WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2021

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  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,740 Member
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    Lisa - what kind of sweetener do you use in your Dreamsicle Smoothie? I told my husband but he asked me measurements and exact ingredients.

    Thanks
    Tracey
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,740 Member
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    Sue - isn’t that the same with most things, what is forbidden screams our names.

    Heather - what a lovely thing to do.

    I’m guilty of not doing the edges myself for far too long between cleanings. It is due right now. The last time was Jan 2nd. That is why I’m in the shape I’m in right now. I did too much that weekend and started it on the 1st when I made all the bedding for Michaela’s bunk beds. It will have to wait a while yet I imagine.

    Rori - The biggest hug to you.
    I never have the right words, but you’re in my thoughts often.

    I have Friday off, I had a couple vacation days to use up. So chose this weekend to give me another long weekend to rest.

    I can’t get comfortable tonight I think I’ll go take a bath.
    Tracey in Edmonton
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
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    :)
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,343 Member
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    Did a Jari Love video. I couldn’t get the virtual workout thing to work. I did notice that they have an upright bike which might work for my spinning workouts so I might try that tomorrow.

    Realized that this gym doesn’t have a locker room, their shower is in the bathroom. I felt bad monopolizing the bathroom but it just couldn’t be helped.

    After exercise went to WM, then a dollar store but they didn’t have what I was looking for then to the gym to tell them that I couldn’t use the video thing and evidently there’s some sort of problem so they’re going to try to get it ironed out

    Zaknjakesmom – you CAN do this!!!

    Fried some fish to have tomorrow. After I fried it I realized that I didn’t have a glass jar to put the hot grease in. There’s a neighbor here (she remembers Vince’s mother) who gave me a jar (unfortunately, it was plastic so I’ll just have to let the grease cool a bit before I put it in the jar) and some sugar. I brought everything to make a grapefruit pie (I know she likes it) except for the sugar. I can’t see buying a 5lb bag just for one cup.
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    Bananas – This is what JRsmom wrote me recently: I changed accounts left the old one restarted just had too many who died of Covid on it I couldn’t find the courage to unadd them. Plus young people I added we’re doing just fine now I wanted to have more adult conversation lol 😂. It is me JRLateInLifeMom. Daughter has had Covid twice now the variant y original one . She better now got a on base apartment

    Today is fat Tuesday and I’m really trying to resist the urge to splurge on cookies or something using this excuse

    Lisa – oh, how I remember Creamsicles. Thanks for the memory

    Pip – do you think you can afford that fireplace….lol

    Rori – You are in my prayers. You have me in awe of all you do.

    We ordered the felaway for Loki and went to pick it up. Not sure why Vince didn’t just have Amazon deliver it here, maybe he just didn’t realize that he should. Anyway, you get it at the Amazon locker in Sav-a-Lot. He also bought some cookies. I did have just one of the lemon cookies. You have no idea how hard I’m trying not to have more.

    Made a grapefruit pie for one of the neighbors. I guess it just takes longer for it to set up, so I have it in the refrigerator right now.

    Michele
    who is watching some Big Bang theory reruns
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 16,917 Member
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    :) Today we had two big adventures. In the morning we went through the bank drive through to deposit the check my friend sent for baby blanket knitting costs then picked up take out at our favorite Chinese restaurant. After lunch we went to curbside pick up at the library to pick up three books, then to curbside pickup at Walgreens to get some items we can't get at the grocery store.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
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    cleaning
    i do all the cleaning! i need a DH to help! In fact if a partner is helping it is easier in a couple. It seems like taking care of everything is a lot. When in couple, last time we lived weekends together long term, because of distance/work, so since he drove here, which was a hike, he didn't have much responsibilities, would sometimes help with or very occasionally do simple food prep. I tended to organize things more than him. He was a bit more messy than me, would tend to leave his socks around things like that. It wasn't a big deal, but it was definitely me asking him to pick up from time to time and not the opposite.

    And previously, when living in full time couple, it didn't seem like there was a lot to do. We shared the cooking, food prep. I hadn't realized it, but after a few months of being together, he remarked i always did the dishes. I was not into doing more than my share, but i guess after having lived alone i just had the habit of doing dishes after eating or cooking. So then i think i made a point to do a bit less, and let him do some. We had both lived on our own, so were fairly good at taking care of our spaces, food, and so on. My paperwork and closet shelves were more untidy than his. I cleaned the bathroom, and i cleaned the kitchen a bit more. I didn't like doing mopping, vacuuming, though so he got to do that, more often. When i tried to share bathroom cleaning, bathroom was just less clean, so i wasn't crazy about that. We'd often do food shopping or going to market together. We'd each do our own finances for part and we pooled money for part and sorted that out together.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
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    general question
    Do you note down all expenditures ?
    Do you stick to a very tight budget

    I used to do that, and it seemed better. I used quicken which really worked for me.Now quicken is not usable in Europe! Also writing everything down is another thing to do, and it's hard to get through everything in a day.
    But it certainly helped to be on top of stuff. i haven't found a good budgeting software that works as well as quicken did for me, but i think it's also a time management issue too.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 24,869 Member
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    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    general question
    Do you note down all expenditures ?
    Do you stick to a very tight budget

    I used to do that, and it seemed better. I used quicken which really worked for me.Now quicken is not usable in Europe! Also writing everything down is another thing to do, and it's hard to get through everything in a day.
    But it certainly helped to be on top of stuff. i haven't found a good budgeting software that works as well as quicken did for me, but i think it's also a time management issue too.

    Nope!

    I have done it at times but not now. If I have to do it again, I will. When I have done it, I did it on paper or in Excel.

    These days, it is all noted on the bank statements, so that's just a copy/paste or download into Excel. No need to write everything down.

    M in Oz
  • Whidislander
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    Rori, you are doing great, in all that life seems to be throwing at you. Thought you needed to know that💖. I got a glimmer of what caregiving is like, and its not for the faint of heart most certainly! I'm glad you are able to have moments to yourself. I know they don't seem long enough, but its enough to reset you. Hugs friend!
    Rebecca
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 2,946 Member
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    spikeyhair wrote: »
    We share the jobs, I cook, Tom washes up and mops kitchen. He hoovers, I dust. I do washing, I’m a bit obsessive about washing. I clean bathroom and downstairs loo. We both take out rubbish and recycling. He does all shopping and gardening.

    I’m buzzing today as I’ve solved our problem with TV volume. I think I’ve mentioned before that Tom’s hearing is going and he can’t get on with aids. I bought a Bluetooth transmitter plugged it in to TV, paired a set of Bluetooth headphones and hey presto Tom can have volume as high as he needs and I can lower volume on TV. It was only cheap so don’t know how long it will last. Ain’t technology wonderful 😀😀

    Kate UK ❤️

    I need to get some of those for my husband- He says he can't hear the tv because he has his AC on(but he doesn't have it on this time of the year but still keeps it up really loud, or at least, loud to me). I try to go to bed by 10 but on nights where he doesn't work the next day, he will stay up until 2-3AM, watching tv and doesn't close his door so all the light and noise comes right into the bedroom. Many nights I get back out of bed to close his door. It isn't that big of a deal but maddening that he knows I can't sleep unless it is dark and quiet. He is just inconsiderate and that is what gets me mad. Night mask will block the light but not even ear plugs block all the noise( I have done that too but don't like it because I need to be able to hear my alarm clock). I usually get up and go close his door, giving him a dirty look when I do, and he just goes, Oh, sorry, and goes back to watching his show.
    I did buy him some wireless headphones for this but he never used them. Maybe I can find some he will use.

    Debbie
    Napa Valley,CA
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 16,547 Member
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    Exermom - yup!

    The handyman came over today. He put up the mantle above the fireplace, mounted the tv on top of it, installed the ceiling fan and took off the light fixture and working on installing the smart thermostat. I finally took out all the red rock and put it at the new place along with the patio furniture and cleaned out the empty patio here at the apartment. It’s actually cleaner than when we got here.
  • dlfk202000
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    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    Sue - isn’t that the same with most things, what is forbidden screams our names.

    Heather - what a lovely thing to do.

    I’m guilty of not doing the edges myself for far too long between cleanings. It is due right now. The last time was Jan 2nd. That is why I’m in the shape I’m in right now. I did too much that weekend and started it on the 1st when I made all the bedding for Michaela’s bunk beds. It will have to wait a while yet I imagine.

    Rori - The biggest hug to you.
    I never have the right words, but you’re in my thoughts often.

    I have Friday off, I had a couple vacation days to use up. So chose this weekend to give me another long weekend to rest.

    I can’t get comfortable tonight I think I’ll go take a bath.
    Tracey in Edmonton

    I am taking a 3day weekend this weekend too. I will be heading up to spend the whole time with mom. It is time to get the green houses planted. It will be nice to spend time with her and get things done that really need to be done now.
    Debbie
  • blackburn23
    blackburn23 Posts: 385 Member
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    To everyone who has sent hugs, prayers, condolences, etc., I just want to say "Thank You"!

    I have been scrolling through, trying to catch up and get familiar with everyone. It's a lot of information to absorb and I'm not sure where to jump in sometimes. I think it's lovely how so many of you have become so close.

    The NC coast took a hit from a tornado early this morning, so please keep everyone in that area in your prayers.

    In my area of the Foothills, we are preparing for some more winter weather. If all goes as predicted, it looks like we are in for some freezing rain on Thursday. Hopefully, the power will stay on, and folks will stay off the roads. I'm truly hoping we don't get a repeat of Texas. (Prayers)

    Rori, It's not easy taking care of our loved ones when they are sick. My DH passed 4 months after being diagnosed with brain cancer. I know that's not a long-term thing, but I can relate to the stress and the emotional toll. Enjoy the time you get to have to yourself as much as you can. I only allowed a little time for myself because I didn't want to miss a moment with my DH, but looking back, I can now see how some "me" time would have done me some good. Hugs and prayers.
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 2,823 Member
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    :)
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 2,946 Member
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    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    general question
    Do you note down all expenditures ?
    Do you stick to a very tight budget

    I used to do that, and it seemed better. I used quicken which really worked for me.Now quicken is not usable in Europe! Also writing everything down is another thing to do, and it's hard to get through everything in a day.
    But it certainly helped to be on top of stuff. i haven't found a good budgeting software that works as well as quicken did for me, but i think it's also a time management issue too.

    First marriage I did all the bill paying and was very careful about what was spent, then he left and I really was careful. My big splurge was a kids hamburger at Mc.Donalds and that was maybe once a month(that was 30 yrs ago so they were less than $1 back then, but, I knew i could make a burger myself for less than that)-
    I still watch what I spend- tend to still be a saver even though I don't HAVE to be now.
    My current husband took over the bill paying about 5 yrs after we got married. He does all of it. I have no real idea about how much money goes out every month. I know I would change things some if I was the one doing it. Things that I think we could cut back on are things he seems to spend even more money on now but, because of the virus and him working a lot more hours every week and bringing more money in, I have not said anything. My income has not changed at all and his hours are at least doubled for now.(since March with no change back in sight).
    We have very few real bills- no mortgage and small car loan that he is paying double on every month on my car. We have insurances and true up bill for the PGE/Solar are the main ones then regular monthly- cable/internet which is way more than I think we should pay and he will not consider changing it unless it is to get even better/faster service. Extra money going into savings every month(financially we are doing good, couple wise, we are about bankrupt)
    I do have an account that he doesn't know about that I started many years ago, "just in case" that my mom knows about and the statements go to her house. After first hubby leaving me without notice, I have to do what ever I can to cover my butt.

    Debbie
  • dlfk202000
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    bwcetc wrote: »
    Rant regarding older son's return to his group home ....
    Today my older, physically disabled son, returned to his group home after residing with my husband and I all but about 3-1/2 weeks since the pandemic started. You might recall that he was at his group home for about 3 weeks in August when he had a choking episode that required a ventilator after an untrained aide mismanaged a meal; and then, when he finally went back in November, he spent only a week when another untrained aide was negligent in his routine an he ended up in the ER with bladder spasms. We brought him home again. Until today. Today we took him back to his home. He's been vaccinated and I've been having a lot of back, hip and knee problems. The timing seemed right. He was there 6 hours. Just 6 hours when we got a phone call that once again ... I can hardly believe I'm typing this .. yet another untrained aide fed him dried out fish. And he choked. Taken by ambulance he is now in the ER and I am waiting for information. My husband was allowed in with him ... covid restrictions allowing only one person ... and we are waiting for a GI to come in and scope the blockage. He is stable at the moment, but delays in the past are what resulted in the need for a ventilator. I am so angry! The very last words I spoke to the residential manager were that she make certain his meals were finely chopped/ground and served with sauces as swallow specialists have recommended. Someone sent me a picture of his dinner. Unbelievable. Dried out fish with burnt edges. No sauce or even catsup. Served with instant mashed potatoes with no butter. I don't know how we can ever have confidence in this group again. I can bring my son home permanently, but don't know when or if we will find another place that is any better. Most importantly, my son is suffering yet again because others don't communicate or understand what they're doing. He deserves so much more than this.

    Beth near Buffalo

    I am so sorry you are going through this again, and your son going through it again as well.
    I can't believe that it has happened again so fast- sounds like his first real meal back and they screw up.
    Things really need to change, Too much stress on everyone.
    Debbie
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 24,869 Member
    edited February 2021
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    bwcetc wrote: »
    Rant regarding older son's return to his group home ....
    Today my older, physically disabled son, returned to his group home after residing with my husband and I all but about 3-1/2 weeks since the pandemic started. You might recall that he was at his group home for about 3 weeks in August when he had a choking episode that required a ventilator after an untrained aide mismanaged a meal; and then, when he finally went back in November, he spent only a week when another untrained aide was negligent in his routine an he ended up in the ER with bladder spasms. We brought him home again. Until today. Today we took him back to his home. He's been vaccinated and I've been having a lot of back, hip and knee problems. The timing seemed right. He was there 6 hours. Just 6 hours when we got a phone call that once again ... I can hardly believe I'm typing this .. yet another untrained aide fed him dried out fish. And he choked. Taken by ambulance he is now in the ER and I am waiting for information. My husband was allowed in with him ... covid restrictions allowing only one person ... and we are waiting for a GI to come in and scope the blockage. He is stable at the moment, but delays in the past are what resulted in the need for a ventilator. I am so angry! The very last words I spoke to the residential manager were that she make certain his meals were finely chopped/ground and served with sauces as swallow specialists have recommended. Someone sent me a picture of his dinner. Unbelievable. Dried out fish with burnt edges. No sauce or even catsup. Served with instant mashed potatoes with no butter. I don't know how we can ever have confidence in this group again. I can bring my son home permanently, but don't know when or if we will find another place that is any better. Most importantly, my son is suffering yet again because others don't communicate or understand what they're doing. He deserves so much more than this.

    Beth near Buffalo

    You say: "I don't know how we can ever have confidence in this group again."

    My response: "You can't." Three strikes and they are out.
    Find a different organisation.
    Can you take legal action?
    Can you share your experience on user reviews?


    For me personally, a group home (one of the kind with maybe half a dozen residents) would be one of my ideas of hell.


    M in Oz
  • Katla49
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    Bananas: I had the impression that JR’s Mom was worried that she would be sent away. Soon after she mentioned that she was worried, we didn’t hear from her. I hope she is well and happy, wherever she is. :heart:

    Barbara: We drove to the grocery store today bought some essentials. The car handled well. We didn’t have any slipping or sliding despite snow on the ground. :star:

    Tracey: I am happy that your mobility is better. I hope it continues to improve. :heart:

    (((Allie:))) I hope it all goes well when you have your next medical appointment. :heart: :flowerforyou:

    Sue in WA: I’ve been drinking coffee ever since childhood. Back then it was mostly cream and sugar with a little coffee. As time went on, the cream had to go due to lactose intolerance. The sugar was shifted to stevia clear. I haven’t cut back on caffeine. I drink what I want in the morning, but don’t continue with caffeine after lunch. :noway:

    Rori: I think of you often. Going with the FLOW is challenging. I hope you get time to take your cat for a walk and relax a bit. :heart:

    (((Beth)))


    A kind neighbor shoveled slushy snow from our sidewalk today. We did a little food shopping and have been at home since then.

    Katla in NW Oregon

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