WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2019

KetoneKaren wrote: »

Barbara, AHMOD Happy Anniversary!!!

Lanette LOL!!! Keep us posted regarding your communication w/Elon.

Lisa That's a beautiful love story. I'm misty-eyed.

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I think the issue of spouses/partners who are emotionally distant is a thorny one. No partner can meet every need, however, I am fortunate that my partner has figured out some small ways to consistently show her ongoing support for me. I have a comforter that I pull over my lap late at night as I unwind in my recliner after a long work shift. Although she is sound asleep by the time I come home, there is a lamp on, my comforter is clean & folded near my chair, and the TV remote is within reach. She asks if she can make me a cup of tea or coffee almost every morning. She does my laundry, and she has taken responsibility for ordering all the supplies for the dogs. She keeps the deck clean/blown off and the birds fed. She does part of the household shopping and part of the yardwork. She is very good at figuring out what gifts to give me, and because I don't want more "stuff", she really has to be observant (a new pair of badly needed Crocs was my last birthday gift). She gently bugs me about mammograms & colonoscopies, but not too much (I am current on both). To top it off, we travel well together & collaborate well on most projects. I won't mention the things that drive me up a wall. I am certainly no picnic to live with. I know I am fortunate, and if either of us becomes infirm, the balance will change, but for now it works very well. There is something to be said for having a female partner, I think. I have had both.

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It will be interesting to see if I get a "Disagree" on this post, LOL! For the record, it wasn't me who "Disagreed" with Vicki or Pip.

Karen in Virginia

barbiecat wrote: »

Something about me: I grew up with an ordinary family that moved around every two years thanks to the Coast Guard. Moving so often, I made few attachments to people and greater attachments to books and dancing. My first marriage was to a man who turned out to be a bum. My description of the marriage is that he broke my heart, robbed me blind, and left. When last heard of, he was a lonely old man living in a trailer on his daughter's property. I met Jake when I wasn't looking and he has turned out to be the love of my life. Jake has children and I don't. I've helped raise them but don't feel a huge closeness to them or to their children. I have battled with my weight all my life going back to "The Special K Diet" that my mother imposed on my sister and me when we were teenagers. In 2009 my husband was introduced to Isagenix by his chiropractor. He needed to plan a 400-600 calorie meal each day and when I sought help on the internet for calorie count in foods, I found MFP. I'd never posted online about anything and I'd always rebelled at the idea of keeping track of my food as a weight loss tool. I tried doing both and my life changed. My rules at the beginning were to be open minded to new ideas take baby steps, and seek every opportunity to be active. Thanks to that, I created new habits, read amazing books that helped me change my life, made new friends, and found the strength to walk gracefully through many bumps in the road (surgery and illness for both me and Jake,a move to a new house. and the deaths of two beloved pets). My life is simple and I love it this way. I walk my dogs every morning for at least two hours and shorter times in the afternoon and evening. I go to line dance classes two mornings a week, I ride my recumbent exercise bike for several hours a day while watching TV, I do some simple gardening, and yard work. I am home with my husband most of the day because his health keeps him more sedentary and I want to spend as much time with him as I can. I gave up cooking and baking as recreation and avoid recreational eating. I've put in a lot of energy lately to clearing clutter in my house and living intentionally. "Hubby, dogs, dancing--who could ask for anything more"

Barbie in NW WA

KetoneKaren wrote: »

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I think the issue of spouses/partners who are emotionally distant is a thorny one. No partner can meet every need, however, I am fortunate that my partner has figured out some small ways to consistently show her ongoing support for me. I have a comforter that I pull over my lap late at night as I unwind in my recliner after a long work shift. Although she is sound asleep by the time I come home, there is a lamp on, my comforter is clean & folded near my chair, and the TV remote is within reach. She asks if she can make me a cup of tea or coffee almost every morning. She does my laundry, and she has taken responsibility for ordering all the supplies for the dogs. She keeps the deck clean/blown off and the birds fed. She does part of the household shopping and part of the yardwork. She is very good at figuring out what gifts to give me, and because I don't want more "stuff", she really has to be observant (a new pair of badly needed Crocs was my last birthday gift). She gently bugs me about mammograms & colonoscopies, but not too much (I am current on both). To top it off, we travel well together & collaborate well on most projects. I won't mention the things that drive me up a wall. I am certainly no picnic to live with. I know I am fortunate, and if either of us becomes infirm, the balance will change, but for now it works very well. There is something to be said for having a female partner, I think. I have had both.

Karen in Virginia