most relevant and helpful post I’ve read.
4 -
RelCanonical wrote: »
6. I will have to live with my urge to binge eat the rest of my life, but I have good ways to cope now. That's a big part of life, just learning how to cope healthily.
How do you cope instead of binge eating? Need help.5 -
Satisfiedwithbetter wrote: »My character affirmations....
I am the kind of person that:
Never- Never harms myself with food.
- Never eats heavily processed foods, they prevent my body from absorbing vital nutrients, cause inflammation, and increase my risk for heart disease and diabetes.
- Never eats processed or refined sugars, they are nutrient deficient, cause inflammation, and increase my risk for heart disease and diabetes.
- Never eats “Pig Slop.” “Pig Slop” is defined as heavily processed, highly engineered, extremely addictive, “Franken (pseudo) foods,” full of sugar, unhealthy fat, and or salt.
- Never listens to “The Pig” in my brain. “The Pig” is the primal center of the brain commonly referred to as the amygdala. “The Pig” likes to eat pig slop, and pig slop goes in a pig trough, and I don’t eat “Pig Slop” or eat out of a pig trough or listen to “The Pig” because pigs are farm animals and have no idea what is good for me.
- Never listens to “Pig Squeal!” “Pig Squeal” is the negative counterproductive thoughts in my brain, coming from “The Pig.”
- Never buffers my feelings or emotions. Using alternative coping skills such as taking a walk, listening to a podcast, or creating a checklist are much healthier ways of dealing with feelings and emotions.
- Never needs to recover from eating a meal.
- Never eats more than two servings of fruit or nuts per day.
- Never eats more than one teaspoon of Stevia per day.
- Never eats beef more than 3 times in a week.
Good that it's worked for you and congratulations on losing so much weight, but this seems a bit extreme to me.18 -
strongernurse wrote: »RelCanonical wrote: »
6. I will have to live with my urge to binge eat the rest of my life, but I have good ways to cope now. That's a big part of life, just learning how to cope healthily.
How do you cope instead of binge eating? Need help.
I really had to decrease the emotional importance of eating in my mind. Thing is, I'm horrible at decreasing things, cutting things out, pushing things away. The moment I make an attempt, it's like that thing is suddenly in the forefront of my mind.
Instead, I had to focus on filling my life with things that I made MORE important. Things like walking, caring for my cat, completing a fun project, doing self-care, etc. Making myself busy with things I love. I was also able to reduce stress in my life through cognitive behavioral therapy. This was big because I didn't even have to worry about as many coping mechanisms because I had to use them less (because I'm less stressed overall). This was a long process but boils down to me stepping outside myself and determining if the thing that is stressing me is worth stressing about.
I don't know about your specific situation, but I also had to stop the cycle of binge eating before I could focus on losing weight again. I had to slow down my eating and re-establish a love for food. During my binges I would HATE food, with all my being, because I was eating it and could not control it. That was really the main difference between binge eating and overeating - whether I loved the food I was eating. I seriously thought I was going to hospitalize myself because there was sooo much salt in the food and I wasn't drinking anything, coupled with the anxiety I'd have during that time, that my heart would race. I had to slow it down.
So, I started cooking again, not anything fancy or healthy, just my favorite foods, sat down and just ate meals instead of trying to distract myself all the time. I relearned how to spend my time without food but also with food, and learned to appreciate the food on my tongue again. I forgot about my weight for a moment and just focused on establishing a more balanced eating pattern that made me feel better. Once I was able to get to a point where I safely felt I would not binge again, I then started to work on portions again and adding in more nutritionally dense foods to improve my overall health.
Sorry if that was a little ramble-y. I hope it helped!37 -
What an amazing post. I tell people all the time, weight loss does not fix everything, in fact it exposes the cracks of things that were already broken. For example, as you stated, self esteem sometimes takes a bigger fall because you associate your weight with your self worth. So proud of you !16
-
This was honestly so perfect to read.
My weight in 2011 was 226 and by 2013 i was 152 lbs. last year i finally weight myself after not working out for years, i was 196 lbs and i was devastes that i almost was 200 lbs again. Everything you write resonates with me so well. Since December 2018 until now i currently am at 172 and i just feel better because I’m making time to eat and excercise, having a healthier lifestyle that leads to an amazing weight loss journey.
Thank you again for this post ! 💜19 -
Mernalove26 wrote: »This was honestly so perfect to read.
My weight in 2011 was 226 and by 2013 i was 152 lbs. last year i finally weight myself after not working out for years, i was 196 lbs and i was devastes that i almost was 200 lbs again. Everything you write resonates with me so well. Since December 2018 until now i currently am at 172 and i just feel better because I’m making time to eat and excercise, having a healthier lifestyle that leads to an amazing weight loss journey.
Thank you again for this post ! 💜
It was nearing 200 that really made me very upset as well. I that's when I realized that I had gained all my weight back plus a few extra pounds. I knew I couldn't continue, and a job change finally gave me the wherewithal to say "if you can change your job in your current state, you can lose weight too." I didn't think I would ever be able to quit my job and find another, but I did, and that made me realize I could lose weight again because I believed in it.10 -
Thank you, @RelCanonical - great post! I've taken a lot away from it and your subsequent comments, primarily the need to make self-care and addressing mental health issues an integral part of the process.8
-
This is SO GOOD. I screenshot your list to save. Thank you😊 @RelCanonical3
-
I don't know how I missed this thread, but I heart it.
You are so lovely, inside and out.
There is a way out! That's the takeaway.6 -
cmriverside wrote: »I don't know how I missed this thread, but I heart it.
You are so lovely, inside and out.
There is a way out! That's the takeaway.
Aww, thank you!
And yes, as long as you can get up again, failure is just practice for success. That's what I always tell myself if I am struggling. I figure out why I'm struggling, and just count that time as practice.11 -
Yup.
Also you look like that girl...that internet girl... yeah, I know that's super helpful...the one who did those great duets with that other chick...about men and turning 30 etc.
Garfunkel and Oats.
2 -
cmriverside wrote: »Yup.
Also you look like that girl...that internet girl... yeah, I know that's super helpful...the one who did those great duets with that other chick...about men and turning 30 etc.
Garfunkel and Oats.
What a name! But I can see the resemblance. Both dark-haired, both part of the big-eyed crew, lol. She's also got a bit of a square-shaped face like I do, which I used to hate but now appreciate. It definitely helps to have it much more defined now.1 -
RelCanonical wrote: »During my binges I would HATE food, with all my being, because I was eating it and could not control it. That was really the main difference between binge eating and overeating - whether I loved the food I was eating. I seriously thought I was going to hospitalize myself because there was sooo much salt in the food and I wasn't drinking anything, coupled with the anxiety I'd have during that time, that my heart would race. I had to slow it down.
This was so me for about last couple of months.. I went to a doctor and was told that I have high blood pressure and I am pre-diabetic.. A wake up call. Your post is am inspiration. I gained and lost and gained twice as much and now trying to lose again. Stress is definitely a biggie..4 -
How did I miss this post before?? Thanks for putting so many helpful thoughts into one succinct post. Focusing on being healthy and less on weight loss has been a big mind change for me.
As always, @RelCanonical , your wise words resonate. Thank you4 -
Thanks so much for this! I lost 74 lbs and maintained for two years and then began to struggle. I struggled with the restricting and binges and watched the pattern increase. I am finally feeling back in control although I do have a bad day once in a while. Forgiveness is big. Journaling helps me. And mostly, I have to remember this is my life. While I’m losing, I have to remember that maintenance will come again, and I don’t want to be miserable. What are realistic goals for me that I can continue? And being strong, healthy, and happy are really more important to me then chasing an unrealistic goal.
Thanks again for sharing your wisdom!6 -
I have found that every time I stop using MFP to journal my food, the lbs start coming back on. I need to be accountable and logging is the best way for me to be honest with myself.
Told my wife last month - "If you see me slipping and not using MFP, etc. you have my permission to hold me accountable and please give me a hard kick in the butt."
Have also learned that low calorie is a short term solution but low carb, high fat is easier and the meals are more satisfying and my blood work is outstanding. I don't find myself thinking about food and now doing keto OMAD with great success.17 -
Just a quick update: according to Google, I've finally hit a normal bmi. Although other charts say the threshold is 130, I'm taking it, lol.
47
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 392.9K Introduce Yourself
- 43.7K Getting Started
- 260.1K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.8K Food and Nutrition
- 47.4K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 415 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 152.9K Motivation and Support
- 7.9K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.6K MyFitnessPal Information
- 23 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.5K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions
Do you Love MyFitnessPal? Have you crushed a goal or improved your life through better nutrition using MyFitnessPal?
Share your success and inspire others. Leave us a review on Apple Or Google Play stores!
Share your success and inspire others. Leave us a review on Apple Or Google Play stores!