The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living

Beka3695 wrote: »

9 days in…. Almost to double digits again!!!!

One thing my 2 month off the wagon taught me is that we don’t live in our past. It was there to teach us and remind us, but it is not our punishment.

Today makes 10 days! Keep it going!!

Hi Friends, Looks like another sunny day here in the Midwest. Yesterday, the wine devil was quite strong. I sat down at an outside bar waiting for a friend, and I thought if she orders wine, so will I.
*She always orders a drink when we go out.
So, she sat down and ordered a water. WTH! So that was a nudge from the sober angels of the universe to continue this sober quest.

Good Morn to All Just a random thought to share. I remember my former husband who suffers with alcoholism saying that he never got hungover & I remember thinking, "How could that be?" Yet, When I think back to my own alcohol career, I rarely got hungover in the typical way I used to in my party days way back when I would be at least one entire day on the couch eating pure junk and drinking an entire 2L bottle of Pepsi feeling depressed and usually ashamed of something I said or did. If I was especially hungover I could lose 2 days in the week to a hangover.

In the not too recent past, I rarely drank to that extent, but I became a habitual/daily dependent drinker & I think I just felt like crap much of the time. I think I just got used to feeling like a dog's breakfast most days and would look forward to a few drinks later in the day to bring me back up to not feeling "quite as bad" as a dog's breakfast. THAT, ladies & gents, is NO way to live this life that we have been gifted.

As I sit here this morn with my delish coffee and appreciating the bird's songs and the peacefulness of the poofy clouds rolling through the sky & the quiet still of the early part of the day, I am SO thankful to have a clear mind & a clear heart.

I think it has been 40 days since I gave up sugar and wheat and am beginning to really feel the effects of not being bloated every day and congested, kind of like my body being clogged. @LoveyChar mentioned not being addicted which I envy because I've realized how much of an addictive nature I have. It's taken decades for me to shed all of the various substances I have used to medicate myself and my first love and last vice to misuse is food. BUT as with any other addiction it isn't about the food for me. As Gabor Mate says, "The question is not why the addiction, but why the pain?" SO, that is what I am addressing is the "why" of my addictions...there in lies the answer to why multiple diets have not worked for me. It is the same with alcohol...the answer does not lie in abstaining from a substance, but in creating a new life where you do not feel the "need" for the substance.

May all of us here continue to work hard to create a new life that fulfills the craving for that which alcohol or any other substance can never fill. For me it involves loving myself enough to want to take care of myself and to be the best version of me.

Happy AF day to all

9 days AF. I feel pretty good about that.

@Up_n_Running Congrats on 100 days...WOOHOOHOOHOO!!!!!

Hi friends, nothing new to report. Went to the principal's retirement gathering; my friend brought me Perrier which was thoughtful. It was BYOB. I watched a teacher with a white bottle of wine and she drank ONE glass and took it home. I was drooling looking at it and marveling- just one glass. Wow. I cannot do that.

Good evening, everyone. Ruby and Foo Foo, it's so great that you guys are doing very well. I've been a member of this group since January 2018 and I'm so grateful for everyone here. Unless I'm really forgetting something, and I don't think I am, I'm the only person I can remember in those 3-plus years who confessed to a relapse after a significant period of sobriety and was totally slapped down and told that nobody poured the booze down my throat so I should stop shirking responsibility. I've really tried to move past that. But every time I log on here I have to say my stomach drops a little bit. I can't tell y'all how much it hurt to have my honest regret treated with disdain rather than compassion.

Anyway, enough of that. I have to move on. So I'm going to focus on other avenues of support. At this point I feel like logging on here has become counterproductive for me.

I will continue to think of all the friends I've met here and wish for your success. I believe some of you will do the same for me. And that energy is important. I'm currently doing well with sobriety, but I know how fragile that can be. Dreading what I might see here if I confess to "weakness" is making it harder for me to be transparent and admit to struggles.

I wish a wonderful summer for everyone. Foo Foo, your tattoo will be a great affirmation. I'll be thinking of you. Ruby, thank you for starting this group long ago, and Jen, thank you for keeping it going.

xoxo

@RubyRed427 I agree with @JenT304 .

@RubyRed427 💕

Hugs to everyone dealing with their stuff

Good morning friends! I sure feel good today. Last night, I went to a family wedding (half the guests were Russians) so each table setting had a small bottle of vodka on it. You know those little shot size bottles. The wedding favors were shot glasses. When I sat down, I saw I didn't have one. I think my sister snagged it so I didn't see it and have to deal with looking at it.

Here were some observations:
A table of three young priests and their wives (Russians) had a magnum of vodka on their table. More than 3/4 of that huge bottle was gone by the end of the evening. They toasted everything; I saw the wives wag their fingers at them, but the men sheepishly kept on drinking. Can you imagine the hangover today?

My Dad said to me he observed a lot of the young women quite drunk. Well, it was a wedding. I remember having that much fun too.

When I was leaving, I saw a wedding party guy being driven away with his head leaning on the window looking like death.

Anyway, I don't judge them. I am just so delighted my sister and I were completely sober. I may have caved in if she wasn't there. So, today I wake up quite happy with no hangover. One day at a time...