WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2021
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dlfk202000 wrote: »Lisa in AR
He talks a lot - that's a frontal lobe damage thing: lots of rather uninhibited quite negative talk. I have to rein him in sometimes when we're out in public. And if he talks about specific people, they usually end up dead by the end of the story. "I knew someone who owned a house here, blah, blah, blah ... but he's dead now."
It gets so negative sometimes, I just listen with one ear in case I have to say, "uh-huh" occasionally.
But knowing where the conversation will go, I can't bring up anything in the news to discuss over dinner and even things that happen at work are often not "safe" topics as he'll go off on a rant and start accusing various people I work with of things like drug use etc. So I keep my day and my thoughts to myself most of the time.
M in Oz
That is exactly what I do to my DH. You are describing him to a T! He must be suffering from the same type of brain injury your DH has!
Another day with 8/9 year olds. I feel bad for these kids. They all have very bad family lives.
RvRita in Roswell NM
Boxing is notorious for brain injury. It's a horrible "sport".
Frontal lobe damage can happen quite easily, it's a common area to damage, and it doesn't take much to cause quite a bit of damage.
In my husband's case, he has a small area of damage in his frontal lobe, and a large area of damage in his left temporal lobe, plus a diffuse axonal injury which are "dots" of damage scattered everywhere. All those areas are damaged enough that they are "dead" and show up on MRIs as scar tissue.
So the uninhibited, negative talking is one of his many symptoms.Machka how could the possum get into Rhody’s catio? Can you secure it? What a distressing aspect of TBI, having to cope with negative talk and limit your topics of conversation. Do you have anyone else you can talk to without having to pre-edit?
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
Right now, the door is just tied shut when Rhody is in there. We'll try to get a latch or something to make it more secure. I put Rhody on his leash last night and Inspector Rhody did an investigation of where the intruder got into our property and where it went. There was much sniffing. He's like a bloodhound!
I've been coping with the negative talk and limiting my topics of conversation now for about 3.5 years. I discovered this was going to be an issue early on after his accident.
I don't really have anyone else to talk to. Most of the time that doesn't bother me - I've always kept to myself. But sometimes, I'd like to sit down and have a good discussion with someone. It would be nice to have a decision making talk with someone at times - one of those talks where you weigh up the pros and cons of something with the other person helping you brainstorm and providing ideas you hadn't thought of ....
But the cycling events we organise are good for him because he'll talk to the cyclists about their bicycles and things cycling-related for a while, and that's positive ... as long as he doesn't get too tired.
And I can usually talk about gardening with him, and take him to garden centres and things. Even building our footpath had him talking about building our footpath which was also positive.
When we do anything bee related, he'll talk about bees and bee-related things. So that's good too.
So I'm learning what works.
M in Oz
Wouldn't it be nice to just have a conversation without thinking three thoughts ahead- If I say this, then they will get up set about it, If I say this......
It is totally and completely exhausting.
I just stop talking when I realise I'm going to have to tread really carefully. Fortunately, I generally prefer silence.
And if it is an "oops ... too late!" situation, I'll try to redirect. And if that doesn't work, I'll wander into another room or outside.
M in Oz3 -
Accountability:Chose well: BP, T’ai Chi, dogs to powerline, fire district board meeting.Heather, Julie, Betsy, we’ve been lucky, quakes not felt, no damage. I’ve lived in quake country all my life, but being on our fire district board has made me more aware of the down-the-road impacts. If you think we’re isolated now… ;}
Bonus: land line and best practices grant research, an hour grooming Tumble.
Just one thing:
Do good December
8: Do something helpful for a friend or family member:
Annie two vaccinations in one day might not be a good idea. Hope you space the flu shot out a few weeks.
Allie I’ve also used “bless your heart” as a blessing. It’s ok. You’re a Yankee and I’m a prune-picker. The other meaning is a Southern thing.
Lisa and I’m happy for you both.
Pip, looked like Yogi got his foot mixed up in the leash?
the pic of Yogi on the bed and Kirby giving him a smooch. Beautiful architecture and lights.
Vicki hard to speak truth to power tactfully. Hope the damage control wasn’t too painful.
Katla hope you have help getting that spruce into the house then up onto the table. Sounds too heavy to me!
Heather is Zicam available to you? Really helps me avoid the worst of colds. Take care!
Debbie you’re right. Walking on eggshells in conversations is totally and completely exhausting.
Michele brava for setting your boundaries at the airport. Well done!
Rebecca the blue ornament box, especially the little sheep, antique angel faces and quilt, but that snow scene made me shiver. Remembrance of our first Thanksgiving in Idaho. [brr]
Machka Brava for signing up for that 10K run. “…I just stop talking…” is a skill I could use!
Noticed, and commented with my friends, how the lights along the highway lift ones spirits. Think I’ll ask Joe if there is power down the drive. Seeing lights out the office window at night would be good for my soul.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
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Morning ladies
Pffft i was awake at 1:30 this morning
I flipped and flopped for awhile and finally said the heck with it and got up..
Last night I smashed my second to the last toe last night and boy it hurts im sure i did some damage but dont think i broke it..
I returned the Apple watch and got my Samsung Galaxy watch as thats the phone I have..im hoping it keeps me on the up and up..
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Barbara, that makes sense that you are aware of those unusual situations. My sis is in Colorado and with rare flooding a few years back normal life in near desert land was awash. Roads cut off people staying at one and others homes... things you just never expect.... Good to be aware.
So much time spent on bugs (computer not bed) today. Okay moving forward.0 -
do any of you listen to blinkist. I love it sometimes. I listen to short synopsis of explanations of philosophy. much nicer (and more realistic) to learn philosophy 101 (so to speak) while cleaning the kitchen than reading dense obscure books for hours.2
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The plumber came yesterday and installed a beautiful new faucet in the kitchen. The faucet was expensive. The plumber wore a mask and said that he was totally vaccinated. Because of the leaking old faucet, it's wet under the sink so we'll be keeping stuff out of that area and keeping the cupboard door open for a few days.
I have a book to mail for Paperback Swap but I'm not looking forward to dealing with lines at the post office.
Barbie in NW WA3 -
Katla, thank you for your kind comments. One of the kids told me yesterday he lives with his big sister who works and brother because mom and dad have both died. 😞 so sad, he is only 8 years old. Later he came and gave me a big hug. Made my heart cry.
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Went back to sleep for a couple hours feel a bit better.. had a bit of snow .so will have to go and clean off my car before going anywhere.. thats why i want a garage darn it0
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Rita they are lucky to have you. In many of the classes I taught the stories of what the children were facing was heart breaking. Just loving them is one of the best gifts you can give.
I hope you are able to get some extra Wheaties to help you help them. Take care...1 -
Terri – I’m here and have the hope I can stay off my telephone and on my computer. The phone works, but I like this so much better.
Heather – I am delighted for you. You’ve always been an excellent writer and I am not surprised that you have written something that is set to go out in January.
Lisa – I am sorry that the VA medical system is not adequately responsive. I hope you will be able to get the VA to pay for Walmart’s medicine.
Kim – Good luck for your mom’s health situation. I hope the x-ray provides useful information so that she can get useful treatment & feel better.
I am having my first morning coffee, and contemplating decorating the house for Christmas.
Kalta
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KetoneKaren wrote: »Pip, such a great photo of your children. when was it taken?
Karen in Virginia
2016 , 2017?0 -
Accountability:Chose well: BP, T’ai Chi, dogs to powerline, fire district board meeting.Heather, Julie, Betsy, we’ve been lucky, quakes not felt, no damage. I’ve lived in quake country all my life, but being on our fire district board has made me more aware of the down-the-road impacts. If you think we’re isolated now… ;}
Bonus: land line and best practices grant research, an hour grooming Tumble.
Just one thing:
Do good December
8: Do something helpful for a friend or family member:
Annie two vaccinations in one day might not be a good idea. Hope you space the flu shot out a few weeks.
Allie I’ve also used “bless your heart” as a blessing. It’s ok. You’re a Yankee and I’m a prune-picker. The other meaning is a Southern thing.
Lisa and I’m happy for you both.
Pip, looked like Yogi got his foot mixed up in the leash?
the pic of Yogi on the bed and Kirby giving him a smooch. Beautiful architecture and lights.
Vicki hard to speak truth to power tactfully. Hope the damage control wasn’t too painful.
Katla hope you have help getting that spruce into the house then up onto the table. Sounds too heavy to me!
Heather is Zicam available to you? Really helps me avoid the worst of colds. Take care!
Debbie you’re right. Walking on eggshells in conversations is totally and completely exhausting.
Michele brava for setting your boundaries at the airport. Well done!
Rebecca the blue ornament box, especially the little sheep, antique angel faces and quilt, but that snow scene made me shiver. Remembrance of our first Thanksgiving in Idaho. [brr]
Machka Brava for signing up for that 10K run. “…I just stop talking…” is a skill I could use!
Noticed, and commented with my friends, how the lights along the highway lift ones spirits. Think I’ll ask Joe if there is power down the drive. Seeing lights out the office window at night would be good for my soul.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
Nope, that was his gentle leader that was off of him, it’s just dangling0 -
Katla--I had a babysitter when Iwas 8-9 that taught me the basics of knitting. I enjoy making blankets and different things. My grandma was teaching me to crochet when she passed away so I used to be able to make a straight line, but not the next step, I have thought about trying to learn, but I enjoy knitting so happy with just doing that.
Barbara--Pray you stay safe from the quakes. Sorry about the grant, know you spent a lot of time putting it together.
Rita--I agree those kids are lucky to have you and they know you care and that means a lot.
Not a lot going on here. I have a friend who's husband is in the hospital with Covid and they live in a small town and are talking of sending him to a larger hospital as he is not doing well. She is home as she has it too, only not near as bad. Just never know who or how it will hit.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND,NE
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Finished decorating the inside tree. We are doing it for the grandchildren.
The two older ones are coming over on Saturday.
I've been having a quiet day with a nap. Babying my cold. Did all my exercises. Played with some ideas for my next book. It's gradually getting clearer. To be called, 'NOW I AM - Out of the shadow'. A mixture of poetry, essays and memoir about the 'Lover-Shadow'. The name comes from HG Wells.
Been firing up my headphones for the train journey tomorrow. I will download a couple of Netflix episodes and make sure I have reading on my phone. It's a four hour return journey.
Love to all. Heather UK xxxxxxxx2 -
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Worked, wrapped Ken & Lynette’s Christmas presents, ordered a gift card for Ken (this was my Christmas-related task for today), went to the vet then to WalMart for a few things but I really needed to buy gas. You should have seen the line!
We’re going to see TSO tonight in concert
M – good luck in your race. I know you’ll do real well, you certainly are getting a head start
Allie – OUCH!!! Take care my friend
Barbie – I usually try to go to the post office when it first opens. I’ve found the lines to be not that bad. Not that good – but not that bad. Unfortunately, I don’t think I’ll be able to do that this year
Michele NC1 -
Accountability:Chose well: BP, T’ai Chi, dogs to powerline, fire district board meeting.Heather, Julie, Betsy, we’ve been lucky, quakes not felt, no damage. I’ve lived in quake country all my life, but being on our fire district board has made me more aware of the down-the-road impacts. If you think we’re isolated now… ;}
Bonus: land line and best practices grant research, an hour grooming Tumble.
Just one thing:
Do good December
8: Do something helpful for a friend or family member:
Annie two vaccinations in one day might not be a good idea. Hope you space the flu shot out a few weeks.
Allie I’ve also used “bless your heart” as a blessing. It’s ok. You’re a Yankee and I’m a prune-picker. The other meaning is a Southern thing.
Lisa and I’m happy for you both.
Pip, looked like Yogi got his foot mixed up in the leash?
the pic of Yogi on the bed and Kirby giving him a smooch. Beautiful architecture and lights.
Vicki hard to speak truth to power tactfully. Hope the damage control wasn’t too painful.
Katla hope you have help getting that spruce into the house then up onto the table. Sounds too heavy to me!
Heather is Zicam available to you? Really helps me avoid the worst of colds. Take care!
Debbie you’re right. Walking on eggshells in conversations is totally and completely exhausting.
Michele brava for setting your boundaries at the airport. Well done!
Rebecca the blue ornament box, especially the little sheep, antique angel faces and quilt, but that snow scene made me shiver. Remembrance of our first Thanksgiving in Idaho. [brr]
Machka Brava for signing up for that 10K run. “…I just stop talking…” is a skill I could use!
Noticed, and commented with my friends, how the lights along the highway lift ones spirits. Think I’ll ask Joe if there is power down the drive. Seeing lights out the office window at night would be good for my soul.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
Me too about the burr! I remember night skiing as a teenager and the stillness as I would ride the chairlift up. Sometimes it was bad weather. So it would be raining when I got on, sleeting in the middle and snowing up top, when I got off! My clothing all stiff and frozen. Glad to have goggles then. Now snow, I mostly just like to look at from a warm place, with a cup of coffee in my hands!
Rebecca
A ski bum in my younger days
In Whidbey
WA1 -
Loving my 10" cast iron pan these days! Today was some kielbasa sausage, yellow onion, and zucchini.
Had a small salad before. Husband stated that he could smell the yellow onion clear upstairs! I couldn't smell it at all. But my nose doesn't really work. Really strong odors just makes my nose itchy, but I don't really smell anything.
Rebecca
Cast iron queen on
Whidbey island
WA
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