When people comment on your weight loss....

Noreenmarie1234 wrote: »

I know some people want people to comment and others don't. I have just made it a point to never comment on people's weight unless they say something like "I've been trying to lose and lost ___lbs!" then I will be like "yeah I noticed you look amazing!". Other than that I won't comment.

Yeah, but that leaves people like me feel uneasy. Like, now I have to feel like I am possibly an annoying brag and somehow insert a comment about my weight loss when I worry that nobody would want to hear about that.

Literally, apart from a forum like here or very close people, the only way I feel comfortable mentioning my success is if somebody else does first. I may hurt somebody who has problems losing weight, trigger somebody's eating disorder, come over as selfish...

But I like compliments, like my changes to be noticed, even if yeah, that is a bit self-crntered.

Darn, social interactions are hard!

When someone compliments me on my weight loss and then says "Keep it up" or something similar, what I hear is "You're not even close to where you should be." My sister who weighs 110 soaking wet, can compliment me all she wants and I know her heart is in the right place. I know she just wants me healthy and happy. It's very personal to me and I know I'm ultra-sensitive about comments about my weight.

To be brutally frank, , , in a world where nearly EVERYONE seems to be offended by nearly EVERYTHING that's said or done to them or even around them, it may be best (for a change) to proceed with a little grace no matter what folks say about your weight loss or appearance change. "Thanks", or "I'm glad you noticed" or "I'm eating healthier and being more active, I'm glad it shows!" are succinct replies that I try to use. Only when someone PERSISTS in being hyper-critical of my appearance or methods do I resort to a snappy come back, but those occasions are extremely rare.

I don't mind comments...but I'm short (5'3' - maybe that's not short for a female but..) and I lost ~30lbs. So obviously I look different. I lost a noticeable amount of weight by the spring - and a few employees where I work noticed. Then I continued to lose so by the time we got back to work in August --- EVERYONE noticed. It was kind of nice to get comments but it still made me feel self-conscious a bit. Like many (older-ish women) made comments like, "Don't lose any more weight" and stuff like that, even though they don't know how much I weigh, etc.

I had a woman who I only know by seeing her in the building (like I don't know her name or talk to her on a regular basis) say to me, "Hey, you've lost a lot of weight haven't you?" -- to which I usually sheepishly say, "Oh, yeah I started running again" --- to which SHE said, "Are you sick?" --- and I'm not gonna lie, that really bothered me. Because when I was overweight I struggled with thinking that I felt like I looked OK vs. thinking what OTHER people thought I looked like (normal, chubby, fat...etc.) and now that I've lost weight and am fairly happy with how I look (more importantly I'm happy with how I feel)...it still can make me feel like maybe to other people I don't look good, I look sick. I don't think I look sick and have actually said to a co-worker, "I promise if you saw me in a bathing suit I look normal, not sick" -- which is crazy that I felt like I had to say that.

Comments like "Oh you're the disappearing girl" or some such similar thing - I know are meant well but it can mess with your head a bit. So I wish people would be more aware of what they're saying sometimes.