The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

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  • lorrainequiche59
    lorrainequiche59 Posts: 898 Member
    Is anyone having issues with their newsfeed?
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    donimfp wrote: »
    Good evening, everyone. Ruby and Foo Foo, it's so great that you guys are doing very well. I've been a member of this group since January 2018 and I'm so grateful for everyone here. Unless I'm really forgetting something, and I don't think I am, I'm the only person I can remember in those 3-plus years who confessed to a relapse after a significant period of sobriety and was totally slapped down and told that nobody poured the booze down my throat so I should stop shirking responsibility. I've really tried to move past that. But every time I log on here I have to say my stomach drops a little bit. I can't tell y'all how much it hurt to have my honest regret treated with disdain rather than compassion.

    Anyway, enough of that. I have to move on. So I'm going to focus on other avenues of support. At this point I feel like logging on here has become counterproductive for me.

    I will continue to think of all the friends I've met here and wish for your success. I believe some of you will do the same for me. And that energy is important. I'm currently doing well with sobriety, but I know how fragile that can be. Dreading what I might see here if I confess to "weakness" is making it harder for me to be transparent and admit to struggles.

    I wish a wonderful summer for everyone. Foo Foo, your tattoo will be a great affirmation. I'll be thinking of you. Ruby, thank you for starting this group long ago, and Jen, thank you for keeping it going.

    xoxo

    You should always do what's best for you. If something gives you dread, you do not need to continue. We understand. We can relate 100 percent to your struggles. If you change your mind, we will welcome you back with open arms. We learned and grew from your posts. Sending you big hugs.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    @RubyRed427 Thank you for your words. It takes courage to admit when we have done what we regret. I like your attitude though. Onward. And out of 9.5 months you drank exactly one day. Girl PLEASE! Amazing accomplishment! XXOO

    Thanks Jen ! <3
  • SunnyDays930
    SunnyDays930 Posts: 1,248 Member
    @Up_n_Running I will say a prayer for him and for you as well. And kudos to you for not going to the bottle to deal with a stressful situation. Keep us posted.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    @Up_n_Running I will say a prayer for him and for you as well. And kudos to you for not going to the bottle to deal with a stressful situation. Keep us posted.

    Thanks Jen. I'm over eating instead to cope with the stress. I wish I wasn't using food but it's the lesser of the 2 options for me.

    That is very sad to hear about your brother. I'm so sorry. Is there someone you could call? Like your therapist or someone to see what can be done or some resources for him. I will pray he gets the strength to seek help. And be sure to take care of your health, too. I'm so sorry.
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    JenT304 wrote: »
    @Up_n_Running I will say a prayer for him and for you as well. And kudos to you for not going to the bottle to deal with a stressful situation. Keep us posted.

    Thanks Jen. I'm over eating instead to cope with the stress. I wish I wasn't using food but it's the lesser of the 2 options for me.

    He is probably still very traumatized over the death of your parent(s) and this is how he is coping. Maybe your boyfriend can intervene and go over there; I'm sure you tried that. Maybe you can reach out to a clergy person who also has helpful phone numbers you can call. I'm just grappling for ideas...
  • RubyRed427
    RubyRed427 Posts: 3,889 Member
    Thanks @RubyRed427

    Well his girlfriend has forced him to call the doctor for help. (She said that he pretends all is well, when he is back home with me). But she is seeing something different. His doctor has actually contacted me, to find out if he was alright cos he wasn't answering the phone to speak to the doctor. I spoke to him on text message earlier, apparently he is coming home tomorrow and also plans to actually speak to the doctor tomorrow as well.

    He won't answer his phone, and when I text, I need to wait long stretches of time to get a reply. Its funny cos only weeks ago, I asked if I could add his girlfriend on Snapchat....I had no contact details for her prior to this so it's been a blessing that I had a way of having contact with her. I am so grateful for her honesty and letting me know what he has been hiding from me.

    Sounds like his girlfriend is a truly good person, that she contacted you and told you this situation. She's in it to help him. I'm happy he will get some help. This might be rock bottom- who knows? And this could be the start of good things for him.