WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR DECEMBER 2019
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Hello everyone.
It's been some time since I posted a bio and since we have a lot of newbies on the thread I thought I would re-post some of the things I have shared over the past few months in the spoiler. It's a long thread and again much of it is a repeat, but it does give the newer gals an idea of what I have been doing to meet my goals and a little bit of background.
Yes, we can do this! It's been a while since I posted this chart. I am still losing more than I did during my 30s and 40s.
This is a long one and again a repeat of many of the things I have already shared.
I am SuziQ and I reside in sunny South Florida. I am 55 years old and have decided I must do something now, if I want an active and happy retirement. I am a former WW and have found myself losing the same 40-50 pounds every 10 years or so.
I am a widow (almost 11 years now). We had a beautiful relationship and I missed him every day. I was very fortunate to find the one and am thankful for the time we had together.
I have had one major relationship since my husband’s passing. My boyfriend recently passed after we ended the relationship. He had many issues mostly being an alcoholic which he hid very well. I was there for him for the first two “falling off the wagon” situations and when the third happened realized I was not going to make him better, he needed to make himself better.
As for my current status I am single and live alone. I find this makes my get back to healthy changes much easier since I do not have to have temptation foods in the house.
I am in good health and although the body is starting to show its age I feel I am young at heart. I love to mix and mingle with people of all ages and backgrounds.
I am currently employed and work in a decent environment. The hours and demands can be quite stressful but since I am in a continuous learning environment and feel appreciated I am quite happy with my current situation. As with most I have some complaints, but also realize there is no perfect employer.
I have been finding we can lose weight like we did in our 20s, 30s, and 40s. Again, I am very fortunate to be healthy and do not take any medications or have any major health issues. TG! What I have found, for me, is it took me a lot longer to get motivated to do something. I basically sat on the couch for two years and just the thought of getting back in to shape was overwhelming.
I started to realize I was terribly out of shape and needed to do something now, if I wanted to remain in good health. The fates would not be kind to me, if I continued on the path I was on.
I do not like the word exercise. I love the word activity. My challenge in the beginning was getting active. Since I was out of shape I started walking in place doing mundane chores such as washing the dishes, during commercials, and folding and putting away laundry. I made a rule that I could only put away one type of clothing at a time (short-sleeved shirts, panties, dress pants, etc.). When I started tracking it was amazing I was actually getting between 1000-2000 steps in just stepping in place. I started to add a morning walk (I am a very early riser) every other day and incorporated some light weights.
I started right off the bat with my diet. As a former WW I already knew the benefits of recording my intake and pre-planning my meals. I plan my breakfasts and lunches for a week with dinners I am a little flexible, but stay within my calorie goal. I do not eat my exercise calories, except for special events. My diet is mostly plant based, but I am not a vegetarian.
Tips- Record everything. Every taste, every sip, every slip. In your notes write your mood and/or the situations you met throughout your day. Remember (this is my favorite WW coaches saying) nothing tastes as good as thin feels.
[*}Start slow. Baby steps work. When we set too high of a goal we overwhelm ourselves. We think OMG I will never hit that mark. Celebrate every pound, it’s OK to pat ourselves on the back. - Step in place as often as you can. Conference calls, brushing your teeth, folding laundry, etc.
- This process is about loving yourself. As women we want to nurture everyone around us, but we almost never nurture ourselves. We must wrap our arms around ourselves and love us at the level we want to be loved.
- If you live with your family have “me” shelves in the pantry, refrigerator, and freezer. Put your food in those areas. If you know where your food lives and only concentrate on those areas it’s easier to avoid culling through those areas when you find you are hungry.
- Prep your food. Wash and prep the fruits and vegetables so they are ready when you find you want to graze.
- Keep those measuring cups and spoons on the counter and use them. Our eyes seem to underestimate how much we are actually putting on our plates.
- Keep a list of non-food related rewards for when you hit some of your goals. Some ideas include a new top, going to a concert, meeting a friend at a new park, or taking a painting class.
As I am sharing this it is a reminder to me of the things I have incorporated and must continue to practice as I move in to a healthier life. I have been slipping in some areas which I think is due to the holiday blues.
It's off to the races for me. I need to get to the grocery store to stock up on a few things and want to graze the clothes for another piece or two (maybe). Celebrating hitting my 75% of goal achievement.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers to all.
SuziQ - SFL5 - Record everything. Every taste, every sip, every slip. In your notes write your mood and/or the situations you met throughout your day. Remember (this is my favorite WW coaches saying) nothing tastes as good as thin feels.
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The exceedingly verbose Machka is having difficulty getting the first assignment of her current course down to 800 words. 🤨🤪
How do the expect me to explain all they want explained in 800 words? Without even trying, I waved my hands over the keyboard and had over 2000 words.
Machka in Oz
It's 11:45 pm and I've submitted! I got it down to 860 words and decided not to try to squeeze it any smaller than that.
I'm just a bit nervous about this ... if the course were within my usual department, I've grown to know what they expect but the course is in a different department and so I'm not sure just how strict they are with certain things. We'll see. Fortunately this first assignment isn't worth a large amount.
Machka in Oz
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We went through these 30 Days of Gratitude in November last year. Feel free to join in whenever you'd like ...
Machka in Oz
All right ... it's mid November and this will take us through to mid December ... just in time for Christmas!!
Day 1 - November 15 - Smell: My sense of smell is limited and my husband no longer has a sense of smell (or taste) since his accident. However, I can catch a faint scent from the roses and freesias he has grown, which are all coming into bloom.
I'm thankful that he has been able to garden and that we have so many lovely flowers and veggies growing and blooming.
Day 2 - November 16 - Technology: My laptop, my phone, email, facebook ... the fact that technology exists! It's what I do ... it's what I learn ... it's how I communicate with family and friends.
Day 3 - November 17 - Colour: Well ... I'm thankful for the bright colours on my table. Especially since this spring has been quite gloomy. They make me smile.
Day 4 - November 18 - Food: I'm thankful for my weekday lunches ... chicken, rice and veg.
Day 5 - November 19 - Sound: How applicable! I just got my laptop connected to my stereo!! I am appreciating the nice soothing music in the evenings.
Day 6 - November 20 - Nature: All of it! I am very thankful that there is nature ... animals and plants, water, rocks, mountains, hills, all of it. I'm glad I live in a place where I can see and experience nature. I couldn't live in the middle of a large city. My ideal would be in a small town or right on the edge of a larger one so I could be surrounded by countryside in seconds.
Day 7 - November 21 - Memory: I'm thankful for memory. I'm thankful that my husband has some of his memory - he's pretty good at past memories and procedural memories. I'm glad he didn't lose that. I'm also thankful that, with a bit of effort, I've been able to improve my memory a bit. I've discovered that if I focus and work at it, I can remember people's names at least some of the time! I've had to be my husband's memory.
Day 8 - November 22 - Book: Most grateful ... the Bible. It's been a comfort to me, especially in recent times.
Also grateful for books in general.
The last 18 months I've switched to reading "children's" books. I've also found them comforting.
Day 9 - November 23 - Place: I'm thankful for my bed!! Although I'm not there nearly as much as I'd like to be, my bed has become one of my favourite places to be. There I can lose myself in books or sleep.
That said, I need to get a new pillow. Might have to see about doing that tomorrow if possible.
Day 10 - November 24 - Taste! Well, there are only 4 of them: salt, sweet, bitter, sour, and I've written them in order of preference.
I am thankful I have all 4 but I wish my husband did again.
Day 11 - November 25 - Holiday: How appropriate ... one month before Christmas. Christmas is my favourite public holiday. I'm love the music, the decorations, the food, the Christmas Carol evenings, the lights, and the celebration of Jesus birth. I'm thankful that we have a Christmas holiday.
As for holidays in general, I enjoy any opportunity to a) take time off work, and b) travel. I'm very thankful I live and work in Australia where I get quite a decent amount of holiday time.
Day 12 - November 26 - Texture: Smooth. Since the measles (?) in 2016, I need to wear very smooth clothes. I've been thankful to find such things at a good price.
And the soft texture of the fur of kitties.
Day 13 - November 27 - Abilities: I am very thankful for my organisational skills. I don't know how I would have survived with the past 20 months without them!!
Deep breath ...
Day 14 - November 28 - Sight: What sight am I grateful for?
The sight of all the roses and other flowers in our garden.
The view from our dining room window out over the water.
The beach my bus goes by morning and evening ... sometimes there is sea wildlife out there. I've seen dolphins, a stingray and a whale!
The mountain behind the city.
Psalm 121
A song of ascents.
1 I lift up my eyes to the mountains—
where does my help come from?
2 My help comes from the Lord,
the Maker of heaven and earth.
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Day 15 - November 29 - Season: Summer. I'm always thankful for summer! The warmth. The long daylight hours. I come alive in summer. One more day till summer!
Day 16 - November 30 - My Body: I'm thankful for my brain and my legs. My brain, because it often has to be a brain for two of us now and although it fails me now and then, I'm so glad things like my memory seem to have improved. And my legs because they are what carry me around and allow me to do things like cycling and running.
Day 17 - December 1 - Knowledge: Coincidentally, my current course is Knowledge Management. I appreciate everything I've learned through formal education, experience, and life in general. I'm especially thankful for being at a point where I feel reasonably comfortable around computers ... but can still learn more! Even just today, I learned how to add contacts into my phone.
Day 18 - December 2 - Piece of Art: Hmmm ... I am thankful for my sister-in-law's art and gifts to us. She has given us paintings, wood carvings, and vases.
One of her vases ...
Day 19 - December 3 - Touch: My husband's hugs! There were a few months when I thought I'd never have his hugs again. His hugs were one thing I dreamt about during those months.
Day 20 - December 4 - Who in my life am I grateful for? My parents ... who have been so supportive of me through all I've done and been through. I love them both and hope that one day, in a few years, we'll be able to live closer to them again.
Day 21 - December 5 - What song am I grateful for? This is a really difficult one. I like music of all sorts!! And what I listen to on a particular day largely depends on my mood. I'm just generally thankful for music!
Day 22 - December 6 - What story am I grateful for? The Christmas story is special. And the little stories that make up our lives ... "Remember when ... "
Day 23 - December 7 - Tradition. Hmmm ... I don't do a lot of traditions, I don't think. My birthday weekend might be a new tradition. I've been actively doing that for the 10 years I've lived in Australia. At Christmas, I probably have the most traditions and I am thankful for them for the connections ...
Day 24 - December 8 - Challenge. The biggest challenge of my 52 years of life was when my husband had a workplace accident which resulted in a severe brain injury 20 months ago. I'm struggling to be thankful for that.
Challenges I am more thankful for are all the opportunities I've had to cycle long, long, long, ultra long distances. I hope to be able to dabble in that again.
Machka in Oz
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Morning ladies~
Ha Ha I did survive the fall , they were nice enough to bring me ice at the restaurant, so I iced it right away..I am a bit sore this morning, but thank the good Lord for sparing me any further injury.
SuziQ- thank you for words of wisdom I will be working on my resume and cover letter today with Trudy and ,will get myself dolled up, go do blood work early and drop off all my things at Nursing home before work i go in at 10, so the office opens at 9
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Only thing done from list was errands in town and AF. Did spend some time on firehall harassment policy prep. Made second trip into town to sign papers for firehall, when I got there, credit union staff didn't know anything about it. They could tell I was grumpy, but I tried to not take it out on them, and even thanked the one gal who did all she could to find out where the paperwork was. Proud I didn't take my snit out on her OR on red wine.
Today it's church, grind vanilla wafers with pecans, stirfry asparagus/ham for lunch, meet friends at “A Good Day in the Neighborhood” and AF. Really.
Welcome London/Paris/Texas!
NYKaren woohoo indeed for your DH's focus and your shining example!
Janetr prayers and ((hugs)) and more prayers.
SuziQ Va va VOOM! Even your “before” pics. Wow.
Machka like your approach to your birthday. Will start thinking about what I'd like to do, what short trip I'd like to take, and so start preparing Joe...
That No one deserves a serve promo reminded me of an instance my BIL reported. He acted like the “king” in that video. SMH :noway:
Rebecca go on being you no matter what your sister says. None of her beeswax. Oh wait, yes it was, you did her business a favor. So there, nyaahh!
SuebDew LOVE your calendar idea for Carol. Safe travels!
Amber, 2 year old JR is 4 ft tall ?!?!?!!!!
pip love the Seattle pics. Think I dined at that sidwalk bistro with Robbie when we went to pick up Dixie.
Allie please rest and take care of yourself today while Trudy helps you with your resume and cover letter Want you to be your chipper self tomorrow when you drop them off. Kim's right, that job is meant for you.
Kim amen for good neighbors.
Katla Powell's Books in Portland. OH! It's been years. Take me with you?
SuziCarter5555 our Skye terrier (and truth to tell both Joe and I) moped since losing Scooter in August. Despite Joe's protestations he didn't want another dog and certainly not a puppy, we came home from the shelter with an 11 week old GSD/? Cross. We're all much happier now, even Joe! Tumble and Shadow play wrestle and chase for hours and hours. We live in the forest and Joe wanted a larger dog to warn off the critters (including bear and cougar). Me, I like GSDs for warning off the real critters (people)Scooter and Tumble:Lisa enjoy your drive with Corey. Some of our best conversations have been on road trips.
Tumble:
Shadow:
Tumble and Shadow:
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
Word for 2019: "GOOD" good attitude, good food, good times, good choices, good enough, feel good, GOOD! Word for December: get up and go outside EVERY day!
daily: steps=3011
vits=5.5 log=7 CI<CO=6 CI<250<CO=2 Tumble 5/10=5 mfp=7 AF=5 outside=3
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grandmallie wrote: »Morning ladies~
Ha Ha I did survive the fall , they were nice enough to bring me ice at the restaurant, so I iced it right away..I am a bit sore this morning, but thank the good Lord for sparing me any further injury.
SuziQ- thank you for words of wisdom I will be working on my resume and cover letter today with Trudy and ,will get myself dolled up, go do blood work early and drop off all my things at Nursing home before work i go in at 10, so the office opens at 9
you are right I have to go in with a good attitude
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Sunday -- We got outside for a bicycle ride!
Distance: 20.15 km
Moving Time: 1:26:03
Elevation: 204 m
Machka in Oz
I've finally been able to start my Cycling in Australia - Summer 2019/20 album in Flickr!
https://www.flickr.com/photos/machka-bb/albums/72157712113858832
This is some of the scenery we see on some of our rides ... and there are 4 more photos in the album now. I hope there will be more before the month is over.
It hit 19C today ... one of the warmer days we've had in the last couple weeks.
Machka in Oz
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Good morning ladies!
SuziQ - great haircut, you look fabulous.
Love that chart!! Congrats! What a super way to keep track of your progress, and keep up the motivation. I did one similar to that when I was on WW as well. I need to dig that out.
Yesterday I went back to see what/how I was eating when I was getting in shape in 2018. I found I was eating higher carbs than I've been allowing myself recently, and often when I'd go after a snack after supper, I'd end up with peanut butter and be satisfied. High fat.
I saw something recently that some of us are engineered to process carbs, others do better on a higher fat/protein diet. This was per DNA studies, and I think it was an ad to pay for a DNA test.
But, there might be something to it. Won't spring for their test, but I'm pondering if getting more carbs (fruit and starchy veg) with my meals might not stop some of the cravings for it at night.
Janetr - sending many ((HUGS)) your way. So happy to hear your daughter was admitted and will be under care.
Suebdew - my word, glad you are OK!
Pip - you are taking me back down memory lane with the Seattle photos. My last job up there was an office near the Fremont bridge. Often spent lunch hours scooting around Fremont and Ballard. Good luck on your run, weather doesn't look too bad today!
SuziCarter - so where are the photos of the new pupster?
Love boxers!!! When we brought a puppy into a single dog household, the older dog's feelings were hurt and she still tolerates the incomer. But if the little one has to go to the vet or groomer, the older dog worries and frets the whole time she's gone. And vicey versa.
Carol - Happy belated and upcoming birthdays. This past year I missed the niece and nephews birthdays because of the medical stuff I was going thru. Just didn't come up on my radar. I'd remember when I'd eventually see something on their Facebook pages and pop in a greeting on there. The only birthday card I reliably get from relatives is from my sister. Anyhow, if I had relatives close by and wanted to celebrate I'd probably say something like "where are you all taking me to eat on my birthday? It's coming up you know!"
Anyhow, I always get a nice card and gift from my BFF. The daughter I never had, lol. I get DH a card and we used to go out to eat before he became uncomfortable with being in public.
To divert a bit from this subject, I saw something recently on Facebook, or perhaps someone posted it here - how to say "I love you". It's about saying things like "Drive safely" and "I miss you". It's really about saying "I care about you" isn't it? Many aren't comfortable about saying the "love" word but show it in so many ways. And I am grateful.
Allie - good luck with the job!
Lisa - have a great time on your trip. I really miss the long drives with DH, and the conversations we'd have when we were younger and we didn't mind traveling. They were generally to pick up sheep. We once made a mad dash from near the Seattle area to Saskatchewan. First time through Montana - it was speedy but beautiful.
Yesterday I threw together a vegan lentil soup/stew. I don't normally add meat to lentil soups, but this recipe intrigued me because vegans depend on protein from different sources than I am used to. So it had mushrooms added. I altered the recipe a bit and first sauteed a LOT of sliced mushrooms in a bit of butter and olive oil. And cut back on the potatoes and added a parsnip (yummy).
Decided to make a swag for the front door this year, found some good directions on Youtube. Getting the greenery won't be a problem. Swags and small wreathes start out at $15 to $25 and up at all the stores around here. Would rather put that $$ in the Salvation Army bucket.
Had lunch with my friend on Thursday, we met early and were finished just after 12. Since the restaurant was getting busy and the parking is limited, we shot out the door to get going and let others have our spots. We were approached by an old toothless fellow, pretty much dressed in rags, super thin, could barely talk coherently - asked for money to fix his car or a meal or ?? couldn't make it out. Took us by surprise and we were anxious to get going plus sometimes these folks are unstable and get violent. Being so close to I-5, a lot of drifters end up here.
When I got home I remembered I had some Ensure food replacement I'd purchased this past summer when I had surgery, in case I couldn't eat for a few days. So I threw that in the car along with bottles of water - if I see him or someone like him again, I can at least tide them over with a meal that doesn't have to be chewed.
On that note, time to get the dogs up. Make it a wonderful day!
Lanette
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My son and DDIL went off for their bicycle ride at 9 o'clock this morning. We were babysitting. Lots of activities, including Art, Poetry Writing and Juggling. (I can juggle 3 balls).
They did 36 miles and came back super happy.
We all, including the au pair, set off for Fatto a Mano. A great time was had by all.
Now we are collapsed at home.
Light dinner tonight I think.
Love Heather UK XXXXXX
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Barbara- Yes JRs 4ft tall that’s why we struggle finding toys to shopping carts he can fit in .Most stores do not have Carolina carts! Yesterday night found out JR broke the potty lid off trying to pry it open probably wanted to toss another toothbrush in! Genetic Gigantism runs in our family. Sz 6 some 6/7 clothes sz 10 & 11 shoes depends on if it’s a boot ,sandal,or tennis shoes. We have him in a Full sz bed. The trees 9ft tall this year. Our house is built for people who are tall so tallest sinks to doors y ceilings. He sits at regular tables without a booster seat cause he fits perfectly already. He has grown out of 18 sizes of clothing since birth that’s a growth spurt average of every 1.7 months .Gigantism only effects Males in our families. My side Women can get dwarfism genetically or be short...I’m one of the taller Women 5ft 4 3/4th / Daughter 5ft 2
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Today 1 slice pizza per meal with Crystal light tea.3 -
Amber Tx
Good news is our giant raccoon with his new tiny short females is scared of JR lol their the same height but JR has the high pitched excited “KITTY!” Scream 😱4 -
Left home in sunshine, and now travelling through torrential rain. The joys of the Irish weather! 😂
🎄🤶 Gratitude for Christmas 🎅🏻🎄#1, 15 Nov: Scents: loved the smell of the roses I put into my Floral arrangement#23, 6 Dec - Tradition: I'm grateful for our family tradition of all getting together at various times during the year, especially Christmas.
#2, 16 Nov:Technology: Glad that I had my car and didn’t have to stand in the cold waiting for a bus
#3, 17 Nov: Colour: the colour of the beautiful sunset as I walked home in the late afternoon
#4, 18 Nov: Food: Fresh produce form my own garden ..... or ....... Chocolate! 🍫 My ultimate comfort food.
#5, 19 Nov: Sound: I'm grateful for the sound of DH moving about downstairs. It's very comforting.
#6, 20 Nov: In Nature: I love the view of the night sky from my bedroom window on clear nights.
#7, 21 Nov: Memory: This triggered a veritable avalanche of memories of my life, the happy moments crowding out the less pleasant ones. So... the memory I am most grateful for is my own selective memory, which chooses to focus on the positives, and reframe the negatives as learning experiences.
#8, 22 Nov: Book: "Unlimited Power" by Tony Robbins. This book was a revelation to me and showed me that I was in charge of my life. It was pretty scary at first to accept responsibility for all my actions and decisions. It was no longer possible for me to blame others or make excuses. But it was such a positive turning point in my life. I revisit it often.
#9, 23 Nov - Place: the place I am most grateful for is the quiet place in my head where I go when I meditate.
#10, 24 Nov - Taste: Today grandson had made an experimental mulled wine drizzle cake. I was grateful that it tasted so good, (not all of his experiments turn out so well 😂) Fortunately, I always hold calories for my Sunday visit, so was able to fully enjoy his delightful concoction (NB: lemon drizzle cake is one of my favourites)
#11, 25 Nov - Holiday: I love my annual week's family holiday on the West coast of Ireland with our DED and the grands. This year was our 24th year of these holidays. We started them with my DMiL when our granddaughter was just 8 months old. I am grateful that all 3 grands still want to come on these holidays with us.
#12, 25 Nov, Texture: I love the feel of fresh soft fluffy towels after my shower.
#13, 26 Nov, Abilities: I treasure my ability to be adaptable, and look for the positive in situations.
#14, 27 Nov, Sight: I appreciate the sight of my husband bringing my tea in bed each morning. It means I can take my time waking up.
#15, 28 Nov, Season: All the season's have their good points' but the spring is my favourite because it heralds the end of winter and the lengthening of daylight hours.
#16, 29 Nov: I'm grateful that bones are strong. I have been very fortunate in that I have never had a broken bone. Long may that continue.
#17, 30 Nov, Knowledge: I'm grateful the self-knowledge I have gained on this health and fitness journey. Now all I have to do is apply it! 😂
#18, 1 Dec, Piece of art: Not sure why but found this one difficult. Settled on this. It a fire screen that my Nana embroidered. It sat in front of the fire in her sitting room. I rescued it when my aunt was about to throw it away after redecorating her apartment after my uncle had been taken into residential care with Alzheimer's. It means more to me than all the fancy paintings in the world.
#19, 2 Dec, Touch: This morning I am so grateful for DH's hand on my shoulder when he woke me with my morning cuppa. He is the wind beneath my wings. In light the two bereavement last weekend, I am especially conscious of the fact that many of my contemporaries don't have that luxury.
#20, 3 Dec, Person: I am most grateful for my DH. He puts up with all my foibles, and shows his affections in so many different ways. And he keeps me on an even keel. I'm fortunate that I have him in my life.
#21, 4 Dec, Song: There are so many songs that I love. But 2 that I regard as my anthems are
Girls just wanna have fun, Cindi Lauper which always has me up and dancing Tubthumping, Chumbawamba which has seen me through some down times #22, 5 Dec - Story: The first one that sprung to mind was "It's a Wonderful Life". I saw the film starring James Stewart as a child, and loved it. The second one that came to mind was "A Christmas Carol" by Charles Dickens.
#24, 7 Dec - Challenge: I'm grateful for several. The 'Just for today daily goals' Challenge focuses my mind daily on what I want to achieve, and the Ultimate Accountability Challenge has helped me build good habits.
#25, 8 Dec - Moment this week: The moment I stepped on the scale and weight had dropped below. 150lbs. My weight goal for 2019 was 155.
(((Hugs))) to Allie and Janetr, and any one else having a hard time 💕💖💕
Hope you are all having a fun weekend.
☘️ Terri
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KetoneKaren wrote: »Janetr I'm so glad your daughter is safe for now. I don't expect anyone to remember, but like some others on this thread, my family has been rocked by mental illness, suicide, attempted suicide, breaks with reality, personality disorders, etc. It's nearly impossible for depressed people to believe they will ever feel better. It's an amazing show of strength that your daughter went to the hospital alone and waited until she got help. I can only imagine what she had to overcome to accomplish that. (((Hugs)))
Karen in Virginia
All I can do is cry, i was so upset that she had to face it all ALONE, I needed to be there with her. She texted very late last night to tell me they were taking her cell phone, but she would call today from the phone there. I talk to her every day, I'll miss that so much. I'm still worried, but at least I know she is safe. The soon to be ex did go get her two dogs to take to his house. Thank you for your good thoughts.
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Heather, beautiful picture, you have a lovely family. So happy you moved and are making memories for all of you to cherish
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Janetr - a little tear came to my eye this morning when you said she'd been admitted. To be honest, when you are in that state I think you are alone whoever is there with you. She will come through this and be all the stronger for it.
I've had a little doze on the sofa. When I woke up DH was upstairs on the elliptical.
Well, he's a better man than me.
My outside tree lights have packed up. New batteries haven't cured it. I will order some more.
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Hello- Melanie from Alberta. 53 years old. Some weight to lose but mainly trying to overcome over 30 years of disordered eating including bingeing and what people now call fasting but for me it was consciously trying to limit my calories.
I have recently started counting macros on a plan devised to have me eat more. Although I still feel the need to track, it has been very good for me. I am eating more than I have for years, bingeing less, and am slowly moving away from the idea that always being hungry is desirable.
I was hoping to connect with women in my age range as I always feel that is the group that understands things best. We have navigated the decades of what is expected of women at home, in the work place, and physical appearance. Things are changing but in many ways staying the same.
I want the remainder of my 50s to be a blast and hope to connect with some of you.
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Good morning all! Happy Sunday!
Janet R- Sending you lots of hugs and prayers for your daughter and you/your family! Depression is just awful; I am glad she is in a place where she can get the help she needs.
Lisa- So sorry you didn't get the position; but so happy you have a boss who is compassionate and happy you are content with the outcome! The words to the Stones song comes to mind here; "You can't always get what you want...but if you try sometimes, you find...you get what you need!"
Pip- Love the pics! I love mastiffs. For me the bigger and "lunkier" the dog, the more I lose my heart to it.
Heather- I am so happy that you are getting so much family time! Thank you for sharing it with us!
Allie- Ouch! Sorry about your fall! Thank god for the ample bosom! Who'd have thought that those things that make it hard to find blouses that fit well, could save your face in a fall! Yea!
SuziQ- Aren't you a cutie?! I love your hair! I am the same way when buying clothes. I buy what I absolutely need; keeping in mind that I am not at goal weight yet. Your backside reflection is awesome!
Yesterday, I got my grocery shopping and errands run; then spent the afternoon doing paperwork for my daycare. I headed downtown at 5:30pm to watch the Jingle Bell Parade with my oldest son. I got down there and texted him, asking where he was and found out he was on a float! lol He ended up riding on the float for his girlfriend's former employer (animal hospital). He had to tell me that he was the "pug". lol He was wearing an dog head. Anyway, it was a nice parade. I had to park quite a ways away from the parade route, so I got an extra two miles of walking in, yesterday. Good thing, because he and I met for a beer after the parade. We had a nice chat. He is currently looking for a new job, so I got an update on how that is going and also how he is doing now that his girlfriend has moved to Texas for school (long distance relationship). He also told me how he is eating mainly a vegetarian lifestyle. He showed me pictures of meals that he has made for himself and I am impressed. He has moved past the processed/premade veggie burgers and "meat" crumbles and is now working with tofu and other mostly soy based protein products. He is also making his own hummus and riced cauliflower. Kind of proud of him. I got home at about 8pm and finished making the white chicken chili that was in the crock pot. I added some cream cheese and shredded colby, so it isn't as "healthy" as it could be; but it is HOT! lol I had decided to try some chipotle peppers in it (so it is more of a pink color,now, than white) and BOY! did that spice it up!? It's good though. I went to bed at about 10:30 and Tim woke me up at 2:30 am (1:30 Fort Worth time) to hand me the phone. Lauren was on the phone and near tears. She was holding the baby in bed after feeding him, she fell asleep and he fell out of her arms and onto the floor. She woke up when he screamed when he hit the floor. Ugh! Thank God for carpeting. She said he stopped crying the minute she picked him up. I talked her through some simple little tests for him. He was moving fine, no bumps or bruise visible, eyes tracking her movement and pupils looked normal. I told her he probably landed on his butt or back before his head hit and that he would probably be okay. She texted me about 30 minutes later and said he seemed his usual self; babbling and cooing and moving around like normal. Took a bottle and ate just fine. She just called me as I was writing this post and he is doing fine. I video chatted with him and he was all smiles and very chatty. I feel bad for Lauren. I have never dropped a kid; but I have had my fair share of "bad mommy" moments. I think we all do/did.
Well, time marches on. Cleaning house today and crossing a couple more things off my "to do" list. Love to you all! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)7 -
Talked to Denise today. She’s anxious about coming down here, she said she doesn’t care that we drove to FL, she’s a different person. She wants us to say “wait until PJ is older”. But the only thing is, you know that this will go on for years. I REALLY wish she’d go to the MD and get something for this anxiety because if she continues to be anxious, it’s going to be a vicious cycle. She’s anxious, PJ feels it so he’s anxious, which gets Denise more anxious, which gets PJ more anxious. Now she’s saying that Maria might not come down. I really wish she would, that might be such a help to Denise. I told Denise that years ago when Jess was an infant I flew to FL and swore that I would never do it again, it was just too much of a hassle. Denise is concerned that she can’t take PJ out of his car seat and hold him. I told her she can stop at a rest area and take him out of the car seat. She feels that lots of stops will just make the trip longer. Vince told her that I make lots of stops (which is true, for some reason and I think it’s because of the dry air I drink lots of water) and it usually only adds an extra hour. She’s still freaking out. I really wish she would go to a MD to get something to take for her anxiety so that she can get over it eventually.
Did training games on the Wii today. The plan for tomorrow is to take the extremepump class
I would think that if Pete asked his mother to come down here and help Denise that she would. I know that there have been things that I haven’t wanted to do, that I’ve been anxious about and thought “oh, why can’t they just skip it or do such-and-such instead” but I did it because my child asked me, my child needed me.
Made a chocolate cake for Vince and iced it, fryed up some salmon cakes but found that I really need to defrost them first, then breaded the flounder. I found out the other day that they seem to fry up frozen. They’re thin enough that they defrost when they’re fried and they don’t stick to the pan as much as if they were defrosted. Now I have to try this with the catfish.
Barbara – I’ve had it where the Wii did not register my weight. But I did find out that it will register as long as I don’t turn it off too soon. The MD’s office told me that they accept Medicare and that when they transfer to the new group, that group also accepts Medicare. I think what happened is they saw that my insurance that I have now will expire so that’s why they cancelled the appt. I would think they should have called me to find out if there was a reason why it will be cancelled, but they didn’t. Didn’t think. I do hope that Denise maturing helps her, but somehow I doubt it. Pete isn’t very mature and I think his parents give in to this and treat it like it’s the way things should be. They won’t try to help Denise get over this (at least that’s what I think) but instead tell her how her feelings are perfectly OK.
Wonder when Vince wants to make the pierogi. Maybe Tues since it’s supposed to be raining so we can’t decorate outside. I was talking to a lady at the holiday party and she told me about a stitching group, that they would help me put PJ’s name on his stocking. That seems to be the hardest part
Welcome LondonParisTexas to a great group. Looking forward to hearing more from you.
Okie – no, Vince doesn’t have to give three gifts, too. It’ll be three gifts from us, three from Denise and Pete, and three from Jess and Colby. Thanks for bringing this up. I just sent an email to everyone making sure they realized it
Lucy – we did enjoy the concert. I do think, tho, that this year they cut back on things. Like they didn’t have the catwalk that goes over the crowd. But that’s OK
Carol – how horrible you must feel that no one remembered your birthday.
SuziQ – your face looks so much thinner
Janetr – prayers for your daughter. I’m glad she’s somewhere that she can get the help she needs
Amber – maybe someday JR can decorate the top of that 9’ tree. ROTF
Allie – you take care of yourself, ya hear?
Suzicarter – congrats on the new acquisition! I’m so sorry about your old dog, but excited for you with the new one
M – knowing me, I was upset at the time, but I won’t really chew these people out. Maybe I’ll just ask “why didn’t someone call me?” but that’ll probably be the extent of it. It’s not like me to really get mad at someone. Vince has said many times “you’re just too nice”. I’m even nice to telemarketers, which bothers Vince.
Pip – good luck!
Melanie – welcome!
Michele in NC
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God bless Trudy she typed out my cover letter and resume and it came out fabulous .. have it in a folder to drop off Monday morning..
As the day wears on I'm getting a bit sore.. so going to lay low and watch TV5 -
Michele NC - wish he could decorate it now lol 😂 I’m on my tip ties jumping on a chair to hang ornaments3
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Janet Ok ~ So sorry for what your daughter is going through. Prayers that she will get the help she needs.
Kim ~ Glad your electricity is working once again. Have you and your mom made the cookies yet?
Heather ~ So glad you and your hubby are able to be so close to your son and grand children.
Michele ~ I was probably like Denise when my son was born. I was so nervous the pediatrician prescribed me xanax.
When my grand children were born, I was afraid to hold them at first but I quickly got over that.
Allie ~ Sorry about your fall and hope you will heal quickly. Fingers crossed you will get the job you are hoping for.
Thanks so much for all the advice about my birthday! I think I learned something about hoping everyone would remember me if I didn't say anything. Next year, I will send myself some flowers on the day. By the way, it's in August.
I made a huge pot of beef/chicken, and vegetable soup this AM. Think I will have to freeze some of it as I don't think we will want to eat it for every upcoming meal.
We finally got our artificial tree up, the mantle decorated, and a small tree lit on the kitchen table.
Welcome to All! We are a great group of women.
Carol in GA
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This evening is the Groom's Dinner in celebration of our grandson, they are graduating college Dec. 14 and getting married Dec. 19. I certainly don't feel in a celebratory mood but sitting here crying is certainly not going to help either my daughter or me. I'm worrying about missing her phone call today. Ugh, I need to chill out.
Love you my friends
Janetr OKC11 -
Janetr I hope you are taking care of you during this trying time. I am sure she values your support. It is your turn to lean on those who can support you. Margaret 3
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margaretturk wrote: »Janetr I hope you are taking care of you during this trying time. I am sure she values your support. It is your turn to lean on those who can support you. Margaret
Thanks, Margaret, she did call a bit ago. They put her on a different antidepressant and she talked with the thrapist. She's not very impressed at this point. I really didn't expect her to be, I guess. At least she is safe for now.
Janetr OKC8 -
Kim So glad your electricity is repaired! Will be so much easier for you to work on your embroidery, etc. with your normal set up. It amazes me how dependent we are on electricity. I remember losing power as a child and we didn’t do things much differently…just used candles and hurricane lamps. Nowadays with new technology, you can’t do anything without power!
Katla Hope you post pictures of your forest! Sounds so pretty! Unbelievable that your live tree goes from inside to outside and back again. How neat!
Machka I am so impressed you could write 2000 words easily and had to cut down the size of your assignment! Once again, that education helps you out! We have so many highly intelligent women in this group!
Allie So grateful you are not injured more severely!! I was very concerned how you would feel today!
Barbara Awesome that you got another dog!! Love the fur baby pics! I am such a doggy lover!
SuzyQ Looking forward to pics of the puppy!
Heather Wonderful family picture!!
KJ Sounds like a great day with your son. So nice to have talks with children as adults! Impressive how he is cooking tofu, etc.! Not easy! Poor Lauren with the baby drop. She must have been so scared!
Pip Great run! Love the pic!
Janet It will take a while for the new meds for your daughter to work. Hope they help and hope they give her good counsel while she is in the hospital! Hope you have a great time at the dinner tonight!
Back to work on the house...trying to get the tree up! I'm really tired for some reason. Another lady at church this morning said everyone she knows has been complaining about being tired. May be partly the stress (and depression) surrounding the holidays. I miss so many people this time of year!! Like others have mentioned, I've had too many losses around Christmas! Luci in WNC
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JanetR- I'm so sorry you and your daughter are going through such a rough time and praying she has a healthy recovery.
Took an almost 3 hr nap.. and now watching Hallmark movies lazy day.think I needed that..1 -
Luci, Barbara, Lanette, Michele, and KJ. Thank you for the kind words and support.1
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