How would you feel about your partners weight gain?

magnusthenerd wrote: »

Maybe she should just start intercepting the food and eating it herself. That will tackle both ends - reduce his intake, and give him a reminder what it is doing to him when he sees her slowly lose her trophy status physique.

Really it feels there are ways to have this conversation that aren't that painful or seem shallow. Just ask if everything is okay with him because he seems to have had a change in eating patterns. Unfortunately OP might be too focused on what the change in diet is doing instead of worrying about why it change.

The disagrees, do they understand the first paragraph is sarcasm?

I'm an old guy, married 40 years, so what I think probably won't be of interest to a 20-something.

I used to be young (and thin) once. When DW and I were in our early 20's we were both in great shape and physically attracted to each other. Over the years, we both put on some weight (me more than her). We remained attracted to each other - but in a somewhat less physical way - if that makes any sense. While the physical attraction was still there, it was further down the list than when we were wild teenagers or hot 20 year olds. Neither or us would have ever brought up the other's persons weight unless it was in the context of helping each other - and then only if the other person was trying to lose weight. If my wife made comments about what I was eating, or told me I was letting myself go, etc - well I doubt we'd have made it 40 years. Fortunately, we have always respected and supported each other in everything. While physical attraction is important to a certain degree, if that's all you got, then it's not going to last.

Not knowing you, and based solely on what I gather from reading "between the lines" in your posts, I think it's probably time for you to look elsewhere. I don't think you're going to be happy with him long term. You're NOT going to change him. If you can't see yourself with him if he gains another 20 - 50 lbs, then you might as well cut your losses and find someone else. Find yourself some guy that is as into physical appearance / fitness as you are.

Thanks, but I'm the lucky one!